Intl Caregiver & Guardian Month

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1:18 Well, good evening, good evening, good evening, and welcome, Welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome, Hallelujah to his name, hallelujah. Thank you, thank you for joining us tonight, Monday night. We only got a couple of more Mondays to go. The month is over, it's done, it is done. But anyway, let's pray first and then we're gonna get right at it. Father God, we just love you so much and we thank you, we praise you. Lord. You are just you're just blowing my mind as always. You are arriving and doing what you do best. You are taking care of us. You're telling us that you love us. You're making ways. Out of no way. We just thank you, Father. This is your opportunity to speak to your people tonight. You are free to speak to your people tonight and do what one of the many things you do best, and that's set us free.

2:05 So we're gonna get behind the cross, We're gonna lean in, we're gonna self assess, we're gonna take accountability, take responsibility, and grow in you tonight. We love you so much. All this and more we ask in Jesus name, Amen, Amen and amen, hallelujah, hallelujah. Well, tonight is just just an awesome opportunity. I'm just you know, Okay, she's flying back. Okay, hang on just a second, flying back in just a bit. Okay, they're still at the airport. They meaning my taekwondo instructor, say hun, Melissa Michelle, I'm sorry, I want to call him Melissa Michelle, Chris Golino, chrisco.

2:49 They she just took a crew about. Five students, five or six students to Puerto Rico to Taekwondo Competition Championship is a c CHI World championship in Puerto Rico, and they brought home four gold for silver and two bronze medals. That's what I'm talking about, come on now. And I just texted her to tell her we're gonna do a shout out tonight, and she said, we're getting ready to get on the plane. We're flying back in a bit, so I thought she was already back here. But praise God, I am. We praying. I prayed that. You know, they'll be safe getting there, they'll be safe while they're there. They do what they do and come on back. So we're just thankful and giving them, giving God praise and and honor, and you know, only God can do this.

3:34 And it's just it's just so night talking about family, and tonight we're gonna be talking about National Family and Guardian Caregivers. It's the month for that, so we're gonna talk about that. But before I do that trade trade check in. You're doing well up there? Yes, I am, I really am. Do you have a lot of how are your clients there? Are they they are they are they. Overreacting just what's going on in the world, or are they just coming in taking care their family and you know, being you know, not too overly anxious or you know, uptight about things. But the client til I work the clientele I work with. Now they're they're kind of oblivious to a lot of that. They're more I D d D now intellect you disabled and developmentally disabled. So there're a lot of blivious but it's it's you know, staff, staff is you know. I think they got a lot of stock going on and family.

4:27 Family know what the shutdown. So now it's open, so people are kind of. Yeah, because they got to get people get things back. Miss k How's how's the campus life? If you're winding down and getting ready for the holiday, they're gonna let you out for a week or what they're doing with that old school doing because it used to be we out, we were out Thanksgiving week. Friday would be our last day and we were out for the week. And we came back a following Monday, Tuesday. We do have exams next week, but yeah, we're out on they're doing nasty. They just this is they don't have to do all that. They don't have to do all that. Y'all are one, not you. But the school. You're the one that sits there and determines that calendar and so many things have changed. I just heard our president Trump is bringing Columbus Day back, so that's gonna be a school day out next year, you know. So you know, but y'all just doing doing, y'all putting so much anxiety on these students, and they have enough to worry about to get the projects in, making sure that you know, the canvas is working so they can upload.

5:28 And all that kind of stuff. Hey, thank you missed it. Good evening with them a win, yes, yes, yes, and prayerfully, best of luck on a exam. Thinking Mickey, Mickey, yes, she she she's. Got a nice routine down and stuff like that. Kind of remind me of myself a little bit, but she get at it. She Oh, no, I got to study. It's like, okay, all right, let's see you all right, you know. But God is good. God is good, I tell you. I don't even know where to start, but I do want to continue. We want to continue praying about Money's being released. I just saw I think it's just a minor tabloid saying that Trump is not going to release anything until next year.

6:13 Now, the devil is a liar. He will be releasing it this year. And I don't know what God's desires are, but I know, my desire and some of our desires, we want to get it before Thanksgiving, and all he has to do is put it into law and just you know, come to other armored trucks. Back it up. Take this money to IRIS. Is going to be a hard exam season and a station. A little bit. I mean, every well, all my other exams has been pretty okay. It's just sometimes what they require us to study is not on the exam, so we kind of be you know, blindsided a little bit sometimes. But yeah, and it's okay with their study guide structures and stuff like that for the most part.

6:58 Some of it is majority of it the test. But wow, her, when I was a college professor, whatever I told you the first first few weeks, what we studied, first few chapters, what we studied that would be on your first exam. What we're gonna study next is going to be on your mid term exam. In some cases most of the time, I didn't even know. Because social sciences it's similar to psychology. There's a lot of memorization, a lot of terms. The theorists that you know propose the terms. You know, it's a lot of that included. So I dare I don't think I ever really gave an all inclusive final exam. I didn't think that was fair.

7:39 So whatever we were studying on those last few chapters right leading up to the final, that's what that's what you studied. That's what the test testing material was. So you know these these you know these schools, uh well, some particular schools, some particular colleges. I mean you just if I had my way, Yeah, you all wouldn't even be in business because more anxiety. Lee was telling me about accidents in the parking garage and all kinds of stuff. Kids are not even looking, they're just backing out and all that kind of stuff, you know, and y'all are imposing that you you, you professors are responsible, You teachers, you presidents of the. Departments, you head of the departments and stuff, y'all, y'all the calls. Of that, Hey La k Tennessee check it in, amen. Yeah.

8:23 So, preferly getting back to the Taekwondo a c you know, and and her organ her nonprofit stands for a Charity Empowered to Save Souls is ACEE t s S. Preferly, I'm I've already been talking to my medical team. I'm like, this is not going away. You need to you know, we're gonna be taking a look at my numbers and making sure things are you know, inflammation is getting out of me and stuff like that. But I said, I got to get back. I got to get back, so preferly next year this time. Well, I'm not sure if we'll be on in October November, but you'll hear some kind of way. Oh yeah, it's great with the Porto Rico, and I brought back the goal. You know, doing something because I got I gotta get back into it.

9:05 That's my balancing piece of me. I gotta get back to it. So but anyway, so continue to pray Continua bombard Heaven, okay, because there's a whole lot of other stuff that needs to be you know, ironed out and made sense, made to make sense and and and. Voted on and all this kind of stuff. And now you possibly you got New Yorkers being encouraged to move to Florida because the new governor's Muslim, of the Muslim practice, And I'm like, oh Jesus, we don't need we have no more room in Florida. If you're coming to Orlando, the central Florida we. Have no more room. We are beyond the gold to reach, yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am. Now we we don't have room. We're already people houses.

9:47 They're building houses on top of each other. Now in the back room, going in the backyard, I could see, you know, you could see the person in the kitchen in their bathroom. No, we we have no more room in central Florida. Now, if you want to go on the outskirts of central Florida, Palm Beach County has no room. You're heading south Miami for lorda, they bocam. They have no room. So don't come here. Stay on the top half of you know, Tallahasset, Panama City, up up that way, you know. But or go someplace else. Don't come to Florida. I mean, we don't have nothing. And those people don't. Native New Yorkers don't drive most of the time. Now you got to drive when you come to Florida. And then you can't act act ugly when you come here because but anyway, yeah, but continue to bombard heaven, believe in God.

10:36 Like I said for me, I can speak for me and my house, or we want the money before Thanksgiving. I can't speak for everybody else. I'm not here telling God what to do and how to do it. We're just saying God, any day now, we know that you can do it, and I want it from a bigger pot of money, because there's two big pots of money out there that they found extra money for so and there'll be enough to throw at the terror, I mean, our deficit. So there, I got that off my chest. But anyway, tonight we want to talk about uh, you know, a Family and Guardian Caregivers Month, and hats off to anybody. I my heart goes out to people who adopt children because we turn out okay, and uh, we're a little different, but you know, with love and care and that you want us, you know, it makes a difference. And then you may have to get us into some counseling too, because there's a hole. And kids that are in foster care there is a hole because they feel that they've been abandoned, they've been rejected. There is a hole and the devil will play on that. And you know, especially when you've got kids out there being you know, shuffled from home to home and you know, and stuff like that, and people going into foster care just to get a check and all that kind of nonsense. And we're gonna, I'm telling you what, hopefully with the old hauls that are coming on all major systems, we're gonna it's gonna be eradicated. It's gonna be cut out. I'm telling you, it is going to be cut out. So but we got, you know, we've got caregivers in all kinds of categories.

12:05 We've got those of us who have aging parents that that we take care of, whether you live with them or not. We've got, of course, you know of the foster care system. We've got the representative payee system. When you've got that loved one that you know can't handle their money, so you go Social Security will make you the representative payee so on their checks. That will be deposited in their account. It's a joint account. We've got all kinds of And I don't know why the Lord had me to I sat back and because the rest of the title of the show is National Family and Guardian Caregivers Month Poland when caring and self care cross contaminates. When caring and self care crosses, because most of the time, most of your caregivers don't care, don't take care of themselves.

13:00 Most of the. Time, even if you've got another sibling in the family, they don't come to your rescue. They get as far away as they can because they don't want to be bothered until the person unfortunately passes away, and if there's any type of excuse me, asset are left over, then. They show up. And I got a problem with that, But nevertheless, I had to protect our family home and things like that from my family member and other family members who knew that my mom at Alzheimer's and would not remember that they were there earlier in the day stealing stuff out of our home. My hats off to those who take on that responsibility. At the same time, you've got to take care of yourself. They need to assure kids and foster care that they are loved and no matter what they matter.

13:49 You're absolutely right missing, You're absolutely right. They need to. Okay, yeah, they You're absolutely right. And that's the last thing that we were thinking about as a As a child, you want to you know, you're hoping you're watching u people coming in and your roommate is going to the office, and then your roommate is packed up the suitcase and then they're gone. Because they get it. They're getting to be placed and then they're getting to put the the adoption is going forward, and you know, you know, I was watching something and uh, hello, hey, elijanis Tennessee. Uh you got to let you know, these folks that's been in these systems know that you care.

14:33 At the same time that it would be helpful to get them therapy. So if you're already in front of the judge, you know, trying to get the process you need to, it would be good to have the judge to put it in writing in the court order actually that they could get eight weeks of counseling at some point as soon as possible, because it's hard to explain I'm looking at thinking I was looking at something on Facebook. All these all of the school you know, teachers teaching in middle and elementary schools are quitting and they're crying because they said, the kids are out of control. We just don't. Understand whether this anger is coming from, whether this disrespect is coming from. And there's a whole lot to answer to that. There's a whole lot not saying that those kids were in shelters or whatever the case may be, that some of those kids are living in their cars with their parents.

15:23 They're living in their vehicles. They're maybe going from shelter to shelter. Right now, we got a lot of motel living right now. People are in. Motels and they go from motel to motel, and I'm like, ohm, like I can't I can't even imagine that. But I know that once upon a time, when I was married to my second husband, I'm like, I want I should have gone to I wanted to go to a shelter, but my oldest son was like over twelve years old, and shelters are not gonna take male children over twelve. So I knew that already. And so you know, you just you suffer it. You suffer it. I suffered in silence, but you know it came out, Okay.

16:03 Now everybody have those opportunities. I did go live with this lady one week and she well, two weeks. I think we're with her two weeks. And this lady was from you know where, and it was just like she was just weirded out. I don't know. I thought she was just nice. Met her at a PTA meeting. She was always friendly and stuff like that. And then I'm like, well, you know, I have to get out of my home and you know, leaving my husband and I got to take my kids. And she goes, well, coming, you know, I've got a hold a big screen porch. You can come and you know, stay there. And I'm like, okay, So I transferred the cable to her house and you know, next thing, she's like, you're welcome to anything. I said, well, we're not going to, you know, do that most of the time. We'll probably eat out or whatever. I don't want to inconvenience you and your son and stuff. Next thing, I know, she.

16:47 Taking step out the shelves of the cabinets and putting it up and no conversation. But it's like, oh I thought we could have oh it's not up there, okay, and she would cut the lights out of it. Was it was, it was, it was, And I said, God, you got to get me out of here. If I have to have to take. My son back to Palm Beach, let him stay with his dad and me and the twins we just go to a shelter. At this point, this lady crazy, and I don't know what's gonna happen next. And the Lord opened up a door for my neighbor. Said hey, there's a condo for rent and when and you know that day and after work, I broke my neck getting there. Met with the property man, the manager of the of the condo and managers, the owner's representatives, and I'm like, I need to move now. And I didn't tell her to the last minute. Oh we're gone, We're out of here. And she helped my furniture ransom because I had my couch and something a couple of other piece. She held a ransom and then I had to text her say you know what you're forgiving. And then she allowed my husband to come and pick up stuff.

17:50 And I'm like, oh my god, Jesus helped me. So it's weird situations. I can I can't imagine when people have to make that decision. They got to move out, they're being evicted, they gotta you know, you. Look at what are my options here? And you know, and your caregiving, especially if you're a parent of you know, children, no matter their age, your child. Is disabled, you're disabled. It's a lot, but it does cross because you forget to take care of yourself. You're so busy trying to take care of that loved one or your children or whoever, and you lose sight of you and you're exhausted at the end of the night, you know, So you were here to tell you got to take care of yourself.

18:39 And we talk about self care all the time, and it comes in all kinds of shades and shame, you know, shapes and colors, and everybody and culture and everybody's situation is different. But you've got to keep moving, You've got to utilize resources, you've got to ask questions. And sometimes you don't want people in your business. I get that, besore. Sometimes you have to let people get in your business so that you could take care of what you can take care of and take care of yourself. Take care of yourself. You know, anybody wants jumping here now. I mean, I think you pretty much said, you know, set a mouth full. I mean, but it is, it's like it's like the art of caregiving, you know, And so many of my peers either work caregivers are still caregiving, and it's it's a never ending job. And so I think people don't realize the smallest things that that could be beneficial, like someone fixing a dish for you, or someone taking your trash out, or someone just sitting with your loved one five ten, fifteen minutes while you just have a break, or someone just offering to help you straighten up, you know, just the it's the little things that that can mean so much. And I think when you're at that point, sometimes you don't don't know where to turn, you know.

20:02 I was fortunately I did have siblings that would help. You know, we had like a role that we played, but it still was, you know, difficult, you know because sometimes you especially with a parent, you have to remember that's your parent, but sometimes you have to make decisions that that they become your child and it's it's not comfortable, but pretty much for their best interests. And so I I, you know, I find out resources. You know, just look at it now, if you're seeing yourself headed that way, potentially headed. That way, just find out who who your supports is. And I have close friends and and family that I could could talk to as well when when you get tired.

20:44 And so it's the small things that mean a whole lot. It really does. So, but it is self care. You have to can't find out what resources your your you're you're you're entitled to. Some people don't know what they're entitled to, and my dad was a that and so I was very fortunate. Sometimes other vets would see me in the VA with my dad and they said, you're the caregiver. You know you can get this. They're not gonna tell. You that, ask about this, that and the other. So it became like wow, you know, it's like a support system. So find out from other people that are caregivers what resources are out there. Makes a big difference. Amen. Amen, And you got to go back.

21:24 You know the fifth commandment honor thy mother, thy father, that that days may be long. It doesn't mean that you're to be taking for granted. You know, you know, you don't go through craziness and stuff like that, but you can still honor them and give by giving them the best that you can. And sometimes, you know, I've always shared, you know I've shared before. The hardest thing for me was to I had to place my mom in the nursing home. I had no choice. I had nobody to help me. The neighbors couldn't get over the fact that she was hallucinating and stuff like that, like you. She don't talk like that. I said, well, I'm trying to tell you, and I don't know what they were thinking. Her baby's just it was thinking, you know, they just take You know, I know what I'm talking about. And I know you can't imagine your loved one, you know, going that to that far extream. And then my aunt Betty, when I was getting married the first time, came and said, well, i'll take her.

22:13 We'll take her back to Georgia with us. Just go ahead and pack her up. We'll take her back. And I said, now, and Betty, I'm telling you now, you've got she's she imagines things, she hallucinates, and there's a little girl that she swears that she's looking at in the mirror that's taking her things and dressing like her. Oh girl, please, you know, quein't gonna be a fire. We're gonna put her. Get off there in these trees. When I went to get her five months later, because she went three months later, she wouldn't let her go. And her daughter calls me from another state, said, well, I take care of my mother. You need to take care of you. I said, you tell your mama to let my mother go. And I hung up the phone. We got told my husband, let's go rented the car. She didn't even know we were coming. I drove through the night to get to Georgia, and I stopped because I wasn't sure what hell was hers.

22:58 I said, Betty, I'm here here down street. Which of these streets do I turn down? And it's a hell? Oh well, I didn't Which street do I turn down? I'm not here to talk to you. I'm here to get my mother. So you tell your daughter to leave me alone, because I could go to Carolina. Now, don't tell me I'm not taking care of my mother. And my aunt was getting money from my uncle to take care of my mom. I was sitting my mom's whole social Security check up there, came out of pocket for her medications, and my uncle sending her five six hundred dollars. I didn't know nothing about it, you know, so a little crazy ist that when I got there, Guys, my aunt was the queen of figurines. She's the queen of figurines. There's a little everything. When I got there, there was none to be seen, and the mirrors in the hall and the bedroom were covered up. And all her husband could say to me is you got hell on your hands?

23:49 I said, no, I don't you taking care of that. This is nothing to me. So let me go and pack my mother up. We're gone. We're gone. So nobody likes to believe you. So there's that rejection, you know. And I never talked to my aunt again. I barely made it. I barely went to the funeral. God had to talk to me. But nevertheless that my mom had already passed. But you know, and then on the biological side, you know, my thing is, and I'm gonna I'm not gonna go into that, but my thing is, if you've got an adult parent still living. They're your responsibility. It's not about your relationships anymore. It's past that. If you can lend a helping hand, you can. You know, if your sister is the one. That's living with your mom or living with that loved one, you take food over there once a week, you go over there and you cook for food, cook. I mean, come on, we all got stories, we all got trauma that we've been through. Everybody living has been through trauma.

24:41 Just a baby coming into this world is traumatized. So let's get past it. Not even got new buzzwords. Let's get past that. Now, what do I what can I do to help? But I made sure. That even though I had to place my mom in a nursing home, I made sure those people knew. You don't know when I'm gonna show up. You don't you know when I'm coming through to be on my lunch break. It could be at eight o'clock at night, eleven o'clock at night. You don't know. And I'm walking through. I don't even sign in. I'm going to check on my mom, even though she hadn't called my name out so I cannot. I'm at peace. Go ahead, not just. At a disclaimer too, because I remember before my dad, This was years before he had passed, but he got real sick and went to the hospital and then they released him to rehab. And before we went to rehab, I was checking with people to find out which is the better one, because you know, you hear horror stories.

25:36 And so I asked one of my girlfriends, whose sister was a geriatric nurse, and she told her to tell me, I don't care if you're paying the most or the least all of me. He said, you got to show up at him. He said, you don't come on out, You comeing out unannounced. Different times of the day and night, so you could see for yourself. Let other people come in there to come and see for themselves, he said, because everybody's not going. To care for your loved one the way you will. So, like you said, she said, I don't care how good of rating that the place got or how low, you still have to go in and checkcuse me, periodically check on your loved one. And so yeah, unfortunately a lot of people are in there for just for the money.

26:20 Yeah. Yeah, and you've got to check, you know, you got I know, my baby is telling me a lot that you know. While I was in the hospital, she came up every day. She came up every day. You are already told her her teachers. Look, I got to keep my phone on because they could call me any moment. I got to keep my phone on. I'll step out of the class if you got a problem with it, you know, and talk with other residents there as well. Yeah, mickey, Yeah, make friends with the other residents, you know, let them, you know, and if they if you see that nobody's coming to visit them, you know, it's nothing to bring. Them a little whatnot a little you know. I'm just thank you for looking out for you know, for my you know, for my mom or my dad and my auntie. Thank you so much for that. Yeah, you can check with the check talk with the other residents and stuff.

27:01 But I walk through. I'd get it. I'd do a tour. I didn't have time to do a tour, but you know, I had to place her and I just did it because it was safety issues and all kinds of stuff. But I walked through that place. I would walk through the cafeteria, I'd go to the physical therapy area. I look at the little pool outside, you know. Yeah, I walked through there. Then I go visit my mom or I go visit her, and then I come back out. Then I did my own tour. Let me see what's new. While these my mom's clothes are missing, what's going on their labels? I know what they look like. You need to replace them. That that stopped. That stopped. I said, you know what, I'm gonna wash my mom's clothes. Yeah, I'll wash them and I'll bring them back.

27:41 I'm good. You know, just little things like that. And at the same time, you know your child, you know, your little one going to school and stuff like you know, you talk with that teacher. You know, you know your child, be honest, be honest, help my mom to take care of my dad. I had to put my mom in a nursing care. It was very hard. I was blessed to have a good crew. But I did like I did like it, showed up anytime, all the time. Thank you all the ka men. And I'm gonna tell you always check things out. Too many bad stories going on in some of those places. Yeah, and I'm telling you years later, your mind is at peace because when you could look back and you could tell your flesh, your flesh, you know, the little devil on your shoulder, Oh you could have done better.

28:23 Oh you shouldn't put your mother in a nursing home. You know you as a social worker, you shouldn't have No, the devil is a liar. She had the best care. I made sure of it, and it was for her better good. And guess what, God is honoring me. He's honoring his word. My days are gonna be long, and I'm gonna be healthy, and I have great memories of my mom. I'd tell my kids all the time. I wish they they lived, were able to live long enough for y'all to see them, because y'all wouldn't be doing nothing. They were just being head over heels happy to have grandkids, you know, so you know, and they would have been up here with me. You know. My husband thought he was doing something like, you know what, gonna take my mom. I'm like, yeah, but trust me, if my either one of my parents have been living, they been moving to Orlando with me, trust me, trust me, we wouldn't have a two story, we didn't have a condo with stairs. No, our housing situation would be totally different. So take care of your mother. You take care of her. Them ain't got nothing to do with me. She like the gossip and talk about me. I ain't got nothing to do with it.

29:19 You take care of her anyway. That's a whole different story. I'm sorry. I was going to bring up though, like, although I don't really have experience of being a caregiver anyway, but I do, I mean temporarily. I guess you could. Say you almost had seven years of experience, right. Not too much. Well, I wanted to literate caregiving, but. Ability to take care of my mother if she can't take care of herself. But I was a very good job. What'd you say, I said, you did a very good job. You know, how to keep people away from me. She wouldn't let people come just roll on. You could, Oh, well maybe we can start. No, ma'am, No, she's not taking visitors my baby.

30:01 Yeah, but you don't. You wouldn't even want to either. No, you don't be and you're like, I don't want to be bothered. No, you don't need to come up here. It's important to have balance during that time because I was in high school, and I mean I already had a set schedule of doing my work, making sure I'm doing my work, intending to my mom. That was literally my to do list, tending to her anything she needed, food wise, whatever the case may be, driving her somewhere, And to this day, she still want me to drive for somewhere, even though she's completely capable. Guys don't be able to go back. You've been trying to finesse me because she would literally like we're going somewhere together.

30:41 She'd be like, you're driving. She knows to ask me right before we leave if I'm driving, to make me feel bad for her driving. Like audience disregard that. No, we're not all out because bage of this little thing over here. But anyways, because she gets we got to go. She you know, she don't play the radio. Who said, well, anyway, she's still trying to control my driving. Lead you to the course to the corner. I'm not whatever she sees. She's right anyways. But yes, it's important to have balance and assess schedule. But uh.

31:29 Yeah, when she got rid of and she. Had a little fellow too at the time too, so she gave me all that and order who was driving that little fellow that could make sure she come up to get to the hospital and stuff. Oh well, of course I just wanted to add talk about balance. Why are you. Anyways? Yes, it's very important. And when she did get rid of the nurses, because she does not like anybody in her space. You know, it was our responsibility to tend to her and everything that and I would do it all over again. So I love my mother. So therefore you just finding bayless and finding time for yourself as well, because I'm a workaholic, so as long as I'm working, I'm perfectly fine. So therefore it was just a job to always do and I enjoyed it.

32:11 So just find time for. Yourself in between and again, like Miss Tray said, the little things. Really matter, like literally, the little things. Just you going outside to breathe, being with nature, just like the little things is very important. But that's what I wanted to add it. Yeah, find free things to do and going to pick up medication and grocery shopping is not what we're talking about. That is not self care. Okay, that's mandatory, that's part of life. No, we're talking about you saying if somebody come up and say, hey, you know what, I got two hours to spare on Friday afternoon, you go ahead and do what you want to do. I can come in and watch, you know. You know, oh sorry, that's okay. One of the things too, that was helpful.

32:54 So I remember, you know, in the process of care, my niece was saying, Andrey, why don't you get a blink camera system? And so she's all you do is plug it in the wall and you're able to and have Wi Fi and you're able. To see my daughter. And so a camera system and when I tell you, it made the world of difference because I was able to aim the camera at my dad. You could talk through it. I can hear him if. He talked yeah, and I and I would positioning right beside where he was sleeping or sitting and we just could check on him. So and you can zoom in and anytime you can record. And so we had strategically placed in the house so we could see you know, the front door, the back door, you know, someone moving about, you know, making sure that they weren't going upstairs. So that is something that really and like I said, literally just plugged it in the wall. And and they're small, small, not that big at all, And that was a godsend.

33:59 So I can see him throughout the night, call down, check on him. And then I also had like a baby monitor too as well that I can hear, you know, which helped. So some of the things will give you a little peace of mind when you're out and about or. And there's other systems out there. I'm just I want my girlfriend, she uses something else, but she's able to talk or communicate or dollar mother or something like that. But yeah, it's some devices out that will really give you a little peace of mind. So if you just want to step away thirty minutes or hour, that will give you some kind of sense, a piece of mind, and you can be able to see if you have to call now on one or something like that. But that is something I would suggest to caregivers as well.

34:42 There's equipment out there. I definitely agree with you about the piece that God gives you when you take care of your mother. I pray some of these young people get it. Honor your parents as God commands us. Yes, elder elder janeis thank you. You're right, because this younger generator, they don't get it. They're missing out on it. I don't understand. I ran into another mother that's just having a problem with her daughter. I mean, just like you almost hate your daughter, and I don't get that. Some of these parents I don't know because if because they had the baby young or the baby and one. Young lady, I said, do you look like your dad? She goes yeah. I said, okay. The mom mad at that at the X and so you're taking it out on an adult child. That makes no. I don't understand that.

35:24 Because that child will have to enter and take care of you, and they can make the decision not to. There's no law that says that we have to take care of our aging parents. There's no law. So you're on your you know, y'all, you got to step back and say, you know what, let me get my Why am I having a problem with this child? I don't understand it myself, But why am I having a problem now with my mom? When I turned sixteen, I. Was looking more like my biological mother, and my mom, I don't know what was going through a mind. And I just came to her and I said, Mom, I'm working part time, I'm in high school. Can I go ahead and take over my insurance my curR insurance bill? Well, I don't know what you want to do that. No, Mom, I'm just taking that responsibility off of you and dad. That's all I'm driving now. I'm driving my sister to school.

36:07 You know, that's our car. I can afford to do it. I don't know why, she just but I was. As I was getting older, I'm looking more like my biological mother, and she just had a problem with that. And so we weren't as close as my dad and I were closer. You know, I was a daddy's girl, but my mom just was ess. But I ended up, you know, my dad passed away before she did, and I ended up, you know, and there was no brainer. I'm gonna take care of my mother. That's my mom, you know. But other folks on the some of my biological families keep forgetting that I had parents that took me off your hands. Never asked you for a dime, went to private school, which I had to pay double tuition because I was not Catholic.

36:50 They never asked you for anything. But now you're looking at me like I'm supposed to take care of somebody. No, I did mine. I did my tour, both my mother and my father. You you, you're gonna be all right now. But but if God ever tells me I'm flipping the script now, I need you to step in. I'm there because I already know what I would do. I already know I know resources, you know. But at the end of the day, and God did tell. Me, you know, you don't have to say that anymore because He's gonna take care of that. But I took care of my parents. I've done. I've got receipts, I got scars too. So but I hope and pray that I've raised my kids. That's the one thing I didn't want that to fall on them, that they have to take care of me.

37:31 At an early earlier age, So that's one thing. Going through all of this where your parents were led to the family they adopted you from. Yes, Anna Stagia, My mom and my biological mother are distant cousins. They're about thirty years apart. They were thirty years apart. We never interacted with that family. That was really weird. They had family reviews, they never invited my moms. But when my biological. Mother had my older brother, her mother tells her, go to Palm. Beach, you get better paying jobs, and you send money back this young man for this boy. And then she got pregnant and while living with my mom and her between my mom and her sisters, and then my parents could not have children, and so she asked, you want a baby, and they said, yeah, we want her. And then I don't think they knew what I was until I came out. My mom and dad came and got me the next day, and I was a great. I will always be a great. And I think I shared this with you all. I've got a cousin over in Jacksonville.

38:23 She's a nurse are in. We looked just alike. No blood between us, two brothers kids. So God was saying, if I never wanted to tell anybody the secret was safe. But I hold the lives of the DNA of three families. I always will, I could die tomorrow, I will always. And I'm the only one named my biological name. No one has named their child my name on all the three families, so I'm a little special. So you can't tell me. Then, I'm just joking. God is good. That's only God. Only God could do that, like I said, and I we got the four. I got the great forehead, I got the great nose. Look like a grain. You wouldn't. You couldn't. She's thinner than I am, and she wears contacts now, but we woke wear glasses and stuff. And I introduced her. I took the twins over.

39:11 I'm thinking I think Don went with us too to meet them years ago. And and then and I was just leaning on the table like this, like my daughter is saying, Oh my God, y'all looked just alike. So God is that precious. He's that precious. And you know, I've. Been so blessed, so blessed, and I won't take nothing. You know, They're part of my story. They're part of who I am. And everything I did go through and everything, all that stuff. You look back. The song says, my soul looked back and. Wonder how I got over Your flesh looks back and all the heck you've been through, all the distrust and the rejection, and oh my god, and we can't. We're having lima bean soup three nights in a row and all this stuff.

40:00 We get our hand me downs and oh we got to go to seas. We got to go to goodwill and shop and that's what we you know, we go to the food bank. Your soul will look back and wonder how you got your flesh your mind? Yes, thank you, missy. That's real. It's real. I talk about my pinion. I talk about that, yes, and I'm glad. I've met a lot of people who've been adopted, and it's a it's a fifty to fifty They once someone say, oh, I wanted to meet my parents, the others say, I don't ever want to meet it. And it's okay. I'm glad I met mine. I wasn't trying to get involved in it, get in the family. I was just trying to see what who's got this medical history that I was being played with. I had to go to the to the to.

40:40 The source which side of the family just came from and finding out it came from both sides. But I didn't have to I've never had to have surgery. I never had to have medication because I prayed and said, God, please remove this big a cup from me and Jesus name, And if I ever have a daughter, don't let it, don't let it be be store upon her the power of prayer. If I could say anything else, that's the I can't if I can't prove anything else. Prayer changes of thing. Prayer changes a thing. You have to pray strategically as specifically, stop these willing nearly prayer. Oh God, And this is another. This is gonna trip you up. God.

41:20 If it's your will, it is his will, because guess what he put it in you? Where you get that, where you get that from? He put it in you. He said, well, I knew you before your mother's womb knew you. You know, that's my favorite. And Jeremiah, when God said I knew you before Gerald Dinifelter ever met that? That you who can't love a God like that, who can't love Jesus like that? The Holy Spirit? He knew me before he placed me. And I'm I'm I'm gonna deny him. Please tell him, and I tell my kids, y'all weren't adopted. All of y'all came through I'm through me in the right all the time. All right, all right? But but who do they trust? God? Don't come to me. I gave you to God the moment I can hold you in the room. They yours. Thank you. Let me steward them, Let me be who they need to be. I need to be for them. But they're yours. They're yours because I know prayer, changes of things.

42:19 That's all I know. That's all I know. And I was having this conversation with myself yesterday. I said, I don't know why, but I had this. You know what, Let's say, what if and I've said this before on the show, what if they prove that God. Really doesn't exist? Jesus hold the Spirit just all been one non fiction, fictitious fiction story, and all these people mentioned in these sixty six chapters in this one book really didn't exist. Well, I've got some miracles, I've got some testimony that you can't nobody could create that, nobody can make that happen, and don't just fall out the sky to. Prove you wrong. And I'll stand on my faith.

42:59 You can't tell me nothing about God Jesus in the Holy Spirit because for everything your. Little down you know. And I'm not talking to my viewers that we love you all, I'm not talking. I'm talking to those who are peeping, who are trolling. You can't say nothing about my God, and guess what, you can't do nothing to me, my co host, my IT person, my viewers are nothing because I rebuke you in the name of Jesus. Keep playing, keep playing. You got the right one. You got the right one. I protect mine. And I'm not talking about my kids. I'm talking about my co hosts. I'm talking about my IT my producer that you don't see. Most of y'all know who she is, but she's oh no, come. I promise you that that young lady ever called me and tell me somebody doing stupid. I'm on the next thing smoking.

43:47 I promise you. I can ride a plane now. Nothing is enough, fab and you could be blood if you want to. You can be fab. I will check you. You lean these people along because these people trying there trying. Amen. Thank you, Jay Dennis. Yeah, and if you don't want none of this, it's fine too, because my Jesus had to train Judas knowing what he had to do. So all you all are doing is completing my story. Let's go, let's go, but we're here to stay. We're gonna do what we got to do. We're reaching the God, letting God do. God is reaching and had nothing to do with us. We're just wiling vessels. We're just willing vessels, and we're gonna still do it. We'll still do it.

44:29 I don't know where that came from, but talking to you. Hey, that's prayer warrior. There go get. Yes, please, don't don't get don't think you know three minutes we got two minutes out. Don't please don't please don't leave them alone, leave them alone, leave them alone. Uh, don't go there. You have to ever worry those who are listening. You've been faithful to us. You being faithful, and you pray or we got God's got you covered, a hedge of protection. Your ages are all on fleet. Just go after God though. That's all because yeah, we're heading to a recession. Guys. I didn't want to get into that, but you know feeling it coming so true.

45:15 Amen, hesion we're heading to the unknown, unlike ever before. You got to hold on to him, hold on to it, hold on to Jesus, cry out. Have your gospel music, your Christian music ready, just blaring. Let it blare. That car cuts in front of you. God, please be with them. Don't let them inconvenience me today. Don't let me have road rage inside of my car because nobody can hear me, because I don't know what they're going through now. We don't know what the world is going through. Now. I know the world is opened back up and everything else. It is not going to be business as usual because the powers that be behind the scenes are already cutting stuff out, already eliminating stuff, making new laws, making new rules.

45:57 Ain't checking with the voters at all. Way, It's almost our time, Thanksgiving this next week. We'll see you next Monday. Now, we promise make sure y'all come back, same time, same station. Got back by