Intl. Day of Commemorating the Victims of Acts of Violence

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FORCY Radio. Alright, alright,
alright, alright, good to all of

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you. Hae lu ya. God, I'm telling you. God is Oh

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my God, he just he's just
he just blows my mind. He just

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blows my mind. When you think
it's it's it's you're down and out,

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when you think you're not making a
difference, when you think you're not doing

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much, he just says, he
says the word, He says that that

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dove, he sends that angel to
say. Oh, by the way,

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you know, we got you.
We hear you continue to We're gonna strengthen

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you. We're gonna pray, hey
tray, and I'm giving you salutations.

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But we gotta we gotta take this
to the Lord real quick. We Lord,

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I just thank you, huh,
and we praise you for you alone

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are worthy to be praised. You
are blowing my mind every minute of the

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day. I thank you. I
thank you for blessing Trey. I thank

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you for blessing Tommy. I thank
you for blessing Rebel. I thank you

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for Talk for radio and tell for
TV and talk for TV dot com and

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all the above. I just thank
you, We thank you, and we

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praise you for you alone are worthy
to be praised. Now, when we

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don't think we're making a difference,
you are mattering. You're making the difference.

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You're stirring it up, You're getting
it out and those who have an

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ear to hear, you're sending things, messages, confirmations, affirmations to those

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that need him this day. And
we thank you. We get behind the

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cross now, Lord, this is
your show. We're your daughters, speak

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to your people, are like ever
before. In Jesus name, we pray,

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Amen and amen, and also I
say a prayer for our producer,

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technician, behind the scenes, young
lady and her family. Father. God,

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you know the needs I asked,
Lord, we tray and I will

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stand in agreement that provision will come. Provision will come. Everything they need,

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from repair to food, everything they
need will come without them even having

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to ask. We thank you.
I see the angels on their way now

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in Jesus name, we pray,
Amen and Amen. Just want to share

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something that came across my Facebook page. Four things God wants you to know

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this Monday. I like that this
Monday. Number one, God is going

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to open doors, block distractions,
renew your mind, and give you back

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your peace. Now we could shout
right there. Number two, or it

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gets better. God already has a
plan to pull you out of that place

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you're in. Don't you dare quit
before your miracle. Number three, You

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will recover, You will bounce back. Better days are coming, Blessings are

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coming your way. God is up
to something incredible. And number four,

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everything you touch this week will prosper. You are stepping into your best days

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in Jesus name, and we thank
you. Where He's always got a way

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of sending his messages and letting us
know. He said, I'm still right

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here. I'm still right here.
Don't you go anywhere. I got it.

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I got it. I know I
know you want to quit. I

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know it's time to give up.
It's time to throw in the towel.

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Look, God, I gave this
six months, I gave this three months.

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I've given her a year. God, what you're gonna do? Because

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you open this door, you made
a way out of no way. You

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told me to make this move you. I believe it's told you. And

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there are times, and this is
the funny thing about God, that you

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have to remind him of the conversations
y'all had. Sometimes you got to remind

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him. And I've learned in my
journey the reason why we have to because

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he needs to see if you believe
it or not. Why would you bring

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up something that I said It hasn't
come to pass, But you're gonna bring

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You're gonna now You're gonna come back
and remind me. Now you're gonna come

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back and remind me. Okay,
God, Okay, God, thank you

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God. I'm telling he's blowing my
mind. And as I'm getting on the

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program tonight, guys, and you
know, I'm listening in on the conversation

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between you know, our producer and
Tray and I mean it, bless my

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heart, you don't know what I
was thinking today. We sunset in February

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next year. I'm already looking what
you want us to do? What you

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want us to do, because I
don't think we're making a difference. The

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people I thought that would listen in
don't listen in. They got their own

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shows train and they get the whole
shows have the audacity to see in me.

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Please, you know, like thumbs
up it. You don't get on

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my sho you don't come and say
nothing else. We've had a few people

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to talk to us and everything,
so that has just blown my mind.

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But now that I forgave everybody,
I put that behind me. Now I'm

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like, okay, God, I
guess it's gonna be it, you know.

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And then I get on and I
hear a conversation and it only takes

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one. Please note that while we're
on at least a hundred platforms, all

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of them have archived capability. So
three years from now, if you want

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to look up setting it straight with
Miss Gray and co hosts, you'll find

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us on at least a hundred platforms. I don't know what the world's gonna

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look like a three years. I
don't know what the world's gonna look like

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in forty eight hours. Because we
got we got company coming and she packing

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her she's packing some heat. I
don't know, but God makes it clear

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to me. You don't know what
I have for you, and I want

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you all to be encouraged by this, those who believe. If you're not

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a believer, I'm i'm, I'm. I didn't know you were gonna be

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on tonight talking to the believers because
it's tough out here. You think y'all

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catching it. You don't know what
we're going through, crazy stuff, but

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you have to have crazy faith.
You've got to believe onlike ever before.

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And that's what faith is. Faith
is that what you cannot see, and

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it's the evidence of things that you've
for I hope this job is good for

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me, better for me. I
hope I could get this degree. I

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hope. I don't see it.
I'm catching heck on every hand, on

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every side. Yeah, but I
hope I'm gonna graduate that I expect to

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graduate next August. Every demon,
every day, devil has thrown everything a

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clue to himself at me not getting
over one hump, this last hump.

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He's tried it and he failed.
He failed because the fifth time around,

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you know what the number of five
stands for faith, favor, mercy,

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grace, the blood of Jesus,
Come on, peace, mercy, come

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on now, come on nine.
So it took me five. Okay,

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I'll take five. So just you
know, just just just want to piggy

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back a little bit on what you
said. I remember when I was working

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in Palm Beach County, and you
know, I was spearheading some events.

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I was a coordinator for the Glades
area, and you know how tough that

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area can be as far as like
some participation, you know, engagement,

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community engagement. And so we were
planning an event and so typically when we

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were planning something, my supervisor at
the time would say, well, how

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many people are you planning for?
And she said, how many people would

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you would make you feel better?
You know, we were always solution focused,

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so how many people would would make
you feel that it was successful?

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And I would tell her that if
I had one person to come to that

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event, because of the the challenges
in the community, uh, you know,

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a handful of people, I would
feel like it's just it was successful.

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And then she said, well it
rationalized, I said, because it's

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it's a hard to serve community.
You know, people disappointed that community.

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Have used the numbers from that community
to get grants for the entire you know,

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the county. They would use the
numbers and then they would let it

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go there for a while, the
West Heart Promace County, and then they

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would pull pull up funding. And
so people have lost hope, had lost

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hope in that community. And so
what I was trying to explain to her,

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I feel that if we just keep
our presence going and show that we

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we are here no matter what you're
you know what you believe. And we

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stayed around a while and we were
actually able to get families involved in that

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community. So we we I mean, we were able to grow grassals programs

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and bring on different partnerships to be
able to make a difference in there.

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But so, like I was saying, just piggybacking off what you're saying,

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we just keep doing what we do, and Gods keep sending us and and

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you know, enlightening us and giving
us the courage and giving us the insight

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and giving us the sport to do
what we do. We're gonna read some

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folks and even if it's not the
people that we think would support it,

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that that doesn't make a difference.
We're reaching somebody, because you know what

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I'm saying, We're reaching somebody.
And I think God has put us together

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and revel and I had a good
conversation before you were able to join us.

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And I think this team, including
her, you know, even though

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we don't see her, she is
the keeps us on track and and help

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us to do what we need to
do as God says. Amen. And

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that's the whole point of a team. That's the whole point of who's your

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squad? We went to the kids
that I went to the movies on Friday

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to see h Grand I can't pronounce
it to Resmoke to Reno anyway, the

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Grand movie, the Racing Car,
to Read to Reason, thank You,

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and I mean Revelation. I mean
just all over the place. But while

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we were walking in, our favorite
lady who stands there to take our tickets

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and stuff, she said, oh, hey, how are you. Oh

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oh, you brought the whole family. I said, yeah, that's my

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squad. She said, that's your
squad. Yeah. And we walked in

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there and you know, and and
the other people are looking and stuff,

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and you know, but it's your
squad. I mean, I need and

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and and if you could visualize this, this is not me standing alongside of

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you, guys. This is me
with my back to you. Your back

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is to me, rebels backs to
us, Tommy's backs this way. So

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we look at it all directions.
Oh, I feel that, all directions,

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any any attack, we got it. We got it covered. And

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we're snipers in the spirit. Amen. So you know, I I thank

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God for you all every day.
I thank God. And I had I

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needed to hear this because yeah,
that thought is going through my head,

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like, okay, you know,
because it costs to be on here,

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you would want to have sponsors and
things like that. I've opened up that

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door and nobody's you know, nobody
to bite. So that's good. Okay,

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Fine, we're gonna just let it
be God and the Holy Ghost.

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So we sponsor, he sponsors us. We give him all the feedback he

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needs. Amen. Amen. So
whatever it's gonna take, whatever it's gonna

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take. So I wanted to open
up with that. Tonight we're gonna be

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talking about the international awareness of victims
and and and what that, what that

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entails, what goes along with that. Excuse me, guys from putting my

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arm up there. Sorry, about
that, but understanding that. You know,

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when you are hurting somebody as an
act of violence, Uh, you're

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coming from a place of anger.
You're coming from a place of misunderstandings,

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confusion, You're coming from a place
and not that we're gonna feel sorry for

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you, but you need to.
You got to take some responsibility. You've

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got unresolved issues somewhere along the way, you've got some preconceived notions or somewhere,

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you've got thoughts in your head that
came from somewhere from somebody, and

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you're taking out on whoever comes in
your path. So you have to be

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you gotta you gotta take you gotta
stop this. My daughter just told me

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about they shot up Dollar General two
days ago. I didn't even know it.

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I didn't even know it it was
actually a hate related crime because if

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I understood it correctly, they went
to Waters it with Waters College first,

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I think, if I'm not mistaken, and then they didn't allow a person

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on the campus out And I could
be wrong, but and then they went

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to the Dollar General or Family Dollar
or whatever that was and shot shot three

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people of color. Uh. And
then and then I think he turned a

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gun on himself or whatever, but
they said it was racially motivated. And

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then I just read briefly something where
unc there was something there that somebody died

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as a result of somebody on that
campus. So I just wanna, you

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know, just keep all these people
in prayer because the world is going crazy.

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Yeah, I know, yeah,
be fitting of what we want to

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be talking about tonight, but I
don't know. Yeah, yeah, this

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for tonight is commemorating the victims of
acts of violence based on religion or belief.

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And then we've got victims of terrorism
as well, so it all it's

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all in one and and and you
know, we've got we still have people

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we've not eradicated. This is why
I want to step back a little bit.

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This is why I'm telling my colleagues
who are social workers and therapists and

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counselors that stop, get it out
of your mind that we're that you're failing

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because poverty is not going away,
acts of violence is not going away,

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divorce is not going away, child
abuse is not going to get your buying

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out of that. It's not gonna
eradicate itself. It's not gonna go away.

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The Bible doesn't say that only until
everybody is gone, even our feathered

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friends, our four legged friends,
when everybody's gone. But we can still

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put a dint in it. I
know, Virginia Trades doing some things,

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and you gonna be doing some more
things. And you know Rebel is in

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up north somewhere as well. You
know here in Orlando and Tommy and I

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are here. We're gonna put debts
and wherever we go, we're gonna make

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a difference. We're gonna bring aware
of this. And that's what I'm talking

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about. Didnts go ahead tray?
Yeah? And I think too when when

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you look at it, it's not
going away. And even if you have

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cases where people have been able to
overcome some of these challenges, you still

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it's like a maintenance. It's just
like when you're on a diet or trying

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to lose weight. You lose it, but you have to maintain it.

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And so you could easily get off
off course. And that's rest For people

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struggling with anything, something can deter
them and go right back to where they

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ended up. And so they were
always gonna need people in the human services

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field to help them navigate that.
You know, personal culture, professional coach,

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job, coaches. You know,
whatever you know means that you need

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to do to motivate. People need
motivating motivation all the time. And and

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sometimes even in our you know,
Nicia, in our course of study,

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in our work, you as a
doctoral student need motivation. You as a

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parent need motivation, You as a
social worker, a theologist, or you

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know chaplion, me as the same
thing, me as a mental health worker,

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me as a general person. You
know, we always need motivation because

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we're human. There's that self doubt, there's that encouraging motivation that's needed to

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keep you sustaining. And that's what
that's where you have to surround yourself with

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people that are gonna do that,
whether they they're gonna motivate you to be

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the best you can be and say, look, if you fall, I

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got you. You know you need
someone to talk to, I got you,

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right, And and sometimes that's that's
just enough that Okay, now I'm

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re energized. I got a little
like the little pet peel like they're having

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a video games. You eat something, you get another life, and you

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get rejuvenated. That's how it is. You have to keep motivating everybody.

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Let them know it's gonna be okay. And if it's not okay, you

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call me, you reach out to
me, or I'll reach out to you,

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and let's get this thing going because
I don't know what you're going through.

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We might not have. No one
ever says, but you never know

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that one day, good morning,
Wow, that made me feel good today.

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That's fine, you know, thank
you. You know, somebody reaching

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out and holding the door over for
your I like your dress, or you're

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beautiful, or your hair is gorgeous. It doesn't cost anything to compliment people,

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and you don't have to be a
perverges. It's nice. I love

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that's nice. I like how that
looks exactly to motivate somebody's thing. Right.

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Well, today I was at Walmart
because my maintenance came this morning and

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to check on the air conditioning.
And sure enough he knew it. He's

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a he's he's a young man that's
saved and filled with the Holy ghost.

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So he's like, oh, he
says. I was turning the court.

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He said, oh, I'm going
to see my favorite customer. I said,

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hey, how you doing this stuff? And so he was looking he

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said, oh man, he said, yeah, he could be water.

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I mean he was he could assess
things real quick. You give him the

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condition, the symptom he could.
He's like, oh, it could be

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this, this or this, he
said, but I'll fix it. Don't

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worry about it. We'll find it. Jesus will make sure if we find

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it. And then I had to
ask him to take out the filter,

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and it was kind of embarrassing because
I know I hadn't changed it in a

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while. I said, oh,
please forgive him. He said, oh,

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don't worry about it, and he
took it out. He said,

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oh, yeah, you're breathing in
this stuff. You know that, right,

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And I'm like, oh my god, no, wonder to thank you

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Jesus. I'm wanting to fall out
there and say, Lord, thank you

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you kept us safe. But here
is a person. So I went and

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ran to Walmart. I said,
I'm gonna get I'm gonna go get him

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now. And you know, I
thought I had him. But anyway,

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so while I'm there, I went
to have my glasses check too. So

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then I went shopping around and everybody, I mean the you know, of

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course they've already called you know,
hell Mary here, so oh, you

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know, everybody trying to you know, take everything off the shelf. One

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lady couldn't even push your basket because
it was so loaded. I'm like,

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I don't know what. I don't
know why you didn't bring about five people

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with you. I don't understand.
Then you had a family of five that's

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put push you three baskets. I
was like, you know, y'all,

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y'all really, y'all really take it
this really really serious, I could tell

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you know. But anyway, so
this lady come. I was kept looking

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for a lot everything and self checkout, self check out and in Walmart,

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and I'm like, oh man,
So I finally I went and the Holy

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Spirit said keep going, keep going. And I looked and said, oh,

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oh, here's self. And now
they've got the size to say assistance.

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You know, assistance would check out. So I was like, oh,

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there we go. So this lady
was baby. I said, oh

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man, it's a long line.
So I looked over. Holy Spirit say

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look over there. I looked,
and the lady was it was only two

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people in the line. I moved
my basket and off that next with So

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this lady comes up behind me and
I'm like, okay, I can see

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her speeding and she coming around.
I hope she put a break on it

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now, because you're gonna be in
my basket in a minute. You're gonna

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be in the basket. I'd let
you say that because I can't help you

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get out of it. So anyway, so she sure she got her hands.

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I said, well and I had. That's that's my signal. When

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you look a little aggrabout it,
that's my signal. I said, take

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your time to the cashier. She
looked like she was about eighty nine years

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old. Eighty nine and that's a
good number. And she said, oh,

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I said, because I am not
in a hurry. Even though I

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had my mask on, you can
hear me. So the lady had to

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finally calm down and she went she
said, you know you're right. I

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said, yeah, I'm not in
a hurry. And we had this conversation

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and it was nice, and she
said, you know, I'm praying for

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us. You know that we won't
I said, you know, we're gonna

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get tapped a little bit. The
grass could use it. She said yeah.

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I said, well, just pray
that no energy and the power don't

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go out. She said, yeah, that's a good one. That's a

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good one. Just in that conversation
made the cashier feel better because all of

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a sudden people start coming in her
life. So you know, she's probably

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you know, don't don't be in
her if you're coming over here now,

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don't don't. Don't do that.
Go to Sholf check out, don't over

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there, because you're gonna get your
feelings hurt. I was staying right here,

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I promise you. But it's just
like you said track, I smile,

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and I you know, I have
my mask on. What you could

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tell my expressions, you know,
I'm like, you know, you could

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tell them what I'm thinking, because
I'll be like like, oh, okay,

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keeping out now, and I'm like, excuse me, I'm trying to

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get through the aisle. I don't
know what y'all thinking. Y'all calling meeting.

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I didn't get an invite, what
we're dealing with, you know,

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people looking at me like, and
I'm talking just like that, okay,

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excuse me. You know, while
y'all standing in the middle, I'm talking

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to each other. Then y'all come
here in the same car. I don't

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understand up And that's okay. That's
another show. That's another show. I'm

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sorry, I'm coming back. I'm
coming back. Whoo you can only imagine

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being a therapy session. I'll be
like what and I'll be wearing up?

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Why I do wearing? Man,
Huh, you're so eager. Don't want

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to tell me you don't have an
agger problem. I just asked you it

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ain't. What's your name and as
your phone number? Right? That's all

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like, can you give me your
driver's life? Let me write while you

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just sit there? Event you know, you know what I'm thinking. But

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I'm like, okay, it's gonna
be one of those days. All right.

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Then I had one of my classmates
because I'm in a cohort because I

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have to take a class, but
I'm not part of that cohort. They're

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behind us, and so I could
see we had to do a group project,

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and so I had to we had
to choose a group facilitator. So

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this one, I guess the main
lady thought she was gonna just speak up.

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So they made the biggest mistake and
say, well, hey, Alicia,

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what do you think? I said, well, you know what,

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before we get started, I think
so and so will be a great leader.

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Do you know that? Lady said
to me, well, what makes

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you think that? I don't want
to say, well, you know she

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ain't class with you, right for
the next two years? Right, y'all

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together, I'll go. But she
said that in front on the on the

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web, on the zoom. I
was like, dad, I said,

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oh, yeah, okay, here
we go. Oh he's a very you

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know, very well sounded. Plus
you know he's from my home, my

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hometown, Bobbish County. He's a
substance abuse seem blah blah blah. You've

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done groups right, so and so
he's, oh, yeah, I have.

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When was the last time you did
one and wasn't adults. I had

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to get in get it for a
closer, closer, closer. Look,

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I'm talking to you. And she, oh, she and the other guy

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he said, oh, hey,
Luke, I agree with you. Here

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we go, Here we go,
let's play, let's play. I was

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born at night, wasn't born two
days ago? Come on die? So

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you know, it's little things like
that. And she was fit to be

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and she was trying to get her
facial expressions right, but she couldn't.

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She couldn't die right back, And
I said, I hope the other fellas

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see this, because y'all gonna be
a class for the next two years.

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Y'all got to work together. I
don't so are you gonna be back?

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But no, I am. It
can't right out, No, I'm not

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no, No, I go,
I got I got another class. Y'all

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know, I'll see y'all another time
at place. So while we're making light

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of that, we hope that you
see and feel that we're not making fun

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of anybody, but we're letting you
see how things could go quickly left or

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quickly right or stay on course.
And you have to determine when you leave

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your home or your place of living. You got to determine who you're doing

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you. Who are you gonna be
today? Who are you gonna be today?

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Are you gonna be the problem solver? Are you gonna be the one

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to make things lighter? Are you
gonna be that mediator? Are you gonna

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want tom? What are you gonna
do today? How are you gonna make

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a difference that day? Not think? If you everybody kind of steps back,

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and even if you say, you
know, I'm really angry today.

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I am so mad today and I
can't bring it back. I can't dial

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it back. I don't know what
to do. I really don't know what

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to do, but I am I
could kill somebody today. I've had that.

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I've seen that in people. So
what do you do with it?

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You gotta back it up, back
it up, say you know what.

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I can't. I'm not coming in
today. I don't need to even get

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in my car. And I know
y'all not gonna understand it. But I

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got three sick days left. I'm
taking one today because I can't be around

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people. Y'all don't know what I'm
going through. You don't know what I'm

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thinking about. You don't know.
You don't know. I didn't know how

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much this was gonna bother me.
I didn't know how much this, this

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separation, this divorce, this my
child is left, even children, people

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who are they took their adult child
to college, took them away, flew

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with them, drove with them,
and left them there. They're going through

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something. I want an anchor person
on the radio. She said, yeah,

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and she goes. I'm just waiting. I'm hoping she'll call me.

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I don't know she's she's she's the
one that she don't talk much, so

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she may not call me. I'mnna
have to be the one texting her.

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Are you okay? So all kinds
of things are going on, and we're

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in some parts of the world we've
got hurricane well, we got weather increments

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that are out of our control.
We don't know what the apt math,

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we don't know what even going through
it was gonna be. But people panicking,

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so they're getting everything off the shelf, about to hit you with the

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basket, not even thinking people.
I saw more people talking to themselves today.

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They had no airbud zone. They
were talking to themselves and I don't

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know they were and you don't.
I'm watching body language. I can't help

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it. I don't know about you, Trey, but being a social work

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or being a person dealing with other
people, I can't. I can't.

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The only time it takes arrests when
I go to sleep. Yeah, I

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you know, it's interesting you say
that, because sometimes when we talk about

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people and you see folks, you
know, just kind of talking to themselves.

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I think it's outlied, out loud
processing, and sometimes you feel that

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nobody gets you but yourself, and
so you have so you have to process

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it out loud as if you as
if you're talking with you know, having

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a conversation, it's with yourself because
maybe you don't have anybody that you can

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turn to that will understand it,
and maybe you don't know how to articulate

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it. You know, you you're
in the field too as well. You

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know better than I. And sometimes
people don't know how to articulate. I

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am angry, you know, even
I've used it with adults, I've used

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it with children. When was the
last time you were sad? I don't

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know. When was the last time
you are angry? I don't know,

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But we'd have to teach it them
what angry is teaching, what sadness is

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teaching? What being embarrassment? Being
embarrassed is teaching what being disappointed. So

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you have to kind of go through
the definitions for you don't understand what you're

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feeling because you might not know how
to do it. And so when you

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when you don't know how to articulate, typically it comes out and anger and

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aggression violence because you haven't been able
to process it verbally, and so you

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00:29:29.880 --> 00:29:33.519
know, you you notice the lashing
out even more persons that that don't noncommun

408
00:29:33.559 --> 00:29:42.079
know that don't communicate, that that
can't communicate. Yeah, So based on

409
00:29:42.160 --> 00:29:45.920
the cognitive level, the you know, the not understanding, and so it

410
00:29:47.000 --> 00:29:51.319
comes out a different way, but
there's still you can still teach a behavior

411
00:29:51.920 --> 00:29:55.200
and not trying to compare you know, apples and oranges. But if you

412
00:29:55.240 --> 00:29:59.839
can teach an animal how to do
certain things, you can teach it.

413
00:30:00.839 --> 00:30:06.720
It's consistency, it's repetitive. It's
you know, knowing what the outcome you

414
00:30:06.720 --> 00:30:10.440
would want that person to do,
so they can be able to do that.

415
00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:14.440
You know what I'm saying. You
can teach with cards at the non

416
00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:21.359
verbal You can make a smiley face
so this is happy, and just short

417
00:30:21.599 --> 00:30:25.400
them. You can make a sad
face shorter them and if they can't articulate

418
00:30:25.440 --> 00:30:29.119
it, have the cards when you're
in session, what are you feeling today?

419
00:30:30.079 --> 00:30:34.880
And you have them s out and
let them choose exactly. And so

420
00:30:36.039 --> 00:30:38.480
I think that's very helpful. They
use those in hospitals when people, you

421
00:30:38.519 --> 00:30:42.079
know, the pain levels, they
use that because some people can't tell you

422
00:30:44.160 --> 00:30:47.359
what they're feeling of the pain,
but they can point at the picture from

423
00:30:47.359 --> 00:30:52.039
one to ten, and especially if
there's ten faces, which one they are.

424
00:30:52.599 --> 00:30:56.920
But you have to be creative and
be willing and be patient. If

425
00:30:56.920 --> 00:30:59.759
you're not willing to help anybody,
don't ask what's wrong? And I can

426
00:30:59.759 --> 00:31:03.640
help don't. Don't don't even volunteer
yourself, you know, or talk to

427
00:31:03.680 --> 00:31:07.039
me anytime. If you're not gonna
answer, then you're all you're doing is

428
00:31:07.079 --> 00:31:11.640
setting that person up for failure.
Amen. So you know, I just

429
00:31:11.759 --> 00:31:15.000
it's just And especially with our young
men, you know, they say,

430
00:31:15.079 --> 00:31:19.599
oh little boys or you know,
don't cry, and don't the boys don't

431
00:31:19.640 --> 00:31:25.400
cry? Why that's an emotion.
Let it out right, let it out

432
00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:29.839
right. And and you and we, you know, we're gonna talk about

433
00:31:29.880 --> 00:31:33.319
that more. The Lord, the
group of that. We got a brainstorm

434
00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:36.960
somer you know, the topics for
next month. But yeah, we got

435
00:31:37.000 --> 00:31:41.000
we gotta talk about trauma. We
gotta talk about what trauma is, because

436
00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:45.519
everybody don't think that they've gone through
trauma. And I'm gonna say almost every

437
00:31:45.599 --> 00:31:52.960
human being just coming in this world
has been traumatized coming through that birth canal

438
00:31:52.519 --> 00:31:59.079
right, that play the warmth and
darkness, no light, and depending on

439
00:31:59.119 --> 00:32:05.880
the mom at her emotions probably kind
of peaceful and resting and and undisturbing,

440
00:32:05.960 --> 00:32:08.640
and then all of a sudden,
these hands and feeling, you know,

441
00:32:08.759 --> 00:32:12.599
try to pull you, and and
all of a sudden you've got this soft

442
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:15.920
light, but you got all these
people and they're funny looking, these color

443
00:32:15.039 --> 00:32:17.799
things that you could barely see.
You try to open your eyes and they're

444
00:32:17.839 --> 00:32:21.960
trying to wash you up and clean
you up as a as a girl,

445
00:32:22.039 --> 00:32:24.079
and you're like, who are you
talking about? Because I'm wait a bit,

446
00:32:24.200 --> 00:32:29.319
But let me go back. You
know, So everybody I would say,

447
00:32:30.319 --> 00:32:35.920
have been traumatized just coming in this
world. Remember, well, yeah,

448
00:32:35.920 --> 00:32:37.519
I think when in our era,
when when we were coming through,

449
00:32:37.559 --> 00:32:42.119
they flipped you upside down and patage
on the bottom. Yep, yep,

450
00:32:42.839 --> 00:32:46.400
you so make sure he's breathing.
Yeah. Yeah, So that's that's the

451
00:32:46.440 --> 00:32:52.000
first onset of trauma. There's gonna
depend on what you go through those early

452
00:32:52.119 --> 00:32:58.599
years. What about our babies who
were adopted? Were about our babies who

453
00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:06.200
had to be uh transferred to total
strangers in the foster care system or placed

454
00:33:06.200 --> 00:33:08.119
in the orphanage, you know,
I mean, so it it just and

455
00:33:08.160 --> 00:33:14.599
it goes. It's just it's just
spirals depending on what was your walk,

456
00:33:15.400 --> 00:33:17.720
what was your journey, you know. So we're gonna talk about that,

457
00:33:17.759 --> 00:33:23.880
but I want to get back to
tonight that you know, people who have

458
00:33:23.920 --> 00:33:30.200
been victimized by any act of violence, even if somebody threatens you, that's

459
00:33:30.279 --> 00:33:35.480
that's that that is just that gets
you. The brain is trying to do

460
00:33:35.519 --> 00:33:37.599
we flight? Do I fight?
Or do I run away? What do

461
00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:42.359
I do? And then sometimes you
you freeze, you know, because you

462
00:33:42.480 --> 00:33:45.920
just you're just so discombobulated. You
just don't know what to do, you

463
00:33:45.920 --> 00:33:47.119
know, and you and I know
a lot of people say, oh I

464
00:33:47.119 --> 00:33:50.839
would do this, I would do
that, but you never once you get

465
00:33:50.880 --> 00:33:57.160
into that situation, you don't know. I remember I had my Armada and

466
00:33:57.240 --> 00:34:00.880
it was my last car accident.
I'm just pulling up to the post office.

467
00:34:02.400 --> 00:34:07.640
I'm pulling into the slot and then
all of a sudden, it seemed

468
00:34:07.640 --> 00:34:13.800
like my car just the gear flip
and my car went straight into the side

469
00:34:13.840 --> 00:34:17.280
of the wall and bounce back,
went all over the stopper and went over

470
00:34:17.440 --> 00:34:22.159
at the sidewalk, bounce back airbag. When up, I'm like, oh

471
00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:25.000
my god, I can't see anything. I don't know where my glasses were.

472
00:34:25.360 --> 00:34:30.559
Thy god. Mechanics were across the
street. They came running and they're

473
00:34:30.559 --> 00:34:31.760
like, are you okay? Are
you okay? Can you open the door?

474
00:34:31.800 --> 00:34:36.039
And I'm like I couldn't. I
was out of it, and I'm

475
00:34:36.079 --> 00:34:40.880
like, just in that split second, my car malfunction. I'm just just

476
00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:46.280
pulling in, just to stop and
park, and my car goes over the

477
00:34:46.280 --> 00:34:51.559
media and not the media, but
to stop the stopping thing. The concrete

478
00:34:51.599 --> 00:34:54.519
thing up on the sidewalk, hit
the side of the post office and bounced

479
00:34:54.559 --> 00:34:59.239
back, and I'm like, oh
my god, Oh my god. And

480
00:34:59.280 --> 00:35:01.719
they total it because of the airbags. All of'em went off. Once

481
00:35:01.760 --> 00:35:04.800
the one went off, the all
of'em went off. I'm an only

482
00:35:04.800 --> 00:35:09.280
one in the car. But if
you're sitting there like you don't know,

483
00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:13.960
I you know, I'm trying to
look down, why is the car the

484
00:35:14.000 --> 00:35:16.800
gear shifting and the car was moving. My foot was on the break,

485
00:35:16.840 --> 00:35:22.960
I thought, because I'm trying to
stop, and I just couldn't. I

486
00:35:22.119 --> 00:35:28.480
Oh my god. So you can't
say what you would do in any scenario.

487
00:35:29.199 --> 00:35:34.440
You would hope that you could maybe
be conscious, become conscious enough aware

488
00:35:34.760 --> 00:35:37.960
enough that you could stop something,
but you really don't know. You would

489
00:35:37.960 --> 00:35:42.039
hope that you could do this if
that happened to me. I think I

490
00:35:42.039 --> 00:35:45.920
could do this if you know,
But you don't know, you don't know.

491
00:35:46.599 --> 00:35:50.079
And I ended up having to be
transported to the hospital but I had

492
00:35:50.079 --> 00:35:52.960
to call my husband was separate and
I were separated. I had the car.

493
00:35:53.000 --> 00:35:54.559
I know it was this day off. I said, I'm sorry to

494
00:35:54.559 --> 00:35:58.039
bother you when I've been in an
accident. He said, you all right,

495
00:35:58.079 --> 00:36:00.599
I said, I don't think they're
taking me to the hospital. He

496
00:36:00.639 --> 00:36:01.679
said, where's the car? I
said, I need you to come by

497
00:36:01.719 --> 00:36:05.679
and clean it out because I had
stuff in it. And I know,

498
00:36:05.719 --> 00:36:07.920
once I go to the toe you
know, to the jungle, I mean

499
00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:10.159
the toe yard, you got to
pay to get your stuff out and that

500
00:36:10.239 --> 00:36:14.119
kind of nonsense. He said,
I'm on my way. And then after

501
00:36:14.119 --> 00:36:17.440
a while he met me at the
hospital and I'm still like, I don't

502
00:36:17.440 --> 00:36:21.679
know. I don't know what just
happened. I don't I don't know what

503
00:36:21.800 --> 00:36:31.400
just happened. So try to practice
peace practice. Let me calm down,

504
00:36:31.440 --> 00:36:36.119
because I'm upset right now. So
what do I need to do to kind

505
00:36:36.159 --> 00:36:39.880
of keep myself calm? Maybe I
I jokingly said. One time I was

506
00:36:39.920 --> 00:36:44.599
at a conference over in put Lack
of Florida, at a church conference,

507
00:36:44.639 --> 00:36:47.400
and I was one of the speakers, and they asked how what was my

508
00:36:46.960 --> 00:36:55.039
topic was? How do I know
that I'm changed? And I don't know

509
00:36:55.079 --> 00:36:58.360
why I came out of my mouth. I said, yeah, you your

510
00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:00.480
parents, you trying to get that
you're running to get and make sure your

511
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:04.960
child is diagnosed with add and ADHD. All it is that you drank too

512
00:37:05.039 --> 00:37:07.039
much pepsi. You eate ice and
you can't stare the daddy. That's why

513
00:37:07.159 --> 00:37:09.719
the pastor got up on a chair. He said, Dot the grey,

514
00:37:10.119 --> 00:37:14.199
Dot the gray. I said,
yeah, you ate. You drank too

515
00:37:14.239 --> 00:37:17.199
much pepsi, you had eight ice, and you hate the daddy and so

516
00:37:17.320 --> 00:37:21.920
the child, the baby that you're
carrying, knows this. You all jumping,

517
00:37:22.079 --> 00:37:24.400
you cussing people at the baby gait. We don't know what starts first

518
00:37:24.440 --> 00:37:29.719
with the baby while they're in the
stomach and then all of a sudden,

519
00:37:29.760 --> 00:37:31.000
So he laughed them up, but
I was dead serious. You drank too

520
00:37:31.079 --> 00:37:36.599
much pepsi and you ate ice.
So you, you and your hormones are

521
00:37:36.599 --> 00:37:38.000
all over the place, and then
you and the daddy are not getting along.

522
00:37:39.599 --> 00:37:44.039
So what do you do differently?
Now? Do you know who you

523
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:50.239
are? Now? We change our
emotions, our thoughts. The way you

524
00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:54.280
used to think ten years ago will
not apply today. Because what you need

525
00:37:54.320 --> 00:38:01.119
today you didn't need ten years ago, but now you do things change.

526
00:38:01.159 --> 00:38:06.519
Our world is changing, our bodies
change even though you try. I look

527
00:38:06.519 --> 00:38:09.280
at the Kardashians and they work out
every day, but they still trying to

528
00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:15.159
have things altered. And going back
to what you were saying about the losing

529
00:38:15.199 --> 00:38:19.320
weight, Yeah, I know many
people got the gastro and I'm like,

530
00:38:19.400 --> 00:38:22.760
now are you sure? Now have
you gotten your eating habits under control?

531
00:38:23.840 --> 00:38:28.559
Because that's really what we're talking about
here. I know you need to get

532
00:38:28.599 --> 00:38:30.360
some excess because you don't want to. You're not gonna work out enough,

533
00:38:30.440 --> 00:38:34.039
You're not gonna take you know,
you're try to take the pills or whatever.

534
00:38:34.519 --> 00:38:37.559
So I know the gastro is the
sleeve or whatever, it is the

535
00:38:37.599 --> 00:38:40.679
best thing for you. I get
that you want to get an extra head

536
00:38:40.760 --> 00:38:46.280
start, but I have to step
back and ask what were your eating habits

537
00:38:46.320 --> 00:38:52.599
like before you had the surgery and
how have they changed as you're getting ready

538
00:38:52.599 --> 00:38:55.280
to go through the process. I
know you gotta do a lot of psychological

539
00:38:55.320 --> 00:38:59.800
stuff, some testing. You gotta
meet some people before they could say okay,

540
00:38:59.760 --> 00:39:01.320
you know she's okay to go ahead
or he's okay to go ahead and

541
00:39:01.400 --> 00:39:08.880
have the surgery. But if you've
not conquered, you're eating habits And what

542
00:39:08.920 --> 00:39:13.599
type of eater are you? Are
you an emotional eater? Are you a

543
00:39:13.599 --> 00:39:16.280
reactionary eater? Are you? Or
the time you get upset or that time

544
00:39:16.280 --> 00:39:20.880
of a month you eat? What
kind of what you know? Did you?

545
00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:23.320
You got to get that under control
because guess what's gonna be waiting for

546
00:39:23.360 --> 00:39:29.159
you once you get off that table, your old habits that you didn't conquer.

547
00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:32.800
And that's like with anything else coming
out of relationships. You know,

548
00:39:34.079 --> 00:39:36.960
yes, we self assessed. We
look at ourselves and what did I do

549
00:39:37.039 --> 00:39:38.000
wrong? And you know, why
did he do this to me? Why

550
00:39:38.039 --> 00:39:40.519
did she do this? No,
now you got to step back. Now,

551
00:39:40.599 --> 00:39:45.639
let's let's look at this from a
different perspective. What would you say?

552
00:39:45.960 --> 00:39:49.440
And I can't say if your mother
in law or your mother came there.

553
00:39:49.480 --> 00:39:52.440
I have to say, if Jesus
was sitting down with you, what

554
00:39:52.440 --> 00:39:55.760
would he say? What would he
call out? And that's where I could

555
00:39:55.760 --> 00:40:01.119
get some people to be honest and
truthful. Well I was like this,

556
00:40:02.039 --> 00:40:05.679
and yeah, I mean you know
they ain't making money. Well, you're

557
00:40:05.760 --> 00:40:10.880
married and poor. You're married her
he was between jobs. What are you

558
00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:16.360
expecting well, he said, well, he was supposed to do well.

559
00:40:16.360 --> 00:40:20.159
She already told me she don't like
the cook, and now you don't married

560
00:40:20.199 --> 00:40:23.559
her and she's not cooking, so
you're surprised. She told your sh don't

561
00:40:23.599 --> 00:40:27.719
like the cook and you told us, all right, baby, i'll look

562
00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:30.320
at the grill in the back,
I'll do something. But you're working two

563
00:40:30.400 --> 00:40:37.199
jobs because now y'all got three kids. But what did y'all discuss at the

564
00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:44.159
beginning? What did you say?
Because unfortunately, how you find each other

565
00:40:44.519 --> 00:40:50.119
is how what you usually end up
with. So going back to because I

566
00:40:50.119 --> 00:40:52.840
nobody just got a few more minutes. But you know, we don't know

567
00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:55.840
what people are going through. We
don't know what the battles are and the

568
00:40:55.840 --> 00:41:01.000
battle starts in the mind. We
don't know, and you could be traumatized

569
00:41:01.039 --> 00:41:04.599
at the drop of a hat.
You don't know my story. I've told

570
00:41:04.599 --> 00:41:09.440
most of my story on this air. Trade knows a lot more timing those

571
00:41:09.480 --> 00:41:13.679
a lot are some pieces about me, you know, but you don't know

572
00:41:13.760 --> 00:41:19.719
my whole story. You don't know
what helped me to come to this point

573
00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:25.079
in my life and what I battle
with every day. You don't know my

574
00:41:25.079 --> 00:41:31.079
battles because I am constantly aware of
myself. And I told you I'm ninety

575
00:41:31.079 --> 00:41:35.960
percent spiritual, but ten percent human. I got to keep that ten percent

576
00:41:36.039 --> 00:41:39.199
under control because you don't know what
you may wake up too or no,

577
00:41:39.280 --> 00:41:42.599
but I don't know what I may
say. There are times I'm like,

578
00:41:42.599 --> 00:41:45.639
you know what, I've got appointment
schedule for the day. I cancel them

579
00:41:45.679 --> 00:41:49.880
because if I'm not in the people
people business, you don't want me.

580
00:41:50.480 --> 00:41:53.559
You don't If I'm all fleshy m, you won't see me. I'll stay

581
00:41:53.599 --> 00:41:55.599
in there. I'll stay in I
got a garage. You don't even know

582
00:41:55.639 --> 00:42:00.679
if I'm home or not. Because
I know myself. Oh, I don't

583
00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:07.480
want to unleash that other side because
when I get to going, I go

584
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:09.679
go ahead track that. Yeah,
that's so important to it. And I

585
00:42:09.679 --> 00:42:13.920
tell people you need to know your
triggers, and I know you know,

586
00:42:14.039 --> 00:42:19.519
and past employment, and especially in
this field, talk about well what are

587
00:42:19.559 --> 00:42:23.679
your triggers? Being able to know
what you can handle in order to better

588
00:42:23.719 --> 00:42:27.880
help someone else, because if you're
all the pieces, like I said,

589
00:42:28.000 --> 00:42:30.599
you're human. If you're all the
pieces, or if you know that you

590
00:42:30.719 --> 00:42:37.079
have certain biases, you it's certain
things that you can and cannot say,

591
00:42:37.239 --> 00:42:39.880
or shouldn't or should not say to
your client. You know, you might

592
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:45.039
not believe in celebrating birthdays and in
Christmas, but if your client does,

593
00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:49.719
you can't. You can't impose that
on them. You have to have this

594
00:42:49.920 --> 00:42:53.639
this fine line. If that's important
to that particular client, then you need

595
00:42:53.679 --> 00:42:57.800
to be able to do that.
If you can't, either back away from

596
00:42:57.880 --> 00:43:00.880
it. So if it But if
you can't handle all of that stuff,

597
00:43:00.920 --> 00:43:02.960
you don't need to be in the
field, you know what I mean.

598
00:43:04.039 --> 00:43:08.840
You have to know yourself and and
I think sometimes people don't. They don't

599
00:43:08.880 --> 00:43:12.000
know their triggers. I can tell
you, Look, I can go.

600
00:43:12.360 --> 00:43:16.199
I can be either this extreme very
mouth or the other extreme. I have

601
00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:20.960
a hard time find in that middle
ground, and so I really try to

602
00:43:21.000 --> 00:43:23.559
stay in that calm, realm.
Well, I just don't say, I

603
00:43:23.599 --> 00:43:28.280
just don't respond. I suck it
in and I deal it my own way,

604
00:43:28.320 --> 00:43:31.440
because if it keeps gradually going that
way, it's gonna be a whole

605
00:43:31.559 --> 00:43:36.280
different something else. And people say, well, how are you able?

606
00:43:36.320 --> 00:43:38.519
I said, no, it's best
that I do. You know, just

607
00:43:38.519 --> 00:43:43.159
just let me let me be,
let me process it. Let me hear

608
00:43:43.280 --> 00:43:45.199
you. I understand what you're saying, but let me go and process what

609
00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:49.880
I need to do so I can
let it go because if I don't,

610
00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:52.559
you know, that's the way I
That's the way I have been always.

611
00:43:53.400 --> 00:43:58.159
But I know that's me, and
so that's how I'm able to kind of

612
00:43:58.199 --> 00:44:01.239
stay on the commerce side or calm
side, because I am going. I

613
00:44:01.280 --> 00:44:06.159
don't like things to take me there. It feels funny, it feels different,

614
00:44:06.199 --> 00:44:08.360
it doesn't feel like it's me,
So I don't go there. Often

615
00:44:09.360 --> 00:44:14.079
wants in a blue moon and that's
a good thing. That that's a good

616
00:44:14.119 --> 00:44:19.079
thing. And I'm not violent,
but it's just it's just holding it so

617
00:44:19.119 --> 00:44:23.480
long. It's just that as a
volcano, I can only say a volcano.

618
00:44:23.519 --> 00:44:29.079
I remember the volcano in Grease that
you know, you know, everybody

619
00:44:29.119 --> 00:44:32.840
talked about it and if you look
at before pictures, they tried to play

620
00:44:34.039 --> 00:44:37.559
some flowers around it, but it
was black. It was gory looking,

621
00:44:37.639 --> 00:44:40.159
it was you know, and it's
like nobody you know, And I'm thinking,

622
00:44:40.280 --> 00:44:44.360
I'm gonna take the voice in the
mindset of the volcano, like Okay,

623
00:44:44.400 --> 00:44:46.800
now you don't beautified everything around me, but you don't even come and

624
00:44:46.880 --> 00:44:52.920
check on me. And that thing
once it erupted, it's shut down right

625
00:44:52.079 --> 00:44:55.880
right, it's shut them down.
People who were coming from who were from

626
00:44:55.920 --> 00:45:00.760
Greece, was stuck here for months. They even a pilot to fly through

627
00:45:00.800 --> 00:45:07.880
the black smoke. The black smoke
just linger after that volcano erupted, and

628
00:45:07.880 --> 00:45:09.599
then you could even pay them up. They had up. They had up

629
00:45:09.599 --> 00:45:13.119
to a million dollars. Probably say, no, I'm not crazy. I

630
00:45:13.119 --> 00:45:15.000
don't know what. I don't know
what if I ever come through that.

631
00:45:16.639 --> 00:45:22.119
So I equated to a volcano.
It's it bubbles, It bubbles for a

632
00:45:22.239 --> 00:45:24.280
hundred years, and then people say, oh it's not erupted in over one

633
00:45:24.320 --> 00:45:28.960
hundred years, volcano. I got
something for you now, because you ain't

634
00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:34.800
even taking care of me, you
know. But like I said, that's

635
00:45:34.800 --> 00:45:38.159
self reflection sometimes just you know,
I just tell people five finding these five

636
00:45:38.159 --> 00:45:43.480
minutes a day for your to yourself
talking out journaling. You know, I

637
00:45:43.519 --> 00:45:46.840
do have a journal that I write
stuff in and and and bounce stuff back

638
00:45:46.880 --> 00:45:51.840
off. I have a good support
system and I bounce things off off of

639
00:45:51.880 --> 00:45:53.719
them, you know, and it's
it's it just helps me to keep me

640
00:45:53.800 --> 00:45:58.559
in check. And going forward,
you know, and and I think we

641
00:45:58.719 --> 00:46:01.519
all needed that. You need to
find that and if you don't, you

642
00:46:01.559 --> 00:46:05.360
know, I don't want people to
lose hope, to feel like okay,

643
00:46:05.280 --> 00:46:07.920
the only alternative is to do away
with myself, you know, to do

644
00:46:08.000 --> 00:46:15.840
away with themselves. Find something or
somebody helps the therapist if you if you

645
00:46:15.880 --> 00:46:19.840
can't afforward, you know, just
reach out to two one one if you

646
00:46:19.920 --> 00:46:23.679
have that in your area. Find
somewhere that that offers free therapy because it's

647
00:46:23.760 --> 00:46:28.719
needed and people are you know,
I can't say it enough. It is

648
00:46:28.880 --> 00:46:31.960
it will help you. And people
think that somebody telling you what to do.

649
00:46:32.079 --> 00:46:37.840
No, it's helping somebody helping you
process your feelings and your moods and

650
00:46:37.920 --> 00:46:42.480
what it is you can do to
better it. It's not correct me if

651
00:46:42.519 --> 00:46:45.840
I'm wrong, because you're the therapist. But I just you know, they're

652
00:46:45.880 --> 00:46:49.519
not telling you what to do.
It's just the problem you process and it

653
00:46:49.639 --> 00:46:53.360
so you you could be empowered to
do it yourself exactly and you can arrive

654
00:46:53.440 --> 00:46:58.079
at your answer, right, you
can arrive at the solution, you know.

655
00:46:58.519 --> 00:47:00.199
So yeah, that's that's what a
good therapist should be doing. No,

656
00:47:00.280 --> 00:47:02.880
I'm not helping you. I'm not
here to tell you what to do.

657
00:47:04.159 --> 00:47:06.400
Even with my kids, you know, I can't say, you know,

658
00:47:06.400 --> 00:47:07.679
what, what have you thought of? I had to stop that now

659
00:47:07.960 --> 00:47:12.480
because they are adults, and I'm
not gonna give you the answer that may

660
00:47:12.480 --> 00:47:15.079
be my answer. I'm not gonna
but think about what you where you want

661
00:47:15.079 --> 00:47:20.679
to go now, where you need
to be now financially? What does that

662
00:47:20.719 --> 00:47:22.599
world? What? What? What
kind of world you like to create right

663
00:47:22.639 --> 00:47:28.559
now? Because you're so multitalented,
there's and there's nothing that you cannot do.

664
00:47:29.400 --> 00:47:31.880
But y'all need to be take bringing
two stacks in. You got to

665
00:47:31.920 --> 00:47:37.079
be having two screat your streams of
income coming in three. You know you're

666
00:47:37.079 --> 00:47:40.360
gonna be thirty, you're gonna be
twenty eight, twenty five, twenty four.

667
00:47:42.320 --> 00:47:44.400
We don't know what kind of world
is gonna be devil you know,

668
00:47:44.480 --> 00:47:47.960
don't dealing with you. And there's
so and there's so many opportunities for young

669
00:47:49.079 --> 00:47:52.960
folks. I mean you just have
to be and and and another folks and

670
00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:58.079
an older adults. It's just that
time and figure out. Yeah, just

671
00:47:58.679 --> 00:48:00.400
figure out what it is you want
to do and just try to work towards

672
00:48:00.480 --> 00:48:05.320
that and I'm talking to myself as
well, you know, because I put

673
00:48:05.400 --> 00:48:08.000
things on the back burner and and
it's coming forward. You know. I'm

674
00:48:08.639 --> 00:48:12.760
feeling more motivated right now, you
know, because it's been a kind of

675
00:48:12.840 --> 00:48:15.760
rough year, but things are coming
to me. And like I said,

676
00:48:15.239 --> 00:48:19.440
with the help of you and some
others, just motivating me because I need

677
00:48:19.440 --> 00:48:22.159
that push. You know, it's
time for you to step out trade,

678
00:48:22.199 --> 00:48:23.800
time for you to do this,
time for you to do that, And

679
00:48:23.920 --> 00:48:30.119
that's a help. It's accountability,
right exactly. Well, that's our time,

680
00:48:30.159 --> 00:48:32.559
guys, and it's gone. Please
keep us in prayer as you know

681
00:48:32.679 --> 00:48:37.400
that we've got you know, company
coming. I can't pronounce the hurricane's first

682
00:48:37.480 --> 00:48:42.400
name, but she's supposed that she's
coming in as a Cat three by tomorrow

683
00:48:42.440 --> 00:48:45.400
evening, by tomorrow night overnight and
things like that. Keep us in prayer,

684
00:48:45.480 --> 00:48:51.440
not only because of the aftermath or
going through, but even the pre

685
00:48:51.639 --> 00:48:54.719
the preparation time. Everybody's running around
crazy leg right now, trying to get

686
00:48:54.719 --> 00:48:59.480
sandbags and trying to get all the
water off the shelf and things like that.

687
00:48:59.559 --> 00:49:04.599
So keep us in prayer. Uh, the pandhandled Tallahassee, and it's

688
00:49:04.599 --> 00:49:07.480
supposed to be out by Wednesday night, heading to the Carolinas and Georgia,

689
00:49:07.840 --> 00:49:10.440
so we you know, we've got
some stretch between us. We don't know

690
00:49:10.519 --> 00:49:14.320
what the storm may do, but
you all be blessed. We're gonna see

691
00:49:14.360 --> 00:49:16.360
you next week. It's gonna be
a holiday, but we will have a

692
00:49:16.400 --> 00:49:20.000
show. Y'all. Take care of
stay safe out there. Thank you,

693
00:49:20.000 --> 00:50:08.639
guys. Y'all be bline. Bye
bye bye