Nov. 17, 2025

Intl Caregiver & Guardian Month

Intl Caregiver & Guardian Month

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Well, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome, Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome,

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Hallelujah to his name, hallelujah.

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Thank you, thank you for joining us tonight, Monday night.

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We only got a couple of more Mondays to go.

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The month is over, it's done, it is done. But anyway,

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let's pray first and then we're gonna get right at it.

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Father God, we just love you so much and we

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thank you, we praise you.

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Lord.

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You are just you're just blowing my mind as always.

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You are arriving and doing what you do best. You

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are taking care of us. You're telling us that you

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love us. You're making ways.

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Out of no way.

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We just thank you, Father. This is your opportunity to

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speak to your people tonight. You are free to speak

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to your people tonight and do what one of the

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many things you do best, and that's set us free.

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So we're gonna get behind the cross, We're gonna lean in,

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we're gonna self assess, we're gonna take accountability, take responsibility,

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and grow in you tonight.

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We love you so much. All this and more we

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ask in Jesus name, Amen, Amen and amen, hallelujah, hallelujah.

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Well, tonight is just just an awesome opportunity.

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I'm just you know, Okay, she's flying back. Okay, hang

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on just a second, flying back in just a bit.

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Okay, they're still at the airport. They meaning my taekwondo instructor,

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say hun, Melissa Michelle, I'm sorry, I want to call

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him Melissa Michelle, Chris Golino, chrisco.

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They she just took a crew about.

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Five students, five or six students to Puerto Rico to

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Taekwondo Competition Championship is a c CHI World championship in

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Puerto Rico, and they brought home four gold for silver

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and two bronze medals. That's what I'm talking about, come

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on now. And I just texted her to tell her

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we're gonna do a shout out tonight, and she said,

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we're getting ready to get on the plane. We're flying

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back in a bit, so I thought she was already

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back here.

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But praise God, I am. We praying. I prayed that.

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You know, they'll be safe getting there, they'll be safe

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while they're there.

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They do what they do and come on back.

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So we're just thankful and giving them, giving God praise

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and and honor, and you know, only God can do this.

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And it's just it's just so night talking about family,

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and tonight we're gonna be talking about National Family and

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Guardian Caregivers. It's the month for that, so we're gonna

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talk about that. But before I do that trade trade

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check in. You're doing well up there?

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Yes, I am, I really am. Do you have a

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lot of how are your clients there? Are they they

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are they are they.

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Overreacting just what's going on in the world, or are

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they just coming in taking care their family and you know,

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being you know, not too overly anxious or you know,

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uptight about things.

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But the client til I work the clientele I work with.

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Now they're they're kind of oblivious to a lot of that.

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They're more I D d D now intellect you disabled

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and developmentally disabled. So there're a lot of blivious but

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it's it's you know, staff, staff is you know. I

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think they got a lot of stock going on and family.

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Family know what the shutdown. So now it's open, so

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people are kind of.

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Yeah, because they got to get people get things back.

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Miss k How's how's the campus life?

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If you're winding down and getting ready for the holiday,

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they're gonna let you out for a week or what

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they're doing with that old school doing because it used

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to be we out, we were out Thanksgiving week. Friday

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would be our last day and we were out for

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the week.

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And we came back a following Monday, Tuesday.

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We do have exams next week, but yeah, we're out

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on they're doing nasty.

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They just this is they don't have to do all that.

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They don't have to do all that. Y'all are one,

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not you.

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But the school.

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You're the one that sits there and determines that calendar

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and so many things have changed. I just heard our

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president Trump is bringing Columbus Day back, so that's gonna

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be a school day out next year, you know. So

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you know, but y'all just doing doing, y'all putting so

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much anxiety on these students, and they have enough to

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worry about to get the projects in, making sure that

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you know, the canvas is working so they can upload.

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And all that kind of stuff. Hey, thank you missed it.

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Good evening with them a win, yes, yes, yes, and prayerfully,

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best of luck on a exam.

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Thinking Mickey, Mickey, yes, she she she's.

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Got a nice routine down and stuff like that. Kind

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of remind me of myself a little bit, but she

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get at it. She Oh, no, I got to study.

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It's like, okay, all right, let's see you all right,

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you know.

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But God is good. God is good, I tell you.

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I don't even know where to start, but I do

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want to continue.

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We want to continue praying about Money's being released.

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I just saw I think it's just a minor tabloid

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saying that Trump is not going to release anything until

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next year.

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Now, the devil is a liar. He will be releasing

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it this year. And I don't know what God's desires are,

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but I know, my desire and some of our desires,

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we want to get it before Thanksgiving, and all he

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has to do is put it into law and just

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you know, come to other armored trucks. Back it up.

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Take this money to IRIS. Is going to be a

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hard exam season and a station.

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A little bit. I mean, every well, all my other

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exams has been pretty okay. It's just sometimes what they

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require us to study is not on the exam, so

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we kind of be you know, blindsided a little bit sometimes.

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But yeah, and it's okay with their study guide structures

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and stuff like that for the most part.

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Some of it is majority of it the test.

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But wow, her, when I was a college professor, whatever

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I told you the first first few weeks, what we studied,

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first few chapters, what we studied that would be on

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your first exam. What we're gonna study next is going

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to be on your mid term exam. In some cases

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most of the time, I didn't even know. Because social

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sciences it's similar to psychology. There's a lot of memorization,

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a lot of terms. The theorists that you know propose

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the terms.

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You know, it's a lot of that included.

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So I dare I don't think I ever really gave

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an all inclusive final exam.

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I didn't think that was fair.

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So whatever we were studying on those last few chapters

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right leading up to the final, that's what that's what

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you studied. That's what the test testing material was. So

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you know these these you know these schools, uh well,

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some particular schools, some particular colleges. I mean you just

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if I had my way, Yeah, you all wouldn't even

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be in business because more anxiety. Lee was telling me

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about accidents in the parking garage and all kinds of stuff.

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Kids are not even looking, they're just backing out and

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all that kind of stuff, you know, and y'all are

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imposing that you you, you professors are responsible, You teachers,

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you presidents of the.

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Departments, you head of the departments and stuff, y'all, y'all

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the calls.

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Of that, Hey La k Tennessee check it in, amen. Yeah.

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So, preferly getting back to the Taekwondo a c you know,

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and and her organ her nonprofit stands for a Charity

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Empowered to Save Souls is ACEE t s S. Preferly,

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I'm I've already been talking to my medical team. I'm like,

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this is not going away. You need to you know,

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we're gonna be taking a look at my numbers and

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making sure things are you know, inflammation is getting out

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of me and stuff like that. But I said, I

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got to get back. I got to get back, so

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preferly next year this time. Well, I'm not sure if

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we'll be on in October November, but you'll hear some

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kind of way.

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Oh yeah, it's great with the Porto Rico, and I

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brought back the goal.

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You know, doing something because I got I gotta get

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back into it.

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That's my balancing piece of me. I gotta get back

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to it.

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So but anyway, so continue to pray Continua bombard Heaven, okay,

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because there's a whole lot of other stuff that needs

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to be you know, ironed out and made sense, made

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to make sense and and and.

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Voted on and all this kind of stuff.

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And now you possibly you got New Yorkers being encouraged

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to move to Florida because the new governor's Muslim, of

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the Muslim practice, And I'm like, oh Jesus, we don't

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need we have no more room in Florida. If you're

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coming to Orlando, the central Florida we.

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Have no more room. We are beyond the gold to reach, yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.

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Now we we don't have room. We're already people houses.

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They're building houses on top of each other. Now in

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the back room, going in the backyard, I could see,

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you know, you could see the person in the kitchen

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in their bathroom. No, we we have no more room

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in central Florida. Now, if you want to go on

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the outskirts of central Florida, Palm Beach County has no room.

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You're heading south Miami for lorda, they bocam.

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They have no room. So don't come here. Stay on

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the top half of you know, Tallahasset, Panama City, up

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up that way, you know.

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But or go someplace else. Don't come to Florida. I mean,

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we don't have nothing.

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And those people don't.

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Native New Yorkers don't drive most of the time. Now

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you got to drive when you come to Florida.

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And then you can't act act ugly when you come

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here because but anyway, yeah, but continue to bombard heaven,

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believe in God.

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Like I said for me, I can speak for me

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and my house, or we want the money before Thanksgiving.

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I can't speak for everybody else. I'm not here telling

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God what to do and how to do it. We're

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just saying God, any day now, we know that you

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can do it, and I want it from a bigger

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pot of money, because there's two big pots of money

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out there that they found extra money for so and

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there'll be enough to throw at the terror, I mean,

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our deficit.

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So there, I got that off my chest.

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But anyway, tonight we want to talk about uh, you know,

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a Family and Guardian Caregivers Month, and hats off to anybody.

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I my heart goes out to people who adopt children

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because we turn out okay, and uh, we're a little different,

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but you know, with love and care and that you

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want us, you know, it makes a difference. And then

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you may have to get us into some counseling too,

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because there's a hole. And kids that are in foster

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care there is a hole because they feel that they've

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been abandoned, they've been rejected. There is a hole and

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the devil will play on that. And you know, especially

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when you've got kids out there being you know, shuffled

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from home to home and you know, and stuff like that,

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and people going into foster care just to get a

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check and all that kind of nonsense. And we're gonna,

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I'm telling you what, hopefully with the old hauls that

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are coming on all major systems, we're gonna it's gonna

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be eradicated. It's gonna be cut out. I'm telling you,

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it is going to be cut out. So but we got,

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you know, we've got caregivers in all kinds of categories.

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that we take care of, whether you live with them

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or not. We've got, of course, you know of the

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foster care system. We've got the representative payee system. When

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you've got that loved one that you know can't handle

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their money, so you go Social Security will make you

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the representative payee so on their checks.

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That will be deposited in their account. It's a joint account.

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We've got all kinds of And I don't know why

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the Lord had me to I sat back and because

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the rest of the title of the show is National

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Family and Guardian Caregivers Month Poland when caring and self

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care cross contaminates. When caring and self care crosses, because

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most of the time, most of your caregivers don't care,

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don't take care of themselves.

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Most of the.

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Time, even if you've got another sibling in the family,

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they don't come to your rescue. They get as far

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away as they can because they don't want to be

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bothered until the person unfortunately passes away, and if there's

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any type of excuse me, asset are left over, then.

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They show up.

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And I got a problem with that, But nevertheless, I

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had to protect our family home and things like that

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from my family member and other family members who knew

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that my mom at Alzheimer's and would not remember that

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they were there earlier in the day stealing stuff out

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of our home. My hats off to those who take

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on that responsibility. At the same time, you've got to

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take care of yourself. They need to assure kids and

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foster care that they are loved and no matter what

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they matter.

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You're absolutely right missing, You're absolutely right. They need to.

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Okay, yeah, they You're absolutely right. And that's the last

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thing that we were thinking about as a As a child,

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you want to you know, you're hoping you're watching u

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people coming in and your roommate is going to the office,

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and then your roommate is packed up the suitcase and

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then they're gone.

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Because they get it.

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They're getting to be placed and then they're getting to

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put the the adoption is going forward, and you know,

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you know, I was watching something and uh, hello, hey,

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elijanis Tennessee. Uh you got to let you know, these

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folks that's been in these systems know that you care.

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At the same time that it would be helpful to

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get them therapy. So if you're already in front of

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the judge, you know, trying to get the process you

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need to, it would be good to have the judge

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to put it in writing in the court order actually

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that they could get eight weeks of counseling at some

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point as soon as possible, because it's hard to explain

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I'm looking at thinking I was looking at something on Facebook.

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All these all of the school you know, teachers teaching

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in middle and elementary schools are quitting and they're crying

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because they said, the kids are out of control.

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We just don't.

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Understand whether this anger is coming from, whether this disrespect

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is coming from.

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And there's a whole lot to answer to that. There's

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a whole lot not saying that those kids were in

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shelters or whatever the case may be, that some of

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those kids are living in their cars with their parents.

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They're living in their vehicles. They're maybe going from shelter

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to shelter. Right now, we got a lot of motel

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living right now. People are in.

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Motels and they go from motel to motel, and I'm like, ohm,

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like I can't I can't even imagine that. But I

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know that once upon a time, when I was married

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to my second husband, I'm like, I want I should

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have gone to I wanted to go to a shelter,

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but my oldest son was like over twelve years old,

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and shelters are not gonna take male children over twelve.

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So I knew that already. And so you know, you

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just you suffer it. You suffer it.

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I suffered in silence, but you know it came out, Okay.

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Now everybody have those opportunities. I did go live with

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this lady one week and she well, two weeks. I

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think we're with her two weeks. And this lady was

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from you know where, and it was just like she

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was just weirded out.

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I don't know.

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I thought she was just nice. Met her at a

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PTA meeting. She was always friendly and stuff like that.

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And then I'm like, well, you know, I have to

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get out of my home and you know, leaving my

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husband and I got to take my kids. And she goes, well, coming,

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you know, I've got a hold a big screen porch.

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You can come and you know, stay there. And I'm like, okay,

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So I transferred the cable to her house and you know,

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next thing, she's like, you're welcome to anything. I said, well,

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we're not going to, you know, do that most of

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the time. We'll probably eat out or whatever. I don't

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want to inconvenience you and your son and stuff. Next thing,

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I know, she.

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Taking step out the shelves of the cabinets and putting

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it up and no conversation. But it's like, oh I

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thought we could have oh it's not up there, okay,

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and she would cut the lights out of it. Was

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it was, it was, it was, And I said, God,

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you got to get me out of here. If I

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have to have to take.

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My son back to Palm Beach, let him stay with

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his dad and me and the twins we just go

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to a shelter. At this point, this lady crazy, and

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I don't know what's gonna happen next.

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And the Lord opened up a door for my neighbor.

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Said hey, there's a condo for rent and when and

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you know that day and after work, I broke my

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neck getting there. Met with the property man, the manager

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of the of the condo and managers, the owner's representatives,

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and I'm like, I need to move now. And I

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didn't tell her to the last minute. Oh we're gone,

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We're out of here. And she helped my furniture ransom

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because I had my couch and something a couple of

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other piece. She held a ransom and then I had

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to text her say you know what you're forgiving. And

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then she allowed my husband to come and pick up stuff.

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And I'm like, oh my god, Jesus helped me. So

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it's weird situations. I can I can't imagine when people

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have to make that decision. They got to move out,

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they're being evicted, they gotta you know, you.

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Look at what are my options here?

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And you know, and your caregiving, especially if you're a

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parent of you know, children, no matter their age, your child.

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Is disabled, you're disabled.

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It's a lot, but it does cross because you forget

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to take care of yourself. You're so busy trying to

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take care of that loved one or your children or whoever,

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and you lose sight of you and you're exhausted at

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the end of the night, you know, So you were

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here to tell you got to take care of yourself.

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And we talk about self care all the time, and

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it comes in all kinds of shades and shame, you know,

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shapes and colors, and everybody and culture and everybody's situation

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is different. But you've got to keep moving, You've got

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to utilize resources, you've got to ask questions.

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And sometimes you don't want people in your business. I

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get that, besore. Sometimes you have to let people get

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in your business so that you could take care of

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what you can take care of and take care of yourself.

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Take care of yourself. You know, anybody wants jumping here now.

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I mean, I think you pretty much said, you know,

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set a mouth full. I mean, but it is, it's

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like it's like the art of caregiving, you know, And

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so many of my peers either work caregivers are still caregiving,

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and it's it's a never ending job. And so I

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think people don't realize the smallest things that that could

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be beneficial, like someone fixing a dish for you, or

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someone taking your trash out, or someone just sitting with

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your loved one five ten, fifteen minutes while you just

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have a break, or someone just offering to help you

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straighten up, you know, just the it's the little things

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that that can mean so much. And I think when

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you're at that point, sometimes you don't don't know where

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to turn, you know.

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I was fortunately I did have siblings that would help.

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You know, we had like a role that we played,

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but it still was, you know, difficult, you know because

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sometimes you especially with a parent, you have to remember

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that's your parent, but sometimes you have to make decisions

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that that they become your child and it's it's not comfortable,

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but pretty much for their best interests. And so I I,

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you know, I find out resources. You know, just look

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at it now, if you're seeing yourself headed that way,

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potentially headed.

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That way, just find out who who your supports is.

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And I have close friends and and family that I

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could could talk to as well when when you get tired.

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And so it's the small things that mean a whole lot.

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It really does. So, but it is self care.

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You have to can't find out what resources your your

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you're you're you're entitled to. Some people don't know what

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they're entitled to, and my dad was a that and

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so I was very fortunate. Sometimes other vets would see

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me in the VA with my dad and they said,

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you're the caregiver.

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You know you can get this. They're not gonna tell.

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You that, ask about this, that and the other. So

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it became like wow, you know, it's like a support system.

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So find out from other people that are caregivers what

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resources are out there.

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Makes a big difference. Amen. Amen, And you got to

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go back.

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You know the fifth commandment honor thy mother, thy father,

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that that days may be long. It doesn't mean that

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you're to be taking for granted. You know, you know,

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you don't go through craziness and stuff like that, but

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you can still honor them and give by giving them

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the best that you can.

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And sometimes, you know, I've always shared, you know I've

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shared before.

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The hardest thing for me was to I had to

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place my mom in the nursing home.

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I had no choice. I had nobody to help me.

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The neighbors couldn't get over the fact that she was

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hallucinating and stuff like that, like you.

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She don't talk like that.

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I said, well, I'm trying to tell you, and I

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don't know what they were thinking. Her baby's just it

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was thinking, you know, they just take You know, I

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know what I'm talking about. And I know you can't

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imagine your loved one, you know, going that to that

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far extream. And then my aunt Betty, when I was

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getting married the first time, came and said, well, i'll

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take her.

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We'll take her back to Georgia with us.

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Just go ahead and pack her up. We'll take her back.

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And I said, now, and Betty, I'm telling you now,

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you've got she's she imagines things, she hallucinates, and there's

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a little girl that she swears that she's looking at

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in the mirror that's taking her things and dressing like her.

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Oh girl, please, you know, quein't gonna be a fire.

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We're gonna put her. Get off there in these trees.

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When I went to get her five months later, because

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she went three months later, she wouldn't let her go.

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And her daughter calls me from another state, said, well,

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I take care of my mother.

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You need to take care of you. I said, you

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tell your mama to let my mother go. And I

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hung up the phone. We got told my husband, let's

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go rented the car. She didn't even know we were coming.

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I drove through the night to get to Georgia, and

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I stopped because I wasn't sure what hell was hers.

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I said, Betty, I'm here here down street. Which of

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these streets do I turn down? And it's a hell?

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Oh well, I didn't Which street do I turn down?

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I'm not here to talk to you. I'm here to

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get my mother. So you tell your daughter to leave

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me alone, because I could go to Carolina. Now, don't

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tell me I'm not taking care of my mother. And

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my aunt was getting money from my uncle to take

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care of my mom. I was sitting my mom's whole

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social Security check up there, came out of pocket for

470
00:23:24.720 --> 00:23:28.240
her medications, and my uncle sending her five six hundred dollars.

471
00:23:28.279 --> 00:23:30.279
I didn't know nothing about it, you know, so a

472
00:23:30.279 --> 00:23:33.160
little crazy ist that when I got there, Guys, my

473
00:23:33.359 --> 00:23:38.279
aunt was the queen of figurines. She's the queen of figurines.

474
00:23:38.279 --> 00:23:40.640
There's a little everything. When I got there, there was

475
00:23:40.880 --> 00:23:44.079
none to be seen, and the mirrors in the hall

476
00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:47.440
and the bedroom were covered up. And all her husband

477
00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:49.519
could say to me is you got hell on your hands?

478
00:23:49.559 --> 00:23:51.640
I said, no, I don't you taking care of that.

479
00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:53.039
This is nothing to me.

480
00:23:53.440 --> 00:23:55.519
So let me go and pack my mother up. We're gone.

481
00:23:55.680 --> 00:23:56.319
We're gone.

482
00:23:56.480 --> 00:23:59.920
So nobody likes to believe you. So there's that rejection,

483
00:24:00.480 --> 00:24:02.839
you know. And I never talked to my aunt again.

484
00:24:03.160 --> 00:24:05.200
I barely made it. I barely went to the funeral.

485
00:24:05.200 --> 00:24:07.680
God had to talk to me. But nevertheless that my

486
00:24:07.680 --> 00:24:11.039
mom had already passed. But you know, and then on

487
00:24:11.079 --> 00:24:14.079
the biological side, you know, my thing is, and I'm

488
00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:16.279
gonna I'm not gonna go into that, but my thing is,

489
00:24:16.319 --> 00:24:18.599
if you've got an adult parent still living.

490
00:24:18.920 --> 00:24:22.880
They're your responsibility. It's not about your relationships anymore. It's

491
00:24:22.920 --> 00:24:26.559
past that. If you can lend a helping hand, you can.

492
00:24:26.640 --> 00:24:28.599
You know, if your sister is the one.

493
00:24:28.440 --> 00:24:30.960
That's living with your mom or living with that loved one,

494
00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:33.640
you take food over there once a week, you go

495
00:24:33.680 --> 00:24:35.640
over there and you cook for food, cook. I mean,

496
00:24:35.680 --> 00:24:39.240
come on, we all got stories, we all got trauma

497
00:24:39.319 --> 00:24:41.759
that we've been through. Everybody living has been through trauma.

498
00:24:41.920 --> 00:24:45.039
Just a baby coming into this world is traumatized. So

499
00:24:45.160 --> 00:24:47.759
let's get past it. Not even got new buzzwords. Let's

500
00:24:47.799 --> 00:24:50.440
get past that. Now, what do I what can I

501
00:24:50.519 --> 00:24:52.519
do to help? But I made sure.

502
00:24:52.400 --> 00:24:54.000
That even though I had to place my mom in

503
00:24:54.039 --> 00:24:56.839
a nursing home, I made sure those people knew.

504
00:24:57.119 --> 00:25:00.000
You don't know when I'm gonna show up. You don't

505
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:01.960
you know when I'm coming through to be on my

506
00:25:02.079 --> 00:25:05.039
lunch break. It could be at eight o'clock at night,

507
00:25:05.160 --> 00:25:06.359
eleven o'clock at night.

508
00:25:06.599 --> 00:25:09.599
You don't know. And I'm walking through. I don't even

509
00:25:09.640 --> 00:25:12.240
sign in. I'm going to check on my mom, even

510
00:25:12.279 --> 00:25:14.960
though she hadn't called my name out so I cannot.

511
00:25:14.960 --> 00:25:17.519
I'm at peace. Go ahead, not just.

512
00:25:17.480 --> 00:25:20.759
At a disclaimer too, because I remember before my dad,

513
00:25:22.160 --> 00:25:24.720
This was years before he had passed, but he got

514
00:25:24.720 --> 00:25:26.680
real sick and went to the hospital and then they

515
00:25:26.720 --> 00:25:31.359
released him to rehab. And before we went to rehab,

516
00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:33.400
I was checking with people to find out which is

517
00:25:33.440 --> 00:25:35.759
the better one, because you know, you hear horror stories.

518
00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:38.319
And so I asked one of my girlfriends, whose sister

519
00:25:38.440 --> 00:25:41.920
was a geriatric nurse, and she told her to tell me,

520
00:25:42.559 --> 00:25:44.240
I don't care if you're paying the most or the

521
00:25:44.319 --> 00:25:46.759
least all of me. He said, you got to show

522
00:25:46.880 --> 00:25:49.880
up at him. He said, you don't come on out,

523
00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:53.400
You comeing out unannounced. Different times of the day and night,

524
00:25:53.519 --> 00:25:56.400
so you could see for yourself. Let other people come

525
00:25:56.440 --> 00:25:58.559
in there to come and see for themselves, he said,

526
00:25:58.599 --> 00:26:00.359
because everybody's not going.

527
00:26:00.359 --> 00:26:02.440
To care for your loved one the way you will.

528
00:26:02.799 --> 00:26:05.240
So, like you said, she said, I don't care how

529
00:26:05.400 --> 00:26:09.359
good of rating that the place got or how low,

530
00:26:09.519 --> 00:26:13.720
you still have to go in and checkcuse me, periodically

531
00:26:14.640 --> 00:26:18.200
check on your loved one. And so yeah, unfortunately a

532
00:26:18.240 --> 00:26:20.559
lot of people are in there for just for the money.

533
00:26:20.799 --> 00:26:21.039
Yeah.

534
00:26:21.519 --> 00:26:24.119
Yeah, and you've got to check, you know, you got

535
00:26:24.200 --> 00:26:26.119
I know, my baby is telling me a lot that

536
00:26:26.279 --> 00:26:27.839
you know. While I was in the hospital, she came

537
00:26:27.920 --> 00:26:29.960
up every day. She came up every day. You are

538
00:26:29.960 --> 00:26:31.319
already told her her teachers.

539
00:26:31.640 --> 00:26:33.839
Look, I got to keep my phone on because they

540
00:26:33.839 --> 00:26:35.960
could call me any moment. I got to keep my

541
00:26:36.000 --> 00:26:36.400
phone on.

542
00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:38.799
I'll step out of the class if you got a

543
00:26:38.799 --> 00:26:41.480
problem with it, you know, and talk with other residents

544
00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:43.880
there as well. Yeah, mickey, Yeah, make friends with the

545
00:26:43.920 --> 00:26:47.200
other residents, you know, let them, you know, and if

546
00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:49.400
they if you see that nobody's coming to visit them,

547
00:26:49.480 --> 00:26:50.599
you know, it's nothing to bring.

548
00:26:50.440 --> 00:26:52.359
Them a little whatnot a little you know.

549
00:26:52.400 --> 00:26:54.440
I'm just thank you for looking out for you know,

550
00:26:54.519 --> 00:26:56.559
for my you know, for my mom or my dad

551
00:26:56.559 --> 00:26:57.240
and my auntie.

552
00:26:57.240 --> 00:26:58.279
Thank you so much for that.

553
00:26:58.480 --> 00:27:00.519
Yeah, you can check with the check talk with the

554
00:27:00.519 --> 00:27:01.519
other residents and stuff.

555
00:27:01.559 --> 00:27:04.000
But I walk through. I'd get it. I'd do a tour.

556
00:27:04.240 --> 00:27:06.319
I didn't have time to do a tour, but you know,

557
00:27:06.359 --> 00:27:08.400
I had to place her and I just did it

558
00:27:08.440 --> 00:27:10.960
because it was safety issues and all kinds of stuff.

559
00:27:11.240 --> 00:27:12.880
But I walked through that place.

560
00:27:13.440 --> 00:27:16.680
I would walk through the cafeteria, I'd go to the

561
00:27:16.680 --> 00:27:18.039
physical therapy area.

562
00:27:18.920 --> 00:27:21.759
I look at the little pool outside, you know. Yeah,

563
00:27:21.960 --> 00:27:23.839
I walked through there. Then I go visit my mom

564
00:27:23.960 --> 00:27:25.839
or I go visit her, and then I come back out.

565
00:27:25.920 --> 00:27:28.440
Then I did my own tour. Let me see what's new.

566
00:27:28.759 --> 00:27:31.279
While these my mom's clothes are missing, what's going on

567
00:27:31.640 --> 00:27:32.279
their labels?

568
00:27:32.319 --> 00:27:34.759
I know what they look like. You need to replace them.

569
00:27:34.920 --> 00:27:36.960
That that stopped. That stopped.

570
00:27:36.960 --> 00:27:39.599
I said, you know what, I'm gonna wash my mom's clothes. Yeah,

571
00:27:39.759 --> 00:27:41.359
I'll wash them and I'll bring them back.

572
00:27:41.680 --> 00:27:44.200
I'm good. You know, just little things like that.

573
00:27:44.519 --> 00:27:47.279
And at the same time, you know your child, you know,

574
00:27:47.359 --> 00:27:49.839
your little one going to school and stuff like you know,

575
00:27:49.960 --> 00:27:53.440
you talk with that teacher. You know, you know your child,

576
00:27:53.720 --> 00:27:57.119
be honest, be honest, help my mom to take care

577
00:27:57.119 --> 00:27:58.519
of my dad. I had to put my mom in

578
00:27:58.559 --> 00:28:00.799
a nursing care. It was very hard. I was blessed

579
00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:01.599
to have a good crew.

580
00:28:01.920 --> 00:28:05.000
But I did like I did like it, showed up anytime,

581
00:28:05.480 --> 00:28:06.000
all the time.

582
00:28:06.039 --> 00:28:08.319
Thank you all the ka men. And I'm gonna tell

583
00:28:08.319 --> 00:28:10.680
you always check things out. Too many bad stories going

584
00:28:10.680 --> 00:28:12.640
on in some of those places. Yeah, and I'm telling

585
00:28:12.680 --> 00:28:17.279
you years later, your mind is at peace because when

586
00:28:17.319 --> 00:28:19.319
you could look back and you could tell your flesh,

587
00:28:19.319 --> 00:28:22.119
your flesh, you know, the little devil on your shoulder,

588
00:28:22.279 --> 00:28:23.519
Oh you could have done better.

589
00:28:23.720 --> 00:28:25.680
Oh you shouldn't put your mother in a nursing home.

590
00:28:25.880 --> 00:28:28.079
You know you as a social worker, you shouldn't have No,

591
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:29.319
the devil is a liar.

592
00:28:29.440 --> 00:28:32.000
She had the best care. I made sure of it,

593
00:28:32.039 --> 00:28:34.720
and it was for her better good. And guess what,

594
00:28:34.839 --> 00:28:36.119
God is honoring me.

595
00:28:36.519 --> 00:28:38.119
He's honoring his word.

596
00:28:38.319 --> 00:28:41.119
My days are gonna be long, and I'm gonna be healthy,

597
00:28:41.480 --> 00:28:43.240
and I have great memories of my mom.

598
00:28:43.519 --> 00:28:44.839
I'd tell my kids all the time.

599
00:28:44.839 --> 00:28:47.079
I wish they they lived, were able to live long

600
00:28:47.160 --> 00:28:49.640
enough for y'all to see them, because y'all wouldn't be

601
00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:53.079
doing nothing. They were just being head over heels happy

602
00:28:53.279 --> 00:28:56.319
to have grandkids, you know, so you know, and they

603
00:28:56.319 --> 00:28:57.279
would have been up here with me.

604
00:28:57.680 --> 00:28:59.200
You know. My husband thought he was doing something like,

605
00:28:59.200 --> 00:29:00.599
you know what, gonna take my mom.

606
00:29:01.000 --> 00:29:03.079
I'm like, yeah, but trust me, if my either one

607
00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:04.839
of my parents have been living, they been moving to

608
00:29:04.920 --> 00:29:08.480
Orlando with me, trust me, trust me, we wouldn't have

609
00:29:08.480 --> 00:29:11.160
a two story, we didn't have a condo with stairs. No,

610
00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:13.960
our housing situation would be totally different. So take care

611
00:29:13.960 --> 00:29:16.359
of your mother. You take care of her. Them ain't

612
00:29:16.359 --> 00:29:18.000
got nothing to do with me. She like the gossip

613
00:29:18.000 --> 00:29:19.240
and talk about me. I ain't got nothing to do

614
00:29:19.319 --> 00:29:19.559
with it.

615
00:29:19.759 --> 00:29:22.359
You take care of her anyway. That's a whole different story.

616
00:29:22.359 --> 00:29:25.039
I'm sorry.

617
00:29:27.559 --> 00:29:29.279
I was going to bring up though, like, although I

618
00:29:29.279 --> 00:29:33.440
don't really have experience of being a caregiver anyway, but

619
00:29:33.599 --> 00:29:35.079
I do, I mean temporarily.

620
00:29:35.359 --> 00:29:36.119
I guess you could.

621
00:29:35.960 --> 00:29:39.400
Say you almost had seven years of experience, right.

622
00:29:40.440 --> 00:29:43.119
Not too much. Well, I wanted to literate caregiving, but.

623
00:29:44.680 --> 00:29:46.839
Ability to take care of my mother if she can't

624
00:29:46.960 --> 00:29:47.880
take care of herself.

625
00:29:48.079 --> 00:29:49.400
But I was a very good job.

626
00:29:49.880 --> 00:29:51.799
What'd you say, I said, you did a very good job.

627
00:29:51.799 --> 00:29:54.240
You know, how to keep people away from me. She

628
00:29:54.240 --> 00:29:56.559
wouldn't let people come just roll on. You could, Oh,

629
00:29:56.599 --> 00:29:57.640
well maybe we can start.

630
00:29:57.480 --> 00:30:00.720
No, ma'am, No, she's not taking visitors my baby.

631
00:30:01.440 --> 00:30:05.880
Yeah, but you don't.

632
00:30:05.920 --> 00:30:07.160
You wouldn't even want to either.

633
00:30:08.039 --> 00:30:10.599
No, you don't be and you're like, I don't want

634
00:30:10.599 --> 00:30:12.200
to be bothered. No, you don't need to come up here.

635
00:30:13.960 --> 00:30:16.759
It's important to have balance during that time because I

636
00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:19.079
was in high school, and I mean I already had

637
00:30:19.079 --> 00:30:21.119
a set schedule of doing my work, making sure I'm

638
00:30:21.160 --> 00:30:23.799
doing my work, intending to my mom. That was literally

639
00:30:23.839 --> 00:30:26.400
my to do list, tending to her anything she needed,

640
00:30:26.759 --> 00:30:29.720
food wise, whatever the case may be, driving her somewhere,

641
00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:32.039
And to this day, she still want me to drive

642
00:30:32.079 --> 00:30:34.240
for somewhere, even though she's completely capable.

643
00:30:34.279 --> 00:30:38.319
Guys don't be able to go back.

644
00:30:38.559 --> 00:30:40.640
You've been trying to finesse me because she would literally

645
00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:41.839
like we're going somewhere together.

646
00:30:41.880 --> 00:30:43.119
She'd be like, you're driving.

647
00:30:43.279 --> 00:30:45.839
She knows to ask me right before we leave if

648
00:30:45.880 --> 00:30:49.240
I'm driving, to make me feel bad for her driving.

649
00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:54.359
Like audience disregard that. No, we're not all out because

650
00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:56.720
bage of this little thing over here.

651
00:30:57.559 --> 00:31:00.799
But anyways, because she gets we got to go.

652
00:31:01.000 --> 00:31:02.559
She you know, she don't play the radio.

653
00:31:04.400 --> 00:31:09.480
Who said, well, anyway, she's still trying to control my driving.

654
00:31:09.680 --> 00:31:11.519
Lead you to the course to the corner. I'm not

655
00:31:12.000 --> 00:31:16.279
whatever she sees. She's right anyways. But yes, it's important

656
00:31:16.319 --> 00:31:18.960
to have balance and assess schedule.

657
00:31:20.240 --> 00:31:20.799
But uh.

658
00:31:29.079 --> 00:31:30.519
Yeah, when she got rid of and she.

659
00:31:30.480 --> 00:31:32.480
Had a little fellow too at the time too, so

660
00:31:32.480 --> 00:31:34.519
she gave me all that and order who was driving

661
00:31:34.839 --> 00:31:36.759
that little fellow that could make sure she come up

662
00:31:36.799 --> 00:31:38.839
to get to the hospital and stuff. Oh well, of

663
00:31:38.880 --> 00:31:41.480
course I just wanted to add talk about balance. Why

664
00:31:41.480 --> 00:31:41.640
are you.

665
00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:48.720
Anyways? Yes, it's very important.

666
00:31:48.799 --> 00:31:50.680
And when she did get rid of the nurses, because

667
00:31:50.680 --> 00:31:53.359
she does not like anybody in her space. You know,

668
00:31:53.519 --> 00:31:56.279
it was our responsibility to tend to her and everything

669
00:31:56.279 --> 00:31:57.799
that and I would do it all over again.

670
00:31:58.079 --> 00:31:58.920
So I love my mother.

671
00:31:59.079 --> 00:32:02.759
So therefore you just finding bayless and finding time for

672
00:32:02.799 --> 00:32:06.759
yourself as well, because I'm a workaholic, so as long

673
00:32:06.799 --> 00:32:09.559
as I'm working, I'm perfectly fine. So therefore it was

674
00:32:09.599 --> 00:32:11.759
just a job to always do and I enjoyed it.

675
00:32:11.799 --> 00:32:13.799
So just find time for.

676
00:32:13.759 --> 00:32:16.440
Yourself in between and again, like Miss Tray said, the

677
00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:17.480
little things.

678
00:32:17.279 --> 00:32:19.759
Really matter, like literally, the little things.

679
00:32:19.559 --> 00:32:22.200
Just you going outside to breathe, being with nature, just

680
00:32:23.160 --> 00:32:25.000
like the little things is very important.

681
00:32:25.279 --> 00:32:26.559
But that's what I wanted to add it.

682
00:32:26.720 --> 00:32:29.640
Yeah, find free things to do and going to pick

683
00:32:29.720 --> 00:32:33.279
up medication and grocery shopping is not what we're talking about.

684
00:32:33.400 --> 00:32:37.000
That is not self care. Okay, that's mandatory, that's part

685
00:32:37.039 --> 00:32:40.680
of life. No, we're talking about you saying if somebody

686
00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:42.240
come up and say, hey, you know what, I got

687
00:32:42.319 --> 00:32:45.400
two hours to spare on Friday afternoon, you go ahead

688
00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:47.559
and do what you want to do. I can come

689
00:32:47.559 --> 00:32:49.599
in and watch, you know.

690
00:32:49.400 --> 00:32:53.920
You know, oh sorry, that's okay. One of the things too,

691
00:32:53.920 --> 00:32:54.680
that was helpful.

692
00:32:54.720 --> 00:32:57.319
So I remember, you know, in the process of care,

693
00:32:57.400 --> 00:32:59.480
my niece was saying, Andrey, why don't you get a

694
00:32:59.480 --> 00:33:03.240
blink camera system? And so she's all you do is

695
00:33:03.240 --> 00:33:05.799
plug it in the wall and you're able to and

696
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:07.519
have Wi Fi and you're able.

697
00:33:07.319 --> 00:33:08.799
To see my daughter.

698
00:33:08.920 --> 00:33:21.000
And so a camera system and when I tell you,

699
00:33:21.119 --> 00:33:24.960
it made the world of difference because I was able

700
00:33:25.000 --> 00:33:26.640
to aim the camera at my dad.

701
00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:29.640
You could talk through it. I can hear him if.

702
00:33:29.559 --> 00:33:32.240
He talked yeah, and I and I would positioning right

703
00:33:32.319 --> 00:33:35.200
beside where he was sleeping or sitting and we just

704
00:33:35.400 --> 00:33:37.400
could check on him. So and you can zoom in

705
00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:40.960
and anytime you can record. And so we had strategically

706
00:33:41.000 --> 00:33:42.960
placed in the house so we could see you know,

707
00:33:43.000 --> 00:33:46.519
the front door, the back door, you know, someone moving about,

708
00:33:46.599 --> 00:33:49.000
you know, making sure that they weren't going upstairs. So

709
00:33:49.400 --> 00:33:51.759
that is something that really and like I said, literally

710
00:33:51.799 --> 00:33:55.599
just plugged it in the wall. And and they're small, small,

711
00:33:55.720 --> 00:33:58.799
not that big at all, And that was a godsend.

712
00:33:59.599 --> 00:34:02.160
So I can see him throughout the night, call down,

713
00:34:02.279 --> 00:34:02.839
check on him.

714
00:34:02.839 --> 00:34:06.119
And then I also had like a baby monitor too

715
00:34:06.200 --> 00:34:10.039
as well that I can hear, you know, which helped.

716
00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:11.880
So some of the things will give you a little

717
00:34:11.920 --> 00:34:15.519
peace of mind when you're out and about or.

718
00:34:15.679 --> 00:34:17.079
And there's other systems out there.

719
00:34:17.159 --> 00:34:19.559
I'm just I want my girlfriend, she uses something else,

720
00:34:19.599 --> 00:34:22.440
but she's able to talk or communicate or dollar mother

721
00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:25.880
or something like that. But yeah, it's some devices out

722
00:34:25.880 --> 00:34:28.000
that will really give you a little peace of mind.

723
00:34:28.039 --> 00:34:30.480
So if you just want to step away thirty minutes

724
00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:34.039
or hour, that will give you some kind of sense,

725
00:34:34.079 --> 00:34:35.400
a piece of mind, and you can be able to

726
00:34:35.440 --> 00:34:37.000
see if you have to call now on one or

727
00:34:37.000 --> 00:34:39.800
something like that. But that is something I would suggest

728
00:34:39.800 --> 00:34:40.920
to caregivers as well.

729
00:34:42.599 --> 00:34:45.440
There's equipment out there. I definitely agree with you about

730
00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:47.000
the piece that God gives you when you take care

731
00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:48.880
of your mother. I pray some of these young people

732
00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:51.480
get it. Honor your parents as God commands us. Yes,

733
00:34:51.679 --> 00:34:55.519
elder elder janeis thank you. You're right, because this younger generator,

734
00:34:55.519 --> 00:34:58.039
they don't get it. They're missing out on it. I

735
00:34:58.079 --> 00:35:01.880
don't understand. I ran into another mother that's just having

736
00:35:01.880 --> 00:35:03.760
a problem with her daughter. I mean, just like you

737
00:35:03.800 --> 00:35:07.039
almost hate your daughter, and I don't get that. Some

738
00:35:07.119 --> 00:35:09.599
of these parents I don't know because if because they

739
00:35:09.679 --> 00:35:12.719
had the baby young or the baby and one.

740
00:35:12.559 --> 00:35:14.000
Young lady, I said, do you look like your dad?

741
00:35:14.079 --> 00:35:15.199
She goes yeah. I said, okay.

742
00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:18.800
The mom mad at that at the X and so

743
00:35:18.920 --> 00:35:20.960
you're taking it out on an adult child.

744
00:35:21.039 --> 00:35:23.679
That makes no. I don't understand that.

745
00:35:24.679 --> 00:35:26.760
Because that child will have to enter and take care

746
00:35:26.840 --> 00:35:28.760
of you, and they can make the decision not to.

747
00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:31.079
There's no law that says that we have to take

748
00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:32.559
care of our aging parents.

749
00:35:32.800 --> 00:35:33.719
There's no law.

750
00:35:34.159 --> 00:35:36.239
So you're on your you know, y'all, you got to

751
00:35:36.280 --> 00:35:37.840
step back and say, you know what, let me get

752
00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:40.519
my Why am I having a problem with this child?

753
00:35:40.519 --> 00:35:43.000
I don't understand it myself, But why am I having

754
00:35:43.000 --> 00:35:44.159
a problem now with my mom?

755
00:35:44.480 --> 00:35:45.880
When I turned sixteen, I.

756
00:35:45.880 --> 00:35:48.239
Was looking more like my biological mother, and my mom,

757
00:35:48.599 --> 00:35:50.880
I don't know what was going through a mind. And

758
00:35:50.960 --> 00:35:52.639
I just came to her and I said, Mom, I'm

759
00:35:52.679 --> 00:35:55.920
working part time, I'm in high school. Can I go

760
00:35:55.920 --> 00:35:59.039
ahead and take over my insurance my curR insurance bill?

761
00:35:59.400 --> 00:36:01.440
Well, I don't know what you want to do that. No, Mom,

762
00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:04.119
I'm just taking that responsibility off of you and dad.

763
00:36:04.159 --> 00:36:07.440
That's all I'm driving now. I'm driving my sister to school.

764
00:36:07.599 --> 00:36:10.360
You know, that's our car. I can afford to do it.

765
00:36:10.639 --> 00:36:13.159
I don't know why, she just but I was. As

766
00:36:13.239 --> 00:36:16.159
I was getting older, I'm looking more like my biological mother,

767
00:36:16.239 --> 00:36:19.800
and she just had a problem with that. And so

768
00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:22.079
we weren't as close as my dad and I were closer.

769
00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:24.400
You know, I was a daddy's girl, but my mom

770
00:36:24.599 --> 00:36:26.599
just was ess. But I ended up, you know, my

771
00:36:26.679 --> 00:36:29.639
dad passed away before she did, and I ended up,

772
00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:31.000
you know, and there was no brainer.

773
00:36:31.000 --> 00:36:32.760
I'm gonna take care of my mother. That's my mom,

774
00:36:33.079 --> 00:36:33.280
you know.

775
00:36:33.800 --> 00:36:37.800
But other folks on the some of my biological families

776
00:36:38.199 --> 00:36:42.199
keep forgetting that I had parents that took me off

777
00:36:42.239 --> 00:36:45.840
your hands. Never asked you for a dime, went to

778
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:48.880
private school, which I had to pay double tuition because

779
00:36:48.920 --> 00:36:49.920
I was not Catholic.

780
00:36:50.320 --> 00:36:53.320
They never asked you for anything. But now you're looking

781
00:36:53.360 --> 00:36:55.159
at me like I'm supposed to take care of somebody. No,

782
00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:56.079
I did mine.

783
00:36:56.400 --> 00:36:58.920
I did my tour, both my mother and my father.

784
00:36:59.079 --> 00:37:03.119
You you, you're gonna be all right now. But but

785
00:37:03.719 --> 00:37:06.679
if God ever tells me I'm flipping the script now,

786
00:37:06.960 --> 00:37:09.239
I need you to step in. I'm there because I

787
00:37:09.239 --> 00:37:11.440
already know what I would do. I already know I

788
00:37:11.480 --> 00:37:14.159
know resources, you know. But at the end of the day,

789
00:37:14.559 --> 00:37:15.480
and God did tell.

790
00:37:15.360 --> 00:37:16.840
Me, you know, you don't have to say that anymore

791
00:37:17.039 --> 00:37:19.400
because He's gonna take care of that. But I took

792
00:37:19.440 --> 00:37:21.599
care of my parents. I've done.

793
00:37:21.719 --> 00:37:25.159
I've got receipts, I got scars too. So but I

794
00:37:25.159 --> 00:37:27.519
hope and pray that I've raised my kids. That's the

795
00:37:27.519 --> 00:37:30.000
one thing I didn't want that to fall on them,

796
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:31.159
that they have to take care of me.

797
00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:34.360
At an early earlier age, So that's one thing.

798
00:37:34.559 --> 00:37:36.760
Going through all of this where your parents were led

799
00:37:36.800 --> 00:37:38.880
to the family they adopted you from. Yes, Anna Stagia,

800
00:37:38.920 --> 00:37:41.719
My mom and my biological mother are distant cousins.

801
00:37:41.920 --> 00:37:44.480
They're about thirty years apart. They were thirty years apart.

802
00:37:44.679 --> 00:37:47.559
We never interacted with that family. That was really weird.

803
00:37:47.639 --> 00:37:50.440
They had family reviews, they never invited my moms. But

804
00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:52.360
when my biological.

805
00:37:51.760 --> 00:37:55.000
Mother had my older brother, her mother tells her, go

806
00:37:55.039 --> 00:37:55.719
to Palm.

807
00:37:55.440 --> 00:37:58.280
Beach, you get better paying jobs, and you send money

808
00:37:58.320 --> 00:38:02.480
back this young man for this boy. And then she

809
00:38:02.599 --> 00:38:05.079
got pregnant and while living with my mom and her

810
00:38:05.239 --> 00:38:08.280
between my mom and her sisters, and then my parents

811
00:38:08.280 --> 00:38:10.360
could not have children, and so she asked, you want

812
00:38:10.400 --> 00:38:12.599
a baby, and they said, yeah, we want her. And

813
00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:14.360
then I don't think they knew what I was until

814
00:38:14.360 --> 00:38:16.440
I came out. My mom and dad came and got

815
00:38:16.480 --> 00:38:18.800
me the next day, and I was a great. I

816
00:38:18.840 --> 00:38:21.079
will always be a great. And I think I shared

817
00:38:21.119 --> 00:38:23.840
this with you all. I've got a cousin over in Jacksonville.

818
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:24.960
She's a nurse are in.

819
00:38:25.559 --> 00:38:29.239
We looked just alike. No blood between us, two brothers kids.

820
00:38:29.480 --> 00:38:31.639
So God was saying, if I never wanted to tell

821
00:38:31.679 --> 00:38:35.320
anybody the secret was safe. But I hold the lives

822
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:38.639
of the DNA of three families. I always will, I

823
00:38:38.679 --> 00:38:41.480
could die tomorrow, I will always. And I'm the only

824
00:38:41.519 --> 00:38:43.800
one named my biological name.

825
00:38:44.199 --> 00:38:46.840
No one has named their child my name on all

826
00:38:46.840 --> 00:38:51.880
the three families, so I'm a little special. So you

827
00:38:51.920 --> 00:38:54.000
can't tell me. Then, I'm just joking. God is good.

828
00:38:54.159 --> 00:38:54.880
That's only God.

829
00:38:55.039 --> 00:38:57.440
Only God could do that, like I said, and I

830
00:38:57.559 --> 00:38:59.519
we got the four. I got the great forehead, I

831
00:38:59.519 --> 00:39:00.440
got the great nose.

832
00:39:00.760 --> 00:39:04.559
Look like a grain. You wouldn't. You couldn't. She's thinner

833
00:39:04.599 --> 00:39:07.039
than I am, and she wears contacts now, but we

834
00:39:07.079 --> 00:39:10.360
woke wear glasses and stuff. And I introduced her. I

835
00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:11.280
took the twins over.

836
00:39:11.400 --> 00:39:13.719
I'm thinking I think Don went with us too to

837
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:17.079
meet them years ago. And and then and I was

838
00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:19.840
just leaning on the table like this, like my daughter

839
00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:22.079
is saying, Oh my God, y'all looked just alike.

840
00:39:24.599 --> 00:39:27.679
So God is that precious. He's that precious.

841
00:39:27.719 --> 00:39:32.400
And you know, I've.

842
00:39:31.079 --> 00:39:34.239
Been so blessed, so blessed, and I won't take nothing.

843
00:39:34.480 --> 00:39:37.440
You know, They're part of my story. They're part of

844
00:39:37.440 --> 00:39:38.199
who I am.

845
00:39:38.159 --> 00:39:41.480
And everything I did go through and everything, all that stuff.

846
00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:44.519
You look back. The song says, my soul looked back and.

847
00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:48.199
Wonder how I got over Your flesh looks back and

848
00:39:48.360 --> 00:39:52.400
all the heck you've been through, all the distrust and

849
00:39:52.440 --> 00:39:56.639
the rejection, and oh my god, and we can't. We're

850
00:39:56.719 --> 00:39:59.559
having lima bean soup three nights in a row and

851
00:40:00.039 --> 00:40:00.480
all this stuff.

852
00:40:00.519 --> 00:40:02.719
We get our hand me downs and oh we got

853
00:40:02.719 --> 00:40:03.360
to go to seas.

854
00:40:03.400 --> 00:40:05.480
We got to go to goodwill and shop and that's

855
00:40:05.519 --> 00:40:07.679
what we you know, we go to the food bank.

856
00:40:07.840 --> 00:40:11.199
Your soul will look back and wonder how you got

857
00:40:11.800 --> 00:40:16.360
your flesh your mind? Yes, thank you, missy. That's real.

858
00:40:16.639 --> 00:40:19.880
It's real. I talk about my pinion. I talk about that, yes,

859
00:40:20.039 --> 00:40:21.920
and I'm glad. I've met a lot of people who've

860
00:40:21.920 --> 00:40:24.639
been adopted, and it's a it's a fifty to fifty

861
00:40:24.679 --> 00:40:26.800
They once someone say, oh, I wanted to meet my parents,

862
00:40:26.840 --> 00:40:28.760
the others say, I don't ever want to meet it.

863
00:40:29.039 --> 00:40:32.159
And it's okay. I'm glad I met mine. I wasn't

864
00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:34.320
trying to get involved in it, get in the family.

865
00:40:34.440 --> 00:40:36.199
I was just trying to see what who's got this

866
00:40:36.280 --> 00:40:38.559
medical history that I was being played with.

867
00:40:39.079 --> 00:40:40.559
I had to go to the to the to.

868
00:40:40.559 --> 00:40:43.320
The source which side of the family just came from

869
00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:45.360
and finding out it came from both sides.

870
00:40:45.440 --> 00:40:47.840
But I didn't have to I've never had to have surgery.

871
00:40:48.079 --> 00:40:52.719
I never had to have medication because I prayed and said, God,

872
00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:56.920
please remove this big a cup from me and Jesus name,

873
00:40:56.960 --> 00:40:58.840
And if I ever have a daughter, don't let it,

874
00:40:58.920 --> 00:41:01.400
don't let it be be store upon her the power

875
00:41:01.519 --> 00:41:04.519
of prayer. If I could say anything else, that's the

876
00:41:04.639 --> 00:41:08.760
I can't if I can't prove anything else. Prayer changes

877
00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:12.000
of thing. Prayer changes a thing.

878
00:41:12.440 --> 00:41:16.760
You have to pray strategically as specifically, stop these willing

879
00:41:16.800 --> 00:41:17.360
nearly prayer.

880
00:41:17.480 --> 00:41:19.639
Oh God, And this is another. This is gonna trip

881
00:41:19.679 --> 00:41:20.480
you up. God.

882
00:41:20.559 --> 00:41:22.559
If it's your will, it is his will, because guess

883
00:41:22.599 --> 00:41:24.360
what he put it in you? Where you get that,

884
00:41:24.440 --> 00:41:25.480
where you get that from?

885
00:41:25.679 --> 00:41:27.280
He put it in you. He said, well, I knew

886
00:41:27.280 --> 00:41:29.280
you before your mother's womb knew you.

887
00:41:29.280 --> 00:41:32.079
You know, that's my favorite. And Jeremiah, when God said

888
00:41:32.119 --> 00:41:35.760
I knew you before Gerald Dinifelter ever met that?

889
00:41:35.760 --> 00:41:38.320
That you who can't love a God like that, who

890
00:41:38.360 --> 00:41:42.199
can't love Jesus like that? The Holy Spirit? He knew

891
00:41:42.400 --> 00:41:44.519
me before he placed me.

892
00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:47.920
And I'm I'm I'm gonna deny him.

893
00:41:48.400 --> 00:41:53.039
Please tell him, and I tell my kids, y'all weren't adopted.

894
00:41:53.280 --> 00:41:56.559
All of y'all came through I'm through me in the

895
00:41:56.639 --> 00:42:00.239
right all the time. All right, all right? But but

896
00:42:00.320 --> 00:42:03.039
who do they trust? God? Don't come to me. I

897
00:42:03.119 --> 00:42:05.119
gave you to God the moment I can hold you

898
00:42:05.400 --> 00:42:09.360
in the room. They yours. Thank you. Let me steward them,

899
00:42:10.239 --> 00:42:12.559
Let me be who they need to be. I need

900
00:42:12.559 --> 00:42:16.559
to be for them. But they're yours. They're yours because

901
00:42:16.599 --> 00:42:18.920
I know prayer, changes of things.

902
00:42:19.000 --> 00:42:21.400
That's all I know. That's all I know. And I

903
00:42:21.440 --> 00:42:24.280
was having this conversation with myself yesterday. I said, I

904
00:42:24.320 --> 00:42:26.119
don't know why, but I had this. You know what,

905
00:42:26.440 --> 00:42:28.519
Let's say, what if and I've said this before on

906
00:42:28.559 --> 00:42:31.960
the show, what if they prove that God.

907
00:42:31.679 --> 00:42:32.760
Really doesn't exist?

908
00:42:32.840 --> 00:42:36.480
Jesus hold the Spirit just all been one non fiction,

909
00:42:36.639 --> 00:42:40.639
fictitious fiction story, and all these people mentioned in these

910
00:42:40.679 --> 00:42:45.840
sixty six chapters in this one book really didn't exist. Well,

911
00:42:45.960 --> 00:42:49.719
I've got some miracles, I've got some testimony that you

912
00:42:49.760 --> 00:42:53.000
can't nobody could create that, nobody can make that happen,

913
00:42:53.199 --> 00:42:55.440
and don't just fall out the sky to.

914
00:42:55.480 --> 00:42:58.920
Prove you wrong. And I'll stand on my faith.

915
00:42:59.320 --> 00:43:02.880
You can't tell me nothing about God Jesus in the

916
00:43:02.880 --> 00:43:05.000
Holy Spirit because for everything your.

917
00:43:04.880 --> 00:43:05.920
Little down you know.

918
00:43:05.960 --> 00:43:07.920
And I'm not talking to my viewers that we love

919
00:43:07.960 --> 00:43:09.039
you all, I'm not talking.

920
00:43:09.079 --> 00:43:11.840
I'm talking to those who are peeping, who are trolling.

921
00:43:12.239 --> 00:43:14.800
You can't say nothing about my God, and guess what,

922
00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:17.519
you can't do nothing to me, my co host, my

923
00:43:17.599 --> 00:43:20.480
IT person, my viewers are nothing because I rebuke you

924
00:43:21.079 --> 00:43:24.719
in the name of Jesus. Keep playing, keep playing. You

925
00:43:24.880 --> 00:43:28.679
got the right one. You got the right one.

926
00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:31.719
I protect mine. And I'm not talking about my kids.

927
00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:33.840
I'm talking about my co hosts. I'm talking about my

928
00:43:33.880 --> 00:43:36.360
IT my producer that you don't see. Most of y'all

929
00:43:36.400 --> 00:43:39.599
know who she is, but she's oh no, come. I

930
00:43:39.679 --> 00:43:43.280
promise you that that young lady ever called me and

931
00:43:43.400 --> 00:43:47.159
tell me somebody doing stupid. I'm on the next thing smoking.

932
00:43:47.480 --> 00:43:49.760
I promise you. I can ride a plane now.

933
00:43:50.440 --> 00:43:52.880
Nothing is enough, fab and you could be blood if

934
00:43:52.920 --> 00:43:58.840
you want to. You can be fab. I will check you. You

935
00:43:57.239 --> 00:44:01.559
lean these people along because these people trying there trying. Amen.

936
00:44:01.639 --> 00:44:05.559
Thank you, Jay Dennis. Yeah, and if you don't want

937
00:44:05.599 --> 00:44:08.880
none of this, it's fine too, because my Jesus had

938
00:44:08.880 --> 00:44:12.280
to train Judas knowing what he had to do. So

939
00:44:12.440 --> 00:44:14.679
all you all are doing is completing my story.

940
00:44:14.960 --> 00:44:18.039
Let's go, let's go, but we're here to stay. We're

941
00:44:18.039 --> 00:44:20.599
gonna do what we got to do. We're reaching the God,

942
00:44:20.719 --> 00:44:23.679
letting God do. God is reaching and had nothing to

943
00:44:23.719 --> 00:44:27.079
do with us. We're just wiling vessels. We're just willing vessels,

944
00:44:27.519 --> 00:44:29.880
and we're gonna still do it. We'll still do it.

945
00:44:29.880 --> 00:44:37.239
I don't know where that came from, but talking to you.

946
00:44:35.719 --> 00:44:43.559
Hey, that's prayer warrior. There go get.

947
00:44:44.280 --> 00:44:47.679
Yes, please, don't don't get don't think you know three

948
00:44:47.719 --> 00:44:50.760
minutes we got two minutes out. Don't please don't please

949
00:44:50.800 --> 00:44:54.320
don't leave them alone, leave them alone, leave them alone.

950
00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:58.519
Uh, don't go there. You have to ever worry those

951
00:44:58.519 --> 00:45:02.039
who are listening. You've been faithful to us. You being faithful,

952
00:45:02.079 --> 00:45:04.559
and you pray or we got God's got you covered,

953
00:45:04.639 --> 00:45:07.360
a hedge of protection. Your ages are all on fleet.

954
00:45:07.800 --> 00:45:10.119
Just go after God though. That's all because yeah, we're

955
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heading to a recession. Guys. I didn't want to get

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into that, but you know feeling it coming so true.

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Amen, hesion we're heading to the unknown, unlike ever before.

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You got to hold on to him, hold on to it,

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hold on to Jesus, cry out.

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Have your gospel music, your Christian music ready, just blaring.

961
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Let it blare.

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That car cuts in front of you. God, please be

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with them. Don't let them inconvenience me today. Don't let

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me have road rage inside of my car because nobody

965
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can hear me, because I don't know what they're going

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through now. We don't know what the world is going through.

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Now. I know the world is opened back up and

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everything else.

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It is not going to be business as usual because

970
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the powers that be behind the scenes are already cutting

971
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stuff out, already eliminating stuff, making new laws, making new rules.

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Ain't checking with the voters at all. Way, It's almost

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our time, Thanksgiving this next week. We'll see you next Monday. Now,

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we promise make sure y'all come back, same time, same station.

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