Healthy Aging Month

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1:32 9-11 and I watched a few of those documentaries. We'll talk briefly about it, but let's just have a moment of silence, please, for the families, the survivors, even those whose family members passed away after the event because of the smoke inhalation and things like that. And they developed all kinds of disorders and diseases. And so let's just have a moment of silence, if you don't mind. I know that many people can remember that day and what you were doing, what you had on. I know I can remember that day and this weekend, this Friday, I purposely watched other, uh, other segments that they had up that were new to me. And, uh, I just felt compelled to watch, um, and just hear the stories and hear the memories, um, and all that, that those over 3000 people that we lost, um, And I have to tell you, I was thinking about the show even throughout the weekend. And I was like, you know, I have to say that every so many years I stop on September 11th. I stop and just wait. I just wait.

2:47 And I'm not I don't know what I'm waiting for, but it's like, OK. And I make sure strategically that I'm not in a large place. I'm not where I'm not familiar. OK. Audio only. OK. OK. Miss Kay, you're only in audio only. But yeah, I have those moments that, you know, throughout the years, it's been over 20 plus years since this has happened. But I stop and I make sure I'm home. I know where my kids are. You know, I know their schedule. And Miss Kay is hearing this for the first time. But ever since, I do take a minute and my head is on a swivel. I am watching the news.

3:31 I'm paying close attention to that just in case, just in case. So I found myself doing that this weekend because I'm saying if anybody's going to hit us, this, you know, it would be over here, be over there, you know, and it's not bondage. I'm not captivated by it. I'm not obsessed by it. I'm not. Oh, my God. No, I'm just telling you, I take a human moment and I sit with these people not imagining what I would do if I was in their situation. So I know everybody has their moments, their experience. They remember, like I said, I remember I was teaching at the community college in my hometown. I was in my nice blue shirt, that long sleeve, real crisp, my blue, navy blue pants and one of my loafers that I love, leather and a little alligator skin, but it's all blue. I won't forget that.

4:25 I had my hair back. And I just taken my oldest son to the daycare, which was not that far away. Came back home to change to go to to go to work. And I'm hearing the TV. I had the TV on and I'm coming out and I'm but I'm buttoning my cuff. And I'm like, oh, I wonder what movie that is. That's when the first airplane had hit. I said, what movie is that? Oh, my God, that was. That's kind of artistic that get the plane to look like it's going into the tower. And then all of a sudden the commentators reporters say, oh, my God, oh, my God, is a second one. And I'm like, are they filming this? Have they already filmed? I'm literally talking to the TV light and only to find out this was real time and what was happening. So I I pause for a minute and I said, no, let me go to the college. Make sure no one showed up there.

5:13 And then I'm going to daycare to get my child because I don't know what's getting ready to fall out. I don't know. So and I did that. I pulled up. Some of my students were in the parking lot. They're like, Miss Gray, what do we do? I said, go home, go home and you pray. And at that time I saw George Bush was in Palm Beach County and I saw Air Force One literally fly over us. So it's it's it's like a wow. It's like and I went to the classroom to make sure no one's in there. The janitors were already there. locking the doors. And then I went straight down, uh, Congress trade. You would know that Congress all the way. And I crossed over at 45th street to, uh, for the military trail. Cause the daycare was in that wind Dixie off a military and 45th street. We were right down the street, but right now, but anyway, I'm not going to stay on that long. Um, I've got a bone to pick with people and they don't watch the show. So, Um, so y'all be okay.

6:12 Roll call. Don't let me forget stuff. Yeah. I'll call the stuff out if I'm forgetting stuff. Cause I'm really not myself right now. So, uh, roll call who's listening in. Let me, come on. Let me see you. Let's let us see you so we can say hello to you and everything. And we appreciate you. And I know those of you who are listening through radio, you're not able to do that. We appreciate you. But if you can go to the setting a straight page on Facebook and just say, Hey, I was on radio, but I could hear you out of it. Um, This past week, I'm not surrounded, but I'm in the plow with people who really just, I don't know what they're thinking. And normally, you all probably don't realize, but normally I wear a bracelet with a cross on it. But tonight, I'm just kind of discombobulated, but I got my mustard seeds from my group, my tribe, my family. up in the Mississippi, Tennessee, no, Mississippi, Louisiana, Washington, D.C., Virginia area. And I grabbed this just now to calm myself down. I just wish people would just stop playing with people and your emotions. And part of self-care, which is we're talking about healthy aging today, tonight, and self-care once again, The best self-care you could do once you, once the enemy, once people have been exposed, to leave them alone, leave them where they're at. There's no, let me go and see if I can help you. There's no, oh, I hope you do better. And in some cases, there's no me for me. This is just me. This is

7:43 just me. I ain't praying for you because you're an enemy already. You're trying to trigger my flesh. You're trying to, you think you could get me to, you could woo over me because I'm a nice person, because I can make you laugh. I can make you cry. I'm nice. I'm generous. And you take that for granted because what you could do for me is you serve God. You believe in God as much as you believe. If I could just get to Miss Gray, if I could just talk to Miss Gray. No, get me out of that. So if I could just get to God, if I could, if I know going on my knees right now, I can pray and I know God will hear me do that. But don't call me if you plan games. Because he knows what you're going to do. He already knows what you're going to do. He already knows. He knew before your mother's womb knew you were coming. God knows every human being on this earth. He knows every animal. He knows what you're going to do, whether you believe in him or not, because he is the creator. He knows the one thing we can't human beings, no matter how close we get to God. One thing we cannot do is judge. No, you know what's in your heart. until you act it out or until you speak it. I have no idea what Trey is thinking right now. I know she's praying for me right now, but I have no idea other than that, what she's thinking. I don't know what her next move is going to be tomorrow.

9:02 I don't know how her day was today until she says something. I was in the drive-thru line at the Walgreens in Hunter's Creek with the kids in the backseat. Okay. Oh, oh, I hear you. All right. Thank you, Missy. Okay. You can remember. You can remember that day. Check it in. Thank you, Charles. Thank you, guys. I love you guys. Thank you all so much. Where's Tennessee? I got somebody in Palm Beach County that's supposed to be listening in tonight. Come on now. And once again, you want me to support you, but you don't support us. Anastasia, thank you, Anastasia. LDK, there's Tennessee. Thank you. Love the hair, Sister Trey. All right. All right. Amen. Amen. So, you know, Stop playing and leave me out of the confusion. I'm really ready to delete everybody in my phone. I'm really ready. That's how much I don't want no human contact because I have had it up to here with you playing, being fearful.

10:00 of me more than you are of God. Don't you dare put that arrow on my back. Don't put that mark on me. I will leave you where you're at. And I'm sorry if I'm scaring somebody, but I was encouraged to just be real tonight. And this is my self-care. Cause I'm all right now. I told you, I grabbed my, I grabbed my mustard seed and I held it in my, I looked at it. If I have faith of just one of these, if I have faith, just one and Lord, I have faith that you will rid me of anybody. That's not for my good anymore. And I'll be good because people, some of the conversations I've had, people are really fooling themselves. I don't think you're fooling me. Cause I'm just listening. But when I need to talk to somebody, I can't get nobody on the phone. And I'm good because I'm deleting people. I'm good. I'm good. I'm going to be okay, guys. It's not best to hold the negative inside. You're right, Mickey. That's why I was encouraged by Rebel and Trey. Maybe somebody needs to hear this, that it's okay to let people go. It's okay to say no. It's okay to self-care you. And right now, I got y'all. But I got to look out for me.

11:16 Because Miss Kay can tell you, I'm really discombobulated. And I don't know where this is coming from. Okay. You ain't got the... Okay. I don't like what you're writing, y'all. Excuse me? I said, I don't like when she's like this. She throw me off. So that means tighten up your will. I'll be okay. And you will be. Yeah, thank you. But I'm glad, Ms. Gray. Are you okay, Charles? She's okay. You know what? Yeah, she is. So let me just kind of throw something in. And I know she is a believer and she's in the word and she's a follower of Christ. And we understand.

12:00 And she's been in the walk longer than I have on this level. And I say that there are attacks when you are trying to be Christ-like, when you are following the word. There will be things, people that will come after you. And sometimes it's the spirits that. Are on people that will come after you and to try to destroy you. So I think it was good to bring this out, Ms. Graves. And I know it's difficult, but I think people need to understand that when you are trying to follow and be the best, there will be things that come after you.

12:41 Part of the self-improvement and self-care is when to let go. When is when. And so when it jeopardizes your health, when it jeopardizes your thought patterns, your eat, your. Sleep, your energy, Jazzy put her input in. So it's time to self-evaluate and recognize, is this worth my health, my sanity, my well-being? And so stress will take you out of here. Stress has and will take you out of here. And it's not worth it. And being able to recognize what is triggering your moods. And when you can kind of fine-tune.

13:27 It's okay. This over here, got to let that go. Them over there, I got to let that go. And there's nothing wrong with that. You have to preserve yourself because if you don't preserve yourself, you're not going to be good to anybody else. And just sharing too. It's been a... a trying week for me as well. I mean, it's, it's, it's some, like when I say spiritual warfare, it's some stuff that the arrows coming after me and different places. And I just have to be reminded. Be still follow what God has, will have me to do. And then I know trusting in him, the faith has a mustard seed. Like Ms. Gray was saying, if you had that much faith, we know that God is going to pull you out of whatever that is. Just have to be, prayerful, steadfast, committed, and just trusting in him because it's not easy. And though we are on the show, we have things that go on too. So we want to kind of share.

14:26 It's okay not to feel okay. It's okay not to feel okay. But I'm very fortunate that I have created a support systems that I can reach out to Should I go through this? And these ladies and Rebel in the background are a few of them. I don't know how I can get through that. I look forward to this show because this is like part of my sanity, if that makes sense. It's, well, like-minded, we don't always have the same approach to things, but like-minded. So Puppy knows to speak up well. He may have seen the angel watching you. Yes, Charles. Yes, Charles, you have earned wings around you. You're walking the walk the correct way. Yes, Misty, thank you for the words of encouragement. We are to be in prayer for one another. Yes, Elder Kay, thank you so much.

15:17 And we just want to pour to you, Miss Gray, you know, and just pray that whomever, whatever this is that's trying to attack you, be gone. That nothing is going to be good of this and that they just go away. I'm not saying they have to pass away, but just be removed from your life because you need your sanity, your peace, and just recognize the person that you are. And I'm just so sorry that someone has the nerve and the gall to come after you in that way. And I pray for them because I don't know what God would have in store. You're one of his. So that's what I got to say. But I'm glad that you guys are able to kind of see what the walk is like because... When you're doing well, when you're doing good, the devil is going to only attack you. When he knows there's a breakthrough coming for your life, something as good as about to happen, this is what happens.

16:11 He shuts you down emotionally, et cetera. And that's why we have to, of course, remain strong and, you know, still in our walk and just wait on God for his voice. I mean, we always get irritated. We're emotions. We have emotions. We are human beings. And tonight is just a night y'all have to see, you know, a slightly discombobulated side of my mom, but she's going to be okay. Cause this is not something she has not gone through already. It's just another little pitchfork, you know, right now, but she'll be all right, of course. And she knows how this journey goes. I mean, there's something big coming and I hope she just looks forward to it because it has to be great for the devil to try to knock her off a course. It has to be great. So, and I can only believe it's great. I know it.

17:00 Man, thank you, Mickey. Thank you. Thank you. We really do appreciate it. We do appreciate it. And you can feel it, too. You can feel it. There's a coolness that will come from nowhere. And I'm like, okay, somebody's thinking about me, you know. Well, I'll see your faces, you know, sometimes, you know, and stuff. And, of course, I was mainly thinking about the show this weekend and what you all were going through with, you know, with the event, you know, from 9-11 and You know, because everybody still has moments and stuff. So I was thinking about y'all. But thank you all, everybody. But, you know, this is the 10% flesh. Is that jazz? Yeah, it is. Don't be sad. I'm trying not to. I'm coming out of it. I'm rolling out of it. But it's just, as Rebel had to say, you know, sometimes you just got to just say it. And I hope that this is helping someone. I am not weak. I'm not weak.

17:55 I'm still that warrior. I still will fight and I will fight till the end in the spirit. I promise you that. But this is what happens. And this is why you need to make sure that your tribe, your circle, not man's circle, but the spiritual circle is strong enough so I can tap out. I can tap out and y'all take it from here. Y'all keep the prayers going. Y'all keep the conversation going. I need to be able to do that. So that's why God is strengthening you all to trust him. Not so much me or Miss Trey or Miss Kay, but to trust him. He knows what to do. He knows what's going to happen. He knew I was not going to be. I was trying my best not to say much tonight so I could just stay silent. But, you know, you see the strength that you all gave me just by typing what you felt.

18:49 You know, Trey's words, Miss Kay's words strengthened me. Because, you know, I just, you know, I'm yelling today and crying at the same time. And I'm like, uh-uh. No, we ain't going to do this because I'll let you go. I will. I will. Because no one will come between me and my God. No one. Nobody I birthed into this world. No two-legged, no four-legged, no feathered. Nobody. I've been through too much. And I know all of you all have a testimony. whether you want to give the credit to God or not. But I know you can look back and say, oh God, I was in that car accident. Oh my God, when I was four, I had this. When I was in high school, I went through this. I mean, God has been with y'all. I know it's testimony time. We could just have a night of that. We could have a whole month of that, of Mondays. Every night, 50 minutes, everybody just getting on here and giving a testimony. I'm not questioning your belief.

19:39 None of us would ever think you're weak, even in time of burden you carry. We know you are a strong woman leader. Thank you, Misty. I'm just trying to please God because I had a. fellow student, one of my former students called me about a week ago. I've already deleted her information and stuff. And she said, I want to run something by you. And I said, okay. And she's like, well, I'm no longer a Christian. And because of the Hebrew, this and that and the other. And I'm just looking at the Old Testament. The Old Testament never talks about Jesus. And I'm looking up at God like, are you serious? I'm missing my show for this. Okay. So, Ms. Gray, I just want to know what you thought about it.

20:21 I have no thought on that because that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. And I see why the devil, you know, the devil hates you. But didn't you do some subbing? Didn't you do something with the education? Yeah, I did some subbing. I said, yeah, and you're a singer. So the devil hates you. So, of course, he would make you, but you're easy to get confused. I went there. I said, and why do you still have my number? I said, because the group that you're talking about, they don't even recognize women. You can't even sing. What you should be concerned about is your next track, your next CD. Where's your praise and worship music? I did not teach you. Then I tell you intercessors like y'all keep me grounded and you're going to call me with this. And then I went into her personal business. I said, I'm so sorry that folks let you down. And I, God had me calling out stuff that I would not know. That's the kind of calls I get guys. And I'm supposed to, what I'm supposed to do with that? Delete. Cause you've lost your mind. And what you're trying to, what you, Oh, you should know me. You've had me for four years as a instructor. You know, I ain't, Oh, never. And then you got people who think that because you can't see what they're doing, that they, they, they, they can get by, but they fear you more than they fear God.

21:34 I will never. That's what I've created a box. You all be happy for me. Be happy for me. I created a box that, and what goes in that box is, I don't know what that is. And I don't need to know. So, and it's getting, it's almost half full over there, but I don't need to know stuff. That's stuff we don't need. I don't need to ask you the why. I don't need to know because it's not going to make me better. It's not going to make you better. And it has nothing to do with my assignment. And by the time I'm on my way to heaven again, I'm not going to care. It's not going to matter. So why should I plague myself, put this stuff in my brain just to have a night like this? Why I'm crying, my health, I wasn't feeling good earlier. I'm like, what in the world? Flesh? I had to talk to my flesh. I don't care who said this. I had to talk to my flesh. What you doing? Didn't God prove to you? I'm talking to my flesh, my brain, my heart, my soul. Didn't my God prove to you who I was and that you have nothing to do with this flesh? That's how you have to talk to yourself sometime. Get yourself checked. The Bible said, judge yourself so you won't be judged. You know my saying on it?

22:43 Check yourself so you won't be checked because your flesh is sitting there looking like, OK, the brain is going to want you. The brain wants to get all the credit. You know, oh no, they should go and pray. And now I'm going to make her knees hurt. I'm going to make her feet hurt and all that. What? Sometimes you have to pray your way out of things, guys. Sometimes you have to praise your way out. Sometimes you have to worship your way out. Sometimes you have to seed your way out. That means putting money where your faith is. And sometimes, in Ecclesiastes 3, there's a time and place for everything. You just got to know the timing. You just got to know the timing. And as I told a person today that I was venting to and yelling at in the gas station. I'm in the gas station.

23:23 I ain't even got out the car to put the gas in my car. I'm like, boom. I said this this job, this this this this mantle. I don't want to call it a job. Excuse me for that. This mantle of faith walking and mentoring other people is no joke. When I was a college professor, I just had it from semester to semester. I knew what classes I was teaching. I knew I got to know the students in those in that semester time. But this is totally different when you're spiritually active. mentoring people when you are spiritually and I had to explain to the young lady that I cover you if I'm your spiritual mentor which means the devil comes after me first before he hits you And I know you're probably thinking, what? It's all scripture. So where I can't understand is you want to go and live your life the way you want to live it because, you know, that's flesh and that's life. And go right ahead.

24:19 But don't stick up under me and I'm taking extra heat because you are making the decision you want to live like you want to live. Go. Go. But you know what? Not a problem because some people like to stick around and like to stick up under you and like to hold on to your coat tail. I will cut you loose because you're not going to affect. Look, thank God for y'all. If I didn't have y'all tonight, I don't know what Miss Kay and her brother would be dealing with tonight. Because I was already, okay, I'm washing my hands. Kick her out. See what I have to live with, y'all. Can I just bring my dog? Can I come live with somebody? Y'all, because we can't.

25:02 Can I come live with somebody? I'll bring our own dog food and stuff. You see what I live with? This thing here. But anyway, thank you guys. I don't want to take up any more of the time. I'm good. I'm okay. I'm coming out of this. Wait, I'm not frozen, right? Yeah, you are kind of. Yeah, you're talking after the fact. Everything is messing up. Okay. Okay. Well, hide your face and let's hear you verbally. Okay. Don't mind me. I don't know what. But anyway, this is all about self-care, guys. This is what it looks like. This is what it sounds like. This is what it sounds like. And over the next. And this is so funny because over the next few days, I'm heading into the lion's den. I'll talk about it next week. But I'm heading purposely into the lion's den. Let's go. Oh, brother.

25:48 Let's go. Because everybody that I'm speaking of, they don't watch the show. They don't support it. Self-care is good. And you got to know when to do it. You got to know. And that's the first part of self-care. Knowing when you need it. And the serenity prayer. I've mentioned this before. I'm going to mention it again. Poor Miss Kay. Let me look it up real quick. Trey, you want to add anything? I mean, I think you pretty much added a lot. But when you're talking about the self-improvement and self-care, but that's part of healthy aging as well. Because if you're affected by something, that's causing stress, that's not healthy aging. That's strenuous aging. It's not good. So it kind of goes hand in hand.

26:34 But a lot of times we are affected by that which we are surrounded by, people, places, and things. So I just want to say that. I don't know how Ms. Gray is going through it. Like I said, it's, you know, I have to pray every day, you know, be specific. strategic and prayer and, you know, reading the word and trusting God and listening to even if small intervals you need. So, yes, Charles. Yes. Thank you. Yeah. Be able to do that. So whatever that means to you and whatever will distract your mind from whatever's going on or something to step away from it.

27:16 And that could be anything. You know, that could be just taking a brief walk. That could be you know, listening to some calm music or, you know, prayer or calling someone that you know is soothing, is going to help you talk through this, whatever this is, and help you. Just kind of process whatever's going on. Me, I like water scenes, beat scenes, so that would be my go-to. When possible. You know, it's Convening with nature, just sitting outside, feeling the breeze and thinking about nothing, just looking at the birds and feeling the wind and watching the trees blow and watching the flowers bloom. Coloring, you know, just different things. Color, just some markers, crayons, pencils, whatever color. Be creative.

28:05 Exercise. You know, there are different things to help to distract from that. But like I said, the mind affects the body. And so if stuff is coming at you, your mind and affecting that, you got to. Figure out a way to come, you know, to kind of combat that. You know, reading scripture, prayer. All of that. So those are just some of the go-tos that I name. But yeah, sometimes you got to recognize when to let people, places, and things go. Amen. And the serenity, serenity is that calmness, peacefulness. Listen to these verbs for a minute. Calm, calmness, hush, peace, repose, restfulness, sereneness, stillness. Okay?

28:49 So keep those words in mind. And let me go through God, grant me the serenity. Give me the peace. Give me the quietness. Give me the serenity. Give me the sereneness. Give me a quiet to the quiet to. I never heard of that word. OK, so let's put that word in there. So God, grant me the peacefulness, the calmness to accept the things I cannot change. We can stay right there for a year. Amen. Thank you, Mickey. Amen. Things I cannot change. That's the first thing that the poet writes. The things I cannot change. Let me be at peace with this because I know I can't do nothing about this. I can't change her. I can't change him.

29:35 I can't think for you. I know. And there's nobody like me in the world. I get that because you're not going to think like I do. You're not going to do like I do. I get that. So Lord, first thing he says, brought me the calmness, the peacefulness to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can. Well, how do you know what to change? If you've not written it down, sat with yourself in that same quietness and went over it like, okay, okay, this is what's bothering me now. This is what's tripping me up right now. Okay. The courage to change the things I can. Now that I've identified my problems, how can I change them? What do I need to do to change? And the wisdom to know the difference. The difference between what I can change and what I cannot change. You cannot change people.

30:27 The only people that you can model and change are little babies by the time they're three. After they're three years old, you still tap at them and they tap you back. Oh, you got a bully on your hands. Good to journal thoughts in this process. There you go. Thank you, Mickey. Journaling. Write it down. Write the vision. Make it plain. It's something about writing. And you go back and you read that thing. You're like, oh, my God, what was I thinking? Speaking of which, this past, well, yesterday, it was just in me. I've been thinking about it. It was time for me to get rid of my old jewelry. And most of his costume jewelry anyway. And as I'm looking through my jewelry box, I'm like memories of stuff. But the main thing and I was in here in my room laughing out loud, like, what was I thinking when I purchased this? What was I? Yuck.

31:16 It looked yuck. But I had to be honest with myself. Writing is therapeutic. Yes, ma'am. Yes, ma'am. For some people, yes. Yes. Sometimes talking things out, recording yourself, then going back, leaving it, and then go back and listen to what you were saying. Listen to the thoughts that were on your mind. You'd be surprised what you were thinking. Like, where did that come from? Just like I was doing the jewelry. What was I thinking? And I was looking for a jewelry today, and I wanted to put a pearl on. And I just bought this card, and there's a pearl on it. There are pearls on it. And it said, imitation. I can't afford a good pair of pearl earrings now. You all can afford it too. But it said imitation on the card. They look pretty. They look real. But they weren't real. And right in front of me, it said imitation.

32:08 But I didn't see that. I saw the pearl. It looked shiny. It looked pretty. Oh, it was probably affordable. So let me get these. Man, y'all better stop. Y'all better stop. Go in your closet. And look at stuff you purchased. And you probably have thought like, what in the world? What was I thinking? I wear oversized clothes now because of the fact that this external hernia I have. I'm not wearing nothing tight to outline. I'm not pregnant. There's nothing to be happy about. This is an external surgical hernia. But because I've lost so much weight, my pants were falling to my hip bones. And I said, I got to go because I like this pair of pants. They're different colors and they're nice and they're dressy enough.

32:51 I can wear them to a meeting. I can wear them, you know, to church or whatever. I can wear them someplace. Oh, I can wear them being comfortable. I love them. They're very, you know, dualistic. And so I had to go and I'm trying to find my pants that I've ordered from Amazon. And I had to get on my computer to go scrolling. And I didn't get it. I went back on my phone and I said, Lord, help me find these pants. You know, Amazon will show you what you've ordered, the last maybe 25 things you ordered. They didn't say, well, you've come to the end of your list. I said, no, I haven't. Help me find these pants. And I found them. So I've got a whole size lower. I'm not going to do that with all of my clothes. What? All right. Okay. All right. At least I didn't ask you to sew them. See what I have to live with? I can't make this stuff up, y'all. I'm not making this stuff up. Anyway, what do y'all want to talk about?

33:40 I know most of you- Wait, well. Let me go into as far as healthy aging, right? Okay, go ahead. Go for it. On a nutritional side, guys, because we are what we eat as well. So the grogginess, you know what I'm saying? The tiredness, the processed foods that we are consuming, right? So vitamins wise, we have a vitamin named ashwagandha, which is good for calming. Not saying to rely. On ashwagandha to calm your nerves or anything like that, but it has its benefits, right? Okay. As well as drinking carrot juice. If you do not want to look like what you've been through, I suggest drinking carrot juice. It's like an aging backwards. Type of vibe, taking collagen, tightening the skin naturally.

34:24 And stuff like that. And of course, moving your body. I feel like moving your body regardless is very therapeutic. Whether you're dancing in your room, working out, walking, jogging, whatever you want to do. Very therapeutic. Go outside. Don't stay in the house. Go outside. Experience nature. Try new things. Pottery. I don't know, a dance class, Zumba class, Pilates. Something that's taking your mind off. I know boxing helps me. I have to return back to that because that was like one of my top stress relievers, activity I did when I was stressed out and everything. But, oh, it skipped. She said boxing, y'all.

35:06 Is vegetable oil and creamer bad? Like as a coffee, like put a vegetable oil and like creamer for your coffee. Vegetable oil is not good. If you're going to use that in any aspect, use either coconut oil or olive oil. Those are the most natural you could get or avocado. But it depends on if you're trying to lose weight, gain weight and stuff like that, what will be better for you. But because avocado is fatty. But it's a good one. It's a good fat, obviously. Fiber and all that. Amen. Last week, I went over my 30-day. I was reading the ingredients in the creamer this morning. Your creamer has vegetable oil in it? Oh.

35:48 You might not want to. See, I'm dairy-free, so. Oh, wow. Well, thank God you're reading the ingredients. Amen. See? Yes. See? And you wonder where all this inflammation and all this nonsense comes up in your body and it just sits there. You got to do this, guys. We're not trying to make you lose weight, okay? Let me just take that out of the air. No, we want you healthy. We want you wealthier. We want you in your right mind. I want you personally, all of you all, every last one of you all, is latte-free creamer. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. I want all of you all to experience for once in your life the overflow of God. Your cup Running over.

36:31 That's my prayer for all of y'all who've been faithful. Your cup runs over. You don't know what that's like. That's not no trickled, you know, oh, I played the lottery. I got the numbers. I got $ 500. No, that's not going into Rent-A-Center and they approve you for credit so you can go rent your furniture. No, that is not God. That's not your cup running over. Your cup running over. When you call your utility company and you say, you know what? I don't have it. I know the due date is tomorrow. I don't get paid to not customer of ours. We're going to waive that and we'll see you next month. That's God. That's God. We've been too much inundated. What's that? Naming and claiming and blabbing till you flab it. No, those things are not real. Fake it till you make it. Because what are you speaking in the answer? Oh, wait.

37:24 Actually, that does help. What does help? Well, that does help sometimes because, you know, sometimes I got to fake it until I make it sometimes to get through certain situations. To get yourself out of things, yeah, but you don't live a life of that. I didn't know these things were going on until this morning. I looked at the other one and it has bioengineering things in it. Oh, Lord. Okay. Anastasia, do you have a Sprouts up there? Do you have a Sprouts store? Well, I don't think they do. No, I think they did Whole Foods. What's another one? Trader Joe's. I don't know if they have a Trader Joe's. Yeah, Trader Joe's is good. What you're saying, Trey? Mom's. It's called moms. Oh, I thought you were saying bombs. I was like, okay, everybody get on the table. Yeah. I think it's healthy.

38:05 Food and, and, and, um, But I don't know if it's everywhere, so I'll just have to Google it. Well, when I was doing my vision board on Tuesday, the 8th, I took off a whole page because inflammation is gone. High blood pressure is gone. Diabetes is gone. I'm in the normal range. Foul gas is gone. Gone, gone, gone. And what did I implement at the 11th hour? Okra water. Now, I know before y'all say anything, it's a bit away. Okay. Okay.

38:45 I don't know. All I can tell you is, okra water and i don't want to hear that you don't like okra i don't care i love okra but that's not great miss miss k was the one who told me also also one of my high school friends told me and i took it and i'm taking it six ounces a day for the rest of my life whole foods may be about the same this oh wow and yeah they always put the whole the good stuff way out where you can't get to it And you're so frustrated by the time you get there. I get it, sweetie, but I don't want you drinking nothing with vegetable oil in it. Well, Trader Joe's is really a scam, honestly. Oh, okay. Well, you're telling me something new. Well, I know we went through some stuff here with ours here, but okay.

39:29 Well, I only say that. that because my thing is so delayed right now. What thing? Oh, your phone. I mean, your broadcast. That's okay, babe. We got you. It's okay. But okra water, okay? And what you do is get you a couple of stalks of okra, real okra. Put it in a mason jar. Let it sit for 24 hours. Now, you're going to probably want to get the, you know, strain it. Strain it the next day. Get the pulp, the pulp out of it. What were the things you just mentioned to drink? Okay. He's getting ready. Oh, okra water. Hang on. Let me. My thing's so delayed. I can't even hear nobody. And I can't hear you out here. Right. Okay. Yeah. So, about the drinking. Okra water? Yeah.

40:09 Well, no. Hallelujah. Praise God for the good medical report. Yes. 40 pounds lighter before my birthday. Woo. Woo. Okra water is what you recommended to drink. Just now. Yeah. Okra water. I will tell you, get you about three or four stalks of it. Put it in water in a mason jar. Leave it out. Leave it. No. Put it in the fridge. Put it in the fridge for 24 hours. I would suggest that you, if you're not an okra lover, go ahead and drain the pulp that's in there. Strain it, rather. Strain it. And then go ahead. You can eat the okra out. I mean, your okra. Not raw okra. It doesn't matter. Thank you. Thank you.

40:50 Thank you. And it was great. Even better as my both medical professionals were looking at the numbers and they're like, well, Miss Gray, I don't know how you did it. I said, I didn't. I listened. And Miss Kay said carrot juice. You mentioned carrot juice as well. Sea moss, guys, if you want to age backwards, it has about like 99 vitamins in it. So you don't need to take a multivitamin. You can just take sea moss. Just find a raw vendor. Go to your flea market your farmer's market Go to your farmer's market and get your fresh vegetables from there. And fruit. I mean, I know you don't. I was on the phone with my limb loss connection group out in Canada. And I had to just share with them. They kept saying, what's the good news? You got any good news? And, you know, in the world of amputeeism, you know, most of the time that's laden with diabetes.

41:39 That's laden with, you know, heart issues and all kinds of stuff. And we just had a very productive meeting today. And I just told them about okra water. Like, can you put that in the group chat and tell us how we to take that? And I did it. Blood pressure. Your sugar. Blood sugar. That's the benefits of getting rid of diabetes unless you have the curable one because you have what? Which one was it? One of them is not curable. Yeah, type one is not curable. Yes. So it can reverse it as well. And of course, eating a balanced diet. And prayer. Still looking for watercress. No one seems to have it. Watercress. It's like a lettuce, isn't it? Isn't it like a lettuce? Watercress lettuce? I'm not sure. I know. Wait, look it up. Look it up here. Look it up there.

42:23 We got two minutes. We got two minutes. Talk to us, y'all. Talk to us. Where did you go? You don't know my phone. Move. No, please. No. Okay. Go there. And there it is. Why don't you use Android? Excuse me. See what I learned? I wouldn't know. See? I wouldn't know. I mean, iPhones. And I'm like, leave me alone. Oh, it's a vegetable. It's a vegetable. Yeah, it looks like lettuce. Okay, there it is. Yes, high fiber. Make sure you guys have 25 grams per day. Okay, makes sense. 25 grams of fiber per day to help with your digestive system. Because again, we are what we eat. And you're supposed to go to the bathroom every day. Yes. So if you're not- And do number two every day. I was a constipated child, believe it or not. Yeah, my mom. I had to go real raw and stuff.

43:09 I just have to be real here. I want you all healthy. It's not about the losing of the weight, but the weight has nothing to hold on to. It don't have the unhealthy, the negative and all that if it's not there, if you're not eating that stuff. Or if you're taking supplements, vegetables, healthy stuff on top of that to flush it. But you're supposed to go to the bathroom every day. Remember, 25 grams of fiber per day. So in every meal, you need to be having some type of fiber. Which is vegetable, right? Kiwis, apples, vegetables. Oh, did y'all do the Rosh Hashanah? Did you do your apples and honey? At that time this weekend, it's not too late. Get you some apples, slice it up, put some honey and ask God, please allow me to have.

43:51 This is a happy new year. Happy new year. And this is the time. And that's our time. I'm going to see you next week. Thank you all for holding the space for me tonight. Thank you for loving us. Thank you for praying for us. But we're going to see you next week. And y'all better be safe. And you better take care. Until then, music! Music Music Music Music Music so so