Nov. 17, 2025

Intl Caregiver & Guardian Month

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Well, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome, Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome,

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Hallelujah to his name, hallelujah.

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Thank you, thank you for joining us tonight, Monday night.

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We only got a couple of more Mondays to go.

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The month is over, it's done, it is done. But anyway,

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let's pray first and then we're gonna get right at it.

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Father God, we just love you so much and we

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thank you, we praise you.

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Lord.

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You are just you're just blowing my mind as always.

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You are arriving and doing what you do best. You

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are taking care of us. You're telling us that you

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love us. You're making ways.

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Out of no way.

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We just thank you, Father. This is your opportunity to

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speak to your people tonight. You are free to speak

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to your people tonight and do what one of the

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many things you do best, and that's set us free.

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So we're gonna get behind the cross, We're gonna lean in,

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we're gonna self assess, we're gonna take accountability, take responsibility,

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and grow in you tonight.

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We love you so much. All this and more we

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ask in Jesus name, Amen, Amen and amen, hallelujah, hallelujah.

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Well, tonight is just just an awesome opportunity.

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I'm just you know, Okay, she's flying back. Okay, hang

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on just a second, flying back in just a bit.

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Okay, they're still at the airport. They meaning my taekwondo instructor,

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say hun, Melissa Michelle, I'm sorry, I want to call

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him Melissa Michelle, Chris Golino, chrisco.

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They she just took a crew about.

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Five students, five or six students to Puerto Rico to

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Taekwondo Competition Championship is a c CHI World championship in

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Puerto Rico, and they brought home four gold for silver

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and two bronze medals. That's what I'm talking about, come

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on now. And I just texted her to tell her

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we're gonna do a shout out tonight, and she said,

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we're getting ready to get on the plane. We're flying

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back in a bit, so I thought she was already

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back here.

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But praise God, I am. We praying. I prayed that.

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You know, they'll be safe getting there, they'll be safe

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while they're there.

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They do what they do and come on back.

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So we're just thankful and giving them, giving God praise

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and and honor, and you know, only God can do this.

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And it's just it's just so night talking about family,

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and tonight we're gonna be talking about National Family and

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Guardian Caregivers. It's the month for that, so we're gonna

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talk about that. But before I do that trade trade

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check in. You're doing well up there?

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Yes, I am, I really am. Do you have a

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lot of how are your clients there? Are they they

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are they are they.

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Overreacting just what's going on in the world, or are

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they just coming in taking care their family and you know,

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being you know, not too overly anxious or you know,

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uptight about things.

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But the client til I work the clientele I work with.

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Now they're they're kind of oblivious to a lot of that.

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They're more I D d D now intellect you disabled

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and developmentally disabled. So there're a lot of blivious but

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it's it's you know, staff, staff is you know. I

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think they got a lot of stock going on and family.

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Family know what the shutdown. So now it's open, so

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people are kind of.

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Yeah, because they got to get people get things back.

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Miss k How's how's the campus life?

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If you're winding down and getting ready for the holiday,

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they're gonna let you out for a week or what

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they're doing with that old school doing because it used

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to be we out, we were out Thanksgiving week. Friday

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would be our last day and we were out for

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the week.

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And we came back a following Monday, Tuesday.

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We do have exams next week, but yeah, we're out

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on they're doing nasty.

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They just this is they don't have to do all that.

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They don't have to do all that. Y'all are one,

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not you.

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But the school.

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You're the one that sits there and determines that calendar

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and so many things have changed. I just heard our

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president Trump is bringing Columbus Day back, so that's gonna

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be a school day out next year, you know. So

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you know, but y'all just doing doing, y'all putting so

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much anxiety on these students, and they have enough to

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worry about to get the projects in, making sure that

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you know, the canvas is working so they can upload.

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And all that kind of stuff. Hey, thank you missed it.

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Good evening with them a win, yes, yes, yes, and prayerfully,

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best of luck on a exam.

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Thinking Mickey, Mickey, yes, she she she's.

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Got a nice routine down and stuff like that. Kind

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of remind me of myself a little bit, but she

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get at it. She Oh, no, I got to study.

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It's like, okay, all right, let's see you all right,

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you know.

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But God is good. God is good, I tell you.

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I don't even know where to start, but I do

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want to continue.

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We want to continue praying about Money's being released.

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I just saw I think it's just a minor tabloid

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saying that Trump is not going to release anything until

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next year.

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Now, the devil is a liar. He will be releasing

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it this year. And I don't know what God's desires are,

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but I know, my desire and some of our desires,

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we want to get it before Thanksgiving, and all he

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has to do is put it into law and just

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you know, come to other armored trucks. Back it up.

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Take this money to IRIS. Is going to be a

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hard exam season and a station.

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A little bit. I mean, every well, all my other

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exams has been pretty okay. It's just sometimes what they

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require us to study is not on the exam, so

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we kind of be you know, blindsided a little bit sometimes.

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But yeah, and it's okay with their study guide structures

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and stuff like that for the most part.

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Some of it is majority of it the test.

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But wow, her, when I was a college professor, whatever

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I told you the first first few weeks, what we studied,

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first few chapters, what we studied that would be on

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your first exam. What we're gonna study next is going

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to be on your mid term exam. In some cases

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most of the time, I didn't even know. Because social

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sciences it's similar to psychology. There's a lot of memorization,

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a lot of terms. The theorists that you know propose

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the terms.

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You know, it's a lot of that included.

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So I dare I don't think I ever really gave

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an all inclusive final exam.

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I didn't think that was fair.

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So whatever we were studying on those last few chapters

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right leading up to the final, that's what that's what

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you studied. That's what the test testing material was. So

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you know these these you know these schools, uh well,

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some particular schools, some particular colleges. I mean you just

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if I had my way, Yeah, you all wouldn't even

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be in business because more anxiety. Lee was telling me

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about accidents in the parking garage and all kinds of stuff.

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Kids are not even looking, they're just backing out and

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all that kind of stuff, you know, and y'all are

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imposing that you you, you professors are responsible, You teachers,

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you presidents of the.

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Departments, you head of the departments and stuff, y'all, y'all

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the calls.

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Of that, Hey La k Tennessee check it in, amen. Yeah.

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So, preferly getting back to the Taekwondo a c you know,

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and and her organ her nonprofit stands for a Charity

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Empowered to Save Souls is ACEE t s S. Preferly,

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I'm I've already been talking to my medical team. I'm like,

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this is not going away. You need to you know,

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we're gonna be taking a look at my numbers and

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making sure things are you know, inflammation is getting out

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of me and stuff like that. But I said, I

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got to get back. I got to get back, so

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preferly next year this time. Well, I'm not sure if

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we'll be on in October November, but you'll hear some

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kind of way.

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Oh yeah, it's great with the Porto Rico, and I

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brought back the goal.

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You know, doing something because I got I gotta get

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back into it.

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That's my balancing piece of me. I gotta get back

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to it.

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So but anyway, so continue to pray Continua bombard Heaven, okay,

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because there's a whole lot of other stuff that needs

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to be you know, ironed out and made sense, made

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to make sense and and and.

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Voted on and all this kind of stuff.

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And now you possibly you got New Yorkers being encouraged

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to move to Florida because the new governor's Muslim, of

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the Muslim practice, And I'm like, oh Jesus, we don't

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need we have no more room in Florida. If you're

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coming to Orlando, the central Florida we.

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Have no more room. We are beyond the gold to reach, yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.

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Now we we don't have room. We're already people houses.

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They're building houses on top of each other. Now in

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the back room, going in the backyard, I could see,

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you know, you could see the person in the kitchen

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in their bathroom. No, we we have no more room

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in central Florida. Now, if you want to go on

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the outskirts of central Florida, Palm Beach County has no room.

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You're heading south Miami for lorda, they bocam.

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They have no room. So don't come here. Stay on

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the top half of you know, Tallahasset, Panama City, up

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up that way, you know.

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But or go someplace else. Don't come to Florida. I mean,

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we don't have nothing.

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And those people don't.

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Native New Yorkers don't drive most of the time. Now

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you got to drive when you come to Florida.

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And then you can't act act ugly when you come

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here because but anyway, yeah, but continue to bombard heaven,

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believe in God.

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Like I said for me, I can speak for me

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and my house, or we want the money before Thanksgiving.

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I can't speak for everybody else. I'm not here telling

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God what to do and how to do it. We're

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just saying God, any day now, we know that you

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can do it, and I want it from a bigger

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pot of money, because there's two big pots of money

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out there that they found extra money for so and

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there'll be enough to throw at the terror, I mean,

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our deficit.

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So there, I got that off my chest.

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But anyway, tonight we want to talk about uh, you know,

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a Family and Guardian Caregivers Month, and hats off to anybody.

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I my heart goes out to people who adopt children

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because we turn out okay, and uh, we're a little different,

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but you know, with love and care and that you

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want us, you know, it makes a difference. And then

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you may have to get us into some counseling too,

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because there's a hole. And kids that are in foster

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care there is a hole because they feel that they've

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been abandoned, they've been rejected. There is a hole and

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the devil will play on that. And you know, especially

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when you've got kids out there being you know, shuffled

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from home to home and you know, and stuff like that,

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and people going into foster care just to get a

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check and all that kind of nonsense. And we're gonna,

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I'm telling you what, hopefully with the old hauls that

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are coming on all major systems, we're gonna it's gonna

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be eradicated. It's gonna be cut out. I'm telling you,

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it is going to be cut out. So but we got,

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you know, we've got caregivers in all kinds of categories.

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We've got those of us who have aging parents that

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that we take care of, whether you live with them

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or not. We've got, of course, you know of the

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foster care system. We've got the representative payee system. When

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you've got that loved one that you know can't handle

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their money, so you go Social Security will make you

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the representative payee so on their checks.

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That will be deposited in their account. It's a joint account.

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We've got all kinds of And I don't know why

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the Lord had me to I sat back and because

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the rest of the title of the show is National

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Family and Guardian Caregivers Month Poland when caring and self

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care cross contaminates. When caring and self care crosses, because

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most of the time, most of your caregivers don't care,

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don't take care of themselves.

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Most of the.

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Time, even if you've got another sibling in the family,

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they don't come to your rescue. They get as far

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away as they can because they don't want to be

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bothered until the person unfortunately passes away, and if there's

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any type of excuse me, asset are left over, then.

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They show up.

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And I got a problem with that, But nevertheless, I

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had to protect our family home and things like that

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from my family member and other family members who knew

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that my mom at Alzheimer's and would not remember that

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they were there earlier in the day stealing stuff out

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of our home. My hats off to those who take

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on that responsibility. At the same time, you've got to

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take care of yourself. They need to assure kids and

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foster care that they are loved and no matter what

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they matter.

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You're absolutely right missing, You're absolutely right. They need to.

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Okay, yeah, they You're absolutely right. And that's the last

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thing that we were thinking about as a As a child,

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you want to you know, you're hoping you're watching u

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people coming in and your roommate is going to the office,

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and then your roommate is packed up the suitcase and

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then they're gone.

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Because they get it.

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They're getting to be placed and then they're getting to

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put the the adoption is going forward, and you know,

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you know, I was watching something and uh, hello, hey,

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elijanis Tennessee. Uh you got to let you know, these

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folks that's been in these systems know that you care.

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At the same time that it would be helpful to

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get them therapy. So if you're already in front of

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the judge, you know, trying to get the process you

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need to, it would be good to have the judge

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to put it in writing in the court order actually

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that they could get eight weeks of counseling at some

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point as soon as possible, because it's hard to explain

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I'm looking at thinking I was looking at something on Facebook.

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All these all of the school you know, teachers teaching

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in middle and elementary schools are quitting and they're crying

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because they said, the kids are out of control.

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We just don't.

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Understand whether this anger is coming from, whether this disrespect

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is coming from.

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And there's a whole lot to answer to that. There's

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a whole lot not saying that those kids were in

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shelters or whatever the case may be, that some of

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those kids are living in their cars with their parents.

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They're living in their vehicles. They're maybe going from shelter

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to shelter. Right now, we got a lot of motel

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living right now. People are in.

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Motels and they go from motel to motel, and I'm like, ohm,

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like I can't I can't even imagine that. But I

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know that once upon a time, when I was married

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to my second husband, I'm like, I want I should

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have gone to I wanted to go to a shelter,

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but my oldest son was like over twelve years old,

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and shelters are not gonna take male children over twelve.

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So I knew that already. And so you know, you

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just you suffer it. You suffer it.

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I suffered in silence, but you know it came out, Okay.

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Now everybody have those opportunities. I did go live with

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this lady one week and she well, two weeks. I

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think we're with her two weeks. And this lady was

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from you know where, and it was just like she

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was just weirded out.

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I don't know.

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I thought she was just nice. Met her at a

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PTA meeting. She was always friendly and stuff like that.

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And then I'm like, well, you know, I have to

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get out of my home and you know, leaving my

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husband and I got to take my kids. And she goes, well, coming,

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you know, I've got a hold a big screen porch.

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You can come and you know, stay there. And I'm like, okay,

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So I transferred the cable to her house and you know,

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next thing, she's like, you're welcome to anything. I said, well,

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we're not going to, you know, do that most of

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the time. We'll probably eat out or whatever. I don't

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want to inconvenience you and your son and stuff. Next thing,

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I know, she.

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Taking step out the shelves of the cabinets and putting

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it up and no conversation. But it's like, oh I

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thought we could have oh it's not up there, okay,

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and she would cut the lights out of it. Was

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it was, it was, it was, And I said, God,

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you got to get me out of here. If I

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have to have to take.

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My son back to Palm Beach, let him stay with

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his dad and me and the twins we just go

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to a shelter. At this point, this lady crazy, and

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I don't know what's gonna happen next.

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And the Lord opened up a door for my neighbor.

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Said hey, there's a condo for rent and when and

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you know that day and after work, I broke my

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neck getting there. Met with the property man, the manager

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of the of the condo and managers, the owner's representatives,

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and I'm like, I need to move now. And I

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didn't tell her to the last minute. Oh we're gone,

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We're out of here. And she helped my furniture ransom

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because I had my couch and something a couple of

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other piece. She held a ransom and then I had

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to text her say you know what you're forgiving. And

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then she allowed my husband to come and pick up stuff.

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And I'm like, oh my god, Jesus helped me. So

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it's weird situations. I can I can't imagine when people

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have to make that decision. They got to move out,

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they're being evicted, they gotta you know, you.

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Look at what are my options here?

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And you know, and your caregiving, especially if you're a

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parent of you know, children, no matter their age, your child.

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Is disabled, you're disabled.

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It's a lot, but it does cross because you forget

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to take care of yourself. You're so busy trying to

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take care of that loved one or your children or whoever,

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and you lose sight of you and you're exhausted at

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the end of the night, you know, So you were

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here to tell you got to take care of yourself.

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And we talk about self care all the time, and

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it comes in all kinds of shades and shame, you know,

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shapes and colors, and everybody and culture and everybody's situation

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is different. But you've got to keep moving, You've got

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to utilize resources, you've got to ask questions.

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And sometimes you don't want people in your business. I

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get that, besore. Sometimes you have to let people get

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in your business so that you could take care of

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what you can take care of and take care of yourself.

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Take care of yourself. You know, anybody wants jumping here now.

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I mean, I think you pretty much said, you know,

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set a mouth full. I mean, but it is, it's

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like it's like the art of caregiving, you know, And

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so many of my peers either work caregivers are still caregiving,

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and it's it's a never ending job. And so I

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think people don't realize the smallest things that that could

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be beneficial, like someone fixing a dish for you, or

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someone taking your trash out, or someone just sitting with

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your loved one five ten, fifteen minutes while you just

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have a break, or someone just offering to help you

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straighten up, you know, just the it's the little things

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that that can mean so much. And I think when

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you're at that point, sometimes you don't don't know where

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to turn, you know.

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I was fortunately I did have siblings that would help.

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You know, we had like a role that we played,

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but it still was, you know, difficult, you know because

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sometimes you especially with a parent, you have to remember

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