Armed Forces Day Awareness

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W FORCY Radio. Well, hello, hello, Hello, good even niggad

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even niggad evening, and welcome to
another segment, awesome segment of setting it

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Straight with Miss Gray and fabulous co
hosts all around the world. Yeah,

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I mean that kind of mood today, So I may be doing less talking

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because I don't know what may come
out. So forgive me in advance,

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lend me say hello to my my
favorite team, my favorite favorite famous team,

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because I can't do an outcha and
I'm not gonna even try. Miss

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Tray Tray from Halloway from virgin Yay. What's happening in the area? All

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is well up there? Hey?
Hey, hey, yes, how was

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the weather this weekend. It was
all right, and some raining weather up

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this way, but it was okay, okay, okay, all right,

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And of course I've got my right
hand, left hand, all the right

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around the world. Just down the
street, two street sides down and a

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traffic light away. Miss Tommy,
how are you? I am wonderful,

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how are you? I'm just elated
in the Lord and so thankful. Let's

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let's open with prayer. Father God, me just thank you. We praise

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you, We give your glory for
you alone my worthy to be praised.

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And we just thank you, Father
God. This is your time to speak

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to your people. We getting behind
the cross. We submit ourselves, We

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humble ourselves before you, and I
allow us. And we thank you Father

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for allowing this program to captors free
and they heal the wounded. We just

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thank you, Lord for ever giving
you all the praise, glory and honor

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in Jesus name. We pray Amen, Amen, Amen. Before I go

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any well, as we go on
here, I have to repent before my

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believers. And even though the folks
that I'm gonna have to later repent to

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another group setting is not on the
show there, I'm gonna look at the

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show I'm gonna put it out there
first because the devil, you know it,

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will use anything to accuse the Brethren. He will use anything he can

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to accuse the Brethren. Okay,
the other last bunday, I wasn't on

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we Oh. I want to thank
you lord. I want to apologize to

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our audience and our listeners and our
viewers because I was under the impression that

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we would have a show repeated and
that it would come up and it would

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air. While I was later told
after I got several calls that emails saying

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hey, we didn't see you um
uh, mainly from folks at Tennessee.

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UM. I followed up with you
know, our head person and and and

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and all that, and they were
kind enough to let me know that it

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replays or seen on the night of
or heard through their radio composers like through

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Spotify. Uh Talk for TV has
radio. Um you know through those through

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those mechanisms mechanisms, but they're not
aired re aired where you can see us

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visually. So I apologize for that
I did not know, but thank you

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all for rating to hear from us, and we really appreciate it. Um.

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And now I'm a segue to the
second apology. UM. On that

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night, I have to attend a
town hall, as most of you know,

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I'm getting my doctorate degree and we
have a town hall meeting twice a

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year UM with our advice. And
so nobody was really talking and stuff,

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and he was giving some updates and
stuff. And my former cohort just graduated

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that Saturday, and so they're trying
to, you know, smooth out some

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of the wrinkles in the cricket places
and so UM, I began to say

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to them, you know, nobody
was saying anything. They didn't want to

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talking, and God just kept pushing
that unctioning was. I was like,

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God, these people don't believe in
you. They don't serve you God.

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And God said it don't matter,
give them the warning. And I say,

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okay, guys, UM, I
mean let me and for some reason,

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chaplain Gray title comes up on that
zoom. That's really funny. So

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I said, guys, you know, I'm talking to those of you.

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All of you all as social workers, we twenty twenty did us a really

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took us around the world when we
thought we were dealing with issues prior to

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twenty twenty. When twenty twenty landed, and even as they're trying to,

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you know, open up. We
took a major head of therapist, those

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of us in counsel and case management, social science and social studies whatever,

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we took them nasty hit because everything
was shut down. And then we had

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to deal with the rest of the
world. Folks who are not diagnosed issues,

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folks who have never had lost before, um all kinds of things,

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and people being unemployed and never been
unemployed in their lives and stuff. So

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now we're ricocheting from that because now
we've got shortages and rationalames and not enough

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and at jobs everywhere but nobody's working. And we got we got a governor

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that just said that you don't have
to be licensed to carry anymore. And

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you know and and and we know
about his militia. And I said,

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I'm not picking on the Republicans or
Democrats. I'm just talking about people who

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are in authority. We are.
Florida is in trouble. Florida's in trouble,

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and I need to and anybody who
also has a Republican governor, you're

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gonna be following in our footsteps,
believe it or not. And I would

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like to just encourage you all because
you you know, you gotta be faced

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with you probably already faced with it. I said, some of my classmates

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are operating on fuel on the steam
right now, just just air, and

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you know, and they're about too
ready to just say forget this and let's

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not even work with people anymore.
I already got therapists in Orlando. They

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have already retired, they've gone out
of business, they've closed up shot because

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the insurances don't want to pay us
what we're even asking for and things like

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that, and people don't have the
money to seek counseling and to get help.

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I know, we talk about getting
mental health services and getting you know,

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food banks of running out of food
and I mean, I'm getting an

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email from the local food about bank
here here in Orlando every week. Can

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you come volunteer or can you make
a donation every week? Now? And

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you know, I guess it's nothing. But my apology comes from when I

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said, you all need to pray. And while you know, at this

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point, as long as you're not
praying to something evil, whatever your higher

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power is, you need to pray. Well, that's where I went wrong.

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Because in the Bible, God mentions
in the Old Testament a reference to

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higher powers, but he's talking about
the little gods. He's not talking about

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himself. And because I was so
worked up, there's no excuse I should

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have never said that word. I've
never said that word. The only time

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I repeated that phrase was when I
hold I heard Oprah Winfrey when she used

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to have her talk show talk about
a higher power. And that's when I

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looked at our reference in the Bible
to say, well, it's a higher

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power in there. Yeah, God
mixes it, but he's talking about the

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other gods who are powerless, who
I have no no anything for you.

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And he said, yes, you
know there are gods in higher powers,

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but God's little g and an s
So I apologize in front of my sisters.

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Here, I repent because you repent
in front of the brethren. And

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once I get back on, we
got a meeting I think coming up,

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whatever, whatever, I don't care
if it's even in August. Whenever it's

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gonna come back up and that group
is back together, I will publicly apologize

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and set that record straight. You've
got to pray to God, Jesus and

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the Holy Spirit. That's the only
folks. We got receipts on them.

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We don't have receipts almost other things
out there, and it just makes you

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feel good. Or trust me,
my God makes me feel wanted. My

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God makes me feel loved. My
God provides peace. My God makes sure

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he runs all kinds of interference to
make sure my life is as best as

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it can be. And my God
that's strong enough to tap me just like

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for this, that little saying,
because he's after I got off the the

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moment it came out of my mouth, I was like, oh yeah uh.

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And God said, okay, you
you'll handle it like you'll take care

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of that. Later I said,
yes, sir, I'm so sorry.

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He says, okay, because I
got hyped up. You gotta be careful

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about being hyped up. We're gonna
talk about our topic in a minute,

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but you gotta be careful when you
get hyped up, when you get overworked

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and and and you know, anxiety, whatever it is, you know,

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you gotta be careful of your words. You gotta be careful what you're putting

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out there in the atmosphere because they
do come alive and they will wreak havoc

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or they'll heal, they'll they'll help
you. So you you gotta be very

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careful about what you say. You
gotta be careful. And I know some

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of them probably said, uh huh, well, so they should believe in

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other things. No I don't.
No, I don't, And for that,

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I am so sorry. And God
did tell I mean, because you

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read what your soul, even the
best of us, so when we are

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wrong, and I accept that so
and I pray that God will. I

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feel God has forgiven because a minute, the minute it was coming out,

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I couldn't dollar back because he was
trying to you know, the advisor was

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trying to get us off at by
eight o'clock and you know that was all

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she wrote. So I apologize for
that. Lord, I apologize to that

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because I don't want nobody to walk
away confused, nobody to walk away from

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the confuss. So thank you,
thank you for that, because that showed

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that you're genuine and you're human,
and if somebody want to take it and

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run with it, then do so, but be careful what you run with.

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So you're big enough to acknowledge your
your flaw and all of us have

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flaws. Yeah, yeah, there's
so your apology is definitely accepted. But

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I'm just saying to those that if
they want to take it and run with

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it, they need to be careful. All I'm gonna say, man,

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thank you so much, um,
thank you. Um. As you know,

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we're talking about armed forces week or
a month or it's the armed forces.

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And we already know traders in the
nice little exceptional city and state where

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the Marines and the submarines and all
the people in uniform are, and we

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got to do a road trips sooner
than later to just come up and just

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tour the base. You never know. He got the Air Force, all

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of yea, all of them,
Oh yeah, cover the air for US

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and Navy and some Marines, Army. I think, yeah, but you

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can't get on the basis like talking
about it. So we can't get on

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there. You can't make No,
you can't. Yeah, you can't eat.

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Yeah, I can get some press
passes. We may have to talk

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to our engineering about getting some press
passes for us, you know, all

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right, for he roams all over
the country. He gets it backstage and

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stuff like that, so I may
have to have us have him have a

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little chat with him and say,
look here, but some of the features,

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you know, being on the show, we need some press pass.

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You might have a way in because
my oldest daughter is a vent There we

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go, there, we go with
she got a uniform. Were just dress

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up and say we just need to
walk up. Let's walk by. That's

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all we didn't. Got to go
ahead and let's walk by, and I

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know how to get the baby.
You won't see anything. You won't see

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anything but the gay and the God
and behind it maybe, So it depends

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on where you go. Well,
it's gonna take much prayer, but we're

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gonna play it out. We're gonna
play it out. It won't be vain.

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But they are around. They come
off the base. They come off

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the base. So they come off
the base. There you go. See

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we're just sitting there way because yeah, they live off basis a lot of

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families and militator don't live on base. It's not a whole lot of base

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housing. So yeah, we want
to definitely think those who are on active

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will reserve duty. It takes a
lot, and we can't even imagine,

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we can't even imagine what all they
go through. We cannot imagine. But

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for them to have a heart and
the desire to serve in the military,

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that is that just and just to
see young ones doing that, just to

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see that, it's just a miracle. To me, it's it's just a

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it's a miracle, you know.
Um, So to those this is your

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day, this is your week,
this is your month, But three hundred

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and sixty five days out of the
year, is your day? Is your

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moment, is your week? Is
your hour? Um? Have you guys

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seen the movie The Covenant yet?
You know, I started watching it the

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other day. I didn't get a
chance to see the end, but I

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know it's based on the true story. So I think they even interviewed the

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main character, the guy who the
the person who was portrayed in the main

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character and the guy. I think
I've seen that on a interview on a

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news station or whatever. But I
also want to just kind of mention before

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we go a little bit further,
but you know, military is hard in

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itself, you know, just serving
you know the things that they have to

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go through, and you know,
no one will ever really know unless you

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have served in the military, because
you know, you can't you can't convey

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a whole lot of stuff, stuff
that's classified and just everyday stuff. Just

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can't do it. But I also
want to kind of shout out to the

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families, you know, the spouses
and the children who also sacrifice the time

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of the loved ones that's serving,
because it takes a toll on them too,

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you know, the moving and not
knowing if your loved one is going

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to come back or not, the
uncertainties because you don't know where they are

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because they can't tell you where they
are, you know, so they go

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through themselves a whole lot of stuff
that we probably wouldn't recognize, especially right

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through here, you know, especially
right through here, And so I don't

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want to go further without acknowledging them
and the sacrifices that they also go through,

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not putting down with the military person
that go so not at all,

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but also too, I think sometimes
we forget that the families are in a

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predicament and just trying to hold things
together while their loved one is doing to

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our duty or you know, shipped
off somewhere. So I want to just

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say that, and they they too
go to things, you know, stress,

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emotional stress, mental stress, anxieties, depression, you know, so

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I just want to kind of put
that out as well and salute them.

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Amen, And you know, I'm
glad you brought up that other piece and

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then yes, it's it's gonna seem
like we keep coming back to mental health

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and mental wellness. And not only
is that service person going through and as

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they're trying to prepare to come home, but they come home different from where

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they can they left. I don't
get they do a four year stint,

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they are completely different. And God
help those who see war, who see

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any action, because then our counsels, you know, some folks and families

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who and now it's just in the
last maybe fifty years that the Arms Services

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realize, you know what, we've
got to acclimate this soldier. We can't

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just say okay, you're out tomorrow
and we're sending you on the first plane.

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No, you we gotta send you. You gotta go through some steps.

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We gotta make sure mentally you're okay
and see where you're at with that.

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you know, contact the family.
Have the family be able to maybe go

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to a support group in their hometown
prior to this discharge, because this person

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is not the same person that's coming
back that left. They're not and they've

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got to become acclimated. I mean, here you are. They're coming from

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an environment, whether it's been from
six months to four years, or somebody

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yelling at them, telling them what
to do, getting them up at four

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o'clock in the morning, three o'clock
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know, these these these action things, you know, these tasks for tactical

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stuff and all that. That mind
is already hyped up. I think I

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shared with you all, um.
I did have UH retired vet who he

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wasn't retired, he was medically discharged. And here he is with his two

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year old son, three year old
son for you, three year old,

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and they're target kmartin and it was
a car that backfired, the tyke or

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the car backfired, but he heard
that pop pop, and he grabbed his

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son and went to the flour.
And this was a young guy. This

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was not a young man. It
was in his forties. Go ahead,

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tray and just just want to piggyback
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You know, the billboards is stating
that fireworks aren't fun to everybody,

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you know, with especially with this
being a military town. You know,

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they're hearing firecrackers and and and and
fireworks and it's triggering stuff because I think

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some of it I don't know about
all sounds like war, you know,

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wartime, and so they ask you
to be mindful. And and I and

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if I'm not mistaken, in Virginia, fireworks are illegal unless it's a structured

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so if it's an event and they
have the the you know, the power,

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you know, power techno stuff to
do it, but really civilians are

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not supposed to have that type of
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and start. I think if it's
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yeah, they definitely make it aware
that it's not fun to everybody, so

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please be mindful. And you can
imagine with this Virginia being in a military

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town, you know what they've experienced
period, and so it's a whole different

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ball game. So one person's fun
as an other person's trauma. So thank

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you for saying that. Yes,
I forgot all about that. I can

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only imagine that. I can only
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read um somewhere, maybe it was
on Facebook. The person and the military

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people family kind of soundproof their house
because that neighborhood was known for the fireworks

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and stuff. So they were able
to I don't know how they did it,

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but they were able to sound proof
a certain room or a certain area

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of the house, and that military
person would go in there and kind of

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stay until things kind of relieved itself. But I can't even imagine. And

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my former guy was a former client, was trespassed from Kmart because he called

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such a scene and he didn't mean
any harm, but you know, it

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did, so he was trespassed.
They called the police and everything. He

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was trespassed from Kmart. And he's
an average shopper, you know what I

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mean. He was just he just
hid his boy, you know. But

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and then that unveiled some other things. You know that he's gonna be on

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alert like that because there's no medication
for that. There's no counseling really for

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that to take out that, no
poins and what that meant, you know,

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what they've experienced and stuff. So
you know, um, just like

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when any um covenant type of environment
where you remove human beings from a setting

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and you place them in another setting
that's very isolating, very restricted, confined,

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trying almost exact, you got to
keep checking on them. You gotta

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keep checking on them because a mind
your mind is very active. I remember

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being in the hospital and I don't
know how much of medication I was under

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from you know, I would be
hallu I was hallucinating very badly, very

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body. And it was real.
It was real, And all I could

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do was there are times I'd be
just quoting script jot a lout and the

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nurse. It would startled the nurse
and you know and stuff. So I

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could only am imagine other people going
through things as well. And then when

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they're discharged. I don't know of
any military person that has ever been discharging.

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did not come out with medication.

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be surprised because a lot of that it

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is very traumatic, and like you
said, there's no reversing that type of

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psychological trauma to a person. And
when you think about it, and you

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know, kids won't firecrackers or whatever, but at but when you teach them,

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and that's the thing. Nobody's talking
about this, and they're going through

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these emotional roller coasters because of like
you said, tray, the firecrack,

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the pop pop power, and you
know, they only go the flesh is

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only gonna do what it knows to
do, and that's the fall and protect.

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So it is so hard to somehow
reverse it. It's like in planet

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in their mind and and no medication
gonna baby to help you. It's not

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yeah, that prayer. And I'm
not even sure about the reversing um the

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thing is because once it's happening,
I think, just you have to find

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ways that you can escape it.
When you're in the midst of it,

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I think, okay, And and
I'm not mistaken. A couple of times

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I've seen like with um uh,
like on an autistic commercials, commercials,

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you know, talking about everybody doesn't
enjoy certain things, and they put like

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ear mufs on a child because you
know, even singing happy birth stay and

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loud noises. So maybe something to
try is and I've done this with clients

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as well that resided in the system
a living facility, and an effect of

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them, you know, the mentality, the emotional stade, and you know,

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everybody in a place has their own
stuff going on, and you can

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be triggered by somebody else having an
episode. So I would encourage getting like

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earphones, you know, earbud,
something that noise noise blocking earphones and having

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a device that you can listen to
things that will lack you and drown it

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out, whether it be relax say
some music, it could be ocean,

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it could be white noise. You
know, to take them, kind of

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remove them mentally while they're still in
the midst of it, because you could

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still be in your own little world
with your headphones on and listening things to

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calm you down, and so the
noise is not affecting. You can't cut

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out some of the visual stuff.
But you know, but if you have

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something that's not right in your ear, to kind of distract you from what's

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going on, I've used that a
few times. You know, a simple,

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a simple fix and maybe something to
try. And even the sad thing

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about it, you know, you
have a lot of people that need emotional

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support dogs or animals or something like
that, and that they're costly. You

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know that they're they're very costly.
And so a few times I've been to

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the VA and they've had you know, emotional support dogs and you know what,

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the gear do not touch, do
not do not talk, you know,

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to kind of get to them,
and it's a it's a help,

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it's a help, but the unfortunate
the process and their cost are you know,

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a lot from what I understand,
And this is very unfortunate that we

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put our our people in in that
type of particulament and have not enough resources

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when they come from it, because
I don't think people really understand it,

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you know. I think we when
we look at some of the war movies,

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we kind of get a gist of
some of the stuff. And I'm

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pretty sure a lot of it's true. You know, having to to to

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make decisions and harm mothers is either
yourself for them, you know, And

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so these are the things how do
you deal with? And I think we

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take it for granted, and h
you know, the mental and emotional trauma

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that causes you to have to make
decisions like that, and you and you

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can't take it back. You can't
take it back, and you're doing it

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all for the good of the country, and so um, you know,

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I think the most support that we
need is for our people in the military.

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They sacrifice a lot, amen to
that, and we and and it's

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ongoing. That's a different type of
trauma. And it's ongoing until um,

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until until I don't know, And
I was just sitting here thinking, I've

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got a former colleague that I met
in sales and retail who was in the

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Navy, and then he's he left
our store closed up and he became a

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deputy, and I should have I
never thought to have him on, but

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I may have him on in the
future because George is really I mean,

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he's come through and made had some
very successful careers, and I he was

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always just a stay steady guy.
He parked on one corner as a deputy,

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and he always made with beyond having
you know, thirty tickets and you

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know, uh in fractions or whatever. You know. As a deputy,

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he was Deputy of the Month a
couple of times, Deputy of the year,

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went on to be a detective,
and then he's successfully retired before in

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like fifty something, you know,
So I think we may need to have

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him on the show to talk about
that. How do you maintain that strong

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willedness and you don't you know,
fracture anything and you come out wholesome,

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you come out, you know,
and you go right into being a deputy.

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That that doesn't help much because that's
just as dangerous. And that's that's

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automatic, you know, um engagement
automatic you know, uh fire, and

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you know, you never know,
and he was the Lord. I know

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that the Lord, the God's hand
was on him. I could tell.

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But I'm just sitting here thinking about
there's only one person I know that.

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You couldn't tell that he was in
the navy. You couldn't tell that he

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was a detective. You can't tell
a deputy. And you know, he's

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just a cool guy and and stuff. Now I don't know what's behind closed

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doors and what his wife had to
deal with those those years, but I

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know when he stepped out, he
didn't say anything you know, off the

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cump or anything else that would be
like okay, you know, compared to

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some other people who act a little
different there their reactions, that behaviors,

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their non verbal cues would bring attention
to them. You know, you didn't

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you didn't even see the person.
Then I say they do something and you

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look over, like what's going on? Like the gentleman I saw that at

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the restaurant yesterday. We could tell
he was military. He set up like

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he was military, you know,
and he was. It was hard to

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make him laugh, but he would
laugh with us, you know, and

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stuff, and he had a nice
little you know, conversation going on there

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and and stuff. But yeah,
you know, it's just just thank you.

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Sometimes you could tell if you've been
like in Virginia, you've been here

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long enough, you could tell by
the style of the haircut or branch of

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the service there because they it depends. It all has like a certain look

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for different branches. Yeah, it's
funny. Yeah, you write about that

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and sometimes they will walk m definitely. Yeah, it is a different My

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martial arts instructor, we all we
were getting ready to go come up here

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for the US Open, the tournament
that happens every year here in Orlando.

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We were in the hotel and I
was watching him with him he and his

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girlfriend's room, and he was sitting
there. He was just talking away,

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but he was rolling his clothes.
He was rolling his clothes up. And

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I looked and I said, and
then it dumbed on me. He don't

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ever look wrinkled. But he was
in the Marines, but I think seven

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years and that's where he learned martial
arts and got a lot of his belts

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from. I think he even earned
his seventh degree black belt while in the

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Marines. But he rolls his he
rolls his shirts. He rolls his pants

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and I'm like, he kept that
in his head. Go ahead, no,

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no, you said no, but
they because they can't carry but so

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much, and so they had to
carry everything in the in a certain bag.

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So they always have to be prepared. He said, they can't carry

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but so much. Well, you
were right, because he had a little

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grip and he got everything in there. He always wore black anyway, so

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that wasn't too far fashion, you
know, from anything. But you always

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got on every black teacher black pants. It's like, I wonder if you

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watch that stuff, you know,
you just be asking questions to yourself,

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like that's the same shirt he had
on two days, you know. But

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I came when I came to the
room, he's got a whole lot of

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black shirts on his grip and they
all rolled up, so you know they

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have their they're um looking back,
you know, and and watching what folks

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did do. It's like okay,
um, but we have to definitely say

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prayers to them. I know a
couple of people that are in the armed

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forces right now, Um, and
you know, my it's a special prayer,

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you know, because they're in a
sticky situation. They got to they

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have they're commanded to do things,
and they have to do what they're told

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to do. But if it's if
it's gonna you know, the commanders is

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not you know, see things too
clearly. You put your your your team

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and your union in danger, in
intimate danger. And so most of the

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00:32:57.240 --> 00:33:00.440
time I'll pray and say, Lord, please let them hear the boy hear

411
00:33:00.519 --> 00:33:05.079
your voice directing them to keep them
safe from all hurt, harm, in

412
00:33:05.200 --> 00:33:07.799
danger, you know, and everything. So, you know, hats off

413
00:33:07.839 --> 00:33:13.799
to them, And we really do
appreciate anybody in service, anybody in uniform,

414
00:33:14.319 --> 00:33:17.119
whether you're a doctor, whether you
are officer, police, officer,

415
00:33:17.279 --> 00:33:22.680
deputy. You know, I know
something. And again looking at George,

416
00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:24.920
George put on that uniform, he
was the same guy. Real cool,

417
00:33:25.279 --> 00:33:30.680
he was in tact to units and
stuff. Real cool guy. As a

418
00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:34.440
matter of fact, I did the
after school suspension program at elementary school,

419
00:33:35.039 --> 00:33:37.319
middle middle school, and I said, George, can you and M one

420
00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:40.920
of your colleagues just ride by and
talk to these hard heads in here.

421
00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:44.680
I got some hammer heads in here
today. He said, yeah. So

422
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:45.720
all of a sudden, I'm waiting
for them to come and I said,

423
00:33:45.799 --> 00:33:50.160
hm, So I got to look
out the door. Here he comes here

424
00:33:50.160 --> 00:33:54.440
and the other big fellow they packed
and they head of the combat boots and

425
00:33:54.480 --> 00:33:59.400
I said, the sheriff ware combat
boots. And he's like, I was

426
00:33:59.440 --> 00:34:06.880
like so. And his partner's name
was baby Face. Baby Face had to

427
00:34:06.920 --> 00:34:12.239
be boy seven feet tall, but
he had what a baby face? So

428
00:34:12.400 --> 00:34:15.280
he's called baby Face. So the
kids were like, oh, oh,

429
00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:19.440
oh, we got five old.
Now we got five old. And George's

430
00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:21.800
like, well, that's how stupid
you are. We don't we're deputy,

431
00:34:22.079 --> 00:34:23.920
we're green. We ain't know.
Five old, that's police, that's PD.

432
00:34:24.360 --> 00:34:28.639
So he reaches over the kid and
get the desk and pulls it,

433
00:34:28.880 --> 00:34:31.320
you know, up in the air
and turns it around and looks at the

434
00:34:31.400 --> 00:34:35.679
kid like you got something to say
to me? And I'm like, okay,

435
00:34:35.719 --> 00:34:38.559
I'm gonna step out the door,
and y'all have at it. And

436
00:34:38.679 --> 00:34:43.079
they stayed there for good forty five
minutes. And when I came back,

437
00:34:43.199 --> 00:34:45.519
I mean while I was in the
room, you know, um, the

438
00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:51.880
students faces were like traumatized. They
were like because George's like, yeah,

439
00:34:51.920 --> 00:34:53.920
you know, and then they just
just talked to him, dudes, why

440
00:34:54.079 --> 00:34:58.239
y'all here? You know, you
need to get your education. Come on,

441
00:34:58.679 --> 00:35:00.079
what's your what's your waists of time? You could be playing ball right

442
00:35:00.159 --> 00:35:02.960
now, you know, you could
be playing hoops. You know you could.

443
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:06.239
And wrote once you get a high
school and rule in r OTC.

444
00:35:06.840 --> 00:35:08.639
You know, you gotta you know. And they did a very good job,

445
00:35:08.920 --> 00:35:13.280
very good job of being there just
to talk to him, because I

446
00:35:13.360 --> 00:35:16.199
think George is about six two and
like I said, baby face looked like

447
00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:20.960
he boys seven feet and uh,
you know, he didn't smile at all.

448
00:35:21.760 --> 00:35:23.800
That was that, he didn't smile
at all. He was like I

449
00:35:23.920 --> 00:35:28.519
was like, I'm scared. I
was scared. Like, okay, were

450
00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:31.960
all right, everybody, all right, y'all, y'all hungry, get y'all

451
00:35:32.000 --> 00:35:36.679
some cards, the red loss or
something, you know. So um and

452
00:35:36.880 --> 00:35:39.039
uh yeah, so that you know, just listening to that and and and

453
00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:42.719
being a part of that. But
again, George is the only fell I

454
00:35:42.880 --> 00:35:46.400
know that when he was in uniform, he didn't change, He didn't change.

455
00:35:46.440 --> 00:35:50.519
His focus was not you know,
he didn't go either way. You

456
00:35:50.599 --> 00:35:52.639
know, he was just on it. He was on his job. He

457
00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:58.880
did his work and and that was
it. You know. So I think,

458
00:35:59.239 --> 00:36:04.360
you know, but I think but
I think if unless you know a

459
00:36:04.559 --> 00:36:09.760
person or no, because I think
people assume when you are in a certain

460
00:36:09.920 --> 00:36:14.719
role that you are a certain way. You know, so they look at

461
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:19.920
me as you know, all law
enforcement and are not good guys. You

462
00:36:20.000 --> 00:36:22.360
know they do this. But you
know, you got something that that's just

463
00:36:22.519 --> 00:36:27.480
laid back. You know, there's
not anything to try to prove, because

464
00:36:27.639 --> 00:36:31.960
you get more what is it,
you get more flies with sugar, then

465
00:36:32.159 --> 00:36:37.960
then yeah, so's it would behoove
them. I don't think a lot of

466
00:36:38.039 --> 00:36:42.880
them who are in the field,
you got something that just it's just a

467
00:36:43.039 --> 00:36:45.280
role, it's a status, it's
a you know, status symbol, it's

468
00:36:45.320 --> 00:36:49.880
a position. But then you got
something that really just want to make a

469
00:36:49.960 --> 00:36:52.800
difference in the community. And I've
known a lot of law enforcement, you

470
00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:57.400
know, working in the capacities that
I've done. You know, they're just

471
00:36:57.519 --> 00:37:01.039
like anybody else. You know,
just take to image and in the gun

472
00:37:01.119 --> 00:37:06.599
and you know it's a it's a
person. And I think sometimes we we

473
00:37:06.840 --> 00:37:12.199
we we we look into more than
that. But then sometimes something there's something

474
00:37:12.239 --> 00:37:15.480
that just give off that orm I
am of authority, and that's what you're

475
00:37:15.519 --> 00:37:19.920
gonna get, you know, I
am authority. But if you just if

476
00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:22.199
you're trying to get to the community, the best way is just trying to

477
00:37:22.400 --> 00:37:27.639
get to know the community and not
assuming just because a certain person looks a

478
00:37:27.719 --> 00:37:31.519
certain way or has a certain thing
on that this is how they are and

479
00:37:31.719 --> 00:37:36.920
so. And I think that's that's
where some one of the mix up gilt

480
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:40.360
it happens. And I know we've
tried to do events when I was living

481
00:37:40.400 --> 00:37:45.199
down there in Florida, Alicia,
trying to have events and partner with law

482
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:49.960
enforcement without them coming in the gear, you know, for techn account they

483
00:37:50.039 --> 00:37:54.679
had to, but to kind of
take down the the what's the word,

484
00:37:55.039 --> 00:38:00.079
the intimidation part, you know,
but we you know, we partner with

485
00:38:00.199 --> 00:38:04.199
them, and they brought the We
did something right in the middle of if

486
00:38:04.239 --> 00:38:07.480
anybody knows in Belglade, fifth Street, which wasn't the best, you know,

487
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:12.920
was known for a lot of things, but we had a successful that

488
00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:15.400
in law enforcement. They brought the
horses out there, and you know,

489
00:38:15.519 --> 00:38:21.119
I think I forgot co op co
op extension. They bought apples or whatever,

490
00:38:21.239 --> 00:38:23.599
and the kids were able to feed
the horses apples and they taught the

491
00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:27.440
proper way to do it. They
were able to pet the horses. They

492
00:38:27.480 --> 00:38:30.840
were able to see the dogs you
know that they brought out that were you

493
00:38:30.920 --> 00:38:34.480
know, search for lost people and
the elderly folks. So it took the

494
00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:37.719
intimidation out of it. And I
think people need to look at that.

495
00:38:37.800 --> 00:38:45.960
It's small things that you can do
to kind of build relationships with other folks,

496
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:49.519
get to know them. That's why
they had the community police and years

497
00:38:49.519 --> 00:38:52.280
ago used to have the cops walk
to beat, you know, so they

498
00:38:52.320 --> 00:38:57.719
can get to know the neighborhoods.
You know. So it's different, you

499
00:38:57.840 --> 00:39:00.960
know. I just people just need
to be created to figure out how to

500
00:39:00.039 --> 00:39:05.960
do it. No, a lot
of times they're too busy being stereotypical,

501
00:39:07.199 --> 00:39:14.400
and that's that's the downfall because everybody, oh he polege, oh he gotta

502
00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:20.880
good he you know, everybody won't
spread eagle, you know. So it's

503
00:39:21.079 --> 00:39:29.119
it's stereotyping them when each one them
individually have something to bring to the table

504
00:39:29.880 --> 00:39:34.039
and allow them to be who they
are. Now. If it's bad,

505
00:39:34.239 --> 00:39:38.199
then yeah we want them removed.
But if you genuine man like you were

506
00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:43.960
saying the gentleman was, you didn't
know he was a person that went through

507
00:39:44.079 --> 00:39:51.760
combat and then turn around and going
law enforcement and then retire. I would

508
00:39:51.800 --> 00:39:58.000
personally say, he knew the scripture
of God has not given me the spirit

509
00:39:58.079 --> 00:40:01.440
of fear, but of power,
love and a sound mind. And sometimes

510
00:40:01.519 --> 00:40:10.360
you have to continue to recite that
in your head to avoid the traumas and

511
00:40:10.559 --> 00:40:19.159
the the the things that come with
you know, them being out there in

512
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:24.320
the field or in comeback or whatever. And you know, he probably one

513
00:40:24.360 --> 00:40:30.280
of those ones, you know,
the very few that were able to hold

514
00:40:30.400 --> 00:40:35.639
on to that and let that be
his mindset more so than what the surroundings

515
00:40:35.719 --> 00:40:40.079
were carrying. That's what it sounds
like. Yeah, I may have him

516
00:40:40.119 --> 00:40:44.480
on the show. You know.
Yes, shot too, that's the first

517
00:40:44.559 --> 00:40:46.599
part that's really funny. He is
shot. But I may see if I

518
00:40:46.639 --> 00:40:50.920
can talk him into because he's doing
a lot of ministry work in his church

519
00:40:51.519 --> 00:40:57.079
now and been married for years to
the same young lady. So yeah,

520
00:40:57.199 --> 00:40:59.639
I may be able to talk to
come on the show, as you know,

521
00:40:59.800 --> 00:41:01.320
just to pick his brain a little
bit, you know, And what

522
00:41:01.440 --> 00:41:06.519
would you tell young people who are
going into the service now and how they

523
00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:09.119
you know, what kind of you
know, and how the way the world

524
00:41:09.280 --> 00:41:12.760
is right now? What are we
gonna do you know, what should we

525
00:41:12.840 --> 00:41:16.880
be doing and things like that.
But another the other celebrations this month is

526
00:41:16.960 --> 00:41:22.480
Military Spouse Appreciation Month. Also we've
got, of course, we've had Mother's

527
00:41:22.559 --> 00:41:30.280
Day, we have International Day of
Families, Peace Officers Memorial Day, we

528
00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:35.880
got World Telecommunication and Information Society Day. You know, I think I just

529
00:41:35.960 --> 00:41:37.119
make up a day. I'm I'm
gonna have. I'm just gonna make a

530
00:41:37.159 --> 00:41:42.519
pick a date, maybe our anniversary. So February fourteen will not only be

531
00:41:43.320 --> 00:41:46.400
Valentine's Day, but it will be
Setting It Straight Day. There we go,

532
00:41:46.599 --> 00:41:50.800
I'm gonna start that. We're gonna
start that next year, setting it

533
00:41:50.840 --> 00:41:53.320
straight on the fourteenth of February.
That's it will celebrate the whole month.

534
00:41:53.440 --> 00:41:59.679
So there we go. Um,
National Defense Transportation Day, of course,

535
00:42:00.119 --> 00:42:06.360
Forces Day on the twentieth, Public
Lands Day, World Audio Immune and Auto

536
00:42:07.280 --> 00:42:15.760
Inflammatory Authoritis Day, and World b
Day this week coming out, okay,

537
00:42:15.840 --> 00:42:21.000
and there's International t Day next month, I mean next Monday, our World

538
00:42:21.119 --> 00:42:24.559
Day for Cultural Diversity, for Dialogue
and Development. I think that's what we're

539
00:42:24.599 --> 00:42:30.239
gonna definitely start talking about diversity and
and what that means and everything. But

540
00:42:30.679 --> 00:42:36.079
you know, we just want everybody
to stay safe things or not. Unfortunately

541
00:42:36.400 --> 00:42:44.239
that I don't know. We lost
Harrod Bellefonte, We lost Jerry Springer.

542
00:42:45.679 --> 00:42:49.480
There was a one before herrick,
mister Bellafonte. Um, and it does

543
00:42:49.599 --> 00:42:52.800
happen in threes. But yeah,
we just lost them right back to back,

544
00:42:53.039 --> 00:42:59.639
you know, just right behind one
another. And I just I still

545
00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:06.519
want to where are our actors and
activists and entertainers and talk show hosts and

546
00:43:07.400 --> 00:43:09.800
you know, et cetera, et
cetera, Where are they because we've lost

547
00:43:10.239 --> 00:43:15.960
some of the greats, some of
the pioneers at that you know. UM,

548
00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:21.480
prayers for Jamie Fox and nobody knows
what's going on with him. Uh,

549
00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:25.360
he's either between home and rehab.
We don't know. Um, we

550
00:43:25.519 --> 00:43:30.400
pray for him. That's good that
he's trying to keep it quiet and whatever.

551
00:43:30.559 --> 00:43:32.840
But Jerry Springer did the same thing. Nobody knew he had cancer,

552
00:43:34.599 --> 00:43:37.599
you know, not in the public
eye. So you know, for those

553
00:43:37.880 --> 00:43:43.360
families and individuals that are suffering out
there, you know we are are.

554
00:43:43.559 --> 00:43:46.920
Our prayers are with you. As
we always say, find somebody to talk

555
00:43:47.000 --> 00:43:51.800
to. Do not keep this bottled
up. It will not do you any

556
00:43:51.920 --> 00:43:54.639
good, and it won't do those
who are around you any good, because

557
00:43:54.679 --> 00:43:59.679
you could explode and and next thing, you know, nobody's gonna well,

558
00:43:59.679 --> 00:44:01.039
I don't why she's chopping at the
bit that, you know, why she

559
00:44:01.159 --> 00:44:05.480
had to say? Why he's like
that? You know, and you don't

560
00:44:05.480 --> 00:44:08.519
even I don't know what's going on
with you until you tell me. I

561
00:44:08.599 --> 00:44:12.519
don't know. And I know you
don't want to tell people because you think

562
00:44:12.519 --> 00:44:15.119
you're gonna be the subject of the
of the sermon on Sunday or whatever the

563
00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:19.480
case may be. But you know, find somebody to talk to. That's

564
00:44:19.480 --> 00:44:22.039
why we have the care circles.
And no one has taken me up on

565
00:44:22.159 --> 00:44:25.760
it. And it's on every card
I got, and it's on our social

566
00:44:25.840 --> 00:44:30.360
media and and everything, and nobody's
taking me up on it. And that's

567
00:44:30.400 --> 00:44:32.679
okay. If you're doing good,
then that's okay, you know. But

568
00:44:32.800 --> 00:44:37.719
if you're doing good, though,
are you doing good? Are you wondering

569
00:44:37.880 --> 00:44:40.320
where to go and what to do? You know? And that you're not

570
00:44:40.480 --> 00:44:45.199
alone? Yes, trade yeah,
I think too. It's just people.

571
00:44:45.960 --> 00:44:52.159
I think people are larry of of
you know, just listening because I see

572
00:44:52.159 --> 00:44:55.760
um folks struggling, you know,
even on my timeline, you know,

573
00:44:55.920 --> 00:45:01.000
my Facebook. You know people post
it. Anxiety is real, depression is

574
00:45:01.079 --> 00:45:05.960
real, grief and loss is real, and so they're out there. But

575
00:45:06.199 --> 00:45:12.000
too, I'm very fortunate, you
know. I when I say I'm very

576
00:45:12.119 --> 00:45:15.639
fortunate is that I have people in
my circle that I can talk to.

577
00:45:16.800 --> 00:45:22.679
Unfortunately, there are folks out there
that don't. And I know that people

578
00:45:22.760 --> 00:45:25.760
I can talk to that are gonna
listen, that people that are gonna help

579
00:45:25.840 --> 00:45:31.280
me sort things out vice FIRSTA.
But some people don't have that, and

580
00:45:31.519 --> 00:45:35.800
so it's almost like, okay,
if I tell you this, what you're

581
00:45:35.800 --> 00:45:39.000
gonna do with the information, then
you know, people feel vulnerable, especially

582
00:45:39.079 --> 00:45:44.519
if you're in a certain position.
If I go to my EAP and I

583
00:45:44.679 --> 00:45:46.360
let them know, does that they
look at me? Well, now that

584
00:45:46.519 --> 00:45:52.119
person can't do their job. And
I think we have to move with mental

585
00:45:52.719 --> 00:45:59.719
wellness and a different light of how
to make people more comfortable with saying I

586
00:46:00.039 --> 00:46:05.239
am not okay. I just am
not okay today. I might look like

587
00:46:05.400 --> 00:46:09.320
I'm okay. I might tell you
I feel okay, but I'm not okay.

588
00:46:09.800 --> 00:46:15.840
And so we have to create enviroments
where people feel comfortable and saying that,

589
00:46:16.119 --> 00:46:21.679
and I think we don't there's not
places that do Oh did you know

590
00:46:21.840 --> 00:46:23.960
she had this? Or he had
this and he came and told me this

591
00:46:24.159 --> 00:46:28.199
and the EAP and then they got
a report. Well are you able to

592
00:46:28.280 --> 00:46:30.119
do your job? That's not what
I came to you for. So you're

593
00:46:30.159 --> 00:46:36.000
opening yourself up. And so maybe
we need to have some dialogue training or

594
00:46:36.079 --> 00:46:40.000
something that kind of help folks to
navigate that because people are struggling just just

595
00:46:40.199 --> 00:46:44.639
don't know where to turn. And
sometimes you go to Facebook and you get

596
00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:46.719
the prayers and stuff. But what
if you got a person that says,

597
00:46:46.760 --> 00:46:52.599
well, I pray and I'm still
like this, I still feel this way.

598
00:46:52.760 --> 00:46:57.280
What do I do now? And
so you have to have to create

599
00:46:57.360 --> 00:47:00.920
your circle. Maybe we talk about
how to create ate your own circle and

600
00:47:01.079 --> 00:47:05.920
helping them find people that close to
them or not close to them, or

601
00:47:06.079 --> 00:47:10.119
resources that you feel comfortable to say, I just I just have to I

602
00:47:10.239 --> 00:47:15.280
just have to let it go because
of I don't know where I would be

603
00:47:15.840 --> 00:47:21.320
and I'm like I said, I
think this is a good platform that we

604
00:47:21.400 --> 00:47:25.280
can probably start something and maybe talk
with the powers that be or put it

605
00:47:25.360 --> 00:47:29.800
out you know something, I don't
know them, but it's there because I

606
00:47:29.880 --> 00:47:32.840
see it on my timeline. You
know, we get start it. Go

607
00:47:32.840 --> 00:47:37.000
ahead, Tommy, I'm sorry,
go ahead. I was experience say I

608
00:47:37.119 --> 00:47:42.159
agree with everything you said. I'm
just pigging back and off of you.

609
00:47:42.320 --> 00:47:49.480
But I know this church I visited
this weekend, they have what they call

610
00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:57.440
small groups, and they try to
put people with people that maybe stay on

611
00:47:57.519 --> 00:48:01.719
the same side of the city as
they so you don't have to travel so

612
00:48:01.880 --> 00:48:08.880
far, or a couple of them
got the video virtual meetings that they meet,

613
00:48:09.599 --> 00:48:15.559
or so they go they do a
fishing thing and they go fishing and

614
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just open up that a person to
They really stress, they really push their

615
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small groups because he said, you
can't live on this earth by yourself.

616
00:48:30.480 --> 00:48:36.639
You need not so much blood family, but you need family that you can

617
00:48:36.800 --> 00:48:45.000
talk to. And you find so
many people that are say losing I say,

618
00:48:45.079 --> 00:48:47.519
losing their coup. It's because they
don't have nobody to talk to.

619
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They don't trust this person or that
person. But you know, I would

620
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say to the audience, sometimes it's
better to talk to somebody you don't know

621
00:49:05.239 --> 00:49:09.159
because they don't have no reason to
judge you. They don't have a reason

622
00:49:09.599 --> 00:49:16.119
to be biased towards you, and
they just there to listen. They may

623
00:49:16.239 --> 00:49:24.679
not have the answer, you may
hear the answer in speaking, but fine,

624
00:49:27.079 --> 00:49:30.760
somebody that you can talk to.
It's just I know it's hard.

625
00:49:30.079 --> 00:49:37.320
I'm the first one to say I
don't talk to everybody, but I do

626
00:49:37.599 --> 00:49:45.800
find somebody I can talk to.
It's chair and open, and so it's

627
00:49:45.920 --> 00:49:52.199
okay to find you somebody that you
can talk to. Amen. Well,

628
00:49:52.280 --> 00:49:53.960
guys, that's our time. I
mean time, just I mean, I

629
00:49:54.280 --> 00:49:58.159
looked at the clocket, was seven
fifteen, then it was seven thirty three,

630
00:49:58.480 --> 00:50:00.519
nine, seven forty nine. I'm
like, okay, all right,

631
00:50:00.559 --> 00:50:04.599
we're doing the right thing because when
you're having it's not so much fun.

632
00:50:05.039 --> 00:50:07.960
But when you're having, you're doing
things that you love to do and you're

633
00:50:07.000 --> 00:50:09.960
motivated to do it and you want
to help, and it's just about helping

634
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other people and that's what we're here
for. But we're gonna see you next

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week, same time, same station. Y'all be blessed, take care whom