International Day of Peace

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FORCY Radio. Well, good evening, evening, Good evening, and welcome

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to another fantastic segment of Setting it
Straight with Miss Gray. I have the

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most awesome, awesome coasts. I'm
gonna introduce them that we got Miss tom

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Ay from all the way. I
don't think she's in the town a,

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but she is closely. He can
reach her and that's right. And then

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we have Tray. Of course,
she's around the way, she's out of

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the state, she's up there,
and I think we're gonna one day do

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a live broadcast from her neighborhood,
just standing outside of the house and just

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go at it. That's what we
do. Anyway, How are you all

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ladies, how are you all doing? Finding you wonderful all as well as

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well, all as well, let's
pray. Father, We just thank you

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and we praise you. We give
you glory from you alone are worthy to

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be praised. Yes, we thank
you, Father God, that for some

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of us we are celebrating our new
year, and we just thank you that

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we are expecting it to be sweet
and prosperous and ever learning and adventurous in

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you, Father God, because this
is a new year, this is a

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time that we've never seen before,
and people need to hear from you,

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Lord, So allow us to be
that vessel, those vessels to be able

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to owe the bridges to make those
connections. Father God, we stand behind

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the cross. We love you.
We pray openly for the people in Maui.

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We pray for the people in Libya. We pray for the people in

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Morocco. We pray for the people
in Canada, our international brothers and sisters.

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I can't even imagine what's going on
right now, because it half the

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time I don't believe us being said
in the news. But Father God,

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you sit high and look low,
send your angels to comfort them, to

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provide resources, and just have open
hearts and open minds to this traumatic event

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that we can't even imagine what they're
going through. We just we Lord,

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we thank you. We send prayers
out to them. We asked for angels

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to be alert and alarmed and activated. In the name of your son Jesus,

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we praying Amen and Amen. I
wanted to definitely talk about I mean

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just mentioned those countries, those countries
where you know, just unbelievable havoc and

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trauma has occurred, unbelievable, and
in most of those situations, nobody received

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a warning, nobody had no idea
they were really If you see some of

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the footage of Morocco, people were
just walking in the little market area like

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you know, like any other day, like any other day, and then

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a sudden, you see the clip
where people are not even knowing which way

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to run. People are trying to
find their loved ones and trying to connect

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it and they can't even look at
each other. And I can't imagine.

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I can't imagine the United States going
through that. I cannot imagine all of

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a sudden, we got a flooding, no alarm, no no alert,

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no anything, And I mean we've
not even had any practice drills for a

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flood. We've not even had a
practice drill for an earthquake. We've not

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had a practice drill for fires.
Beyond and being in the school and drop

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rolling run or drop rolling whatever you
have to do that, you know that

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little saying drop roll o, can
there you go? See if action oriented?

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You know, you gotta go,
you gotta go. But you know,

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again, I cannot imagine. I
can't walk in those shoes. I

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have no idea what that's like.
I can't even And then you know,

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we're still reeling from nine to eleven, you know, and I can't imagine

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that. I know I've got to
get on an airplane and I've got to

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be able to go somewhere soon and
I gotta go. We gotta go,

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And so I can't even imagine that. But at the same time, I

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can't imagine imagine seven dollars for gas
as they're experiencing in California. I can't

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imagine the shortages that are happening.
Are these hurricanes that are going and knocking

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out thousands of power. We've got
Nigel Lot there for him, and we

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don't know which way he's gonna go, and we can only do our best

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to collect and do what we know
to do. But when it hits,

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you know, we we can't even
imagine. So we're talking about the International

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Day of Peace. But how can
you have peace when you don't know what

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could happen? When you don't know
what's going to happen. I don't,

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we don't know to my I mean
the way they change laws around here today,

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you can go and get food and
everything else. There'll be no shortage.

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I mean they, I mean,
I don't know about you guys,

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but every time I go to the
grocery store, they got maybe four or

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five of those items. They don't
stop the shelves anymore. They don't.

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They don't, you know, have
an abundance out there. They wait until

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I saw the meat guy and I
was looking for some other meat, and

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I looked over and I saw like
the bend was just empty. And next

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thing you know, he came out. But he only had seven packets of

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hamburger meat. You only have three
packets, I'll smoke deck bones. I'm

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watching them, and so it's like
they're back there counting them. You know,

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Okay, just put seven out there. You got a whole case of

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space, you know, uh dollar
general, same thing. They're like,

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Okay, before they would have all
the trolleys in the aisles, you can't

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even get to your stuff. Now
they would have one trolley but has five

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different things on it. So like, you know, I don't know if

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they're told to ration things in the
back and only pull it out when the

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shelf is completely bare, I don't
know. It's a whole new set of

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rules and laws now that these companies
are applying on making or forcing or mandating

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their employees to adhere to. And
so my whole thing is, how can

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you have I mean, I can't
let me put it this way out.

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For those who don't know the Lord, and for those who are in constant

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working on your relationship with God,
it's hard for us to maintain peace because

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we don't know what tomorrow hols,
We don't know what would be expecting us.

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And so I can't even imagine those
who are trying their best to believe

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in a source and a God odd
and his son, Jesus and the Holy

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Spirit when you're faced with real life
stuff every day, and especially if you're

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not experienced his miracles, his supernaturalness. And you know, I was thinking

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about the show and everything, and
then ladies, I want you to come

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on in. You know, mental
peace, economic peace, family peace,

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familial peace, physiological the physiological impact
on your body. If you don't know

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how to calm yourself down, if
you don't if you live a life of

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anxiety, if you have lived with
trauma, your body is trying to figure

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out, okay, how do we
make this okay for this moment? And

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sometimes at the neuroplasty and everything else
is synapsing at the same it don't know

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which way to go. So then
you got that that you unleash upon us.

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Last week, I mean I went
just very few places, but it

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was not I mean I saw at
least one person talking on the phone,

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yelling on the phone. Looking at
the phone is that they can see people.

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They weren't doing a face to face
they they were just yelling. And

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I'm like, if I stand here, I wonder if for to make a

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difference, if they realize I'm standing
here and listening to this, You're about

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to go into the grocery store with
this. People go in there arguing with

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what they're gonna buy. We need
a day of peace. We need a

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moment of peace where you can quiet
yourself down. I always said, let

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me dial it back, because sometime
I'll be talking and I'll just be going

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out. I said, oh,
let me dialar back, let me dollar

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back, let me dillar back.
What did you call? What I call

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you for? Again? You know, because you could get so lost.

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I can hold three topics and one
phone call, we could have three or

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four topics. And I still like, now, that's not the reason why

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I called you. That's not the
reason, you know. Let me think,

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why did I call you? Oh? And sometimes I've had to hang

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up and say I'm gonna call you
back, And then I called back said,

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oh, I remember, you know, because not that, because I

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got a lot on my mind.
It's just that you want to get things

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out. You wanna, you know, express it and get it out.

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That while I was on your mind, and you know, oh this will

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be you know, I need to
call Trade and say and again, I

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was just thinking about the clothing drive, and I'm I meant to call Trade

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over the weekend, and I want
to call her during the week because I

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know she's on the you know that
nine to five. So I wanted to

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call totally forgot told me it went
right by my mind, and I watched

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it go I really did. I
watched it on day I was like,

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waltsed, what what's all the call
trade Valley again? Not domestic violence?

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Now that study got the show,
I know we got to show Monday.

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Well that's want to call her mouth. And it wasn't until I looked at

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the best you know, my clothes
are in a chair and I'm like,

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oh, the old you know,
the plus size clothing drive. I need

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to get on her about that.
Remind her about that and see how we

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can do that. Lord, do
I send the money through cash apps she

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go shopping or whatever. And then
right before we came on the show,

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Tommy's like, hey, whatever,
you want a seceimic clothes And I'm like,

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yeah, that's a good one.
That's it. Oh Lord, I'm

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mercy and trust me, I try
to. I cleared my phone and I

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cleared my mind too, you know. So, but thank you telling me,

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Thank you for being obedient and just
bringing that. God's gonna bless you

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for that, because seriously, I
thought about it this weekend and it just

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went on by. I don't have
classes on Saturday for the next two weeks,

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right, so I don't know what
to do with myself my Saturday.

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I'm just I just I'm be sitting
there, like, what about today?

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It's Saturday. I shouldn't been doing
something, but I ain't going out in

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public because everybody who are feeling too
well, they out there now, So

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I don't let go. Oh,
guys, we gotta go up to the

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grocery store on Sunday. I said, we gotta get get there before the

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Baptists get out of church. We
gotta go, And everybody and their mama

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was thinking the same thing. I
don't know. At first, Baptist didn't

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have a set up there, didn't
have service. I don't know what it

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was, or they went to the
eight o'clock service, I don't know.

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But everybody was out of church by
eleven, nobody there, nobody's water.

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They were at Public's on Clark Road, and I'm like, I had to

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circle the parking lot three times because
I wanted a handicap parking space. I

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said, these people like, I'm
over there. You ain't got your stuff

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yet. You didn't go in there
and get what you gotta get. What

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you're doing? Who are you talking
to doing there? It's not on the

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shop don't ask him if you could
go back in the back of chack.

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It's not they ain't gonna do that, don't anymore, you know. So

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you know, like, oh,
we gotta hurry. I come on,

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y'all, let's go right, everybody
divide and conquer. You know, I

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think no, Donald went with me. I think no. I don't know.

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I think I know Donald looked with
me, and I'm like, okay,

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let's go down. You go well, Mama, you no, don't

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talk to me, just go you
on the bread and the water is and

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you know how much water we need. So I get this is a real

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conversation in the middle of public.
So okay, I gotta get out of

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it. Everybody in the produce session, I'm trying to find the days tomatoes.

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Can't find the dace tomato, y'all
like dice the tomatoes in the car.

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Just get ahold. Let's get ahold
and get too. So then I

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had to teach Donald how to pick
a good tomato. And I had to

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teach them how to pick decent sweet
potatoes. And this this, this,

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this is not a good day for
teaching. But I got to and we

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one lady she's standing in front of
the bananas, and I'm like, which

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way are you going? Which?
Which way are you going? Because I

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gotta get around you. You ain't
supposed to be here all day. This

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is what you people in the parking
lot. The baskets are going. Jesus,

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you know what sit to And I'm
a funny person, you know,

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So I'm having I'm literally having this
conversation through my mask. You can hear

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what I'm saying. Where's she going? Where you going? Where you going?

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I gotta wid you go ahead because
you got a wide load. Just

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go around here, you know.
And if people are like, oh,

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somebody move, I gotta kid.
I'll watching the door. And here they

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come. They just like coming in. And I'm like, did they say

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we're gonna have a hurricane or something? Because everybody here today, I don't

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know why they here today? Before
eleven o'clock? Where's the and everybody keeps

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calling I'm gonna say this, and
ladies, I'm I'm muting myself because you

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know, that's the social work in
me. I can out, I can

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talk forever. But anyway, you
know, my thing is, I don't

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know if any churches are open anymore. I thought that some of them did

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open up, but obviously they not
and they have a service early because everybody

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came to the store one store and
I was debated, Joe, I go

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to the other. Somebody the other
store acting a little upity. They got

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whole new developments over there, so
you know their price is gonna be a

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little bit more. You gotta use
common sense. So I go to the

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regular publics and I'm like, oh
my god, where are these people?

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What am I? Oh? And
I was sweating like it was ground home

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day. I really was. I
was just like just water just dripping,

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and I was like, okay,
well, and I didn't paid the piper's

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house, so I'm doing this and
flicking people, you know, can I

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can I help you with that a
little bit? You know, military and

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some people get paid twice, oh
you know, twice a month. So

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that was around the fifteen. So
they were doing their weekend shopping and maybe

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they went to the eight o'clock service, Maybe they skipped church because they needed

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to go grocery shopping. But I
do want to say this in your behalf

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backing you up. I had to
go to the store, and I figured

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I'd go around two o'clock. Maybe
things would have subsided because I needed to

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go for my aunt and Peppo had
almost double basket full of food. And

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I kept asking myself, now,
you ain't coming up, leave going up

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the Boston. I'm in Baltimore.
So what Okay? I said, well,

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I just get in line and just
wait my turn. But you're right,

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You're still right. But the Day
of peace is September the twenty first,

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which is this coming Thursday. If
you want to acknowledge that day,

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No, we need to acknowledge it
now because people need peace. Now.

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I know it's this week. See
if we bring it up next Monday,

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it'd be too late because then everybody's
gonna go. So we could kind of

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give me an idea. We got
to find ways. And we keep talking

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to Trade. Trade keeps saying this
over and over. You've got to create

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waves. You've got to find ways. You've got to pursue ways. You've

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got to apply ways in this world. You got to come up with new

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habits the old ones didn't work or
they're not working. Okay, you got

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to really self assessment. I don't
know how many times, and we'll have

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to say it until we end the
show, because that's the best step.

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That's the first step. I've got
a problem. Second step. I don't

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like this me. I don't like
the fact that this this is why I

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respond or this is what i'm because
I remember when I was first separated and

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I was I was mad in the
sense I wasn't angry, but I was

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mad. I was snipping, and
I'm like, and I think the kids

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when the kids called me out on
and say, my one, what's wrong,

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and I'm like, Okay, y'all
are feeling something. I'm sensing something,

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and I was displacing. I was
transferring my feelings on my kids because

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I couldn't talk about it with anybody
else. So I'm like, oh,

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man, you know, and you're
married or not married, unmarried, friends,

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associates, they don't want to hear
it. They don't want to hear

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it coming from you, because you're
You're the pillar, You're the rock of

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Gibraltar. You have all the answers. And I'm like, no, who

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do I talk to? I need
I need somebody to help me calm down.

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I gotta wrap my head around this
because now I'm the head of my

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household, but I'm still legally married. That those two things don't mix to

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me, either I get divorced and
I get and there's not in my separation.

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No that what what am I supposed
to do? So I can only

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imagine the way the world is now. People don't want to work. But

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you've got bills, you have deadlines, you're supposed to making payments. What

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are you doing? What are you
doing? We went to Belie and I

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went to Eyehop and we saw a
manager from the former eye hoop that's closed

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and they didn't bulldozed the thing down. And I said, I know you

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don't remember, because I don't look
the same anymore. He said, no,

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ma'am, I remember that. I
remember you. I remember you and

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your kids. And he said,
people just he said, I'm really sorry.

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We're backed up. I mean people
was coming in the door, hit

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the little door hive and they're looking
around like, okay, there's so seats

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over there. And then the girl
said, I have nobody to watch this

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area. We're not serving this area. I said, well, we'll take

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the booth back there, and she
goes, okay, and then she's walking

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around. She goes, I'll be
right back with you. She goes,

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we can. I said, I
know you. I said, I'm sorry,

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you're in a hurry. You're gonna
need to slow down. She goes,

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I have to go wait on that
table. Then I said, okay,

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we'll just bring us some water and
me a beverage. And I'm like,

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okay, you don't have to give
me an attitude. Now, I

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know you're in a hurry, and
you don't only one walking the floor.

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I get it. The manager came
out, he was serving, and then

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he came he said, do you
need anything. I said, if we

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have extra napkins and paper forks and
stuff like plastic forests and stuff like that,

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hey, I got you. But
he had to come out from the

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back and come out of help.
So people came in with an attitude.

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You suposed to come in and be
a piece and and and enjoy your you

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eat your food. You can't even
be a piece trade what you're talking,

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Yeah, I was. I was
just thinking about I was in a training

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a while back, and I can't
remember what the training was or where I

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was training, but they were talking
about using opportunities of stale mate. So

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like if you're in traffic and you
know you're gonna ear in traffic, I

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mean because because people take road rage
to a whole different limit. There's no

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where anybody can blow go. You
don't need to blow the horn. You

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can't go, pat can't go through
the car in front of you, You

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can't back up into the car behind
you. Use that time to listen to

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some music, to some music that
is kind of soothing to you, to

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kind of relax, because I understand, and nobody wants to be in traffic.

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But fussing doesn't help, you know, people flicking the bird and people

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rolling down windows and fussing and cussing. You know. There was an incident

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actually in Virginia, and I think
it went viral on TikTok too. That

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gentleman pointing the gun he was riding
down or I don't know what. I

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don't understand the the history or the
background or why he did this. He

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had no reason to do a period
anyway. But the guy you roll down

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the window was pointing the pistol let
the driver. It was a African American

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female and she recorded him. But
I understand that he's been arrested, but

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I think he had. It might
have been another instance where he did this.

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And I'm thinking, where are you
going? People? I mean,

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where are you going. Why do
you feel you need to just roll the

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window down and point your your gun. Why do you feel you need to

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roll your window down and flick the
bird? What is that doing? And

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and and you look at too.
Sometimes you you know, people are trying

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to get go where they go,
and you're gonna zoom and duck in and

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out to get to the same stoplight. You know, it's like how you

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feel or not. Let you feel
foolish, And so people just need to

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slow down and breathe and take it
easy and think of some things, some

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pleasantries, put on some music that's
kind of common. You know, talk

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to something. Sometimes you can talk
to somebody, well, I got a

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little downtown. Let me call Susie
over here and use that as a time

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to to talk with somebody that you
know, you maybe haven't heard from in

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a while, and you just meant
to call them and you're not going in

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the way of traffic sitting you know, maybe talk with that person. But

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it's it's like people, I don't
know, it's like they've lost their mind.

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I said, what in the world
And just getting back to to you

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know what you were saying, Alicia, You know we are mental health providers

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and we do that, but I
I find it helpful to surround my purse

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myself with people that I can talk
to, that that I know, you

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know, would listen and you know, you get it. Some people say,

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you know, they don't want to
hear that, but I find people

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that do or that will. And
then and then I lay, I said,

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look, I hate to be in
your ear, but I'm really no,

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no, no, You're fine,
you know, And I'm just saying

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it to you all. If you
ever feel like you need to talk,

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please call me. Please please call
because you know, you never know what

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people go through and and you know, I I just you know, like

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sorry, I was not able to
get on the last you know, the

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last week's call. But you know, suicide is is is there? You

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know, young, old, black, white, it is there that it's

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it's it's no name. People are
just tired and and some people just feel

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like this, this is what I
need to do to kind of give myself

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together. And you know, I've
I've had close people that did that and

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I said, wow, and you
its second, guess what could I have

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done? You know, what did
I miss? Or you know, I

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wasn't around the person all the time, but every time a jovial and round

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folks and smiling and laughing and what
and wild just like that gone and so

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and I think just it's a lot
going on right now in this country,

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abroad and within the United States,
and it's in the saddening and it's disheartening

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and it's frustrating, and it could
cause anxiety, you know, anxiety levels

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increase, you know, the what
ifs and stuff like that. So that's

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what I would like to add.
I agate that go ahead. Oh,

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I'm sorry. I agree with you. It's everybody's doing such a rush and

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we do need to slow down.
We do need to have this day of

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peace today, tomorrow, all the
way through Thursday, even Friday, because

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everybody in this massive competition for what
like you said, you know, I've

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watched and I I think I used
to be one of those people that used

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to drive fast and swift, but
I've slowed down and it is so funny

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to me, and I'm quick to
be sitting in my car laughing because I'm

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like a Hi nanibu woo. You
ain't get no fun. But one car

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you wo, the only one in
front of me where you went were still

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at the same light, you know, and I just be laughing to myself,

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all right, and and yeah therapeutic, Yes it's funny. But it

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gives me a perspective of slowing down
and just watching, being observant, and

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it's it's hilarious, it really is. And to that, to that our

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heart, you know, the biggest
thing most restaurants says, we don't have

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enough staff. We don't have enough
staff, and I just can't figure out.

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And everybody is almost are at fifteen
thousand an hour, even though that

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don't put no din into no type
of budget or living expensive. But people

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say, we need to be paid
more. But I don't know if we're

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gonna get it this way by not
going to work. I don't. You

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can only stand on unemployment for so
long. So I'm not sure what the

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answer is. But just like you
said, train and it's great, you

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got to sit and talk about it. You gotta sit and talk about it

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because all that but they said pressure
can even bust a pipe. So all

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that built up in you and not
sharing it or getting it out, or

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maybe go your favorite spot and just
scream out loud, pray nobody don't look

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at you crazy, but you gotta
get it out, and I think that's

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what people need today and find you
some peace and word reading. A lot

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of people don't like to read.
If you say you can't sleep, read

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the bottle. It'll put you to
sleep and heartbeat, but at least you're

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reading some words you know, and
it's or just listen to it. I

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love when I was riding the train
going back and forth to work, I

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would put my phone and have my
head said in one ear and I would

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play the word, listening to the
word, just like tray say, take

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a moment if you're not calling somebody, find some pleasantry music or turn on

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the world or a book. Some
people like listening to a book. So

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there's ways you can calm and slow
yourself down. And once you do,

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when you start looking at people around, you start laughing just like I do,

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like wow, and like I love
to say, who nan nana boo?

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Book? Where you at? Where
you at? Yes, you're killing

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me with that nana booboo. I
haven't heard that in years, with the

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tongue sticking out and do it like
but you you know, And I'm listening

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too, because there is a place
I wanna say. It's in Virginia Beach,

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I want to say, And it
could be somewhere else, but I

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think it's called the Destruction Room.
I've never been, but it has a

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place stuff you just beat on.
You go in and they give your sledge

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hand or whatever and you just beat
on it as a as a stress reliever.

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How clever is that? You know? How clever is that? You

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know? But like I said,
you have to that you can turn a

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business into anything. Now you got
people doing balloon blowing up balloons and decorate

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and making arches and you know,
doing other stuff and doing videos. It's

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so many ways to be creative to
use your gifts. And I remember a

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while back when I was working with
smaller children and just exploring different things,

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especially with the anger. You remember
the when we were coming up the blow

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up punching bags. They wore you
hit it and they were about I mean,

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imagine that working with a child that
has our anger issue. You know,

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it's not gonna hurt you because it's
what plastic, but it's just kind

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of hitting back and to take diverts
your anger towards something that you can't hurt,

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you know, And it's a way
to take your anger. Look at

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your anger, go over there and
punch on that that whatever that is,

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that blow up doll. And when
you when you've gotten it out, then

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didn't come back and talk. So
it's create being creative to figure out what's

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gonna work well, Because I tell
you stress to take you out of here,

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it will take you away from here. And and just I'm just so

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very thankful, I tell you,
thankful and blessed and honor especially for YouTube

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ladies to being able to have as
a sounding board to have an opportunity like

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this where we can maybe enlighten and
set it straight with other folks that have

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Rebel in the background doing the magic
that she does. In my circle of

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people that I have family and friends
that I'm able to bounce things off and

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say, look, you know,
just not feeling my best today, and

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so and I and I feel bad
because there's some people that don't you know,

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But now is the time to kind
of look at a building relationships with

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people that you can do that too, because let me tell you, I

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see folks fussing on the phone and
yelling and cousin and I think, what

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the world and it's all he's doing, and I wonder what that person's blood

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00:31:30.640 --> 00:31:34.400
pressure is like I used to tell
my clients, your blood pressure is up,

410
00:31:34.440 --> 00:31:40.400
and the person you fussing that probably
not even phased by it, so

411
00:31:44.440 --> 00:31:52.400
they probably mute them. Yeah,
yeah, I mean, and you know,

412
00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:59.839
and as y'all were talking, you
know, one thing being a child,

413
00:32:00.759 --> 00:32:08.079
we don't worry about competition. One
of you mentioned competition. There's enough,

414
00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:15.720
there's enough plight, there's enough anguish, there's enough work out here.

415
00:32:16.240 --> 00:32:20.400
You don't ever have to worry about
being out of business no matter what you

416
00:32:20.480 --> 00:32:22.359
do. Really, to be honest
with you, that's one of the things

417
00:32:22.359 --> 00:32:27.880
that twenty twenty didn't allow for.
It open up the opportunity for creativity.

418
00:32:28.119 --> 00:32:34.279
More people have started their own businesses. I've see more lawn workers, their

419
00:32:34.359 --> 00:32:38.319
lawn care workers out there in their
Mercedes with the lawnmore in the Mercedes trunk.

420
00:32:39.680 --> 00:32:43.759
You know. I know more people
living in their car, making the

421
00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:50.400
decision to live in their cars just
to try to save money. I know

422
00:32:50.559 --> 00:32:53.240
of people who you know, So
you don't have to compete in God's kingdom,

423
00:32:53.240 --> 00:32:58.319
we don't compete, amen, Thank
you. Certainly should be natural to

424
00:32:58.319 --> 00:33:04.920
be compassionate. Yeah you would think, you would think, but you know,

425
00:33:05.000 --> 00:33:07.400
there's enough work out here. And
another thing, you're you're not planning.

426
00:33:08.359 --> 00:33:13.160
You need to plan things. One
of the kids that said something,

427
00:33:13.240 --> 00:33:15.160
I said, what y'all need to
be doing when we were celebrating Roscha Shan

428
00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:19.839
and the other night, I said, you need to be planning. I'm

429
00:33:19.880 --> 00:33:22.119
not gonna get I'm not here to
give you all ideas. Yeah, I

430
00:33:22.160 --> 00:33:23.160
can tell you, you know what
you should do this because I know about

431
00:33:23.160 --> 00:33:25.039
your gifts. I could you should
do this? No, no, no,

432
00:33:25.480 --> 00:33:29.200
what is it that you want to
do? Where do you see yourself

433
00:33:29.240 --> 00:33:31.480
in the next three months? Forget
about three years, let's go three months

434
00:33:31.880 --> 00:33:37.000
from now to December. Everybody,
all the consulting people are talking about this

435
00:33:37.000 --> 00:33:39.119
is the last quarter. You know, we're in the fourth quarter, and

436
00:33:39.200 --> 00:33:42.680
now what you do? And you
know, most people don't. I mean

437
00:33:42.759 --> 00:33:46.440
I get where they're going, but
most people have still in the first quarter.

438
00:33:46.839 --> 00:33:51.519
They still at the top of the
year. And you know, guess

439
00:33:51.559 --> 00:33:55.839
what, guys, student loans is
being activated. Repayment is being activated as

440
00:33:55.839 --> 00:34:00.839
a tomorrow. So if you got
they're already telling you on the news,

441
00:34:00.960 --> 00:34:05.599
contact your provider, you know,
and see if you can make a payment

442
00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:10.760
payment plan who knows what they've been
deciding behind closed doors, so we don't

443
00:34:10.800 --> 00:34:15.199
know how that's gonna look. And
then, as you were talking again,

444
00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:21.239
just a little commercial here. They
had fifty calls at the football game this

445
00:34:21.280 --> 00:34:24.559
weekend, at the one of the
major league football games because people were falling

446
00:34:24.599 --> 00:34:30.880
out because of heat exhaustion. Fifty
calls at one of the games. That's

447
00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:37.159
just a commercial. But what if
we've got these variants on the rise?

448
00:34:38.800 --> 00:34:43.400
I know they they they rushed,
the three big boys, rushed to get

449
00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:49.199
your vaccine out there. But what
if we're heading put another shot down.

450
00:34:52.000 --> 00:34:55.119
You didn't get you haven't gotten things
together. Now, you haven't gotten things

451
00:34:55.159 --> 00:35:00.360
together, says twenty twenty you who
don't want to work anymore, or which

452
00:35:00.440 --> 00:35:02.880
I don't understand. Now, how
can't you have the latest iPhone and a

453
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:07.840
nice you know, twenty twenty twenty
twenty one vehicle I do not know.

454
00:35:09.280 --> 00:35:13.239
And you got student loans probably and
they're getting rid of to tap you.

455
00:35:14.440 --> 00:35:19.039
What if now you here you can
go to work. I wish I was

456
00:35:19.079 --> 00:35:23.079
not disabled. Oh my god,
there are several jobs I would do,

457
00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:28.960
and not even being the therapist,
not being in my office, I would

458
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:31.440
go I probably wouldn't even do case
management. I go work at the office

459
00:35:31.440 --> 00:35:34.599
depot. It looks like they have
fun over there. I don't know why.

460
00:35:34.679 --> 00:35:37.519
And it's part time, you know, and I may get nine and

461
00:35:37.559 --> 00:35:39.800
attend. I would get over fifteen
dollars an hour. I would tell you

462
00:35:39.880 --> 00:35:44.199
that. Okay, we you know, but you know, I wish I

463
00:35:44.199 --> 00:35:45.639
could go because I'm like, oh
my god, look at the jobs.

464
00:35:47.239 --> 00:35:50.679
But what's gonna happen when we should, if we should, should we ever

465
00:35:50.760 --> 00:35:53.199
shut down again? What happens if
we can if Nigel decides to make a

466
00:35:53.239 --> 00:36:00.760
turn and come through Florida, ripping
it trees at all? How we're out

467
00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:04.719
for three days? What we're gonna
do? You we can't move, we

468
00:36:04.719 --> 00:36:12.920
can't go nowhere. You know,
I agree with you because I'm thinking that

469
00:36:15.239 --> 00:36:21.920
we didn't learn enough from the first
time. And you know, God is

470
00:36:22.039 --> 00:36:27.119
a god of second chance, and
maybe he's getting ready to take us back

471
00:36:27.159 --> 00:36:32.639
there again. Because they Biden hadn't
said it, but you know, news

472
00:36:32.679 --> 00:36:39.119
media tries to speculate what's coming up
and what's getting ready to happen. And

473
00:36:39.239 --> 00:36:49.840
due to the fact that Jill Biden
called COVID, they were talking about him

474
00:36:49.840 --> 00:36:53.519
shutting it down again. I don't
know how true it is, but we

475
00:36:53.639 --> 00:37:00.239
need to get prepared. We need
to get ready. And that's just saying,

476
00:37:00.239 --> 00:37:05.079
like I was telling Miss Gray,
it's time out, that got to

477
00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:09.519
go, that has to leave.
We don't have no place here. So

478
00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:16.119
we're getting on a different mindset right
now, so that whatever happened, we'll

479
00:37:16.199 --> 00:37:22.360
be prepared. And I'm not saying
this year, but who's to say what's

480
00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:27.840
gonna happen next year? And we
can't planning for tomorrow. Because my aunt

481
00:37:27.960 --> 00:37:35.440
taught me something very important. She
said, let me borrow two dollars today

482
00:37:35.920 --> 00:37:43.039
and remind me tomorrow that tomorrow i'll
pay you back. And I said,

483
00:37:43.320 --> 00:37:46.519
okay. She said, but then
tomorrow calm and you say, hey,

484
00:37:46.800 --> 00:37:52.360
it's tomorrow, you're supposed to pay
me back my two dollars. She said,

485
00:37:52.400 --> 00:37:54.840
But uh uh, today, it's
today. It's not tomorrow. It's

486
00:37:54.880 --> 00:38:00.760
today, she said. So when
you think about it, tomorrow never comes.

487
00:38:00.840 --> 00:38:08.480
It's only you have is today.
So you have to be mindful that

488
00:38:09.159 --> 00:38:15.400
we can't plan for tomorrow. We
can, like me grad say, we

489
00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:19.239
can plan I'm t I take that
back. We can plan for tomorrow,

490
00:38:20.039 --> 00:38:25.880
but we need to finish today.
We need to finish today because tomorrow is

491
00:38:25.960 --> 00:38:31.880
not promised. We can try to, you know, well, tomorrow I

492
00:38:31.880 --> 00:38:36.599
can do this, this and this
and this, but today I need to

493
00:38:36.639 --> 00:38:42.960
take care of this, this and
this. So you just gotta be mindful

494
00:38:43.079 --> 00:38:47.360
of your surroundings, the things you
get into, what's available to you.

495
00:38:47.960 --> 00:38:57.119
How can you progress as you're going
forward, but you don't bank on tomorrow

496
00:38:57.480 --> 00:39:05.960
because you got today to clean it
up. Amen to that. Amen.

497
00:39:06.239 --> 00:39:16.440
And we can only encourage you.
We can only share what we've been there,

498
00:39:16.480 --> 00:39:21.559
done that we have the receipts we
were able to come, you know,

499
00:39:21.639 --> 00:39:25.519
become victorious because the Bible says we
have the victory. We won't see

500
00:39:25.559 --> 00:39:30.159
it until sometimes we're in it and
we're experiencing it. But we have the

501
00:39:30.280 --> 00:39:37.280
victory. And I'm assured by that. But you've got to take some action.

502
00:39:37.400 --> 00:39:43.599
You've got to take some responsibility because
they're no more handouts anymore. All

503
00:39:43.639 --> 00:39:49.000
the stimulus moneys and stuff like that. We don't have any available because your

504
00:39:49.000 --> 00:39:53.800
president is sending it overseas and everywhere
else to get you know, involved involving

505
00:39:53.880 --> 00:39:57.320
us in wars and things like that. And we can go on on and

506
00:39:57.320 --> 00:40:01.639
on and on. You know,
you got to take responsibility and you've got

507
00:40:01.639 --> 00:40:07.840
to want change. If you don't
want change, then I'm not talking to

508
00:40:07.840 --> 00:40:12.039
you. We're not talking setting it
straight. It's not for you. It's

509
00:40:12.039 --> 00:40:15.400
not for you. If you're not
ready to change, if you don't see

510
00:40:15.440 --> 00:40:19.239
that there's a need for change,
and you definitely don't see where it should

511
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:22.880
start with you, then we're you
know, we're not for you. We're

512
00:40:22.960 --> 00:40:27.000
not the show for you, because
we're about no. Pull up your own

513
00:40:27.039 --> 00:40:30.519
bootstraps, put your suspenders on.
Get find the right shoe so they won't

514
00:40:30.599 --> 00:40:35.519
hurt your feet. Let's go,
let's give get let's unclutter your closets,

515
00:40:36.400 --> 00:40:38.639
and we've got a clothing drive there's
about to go on. We got a

516
00:40:38.679 --> 00:40:43.960
food drive that'll be going on.
You could certainly just pay attention some of

517
00:40:43.960 --> 00:40:47.360
the I know my at my at
one of my banks, uh my managers

518
00:40:47.400 --> 00:40:52.199
like she was collected food for another
food d our food drive initiative, and

519
00:40:52.239 --> 00:40:57.440
she goes the customers don't even see
the bin. There's a barrel in the

520
00:40:57.440 --> 00:41:04.000
bank and nobody sees it. It's
right there with a big sign. Nobody

521
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:06.239
sees it. So when I came
in, I said, oh, shoot,

522
00:41:06.519 --> 00:41:08.039
let me. I thank god it
was a family dollar in the parking

523
00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:10.840
lot. I went straight over there, grabbed some you know, just just

524
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:14.840
took something. And then Lord was
telling me, get the type of desserts

525
00:41:15.039 --> 00:41:17.159
for kids school lunches. That's what
I was getting. And I was like,

526
00:41:17.199 --> 00:41:21.239
okay, little packets of treats and
things like that they could open up

527
00:41:21.239 --> 00:41:22.800
and eat real quick, or they
could eat on the way home and stuff

528
00:41:22.840 --> 00:41:25.880
like that. So I, you
know, and I went back to the

529
00:41:25.880 --> 00:41:29.800
bank and the bank manager said,
you know what, thank you so much.

530
00:41:30.440 --> 00:41:31.039
You didn't have to do this.
I said, oh, yes,

531
00:41:31.119 --> 00:41:34.800
I did, because did you get
anybody? Are there any can and the

532
00:41:34.880 --> 00:41:37.360
collections? And she said no,
because most of the time, she's why

533
00:41:37.360 --> 00:41:40.480
I pointed out people like I,
I didn't see it. There's a barrel

534
00:41:40.679 --> 00:41:47.360
in the bank and it's only that
two or three times a year. So

535
00:41:47.559 --> 00:41:51.280
you're you're coming. You know,
you got so much going on here.

536
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:53.960
We got cobwebs, you got old
issues that you've not resolved. You've got

537
00:41:53.960 --> 00:41:58.400
old memories that you're bringing again.
That's why your flesh is not your friend.

538
00:41:58.679 --> 00:42:07.480
If you're spiritually hey, if it's
spiritually you know, trying to really

539
00:42:07.559 --> 00:42:10.920
grow and get things together there because
of the fact that you know you you

540
00:42:12.039 --> 00:42:20.280
got You're still thinking about what happened
yesterday. Deal with today you shouldn't be

541
00:42:20.320 --> 00:42:22.480
bringing And we're gonna be talking about
more about trauma and what that looks like

542
00:42:22.519 --> 00:42:28.000
in trauma informed services, this trauma
inform care, this trauma inform practices,

543
00:42:28.280 --> 00:42:34.159
this trauma informed responses, responsiveness.
We're gonna talk about that because that's what

544
00:42:34.199 --> 00:42:38.239
I'm learning in school now. But
trauma, you know you you want.

545
00:42:38.360 --> 00:42:43.039
Some people are not letting go of
the past. The past is gone.

546
00:42:44.719 --> 00:42:49.360
Yes it hurt, Yes, it
wasn't a fair, Yes there was no

547
00:42:49.519 --> 00:42:53.559
justice. Yes if only I told
who I thought loved being would care for

548
00:42:53.599 --> 00:42:57.960
me and protect me, and they
act like they didn't. Yes, we

549
00:42:58.280 --> 00:43:05.159
know, But what about today?
What have you missed out on in life

550
00:43:06.039 --> 00:43:12.880
because you were stuck back there?
This is setting it's straight. Be real

551
00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:15.679
with yourself. The Bible says,
judge yourself so you won't be judged.

552
00:43:16.000 --> 00:43:22.039
I just paraphrase it as check yourself
so you won't be checked. Find your

553
00:43:22.119 --> 00:43:27.159
inner peace. Find you've got to
find it. You don't even know who

554
00:43:27.159 --> 00:43:30.559
you are because of all that you've
gone through and you've not settled, and

555
00:43:30.760 --> 00:43:34.400
just like I was, I don't
know if this trailer telling me saying go

556
00:43:34.519 --> 00:43:37.760
someplace and scream, that's what I
tell my court ordered people that I see.

557
00:43:38.000 --> 00:43:43.239
After it's all over, after your
probation officer has closed your case,

558
00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:46.519
now wait about forty five days,
because closing the case is not expunging it.

559
00:43:46.599 --> 00:43:50.280
It don't get rid of it.
You're gonna have to get a lawyer.

560
00:43:50.280 --> 00:43:52.599
You're gonna have to pay separate.
You're probably being over two thousand dollars,

561
00:43:52.599 --> 00:43:57.840
but the lawyer to do just that, erase your record. But after

562
00:43:57.920 --> 00:44:01.440
it's all done, I need you
to go someplace by yourself, a place

563
00:44:01.559 --> 00:44:07.360
preferably that you can scream or run
around or fall in the dirt and roll.

564
00:44:07.840 --> 00:44:13.079
But get it out and wait until
it's all over. Now, you

565
00:44:13.079 --> 00:44:15.159
don't want to be nothing to trying
to trip you up or the propations I'm

566
00:44:15.199 --> 00:44:17.519
saying. You didn't pay all your
fee, so you're under arrest. You

567
00:44:17.559 --> 00:44:21.079
don't come on, we got a
reward for your arrest. Because that's how

568
00:44:21.119 --> 00:44:22.639
quicker it turns around. Oh you
didn't do this class, we didn't get

569
00:44:22.639 --> 00:44:25.920
the certificate. All kinds of things. Whatever. Oh, you're getting a

570
00:44:25.920 --> 00:44:30.440
car accident because you're racing because you
you you were held up at the house

571
00:44:30.639 --> 00:44:34.360
and you're trying to get to the
job and you get there and you end

572
00:44:34.440 --> 00:44:39.440
up in a car accident, causing
somebody else to be in a car accident.

573
00:44:42.079 --> 00:44:49.039
Your day is wiped at this point
because your car is total. What

574
00:44:49.079 --> 00:44:53.199
did what? What helped? How
did it? How was it better that

575
00:44:53.280 --> 00:45:01.079
you're racing because you're late, because
you need to take control of your home.

576
00:45:04.400 --> 00:45:07.400
You need to take and you can
do that. There's never a good

577
00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:15.239
time to start but today, but
today, and children mimic what they see,

578
00:45:16.039 --> 00:45:20.719
because I've had a lot of kids
in therapy who said, well,

579
00:45:20.760 --> 00:45:23.639
she did it and she was all
right. I even had an adult young

580
00:45:23.719 --> 00:45:29.280
man come to me for substance abuse
because he was smoking marijuana at least when

581
00:45:29.280 --> 00:45:31.760
he pulled him over and they can
smell it. It was a former colleague

582
00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:35.800
of mine who said, can you
see him? And she came to the

583
00:45:36.000 --> 00:45:39.519
therapy with him, which and I
know she regretted because when started talking about

584
00:45:39.559 --> 00:45:43.360
her substance use, he looked at
her and said, well, you did

585
00:45:43.400 --> 00:45:50.880
it. And I'm sitting there like
and I can't make a face. I

586
00:45:50.920 --> 00:45:57.480
can't make a face. But he's
right, He's right. I got people

587
00:45:57.719 --> 00:46:00.599
out there vaping because their girlfriend,
their boyfriend do it, and all their

588
00:46:00.639 --> 00:46:04.719
friends do it. So I will
try it. And I'm drinking coffee too,

589
00:46:05.239 --> 00:46:07.840
So you have no reason. You
had no interest, but because of

590
00:46:08.000 --> 00:46:12.039
who you are around and you so
madly in love. But you know your

591
00:46:12.079 --> 00:46:15.440
girlfriend got just as many issues as
you do, a lot of a big

592
00:46:15.480 --> 00:46:19.119
traumatic past, and she's never dealt
with you. I'm trying to help you

593
00:46:19.199 --> 00:46:22.280
deal with in these few hours that
were together. So you maybe and you

594
00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:24.960
doing whatever, you're doing it just
because everybody else doing it. Like I

595
00:46:25.000 --> 00:46:30.480
said, the liquor is flying off
the shelf at publics most upon a time,

596
00:46:30.480 --> 00:46:35.199
people have one bottle of wine and
they in their cart they got four

597
00:46:35.239 --> 00:46:38.599
and five bottles. I'm like,
and you don't don't ask them if they're

598
00:46:38.599 --> 00:46:40.599
gonna have a party, because I
don't really want to know. I really

599
00:46:40.639 --> 00:46:45.679
don't want to know. So here
we're here today on the this is the

600
00:46:45.719 --> 00:46:52.000
week of International Day of Peace,
and you will see what's going on internationally

601
00:46:52.400 --> 00:47:02.559
within four countries. Total devastation,
total devastation. Don't forget don't forget Ukraine.

602
00:47:04.119 --> 00:47:06.719
Yeah, are they still in the
war because they don't talk about him

603
00:47:06.719 --> 00:47:12.400
anymore? He was yesterday money for
guns. But they're still in the war.

604
00:47:12.679 --> 00:47:14.519
Okay. See, I didn't even
know who was winning. I did

605
00:47:14.599 --> 00:47:16.119
a survey and they said, well, who do you think it's gonna win?

606
00:47:16.360 --> 00:47:19.559
I said, oh, they're still
going on. It's still going on

607
00:47:20.519 --> 00:47:24.079
because the news is covering other stuff. And then I also heard, just

608
00:47:24.199 --> 00:47:30.239
heard somebody shot somebody the neighbor.
Another one just shot a neighbor. I

609
00:47:30.480 --> 00:47:35.760
don't know. I don't people stop. You gotta stop, you gotta stop

610
00:47:37.960 --> 00:47:43.559
if you're acting like this. And
we don't have any catastrophes going on right

611
00:47:43.599 --> 00:47:46.800
now. We don't have any natural
disasters going on right now. We don't

612
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have any wars going on right now, we don't have making you know,

613
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like I said, natural disasters are
nine elevens going on right terrorist attacks not

614
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right now. But you're acting like
this, what's gonna happen? What's gonna

615
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happen? What do we do?
Then? So ladies, y'all finish up.

616
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We got two more minutes. Well, I think it's just so much

617
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going on in home, you know, not necessarily on the national level,

618
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but on a family level, the
community level, and just you know,

619
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finding ways that if you see something
that you just it just bothers, you

620
00:48:30.400 --> 00:48:32.239
find a way or figure out a
way that what do you think that you

621
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can do to make a difference?
And like I said, a kind word

622
00:48:36.559 --> 00:48:39.719
goes a long way, you know
it. Someone spoke, I said,

623
00:48:40.480 --> 00:48:43.800
how are you today? Fine?
Thank you for asking? How are you

624
00:48:43.840 --> 00:48:46.360
gus to fine? Thank you for
asking? And so it whole, it

625
00:48:46.400 --> 00:48:51.679
starts a whole different conversations. So
the kindness beat. And that's why I

626
00:48:52.039 --> 00:48:59.840
want to say, I agree with
you being kind, showing a smile,

627
00:49:00.159 --> 00:49:08.280
encouraging the positive of like a cashier's
probably mad because she's working over time or

628
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whatever the case. Nobody wants to
come and work. You know what,

629
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girl, are gonna give me a
smile, It's gonna be all right.

630
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Think about that check. You know, give us some some encouragement, because

631
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encouragement is strongly needed in a positive
way. And that's what I can say

632
00:49:29.159 --> 00:49:34.679
for who have I come there or
come by? I was I went to

633
00:49:34.760 --> 00:49:37.760
CBS, one of my local ones, and then young I didn't see the

634
00:49:37.519 --> 00:49:40.920
young cashier and she's down the aisle
we're gonna we're gonna close in a second.

635
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But she's like, oh my god, where have you mad? And

636
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so other customers are turning around.
I say, where have you been.

637
00:49:45.280 --> 00:49:49.199
I've been here. I didn't see
you got some new faces up there at

638
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the register. She said, well, I'm okay. I said, how

639
00:49:51.840 --> 00:49:55.079
you doing and she said I'm I'm
I'm hanging in there. I said,

640
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push, just push, Tomorrow will
come. We'll see you next week,

641
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same time. Safe station, y'all, Stay safe, God bless Bye bye y'all.