Intl. Day of Loss & Waste: Cleaning Out the Cobwebs

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could even nigge eve, nigget eveything, and welcome to another awesome opportunity to

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hear the show of a lifetime.
We give our own selves the awards through

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the Holy Ghost. We don't have
to be at the enemies of the Tony's

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other Grammys. We make up the
Holy Ghost Kingdom Awards, and God said,

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well done and well done, good
evening, and welcome tom Ay.

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What you doing over there? How
are you doing? I'd be all right,

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she's a little way away from it, but I know she's just a

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phone call away. Holiday and Trey
will be joining us a little later.

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But we're gonna go ahead and open
with prayer and then we're gonna go on

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with the show. Bob, we
just thank you, We thank you,

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we thank you, we thank you. We love you so much because you

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first loved us. We thank you
Father God that you just you just forgive

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us and you have so much mercy, so much mercy for us. And

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you know that we're gonna come through. You know we're gonna clean it up,

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and we just thank you. I'm
just thankful because I know nobody that

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will do that, even a mother
and a child. We just don't we

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don't have that. We don't have
your unconditional love. We don't have your

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peace that passes all understanding. We
don't have that in the humanness and being

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human. Only you could provide that
and show us how it's done. Now

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tonight is your show. We're just
your daughters were behind the cross. We

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thank you. We give you praise
in Jesus name, Amen and amen,

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my Lord. We just thank you. I wanna We're gonna get to the

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topic in a minute. And you
know, I'm very transparent and I was

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sharing with the ladies before we came
on. I said, oh yeah,

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I got spiked today. I you
know, all this time you've heard me

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talk about, Yes, I'm in
school. It was not my idea,

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so keep that in mind. I
say it, it was not my idea,

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so it should be. If it
wasn't my idea, then whose idea

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was it? And of course you
would think you know who's idea? Well,

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of course it was God. But
it goes deeper than that, and

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I received a prophetic word listening to
it. I had to stop it in

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the middle and put my head down. I said, God, I'm so

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sorry. What I hadn't missed all
this time, from the moment I was

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accepted into school, was the fact
that this was not something about what I

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want or a hidden desire, but
this is about the mantle. There's a

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mantle he had given me recently,
and I didn't he gave it to me,

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and he'd been giving me mantles,
and this is one. I didn't

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understand it. And I think I've
shared I've got a mantle on me.

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I don't understand. I've gone to
him, I've asked him to explain explain

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it to me. I don't want
to miss out on anything, and I

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was missing it while I was sitting
right in front of me. And that

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is the fact that. No,
it had nothing to me being in school.

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Getting a doctorate degree has nothing to
do with me, nothing to do

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with the fact of years I said
I don't need a doctorate degree. It

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has everything to do with his kingdom
and for whatever's coming around this corner.

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He needs to be part of my
armory, part of my tool belt,

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part of my skills set is what
I'm bringing from what I'm getting through this

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degree. And with that trade trade. Hey greet everybody, go ahead,

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and then you're gonna okay, all
right, hello everybody trade trade from around

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the way way, Thank you,
thank you. Yes, she she gotta

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figure on that trigger. She is
real quick that he don't amit myself.

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You ain't gonna get what I got
to say. Amen, But yes,

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I'm being transparent trade. I got
some revelation today after all this time,

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and I did not know, and
I did not know it was associated with

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my man to one of the mantles
God has given me. But it's about

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going back to school. And you
know, I've always said I didn't need

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to go back to school. It
was not my idea. I've always said

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I don't never I don't need a
PhD. To go where I need to

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go and say what I need to
say. But it's the material that I'm

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learning and the impact that's gonna have
for future social workers, community resource resource

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agencies, mental health facilities, substance
abuse facilities. Because we got to go

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and uproot some wrongdoing on an agency
from an agency perspective. Because as you

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know in trade, I know you've
had this experience, you know with your

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case management days where you go in
we got a case low. We all

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were supposed to do is just we
see we see you every three months.

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We get the treatment plans side so
we can get paid, and that's it.

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We put the goals. We knew
that some clients come to you with

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ten year old goals that they never
worked on. You inherit the case low.

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That's what you get. We're supposed
to treat. We're supposed to treat

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them according to the treatment goals,
which supposedly came from joint decision making and

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all along. They just like a
five or four plan when the tours were

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at their school, these students came
in with their five or four plans that

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were five years old. Three years
old. You supposed to renew that thing

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every year, updated, even if
you're gonna repeat the same goals. Can

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we change some wording? Getting back
to me? Got this prophetic word and

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I had to stop it in the
middle, and I put my head down.

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I couldn't even cry. He wouldn't
even let me cry. My flesh

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wouldn't even let me cry. I
just put my head down and said,

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God, I'm so sorry. Because
getting this degree, it's all about Kingdom

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work. It really has nothing to
do with the fact that I have a

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nonprofit, has nothing to do with
I'm The fact that I'm business minded has

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something to do even with that I'm
a social worker. It's just it's for

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Kingdom's sake, for Kingdom's sake,
and I'm like God, all this time,

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I'm whining and I'm complaining. You
know, I'm in school. Oh

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my God, every semester I want
to get out. I want to jump

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back out. Let me. I
don't know how, don't God, do

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I really need it? You should
see the conversations I'll be having in in

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the then. That's the holiest place
in my house, the then, because

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I'd be like God too, I
really have to do this. These people

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here, they got me bit oh, they take you all out of your

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character when they give you responses,
back to your papers and stuff like that.

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In your responses. Oh, they
they're getting nasty, but that's that's

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who they are meant to be because
they you know, these teachers, some

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of these professors have their favorites and
they can't hide it. We're all grown,

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some of them older than we're older. We're older than y'all. And

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you my favorite. You better teach
me and get it right. So that's

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why the devil could harp and use
these appisodes that use the fellow students.

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I'm in a new cohort. They've
not accepted me. I don't even have

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the WhatsApp chat. But I got
a new class I'm in right now,

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just for this, just until this
week, two more weeks. I'm out.

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They've already given me to what'sapp,
but the teacher had to make them

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give it to me. It's just
so funny. You talk about being on

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the outside, and I'm like,
how don't need you'll? But what happens

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that old stronghold of rejection comes back
around with a new face and a new

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flavor and a new set. You're
rejecting me because I'm new. You rejecting

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me because I had to bow out
for a minute. I didn't. I

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didn't. I didn't. I don't
get to say so as to what class

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I drop in or what cohort I
graduate with, I don't. And he

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says, so they just put me
back in. They'll mess up my schedule.

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They added another class until like before
I graduate, which would be right

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up against graduation. But I said, I'll take it. I have to

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do what I want to do because
I have to do it because I've got

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to get out of here. We
get this comes to it end, This

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comes to it end. And I
didn't realize it. And then my body

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started turning on me and something.
I'm having headaches and stuff like, and

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I'm like, God, okay,
Jesus, and they won't. They won't

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touch it. They won't touch me. And I'm like, God, Jesus

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will tell me what I'm doing wrong, because obviously, and when I got

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that revelation, the pressure that I
had been feeling eased. Though it eased

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though, So what am I saying? What am i I'm saying is not

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everything is about you when it comes
to God. Yes, he will give

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you the desires of your heart.
Yes, even that what you don't want

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to do. He'll put that on
your plates well, to see that you

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come to, how you come through, how you would handle it. And

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I think he'll probably give me a
C minus on this one because I didn't

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handle it too well. I did
repent. This is Young Corport today.

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It ends, it's already, it's
ended twice because the sun went down twice.

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It went down twice and gonna cloud
up. So it was a day

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of atonement and repenting. And thank
god I got in it. I got

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the revelation right before the sun went
down, and I repent it and I

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said, I'm so sorry. So
I encourage you as you work on your

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relationship with God. Please no,
yeah, he's gonna that, which he's

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already. And guess what, this
doctor, this piece the school is already

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in me. It's already in me
to accept, to respect my professors,

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to know that I'm a student,
I respect that my role as a student.

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I'm not and I'm not even trying
to step out with the classmates right

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now because they are all over the
place. I got belated and I'm just

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sitting there like this ain't nothing.
It sain't nothing. You still got a

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whole year ago, so just know
when to repent when it shows you the

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error of your way. She said, God, I'm sorry, I'm so

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sorry. And I can hear him
laughing because he's like, oh, she

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finally got it now because school,
yes, I have, this is a

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mandate on my life. I have
to complete. I have to get this

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this degree so that whatever is next
going forward, I will be able to

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complete it as he deems it.
So that's true. So just thinking about

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what you were saying, Esha,
and I hope I put it the way

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I'm processing. And it's a couple
of things. And listening to you,

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and so your pursuit of the doctoral
program was despite of the students that you

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or your cohort or whatever. I
don't understand some other jargon, but I

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all I can say from this point, and this is I'm talking to myself

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as well. Added to the curriculum, you know, this is just added

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to the curriculum of your testimony,
because you've overcome so much, miss Gray,

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since I've met you and over these
past few years. Uh, Tommy

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and I both know what you have
overcome, and so you can be a

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testament to some folks that think,
you know there's no hope for me and

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helping them to find the way you
look despite of this. You can do

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that because you've helped me. You
know this, This past year has not

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been the best and and I keep
saying that because that's part of my healing.

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You know, I have to say
that to myself, and you know,

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I have to do a lot of
self talking to myself because these are

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the things that we teach the people
that we work with. I mean,

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we're human. It's it's the flesh. You know, if I stabbed myself

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or I get stabbed, I'm gonna
bleed. Or you know, if I

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fall down, I might get scraped
and stuff. I might not walk away

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unblemished. But but that's the human
part of me. But also remember that

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I got up. You know,
also remember that I was able to do

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this despite of that. And I
think long as we say that to themselves

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and not like I said, I'm
saying, I'm preaching it to myself as

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well, because I'm only human and
as human side, I can take you

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know, can take a hold of
you. Like some people say, take

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a hold of you. Uh okay, it won't seems like it won't let

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you go, you know, but
The thing is you have to remember that

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and think about all the things that
we've overcome. And this is a solution

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focus as well. You know,
they teach you how did you manage it?

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You were at this point, how
did you manage? Because we also

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can relate that to the people that
we work with, the people that we

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mention, the people that we are
ministered to, you know, the people

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that we guide or motivate and so
and I just say, it's just something

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that else we can add. I
know you're gonna be an awesome doctor,

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you know, because there's some people
who don't understand case management what it entails,

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checks and balances. If you are
in the school system and you you

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were working with a child with the
i EP and you've noticed this child's IHP

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is five years old, be that
teacher say hey, we need to update

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this, but you don't know what
to look for. If you don't know

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what to look for, you know, they don't train like they used to.

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Sometimes people walk in and expect you, oh you should know that,

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No, I need to learn my
role. I've done this, but I

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need to learn role. And looking
at you and talking with you, maybe

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that's you could teach other folks to
do the same thing in your role.

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This is what you look for for
case management. If you had a child,

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a person with the IP goal or
individualized service plan and it's old and

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you see they're not meeting these goals. Talk with the client. Why aren't

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they meeting and set some new goals. But you don't know that if you're

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not trained to do that. You
go to school, but they don't teach

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you. A lot of stuff you
learned is on the job training because they

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don't know which way you're going to
go, so stuff, a lot of

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stuff is generalized. So I think
you will be an awesome you know doctor,

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and I know Guy's got his hand
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an awesome asset to anyone with whom
you encounter. I love you, Thank

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you. I wasn't really getting only
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I wasn't asking for that or expecting
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me, it's only for the best. It's only for the better. When

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he corrects you, it trusts me. It may sting, it may make

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you cry, but you know,
when you get up, it's like God,

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do he You're saying that something like, oh you finish. You finish

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that because you know we got words
to do over here. We wait,

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no agels be like I can see
the angels in heaven. They got the

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clipboard, like did we write anything? We erase what we do, we

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check out all, and guy's like, no, give me a minute.

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could a minute to God could be
an age a decade. So the agents

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will be like, okay, give
him a minute, and they'd be like,

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we at this one, did we
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You know what she gonna get to
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Okay. So I'm want to I
believe in transparency because I know it can

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help somebody out there, even if
somebody picks this show up and listens to

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it six months from now and they
just came from the doctor and they got

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a diagnosis, and they'll listen to
our how we encourage people, how we

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tell you push forward, push on, move through it. You gotta get

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through it. You got on the
other side up through. You can't jump

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over it, you can't go up
under it. You got to go through

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it because you become the best person. And it's so hard it's so hard

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to imagine that. And that's why
we're talking about tonight. You know,

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it's the International Day of Waste and
Loss, and we lose so much time

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whining and complaining instead of just pull
your bookstraps up and let's go. It

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didn't work that way, So can
we course correctly? What would you do

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differently? And people can't think that
because they're looking for let me grab.

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There's nothing wrong with self help books. Don't get, don't don't send no

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lasting emails to me. You know
I had to start out like that.

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I had to read my set of
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and you know, spiritual leadership and
how to be a godly wife. And

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you know I had to read my
books. Who've already they wrote about it,

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they knew about it. It's evidence
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a child, not age wise.
You spoke like a child. You think

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you thought like a child. Now
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But you can't see any forest for
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eye, or your clutteredness. Everywhere
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there and you haven't even it's age, old paper, newspapers, from back.

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And you know, if you got
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me do a disclaimer right now.
If you go on somebody house and they

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got newspapers, there's something really wrong
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at some of the places still have
it, like Barns and Nobles that you

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can go in and have some coffee
and get your newspaper. Seven eleven things

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still carry them too. But to
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stacked up somewhere, uh, let's
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because I think we would be a
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got some over here. They read
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gonna get it. Okay, okay, okay, they get a little.

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newspaper. She still likes to get
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a subscription. I told her,
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because no, we're not going through
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there you go. I got people
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you, thank you, ago years
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you need to just take and you
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a time. Today I would I
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I got to do something. I
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I got up and I reduced the
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I pushed them to the size of
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and put them in in the recycle
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the time. You you you're not
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your atmosphere is not clear. Your
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You got shoes lined up going.
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because come on now, loss and
waste. We waste so much. We

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waste so much, and for what. And then you wonder why all of

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a sudden your memory is going because
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okay, I stopped, and I
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and I said, and I closed
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am a creature of habit. When
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over my eyes. Give me a
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You have to speak yourself out of
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of habit when it comes to certain
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I acquired new habits, and I'm
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came to that thing, I know
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been, and it was. It
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it. So as we look at
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we had to have a mini group
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so we met last night and it
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about how trauma care Self care has
been added to the National Association of Social

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Workers Code of Ethics because they realize, okay, we need to take tell

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our practitioners, you need to take
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we take care of ourselves, but
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not. They don't know how to
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every hand because you know, because
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we go if we don't resolve our
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that was short term, it happened
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one or a hurricane. If we
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equal ground of resolution. Here,
you go into the office on Monday and

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you got a client who lost everything
and you're looking at thank god you Okay,

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yeah they they you lost over your
pat of your furniture and things like

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that. But here's a true a
caryat coming to you at the lowest and

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there's nothing really you can do but
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your mind? I don't lost things
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And what happens we're becoming retraumatized.
That's the whole new buzz word right now

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for professionals. We're becoming when we
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our traumas and most of them have
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is that they've taken on you taken
on two traumas. You're personal and someone

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else. And I keep seeing someone
ask how do you repent? You repent

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first, you have to acknowledge something
is wrong, something's wrong, and okay,

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so let me not point and try
to point out who did it or

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where it's where the wrong Let me
take a look at me. The Bible

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said to judge yourself so you won't
be judged. I simply say, check

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yourself so you won't be checked.
You begin to repent like I did today

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when I heard it the prophecy,
and I heard it, and I'm like,

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oh my gosh, I've been complaining
about the wrong. I've been complaining

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period. But the it's a mantle
that's on me. It's not just to

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make me look a little prove anything
to family that I can go get a

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PhD or a doctorate degree. It's
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So what did I do? Lord? I'm so sorry. When I

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got it, I even stopped the
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said, God, please forgive me. I could even cry about it.

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I try so when you repent,
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of repenting is you don't go back
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essence of it. And guess what
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not what comes out of our mouth, not what's up here. It's

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everything formulates. It starts in the
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It gets up here to the rational
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to reason it out and rashing it
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get the credit, and don't want
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the Holy Spirit to get the credit. Your brain wants to see I told

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you so. Have you had those
little voices in your head and say I

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told you so? See not your
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you repent and you do your best
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he says, and not repenting now, and go and look up your scriptures.

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I always refer people back to scripture
or you could google it. Now,

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you could google anything and then come
up and say, Google, what

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did I do the other day?
Gossip scriptures? Gossiping Scriptures? Found it

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for the teaching that I do on
Saturday evenings because the title of it was

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I heard it through the grape Vine
and I kind of did heard it.

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Okay, they didn't mean that,
but they but you know, so you

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could google anything and you can find
your scriptures and you'll find a whole there's

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twenty five scriptures, there's sixty seven
scriptures, whatever, and you go through

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each one of them, because not
all of them apply to what you're looking

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for, and you have a paper
and pen. You become a student in

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the world and you write down those
scriptures. Because the first thing as the

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first step of the righteous man.
It's just study to show yourself approof approved

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to do, what to have a
conversation, to have the conversation next,

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meditate on his word day and night. How can you meditate on something you

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don't study. Go back to high
school. We had to study for that

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test. What you had to do. You had some of y'all cram They

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did it the night before. Some
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We highlighted, we had no cards
and everything. But you studied so that

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you could pass your exam. And
then you're meditating while you're sitting there and

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you're looking at that three page exam
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oh my god, no multiple choice, no troy and faults. At

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least we had some hope, some
hope. Now you gotta make it all

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up, you gotta just write it
out. But you're meditating. You're going

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over the definition of words, what's
the concept? What is sociology? It's

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the study of society. It's the
study a mankind. What is psychology?

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It's the study of the mind,
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you had to study that so that
you can meditate on it and regurgitate it

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back on that test. We don't
Our testing is daily. When God shows

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you something, reveals something to you, convicts you of something. He's watching

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to see how you're gonna what you
gonna do with this? Now? Are

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you just saying, you know,
oh, I'm sorry God, because I

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know you're gonna forgive me. Guy's
like, go okay, then keep keep

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that thought up. I'm see what
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And I'm not talking to you.
We're not speaking Heaven. Heaven becomes silent

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because you think you're playing. It's
all good, But yeah, how do

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you repent? How do you know
you repent when you have an easement in

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your mind as well? And you
could come when that thing circles back,

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because it's gonna come back. Rejection
is gonna come back. It's gonna come

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back. The student, my classmate's
gonna snob me. It's gonna come back.

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And I said, that's all you
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That's all you got. I repented
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I put it at his feet,
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and an abyss and an abyss is
an endless hole. So go back and

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study your word. I know we've
been in church. I've been I've been

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preached at by the greatest even doctor, reverend doctor Henderson. Oh, my

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God, Jesus uh. Now it's
not his name, but but primitive Baptists

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went to the primitive Baptist church and
he had a lift, Reverend Hendley,

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he had a lift. But I've
been preached. I've been preached by the

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grades. I mean, from top
bottom. I've been We've been visited by

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those who are telling evangelists to this
day when they started out. But I

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still had to go back to my
word and study it for myself. Because

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I could tell y'all anything, and
because you're like me, you'll believe me.

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But I know better because I've had
accountable and I'll be tapped again,

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so I will tell you the truth. The first time I had one of

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my spiritual sons called me today,
I said, I don't know why people

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keep calling me because I can't lie, I can't dance around it. I

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ain't walking on eggshells for nobody.
I just don't have the tolerance for it.

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So I hope I answered the callers
a question. If I didn't come

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back at me, I don't want
no one leaving us confused. As I

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used to tell my students, don't
leave me confused and discombobulated. Call me,

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talk to me. Tell me what
you heard, and Trey, I

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appreciate what you just did. Go
ahead, tell him it's good because it's

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so perfect. Because I've been hearing
this word this week, and it's this

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minister have been preaching on good ground, and he dealt with stony ground and

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the stony ground. In my interpretation, I can't say verbatim for the word,

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but it's when you receive what God
is telling you, but you let

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somebody come take it away from you. It's just like planting seeds in a

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and ground that you have not got
prepared. You sw and you seldom seeds,

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and the and the the weeds come
and choke him out. It don't.

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It don't produce, It doesn't.
It's not fruitful. So when we

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sow, when we're sowing in good
ground, you do meditate on that word.

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You do study that word you you
find other other scriptures to go alone

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to help you better understand what that
word is saying. So you become a

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student of the words, and you
can't help. But meditate you can't help.

407
00:32:27.640 --> 00:32:35.200
And as I would say, meditate
instead of worrying you got a problem.

408
00:32:35.359 --> 00:32:39.720
Stop meditating on God's word. Think
about god word instead of the problem.

409
00:32:39.759 --> 00:32:45.079
When you think on God's word,
you move that worration out the way.

410
00:32:45.480 --> 00:32:50.359
But unfortunately I got an unders said, worried. Don't what she said,

411
00:32:50.640 --> 00:32:55.599
pray, don't worry worried, don't
pray this. She turned. I

412
00:32:55.599 --> 00:33:00.519
said, but God, I'm only
human. But I said, you gotta

413
00:33:00.599 --> 00:33:06.720
have faith in God when you pray
to remove that worry. And how you

414
00:33:06.920 --> 00:33:12.960
remove that worry is by meditating on
his word. If you going through something

415
00:33:13.400 --> 00:33:17.359
like ron Canola, he said you're
going through, don't don't stop. If

416
00:33:17.400 --> 00:33:22.160
you're catching it, let it go
because you gotta let God get it.

417
00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:25.279
He said, cast your cares are
fund him. He didn't tell us to

418
00:33:25.359 --> 00:33:31.200
hold it. So if we go
ahead, like you said, meditate on

419
00:33:31.319 --> 00:33:37.359
his word. Reciting his word.
Sometimes you say on the scripture, our

420
00:33:37.440 --> 00:33:40.200
whole week, oh mon, or
whatever it takes for it to soak into

421
00:33:40.279 --> 00:33:46.839
your heart. That's how we build
ourselves up. And I would say this

422
00:33:47.119 --> 00:33:52.680
and lude of what Trace said earlier, You've always been doubt the great of

423
00:33:52.759 --> 00:33:57.480
me. I don't know if I
spoke it on you. I don't know

424
00:33:57.920 --> 00:34:00.960
if I had anything to do with
it. I'm not taking no credit,

425
00:34:01.079 --> 00:34:07.519
cause God get all that glory.
But some I don't know why. I

426
00:34:07.599 --> 00:34:10.760
always thought you was doctor Gray when
we were in school. I I you

427
00:34:10.800 --> 00:34:15.360
know, yeah, we could say
professor grade, but I always say doctor

428
00:34:15.400 --> 00:34:21.440
Gray. Oh yeah, that's not
the grade. You know. But he

429
00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:28.119
couldn't have gave it to a better
person, because just like I'm I'm not

430
00:34:28.159 --> 00:34:32.199
sure which one it is to te
quail a car or which one where it's

431
00:34:32.239 --> 00:34:40.039
said, why not me? You
know, why not me? Because you

432
00:34:40.199 --> 00:34:45.559
have that strength, you have that
will power, you have that obedience and

433
00:34:45.639 --> 00:34:52.159
strength inside of you, and and
you're not so big to the point of

434
00:34:52.280 --> 00:34:59.280
where you're not afraid to repent and
recognize Lord, I missed it there,

435
00:34:59.679 --> 00:35:01.800
but I I got it. As
he said, give me a minute,

436
00:35:02.079 --> 00:35:07.079
because it went overhead for a minute. She gotta come back and catch it.

437
00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:12.599
So why not you? You know, my head is off to you.

438
00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:16.840
I'm very proud of you, and
I'm just waiting for you to say

439
00:35:16.880 --> 00:35:23.400
to day when you graduate, we're
gonna go from setting We're gonna we're gonna

440
00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:27.920
go from setting it straight with miss
Gray and setting it straight with doctor Gray.

441
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:32.719
I'm not changing that. Oh,
I'm not changing that. Though.

442
00:35:34.159 --> 00:35:37.519
It's next August, next August on
a Friday, I have to hit the

443
00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:43.000
Miami to defend my paper. Okay, next August, next August, well,

444
00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:46.199
we need a date so we could
be night then, Oh you got

445
00:35:46.199 --> 00:35:52.519
a date. They better put a
date on it. They're better put a

446
00:35:52.599 --> 00:35:55.000
date on it. And I already
told my I need to be penning and

447
00:35:55.079 --> 00:35:59.440
hooded. I'm gonna wear my gal. I already asked what we wear,

448
00:35:59.559 --> 00:36:00.920
what we I wouldn't need to dress. He said it was great, gonna

449
00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:05.360
need it. I said, I
may bring my support dog too. I'd

450
00:36:05.400 --> 00:36:08.159
need to what kind how much rule
we got down there? How much rue?

451
00:36:08.400 --> 00:36:13.519
I'm true, Jazzz gotta be right
there. Jazz gotta be right there

452
00:36:13.519 --> 00:36:15.039
because she'll be looking that at you. She'll side out, you know.

453
00:36:15.639 --> 00:36:20.400
But yeah, it's next August.
And one of the pastor's wife, I

454
00:36:20.440 --> 00:36:24.280
know when I were talking she's in
school and getting her bachelor's and she's gonna

455
00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:28.400
stay in and get her masters and
go on for her doctorate. And she

456
00:36:28.480 --> 00:36:30.559
said, well, doctor Gray.
You know, ever since I met you,

457
00:36:30.599 --> 00:36:32.719
I've been calling you doctor Gray.
So I know I'm getting the invitation.

458
00:36:32.760 --> 00:36:37.519
I said, you're gonna come to
Miami. That's fine, We'll get

459
00:36:37.519 --> 00:36:43.880
an airbnb and all that good stuff. But yeah, to who much is

460
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:50.440
given, much is required. Yes, And I think about my mom because

461
00:36:50.440 --> 00:36:52.280
I was telling somebody the other day
if my mother had never seen anybody with

462
00:36:52.400 --> 00:36:54.880
pink and black gums, I don't
know if I said that on the show,

463
00:36:57.400 --> 00:36:59.960
Uh yeah, pink and black gums, and she already seen that they

464
00:37:00.039 --> 00:37:02.599
either had pink gums or black gums. So that's why she told me how

465
00:37:02.599 --> 00:37:07.480
to smile from kindergarten through my junior
year in high school, freshman year in

466
00:37:07.559 --> 00:37:12.039
high school. So I know,
every time I laugh or somebody laughs,

467
00:37:12.159 --> 00:37:16.119
or you know, I'm talking and
I'm expressing myself, I know Queen Queen

468
00:37:16.239 --> 00:37:21.480
Victoria and Willily are up in heaven. Made sure they got there, made

469
00:37:21.480 --> 00:37:25.320
sure they got there, saying there
she go, there she go, my

470
00:37:25.559 --> 00:37:29.079
wide open. I don't know what
I'm gonna do. I don't want to

471
00:37:29.079 --> 00:37:30.519
lose any more teeth because y'all be
able to see everything in there. But

472
00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:40.039
anyway, let's get back to loss
and waste. O my bad. Yeah,

473
00:37:40.199 --> 00:37:44.519
let's go back to the loss and
wasted. And please, you know

474
00:37:44.599 --> 00:37:51.880
your time is of essence. Don't
let people. I've been getting a lot

475
00:37:51.920 --> 00:37:54.800
of calls from prayer because of family
situations, and people are not treating people

476
00:37:54.840 --> 00:38:01.960
well and nice, let them go, let them go. They've been talking

477
00:38:02.000 --> 00:38:07.679
about you, talking at you,
talking to you all these years. And

478
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:12.760
what has helped me to be able
to let folks go is do you serve

479
00:38:12.880 --> 00:38:22.199
my God? Do you serve my
Jesus? Do you serve my Holy Spirit?

480
00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:30.159
Because if you did, you will
be mindful of how you talk to

481
00:38:30.320 --> 00:38:35.880
people. You will be mindful how
you treat people, because God will correct

482
00:38:35.920 --> 00:38:37.920
you. He'll tell you no,
no, no, I'll hold it,

483
00:38:37.000 --> 00:38:42.360
hold your peace. Oh you can
stand down. I've gotten that stand down

484
00:38:44.039 --> 00:38:47.679
side check number four up at the
hospital of five cars worth of night and

485
00:38:47.760 --> 00:38:53.000
family driving down boosted up at the
hospital and God tell me go see your

486
00:38:53.039 --> 00:38:59.199
hus go see him now, and
nobody was there. Nobody was there.

487
00:39:01.440 --> 00:39:07.239
So you listen to what he has
to say. And they were always we

488
00:39:07.239 --> 00:39:09.960
were leaving in the fact that they
would tell me. The nurses were like

489
00:39:10.000 --> 00:39:13.119
when they get upset. We told
him that the wife and the kids were

490
00:39:13.199 --> 00:39:15.159
up here, and they're like,
what, what what, And there's nothing

491
00:39:15.199 --> 00:39:20.800
you could do because I am the
wife. You you just shote chicked up

492
00:39:20.840 --> 00:39:27.920
before and we cant. I caught
it them all. They showed him at

493
00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:30.760
the heap, and they showed hip
at the funeral up up at Carolina.

494
00:39:30.360 --> 00:39:34.119
One lady bought the boyfriend, I've
got to go there and talk about loss

495
00:39:34.119 --> 00:39:37.000
and waste because you waste you up
so much time. You're gonna come there

496
00:39:37.079 --> 00:39:40.119
with your man and you're gonna stand
up and say, yeah, I used

497
00:39:40.119 --> 00:39:44.360
to date your dad. Talked up
to my oldest my oldest step son,

498
00:39:44.559 --> 00:39:46.599
because he represented us up there at
the funeral. I didn't go. I

499
00:39:46.639 --> 00:39:50.320
told him to ship the body,
cremate him and sit get send him back

500
00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:52.280
to me, because that's what he
wanted. Don't don't laugh at that.

501
00:39:52.280 --> 00:39:59.119
That's what he wanted anyway. But
yeah, I used to date. I

502
00:39:59.199 --> 00:40:01.480
used to date your dad. Her
man standing like that, and the man

503
00:40:01.559 --> 00:40:06.159
turned, I said, I'm sick
of this and walked out to his mother's

504
00:40:06.159 --> 00:40:12.440
house. Who does that? You
ain't saying? This boy of thirty years

505
00:40:14.360 --> 00:40:16.840
and you gotta come to the funeral. Oh give give the mother because you

506
00:40:16.920 --> 00:40:21.880
need money. So give some car
twenty dollars in it and get out there.

507
00:40:22.119 --> 00:40:25.880
Thank you. Why would you bring
your man to a funeral of ex

508
00:40:27.039 --> 00:40:31.639
lover of yours? Talk about waste? First of all, why would he

509
00:40:31.679 --> 00:40:38.679
go that? We'll see he didn't
know the relationship. She could just say,

510
00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:43.159
oh I had. I mean we
went to high school together. Oh

511
00:40:43.199 --> 00:40:50.360
I know the family from church?
Yea and a Quan said money kept coming

512
00:40:50.559 --> 00:40:54.360
in and standing in front of his
mother and making these announcements. And she's

513
00:40:54.400 --> 00:40:58.480
like, I don't know a lot. I don't remember him being in the

514
00:40:58.519 --> 00:41:01.880
school. We were all in school
together. Don't remember who a mess?

515
00:41:02.000 --> 00:41:05.159
It was a mess. See.
I would have been laughing the whole time

516
00:41:05.199 --> 00:41:07.760
and then shooting at the I'm gonna
be shooting. I wouldn't laughing. I

517
00:41:07.880 --> 00:41:13.039
said you you're stupid, You're stupid. No, you just say, can't

518
00:41:13.039 --> 00:41:15.039
I have a bag of popcorn?
Because this show is getting really good?

519
00:41:19.079 --> 00:41:24.480
Am I slurpy? Well? I
used to have a commercial saying not going

520
00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:34.320
anywhere. Grab a snicker. I
like, I gotta put that on the

521
00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:37.519
T shirt. I'm putting that on
a T shirt. But yeah, you're

522
00:41:37.639 --> 00:41:44.639
wasting time and getting back to people. I saw this quote. Blood makes

523
00:41:44.679 --> 00:41:51.679
us related, but loyalty makes us
family. And people who I'm loyal to

524
00:41:52.079 --> 00:41:55.079
and who are loyal I just had
I just cut a string of them recently,

525
00:41:55.320 --> 00:42:02.079
just cut him revelation hindrances, because
I'm gonna tell you this, tell

526
00:42:02.119 --> 00:42:07.719
you this little piece. The Devil's
people don't need to have a conference on

527
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:12.760
their on their jobs, and they're
there, who they are ascribed to.

528
00:42:12.960 --> 00:42:16.760
They know who their enemies are and
who they're supposed to disturb on a daily

529
00:42:17.079 --> 00:42:22.440
take down destroy you know, destroy
still kill a destroy, distract. They

530
00:42:22.679 --> 00:42:28.599
know who their charges are. So
a person that's evil, you don't see

531
00:42:28.639 --> 00:42:32.079
them. They're not gonna be stabbed
by the water cooler gossiping. They'll be

532
00:42:32.199 --> 00:42:37.599
in your office saying, so what
you're doing next, what you're doing this

533
00:42:37.639 --> 00:42:44.320
weekend. I've had to tell several
people recently, strangers. I don't I

534
00:42:44.360 --> 00:42:49.199
say forgive me, but I see
there's there's a lady and now God has

535
00:42:49.239 --> 00:42:53.519
me describing them, and it looks
like it's a family member. The reason

536
00:42:53.559 --> 00:42:57.079
why you you kind of you feel
like you're kind of stuck. And they're

537
00:42:57.079 --> 00:43:00.079
like, yeah, because that person
you keep telling all your business too.

538
00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:05.920
And I said, let me.
She's got a short of for I mean,

539
00:43:05.960 --> 00:43:08.039
I'm subscribing people. I can see
him. I said, she's in

540
00:43:08.079 --> 00:43:12.719
the kitchen and she's got this type
of drapery. She said, oh God,

541
00:43:12.760 --> 00:43:15.280
I know who that is. Oh
are you serious? I said,

542
00:43:15.280 --> 00:43:22.280
you know told her everything, havn't
you? Yeah, shut up, keep

543
00:43:22.320 --> 00:43:25.559
your mouth clothes diver. I had
a neighbor. I had a neighbor come

544
00:43:25.760 --> 00:43:29.920
Friday ringing my doorbell. I didn't
know it was a neighbor. So I

545
00:43:29.960 --> 00:43:31.559
opened the door, and so I
didn't know. My kids like came out

546
00:43:31.599 --> 00:43:35.079
in the lip. It was standing
not too far from me, and I

547
00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:37.679
said, yeah, hi, I'm
your neighbor from behind you. You know,

548
00:43:37.760 --> 00:43:42.320
you gotta treat them this hanging over
into our yard and you're gonna need

549
00:43:42.360 --> 00:43:45.880
to call somebody. We gonna we
got somebody we gonna call to have come

550
00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:47.800
and give me an estimate. But
what you need to do? I said,

551
00:43:47.800 --> 00:43:52.599
Okay, first of all, ain't
all I heard God say it was

552
00:43:52.639 --> 00:43:58.280
easy, easy, easy. I
said, well, first, sir,

553
00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:04.079
remember we had the same conversation five
years ago, same tree limb. I'm

554
00:44:04.079 --> 00:44:12.360
sure, what did you do then? Do you remember you contacted the HOA.

555
00:44:12.920 --> 00:44:17.079
I don't own this property, so
there's nothing. I'm and you're fortunate

556
00:44:17.119 --> 00:44:22.000
that I'm really talking to him.
But I'll call my h B maintenance people

557
00:44:22.639 --> 00:44:28.840
of the property and I let them
know you've come by with concern because the

558
00:44:28.880 --> 00:44:32.519
tree limb is hanging over in your
yard. Yeah, because if it because

559
00:44:32.519 --> 00:44:36.119
I don't want to damage my gate. Well, no, that's a community

560
00:44:36.119 --> 00:44:37.480
gate back. I didn't say that
to him. I wanted to, but

561
00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:39.960
that's a community gate back that he
don't own nothing. He put the gate

562
00:44:40.079 --> 00:44:44.320
up when he bought the house.
The gate was up, the fence was

563
00:44:44.400 --> 00:44:46.400
up, okay, and it's a
it goes all down the whole street,

564
00:44:47.199 --> 00:44:51.760
separating the two houses. So ain't
nothing. No, you mean your portion

565
00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:55.760
of the fence. Your a portion
of the fence. So I was really

566
00:44:55.880 --> 00:45:00.280
I'm surprised at how calm I was. I really was, But I said,

567
00:45:00.320 --> 00:45:01.800
and he kept telling me what I
needed to do, and then he

568
00:45:01.880 --> 00:45:05.360
brought brought up oh because I don't
want to go see. I don't want

569
00:45:05.360 --> 00:45:07.480
to start no problems, and I
don't want to go to small claims cord

570
00:45:07.519 --> 00:45:09.679
and never. I said, well, you wouldn't be sitting me because I

571
00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:15.880
wouldn't be there. The people who
owned the property to be there, I

572
00:45:15.880 --> 00:45:21.599
wouldn't be there. So now let's
do this. If you're gonna have somebody

573
00:45:21.599 --> 00:45:27.480
to come with industrial machinery, I've
got sprinkler heads underneath the grass out there.

574
00:45:28.559 --> 00:45:31.320
Now if they get broken, I'm
gonna have to let the property people

575
00:45:31.400 --> 00:45:38.400
know who hired the industrial truck that
ran over him. We'll see what you

576
00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:45.960
need to do, is I said, okay, okay, sir, sir,

577
00:45:45.280 --> 00:45:50.599
you cannot tell people what I need
to do. The only thing you

578
00:45:50.719 --> 00:45:52.679
can do, well, I need
a pick. Give me your name and

579
00:45:52.760 --> 00:46:00.000
number. It's miss Gray. And
then the pen ran out so he couldn't.

580
00:46:00.400 --> 00:46:01.280
I wasn't gonna give me my number. No, because we're not gonna

581
00:46:01.280 --> 00:46:04.360
have this going back and forth.
I'll tell you what. You give me

582
00:46:04.400 --> 00:46:07.679
your name and number and your address, and I said I'll be right back.

583
00:46:07.679 --> 00:46:09.039
He said, yeah, bring me
up and I said no, I'm

584
00:46:09.039 --> 00:46:13.679
not bringing your pin and I closed
it there unlocked it. So I grabbed

585
00:46:13.719 --> 00:46:16.519
God said, grabbed your phone and
put his information in there, and that's

586
00:46:16.519 --> 00:46:19.360
why I did. I came out. He said, you, oh,

587
00:46:19.440 --> 00:46:23.119
you didn't bring me a pin.
What's your name again? What's your phone

588
00:46:23.199 --> 00:46:27.639
number? And what's the address of
the house. Yeah, because you could

589
00:46:27.639 --> 00:46:30.280
tell them, let's see, they
could come. Actually they should be paying

590
00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:31.360
for this, and I could.
I said, no, sir, no,

591
00:46:31.880 --> 00:46:37.239
no, I don't tell them what
to do. They specialize and taking

592
00:46:37.280 --> 00:46:42.360
care of me as they did five
years ago when they cut the tree limb

593
00:46:42.440 --> 00:46:45.360
dead. So this is good to
know my trees are alive in the backyard

594
00:46:45.719 --> 00:46:50.800
because sometimes I don't care how to
pick the tree. Look, it could

595
00:46:50.800 --> 00:46:55.079
be dead. So thank you for
letting me know it's growing. And then

596
00:46:55.159 --> 00:46:59.880
we're gonna do it differently. So
I've just called them to ask them about

597
00:46:59.880 --> 00:47:02.599
the trees because I must. I
don't want trees, all my limbs all

598
00:47:02.639 --> 00:47:07.760
in your yard and everything, because
these these tornadoes are uprooting stuff down here.

599
00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:10.119
Trade. I have never seen a
tornado come through like it's been these

600
00:47:10.480 --> 00:47:15.199
this this this past couple of years. I'm telling it takes a tree out

601
00:47:15.239 --> 00:47:19.920
the ground, and that's a tornado. It's not a hurricane, so I

602
00:47:19.960 --> 00:47:22.440
don't trust that. And I'm i'm, I'm, I'm you know, I'm

603
00:47:22.679 --> 00:47:23.920
sensitive to that. And I know
we got three more minutes and I'm sorry,

604
00:47:23.960 --> 00:47:27.320
guys at that really board, you
know, And if this board you

605
00:47:27.320 --> 00:47:30.480
got the audience out there, I
hope that we did answer some questions.

606
00:47:30.599 --> 00:47:34.159
But I want you to see we
live a regular life. I got folks

607
00:47:34.159 --> 00:47:36.360
coming over here telling me what to
do, and I'm like, sir,

608
00:47:36.519 --> 00:47:38.639
no, and guess what happened.
And I knew if I once I text

609
00:47:38.760 --> 00:47:42.119
him, I said, I'm gonna
call my people. I will. I

610
00:47:42.159 --> 00:47:46.320
will text or call you in the
morning on Monday morning. Okay, I

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did, and I said, God, please don't have to he don't call

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me twice three times now, and
I ignored the calm. That's what I

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didn't want. Once he got my
number, I called him, explained it

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to him. He said, yeah, cause you sually. I said,

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no, I don't have to do
anything. I forgot to say. Can

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you join me in prayer? Because
you look like a praying person. Can

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you just can be just all say
amen? Can you can you and your

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sister? Can you promise me that
you will tell you ask your sisters,

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because that God the Bible says,
after you've done all that you can do,

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and I've done all that I'm going
to do, you stand still and

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we're gonna see it with the prayer. Can you join me in it?

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Yeah? Well yeah, well yeah, we pray good. That's what we

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need to pray. That they come
out and they see this as an urgency.

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All right, ladies, two more
minutes, y'all seal the deal for

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me. I mean, I don't
know how to come back with that.

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I just love it, and so
keep doing what you do. Tell me

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that's a hard active. I'm almost
ready to say that's all, folks.

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Well what we can we're at seven
forty nine. Well, we're gonna pray

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for those who who came on.
I caught the names real quick. We'll

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pray for you. We'll lift you
up in prayer this week. We can

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promise you that we'll lift each other
up in prayer all the time. And

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if you have any prayer requests,
you know, please uh reach me,

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reach me, reach at me on
Facebook, or you can message me YouTube

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any any way you're hearing the show, you can find you can find us

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and we'll be back next week,
same time, same station. Y'all be

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blessed. Thank you so much,
Stay care,