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Setting it straight with Ms. Gray, We're just thankful for you all joining

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us. We're gonna pray. Father, We just thank you, we praise

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you, We give you glory.
Lord, have your weigh in our lives.

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Please forgive us of our sins,
those that are known and unknown,

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those that are lodged in our subconscious
and our consciousness and in our unconsciousness.

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Father God, right now you're sayings, you're am that within the rim that

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we need help, and we need
help, guidance, We need the instruction

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we need peace. We need everything
that you can give us. In more

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important than we need your mercy.
Please forgive us, Father God. We

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need this land needs to repent,
and we're repenting right now before you.

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Now, Father, as always,
this is your show. This is your

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time to speak to your people.
We get behind the cross. All this

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and more we ask we thank you
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We love you, Lord, We
thank you in Jesus' name. Amen and

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amen. Well, welcome, good
evening, Good evening. Yeah, remind

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us a couple of people tonight,
but the show must go on. The

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program must go on as well.
I don't know what that is. We

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got a banner there of something to
eat and critique show. I don't know

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what that's about, but anyway,
has nothing to do with us. Just

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to let you know. But we
want to talk about a few things.

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Thank you. We want to talk
about a few things tonight. Mainly we're

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gonna start off with talking about it's
elite. This is leap year month.

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Thursday is the twenty ninth, and
March is March first. Friday is March

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first. I don't know how time
is really winding up. Just a few

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minutes ago it was six forty six, and by the time I came over

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here to our little studio, it
was already six fifty six fifty six,

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six fifty seven. I don't know
where and how the time flew. It

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just is flying by. So please
make sure you have things in order,

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keep your house in order, keep
your house organized, because time is truly

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not waiting for anybody. But we
went talk about leap year. I thought

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it would be interesting to talk about
its history. I didn't know it was

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as historical as it's gonna sound,
or pardon me from reading to you.

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But Julia Caesar was the first person
to introduce the concept of leap years.

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Before his time, leap months were
added every few years to the calendar when

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astronomers observed the specific alignment in the
stars. And this is where it came

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from, an alighting of the stars. And now I see why people getting

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into the astrology stuff, and they
get all, you know, they're mixing

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secular information with biblical information and things
like that, and then they get caught

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up in that and then they're trying
to, you know, keep the secular

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with the spiritual and all this good
stuff. So here's Julius Caesar saying,

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you know what, I don't like
time here, and we're looking at the

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stars and because they're not aligning,
okay, we're gonna Oh they did a

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lot. Okay, so that's gonna
be. So every four years there's a

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leap year, there's a twenty ninth
of the month, but it always happens

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like a twenty ninth of the month. We don't have a March thirty second,

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you know, we don't have a
July thirty second, So it's always

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February because it's the shortest month.
So anyway, so that was that's interesting.

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And then I want to share with
you all. I follow a few

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prophetic teaching people and I got this
email from Rabbi Jonathan Kahn, and some

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of you may be familiar with him, and this sapphires and the whole world

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is his ministry. He's on Facebook
and YouTube and everything. But today's message

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of encouragement is called what God,
What Blessing? And which America? And

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he goes off and please pardon me
from reading to you, okay, as

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we I did not know the fact, So thank you. See, thank

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you hey, country, see,
thank you. I didn't either. I'm

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just thinking that somebody this is hey, how are you? Oh my god,

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Hey, it's gonna be a fight. This is nothing unusual. The

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devil is stupid and he's gonna do
everything he can to block, get us,

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frustrate the get us off kilter and
everything. So thank you for pushing

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through. This is when God blesses
us when you push through, despite what

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you see, despite what you hear. When you push through, that's why

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he judges us by our hearts and
not our actions and our behaviors and our

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words, but by our hearts.
So thank you so much. How is

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how's the weather that you know?
I have to ask? Warmer? It's

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getting warmer? Okay, okay,
yeah we were getting a little warm today.

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God, but the friendly rain by
the sometime this week, so you

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know, rain is not friendly with
us right now. So but yeah,

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I was just sharing that Julius Caesar
was the one that came up with leapier

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and he was making sure and it
has to do with the alignment of the

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stars. So now I can see
why people get things all mixed up or

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they try to compare or infuse,
you know, astrology and numerology and all

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this kind of stuff with the spiritual
things of God, and you know God,

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you know, if you want to
get really deep in Genesis, I

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was just reminded. I think I
was talking to Brother Miguel and in the

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beginning God stepped out and there was
light. But he hadn't made the sun

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on the moon yet. He stepped
out and there was light. So you

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know, we can have a day
old discussion about that. But you know

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what, at the end of the
hour, what counts is your faith and

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what you're doing to make a difference
in this world. Are you abiding with

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your chosen calling on your life?
And it may be to help and not

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only help people, but you help
certain generations, you help certain age groups.

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And I know we talked about this
a lot because my students used to

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say, you know, I asked
them, why are you getting this degree?

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And they're like, oh, I'm
here to help people, help them

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do what? And I think there's
still some people stuck on that, not

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knowing what they're calling is and what
their ministry or what they're suppose, what's

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their purpose in life? And when
I'm looking at this month, a's leap

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year, you know, what's the
difference. Did we feel different? Are

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we gonna feel different Thursday? You
know, we just got an extra day

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and date within the month. There's
no March thirty second, There'll be no

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July thirty second. You know,
it's always February because it's the shortest month.

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Who decided how many days in the
month? Who decided the month?

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You know, we can get we
can get lost in this and time is

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just passing by. I was just
sharing also, a few minutes ago was

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six forty six. By the time
I got over here and was setting up,

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it was six almost six fifty seven, And I'm like, where did

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the time go? Now? I'm
hearing more people getting mixed up on days

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of the week, like, is
this a Monday? It don't feel like

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a Monday. You know, this
is Friday, got it, don't It

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feels like Saturday. And by the
time Sunday gets you, you gotta get

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ready for your work week, you
know. So you know, everybody just

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we got to just stay very focused
and you gotta uh. You know,

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in the prayer, I was asking
God to forgive us of our thoughts,

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our thoughts that are in our subconscious
and in our unconscious and words that we

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spoke this week that may not have
been beneficial, may not been you know,

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appeasing to him because we're i mean, we're catching it. And I'm

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talking about the remnant within the remnant. I'm not talking about the world.

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I'm not talking about you know,
the sun to go to meeting folks.

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I'm not you know, the loop
warmers. I'm talking about God's remnant.

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Within the remnant. Folks are asking
for prayer. People are going I mean,

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you know, they're under attack,
their finances all of a sudden,

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people are getting hacked, I mean
in a major way, all kinds of

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things. So we can't lose sight
of the prayer. We got to pray

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for each other. We got to
cover each other. We know the wickedness

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of the world, so we got
to cover each other, and we got

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to pray for others. I know, we want to pray for ourselves because

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we're going through things. But the
key was the key. Jesus prayed for

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others. The only time he prayed
for himself was in the garden of Gassimi,

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when he knew he was about to
be arrested, his time was up.

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It was this is it. He
already told judas, do what you

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need to do quickly, and and
and so he's in the garden and he's

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praying, and for a minute he
said, Lord, if you can remove

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this bitter cup from me, And
then he said, nevertheless that I will

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be done done. That's the only
time he prayed for himself. He prayed

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for others. And that's what we
need to be doing. So I wanted

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to I was in the process of
getting ready to share. I follow very

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few teachers and prophets and and faith
leaders, and but one I follow is

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Rabbi Jonathan cod Uh. He's on
Facebook and YouTube and he has a lot

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of YouTube uh, you know,
just teachings, just tea he is teaching

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just round the clock. He's just
really exposing and revealing the deeper meanings of

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God and and and not only from
not only from a Jewish perspective, but

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from a child of God perspective.
But he sends out an email also if

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you join his group and uh uh, so today's message and I said,

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oh, I've got to discuss this
tonight. It is entitled What God,

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What Blessing? And Which America As
we celebrate the fourth of July, A

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few questions, many in their celebrations, say God bless America. But which

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God? Which America? And what
blessing is it? The God of the

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Bible or the God of Islam?
Islam? Is it the America founded to

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be the light to the nations,
the Gospel, the source of Gospel missions,

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the friend of Israel and folk of
what? Is godless? Or America

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that is the chief exporter of pornography, blasphemy God daily on its blaspheming God's

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daily on its media airwaves, and
has advocated the killing of unborn children the

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tens of millions. Is it the
blessing of being kept safe and prosperous so

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we can continue to sin, to
continue in sin? No, we should

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be praying that America will bless God. The focus of our prayers shouldn't be

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our nation's prosperity, but on our
nation's repentance. Funny, we should bring

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up repenting so too in our own
lives. It's most important that we repent

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and live in God's will. You
can't expect his blessings if you don't embrace

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and submit to His will. Pray
that your life be truly in His will.

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Bless God with your obedience, and
God will bless you with his best

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and I thought that was really interesting
because we're looking at you know, when

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I was writing down the description for
iHeartRadio of this show, they asked for

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words, what are some of the
buzzwords or keywords in the search that you

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would want us to put And I
was looking at what you know, Julius

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Caesar meant and what he was thinking
when he dubbed, you know, leap

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year as a thing, and it
talked about alignment, It talked about renewal,

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it talked about change. So those
are some of the words I put

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out that I want you guys to, you know, come on in here,

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and you know what's changed for you? We're in twenty twenty four.

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Now, what has changed? What
are you looking at differently now that you

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didn't really think you would be looking
at differently? What are you doing?

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I mean, how are you,
you know, a coping? How are

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you adjusting? How are you pivoting? How are you pivoting? Because if

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you if like us, we're getting
hit by you know, we get hit

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you know, and we're trying to
the weapons of war. You know,

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the burdens of this life are standing
right there at attention, waiting to get

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you distrayed and waiting for attention from
you and energy from you. And next

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thing, you know, the next
that we're in Tuesday already, We're in

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Wednesday already, and we're going to
be in March by the end of this

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this week, we're in March.
So what's changed, what's causing you?

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What? What? How have you
pivoted or have you pivoted? Are you

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still in the same situation? Are
you still in the same mindset that you

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were just thirty days ago? Talk
to me, anybody you want to go

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missquake now, I just want to. So I guess for me ever changing,

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you know, just always looking for
for ways to change, to improve,

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to enhance, to do better.
And so I'm definitely relying on faith,

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you know that. I think I
explained to you before. I mentioned

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before this is really a faith well
for me. So many things have changed

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over a year, but I'm definitely
in a better place and just looking at

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some things, trying to revert back
to some of the things that the ideas

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I had prior to a year and
a half ago. So, you know,

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I had a talk with one of
my good girlfriends and she said,

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she said, well, what she
said you know, before your dad passed,

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you had all these things that you
wanted to do. She said,

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you know, all these ideas and
things you wanted to implement, and she

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said, now is the time.
And so and I took that the heart,

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you know, I took it,
took it the prayer, took it

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to God, and I took it
to heart. And so one of the

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things that I really find I don't
I try to lessen my distractors and I

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try to pour in more positive things. Might said. I don't watch a

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lot of TV at all. It
depends on where I am. I'll watch

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more TV, but I really try
to limit my TV. I don't listen

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to a lot of radio. I
don't, you know. I stay abreast

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of news, you know, sometimes
I get on Facebook or you know,

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might watch the news and have conversations
with friends about the current events and stuff.

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But I don't dwell on it,
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do we get wrapped up in life
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right, right right, And so
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mentioned to that, you know,
I need to start living, and so

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I had to explore what that meant. And so for me, just getting

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back to things that I was passionate
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these things happen. So, you
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you know, my poetry doing that
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started trying to create cards, you
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I was doing while you know,
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in the room and he was resting
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coping skill. That was my way
to escape. And so getting back to

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that, but definitely being more prayer
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to me. And to also you
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to be treated and trying to give
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identify what my purpose is. Like
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me that way. But I also
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of the patients. People tell us
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patience, Well, I try to, you know, I try to be

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patient, and you know, stress
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not trying to go that way on
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just trying to to to find what
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talked about that last week. Things
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create the new norm and implementing some
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you know, helping folks, whatever
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smile, you know whatever. That
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I'll say. I'll say for me
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disciplined and wanting to do things and
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in my businesses and stuff like that. I'll say, the key to embracing

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change is to find what makes you
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you happy and do those things.
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that. I mean, that's the
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my life is to have a balance
of doing work, working doing things I

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like to do, so that your
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and getting things done. You have
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do, having fun whatever that case
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say I've changed in the past thirty
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disciplined and being more consistent in my
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to mysty And what happens is we
do life, we do, we make

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a miss, we we get distracted, and you got to know yourself.

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I was just telling somebody it is
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one of my spiritual sons. I
said, no, I know when I

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need to go to my valley.
I know when I need to come off

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the grid. I'm not praying,
I'm not anything. My phone has been

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on mute for months now and I
love it. I mean, it's right

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beside me. But you know,
I'm not bothered by the noise. I

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just want to just have this quietness
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No matter how hard I try,
Hey, Mickey, to treat others how

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I treated, They just don't understand. Mickey, to me explain something it's

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not about. They don't understand.
They don't care to do it. I

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know you you got to. I'm
sure you've got a great heart and you

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take people as is. I don't
because I've set, I've sat and I've

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watched people. I've studied people,
I've count people, and what I've noticed

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is very is consistent. It's not
that they don't get it. It's nothing

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that they don't understand. They don't
want to and that's hard for a person

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who's all hard to understand. I
need you to hear me. It has

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nothing to do with them their lack
of understanding. It has everything to do

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with they don't They don't care to
get it, they don't care to change,

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They don't care. And we have
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us, you know, from the
from the evils of the of this world,

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because we do have a signees that
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They are purposed to talk about you. You've got that coworker, and

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you know you speak to everybody,
but that one person just don't speak to

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you. That they didn't go all
out there way, you know, doing

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all kinds of nonsense for what for
what? And what helped me along the

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way is to say, there's enough
opportunity out here for everybody professionally as a

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therapist. There's enough people out here. Okay, So I'm not gonna ever

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get caught up on that. There's
enough money, in the grant world,

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in the foundation of philanthropy world,
for everybody. So I'm not gonna get

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caught up in that. So you
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Now, I've been at it a
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so I know how to cut things
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What was that? So most of
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that's fine. But you know,
what you need to determine for yourself is

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what you will tolerate and what you
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who lie. You can't be in
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you can't. It won't, it
won't happen. We can't get bass that.

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If you're trying to sugarcoat stuff.
You can't talk to me straight.

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You can't be a part of me. I can't give you any more energy.

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I can't. I can't. So
you know, if you want to

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straddle the fence with God, I'm
not the person for you. You know

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some other people out there, they'll
they'll hold your hand. I'm not the

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person for you because he's been too
good. He's been too good country.

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Seeing you were saying that you know
you go on, you go on through

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it. Well, life has taught
you that you know, and so for

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Misty, you know, why is
it that we get caught up again?

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Going back to discipline. It took
me a minute. I had to write

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on my manual calendar to study my
word for a couple of years, study

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time, workout time, you know, gospel music time. I mean,

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I had to write it down in
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I became conditioned to it. And
as I studied my Bible, as I

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studied my word, realizing what my
choices are, how much power I have

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through God. I don't want to
get sour like them, So I'm going

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to keep treating people the way I
want to be treated. I just hope

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one day it will come back.
And it will, and you may may

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be surprised, because sometimes, Mickey, it won't come back through the same

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tunnel that you you, you you
expounded, you know, you you shared

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it in. It may be a
little kid that just looking at you at

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the grocery store and they wait to
get your eye contact, and you look

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at them and you smile at them
and they smile back. You don't know

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their situation. You don't know what
they're returning home to, but just the

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little things. I think it will
help not to look forward to come back

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the way you gave it. I
think that's go ahead training. I just

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just want to add to because you
know that, you know, I understand

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that sometimes you you don't get things, don't get reciprocated the way you you

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give it, but you still be
who you are. But also reck nice.

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You know where your limitations are,
your limits are. So the way

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you treat others and the way to
respond is no reflection of you, it's

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a reflection on them. And so
keep doing that, you know, because

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people are watching. I had a
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and she said, I watch how
you handle things. I want to

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be just like that. And I
think I need to find time in the

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guard to think about things as a
plant, things to help up. Okay,

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yeah, and so you know people
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And so she told me she wanted
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that I handle things, because sometimes
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she's like very impulsive. But I
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about what you're doing because I remember
commercial years ago say you never get a

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second chance to make a first impression, and so if you continue, because

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you can't take things back, you
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therefore it takes it's better to think
about what you're going to say and do

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then respond, because you never want
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to say, or do something that
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because you were impulsive and at the
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came to mind, which is not
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You know, stop think, stop
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that way, that gives you some
time to kind of redirect your mindset your

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thoughts so that you don't say something
that you really don't mean. Sometimes you

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have to say things because you need
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in the tone, facebooks, passion, body language that you're saying that and

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if you're really trying to be helpful
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you trying to be hurtful there's two
different things. And so I always try

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to be helpful in the message.
But sometimes I said, let me get

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back with you, let me think
about it, and then I'll respond now,

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And then they're pushing all you don't
want my response. Now, let

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me come back to you because you
might not like what I'm gonna say.

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Now, let me let me choose
this, chew over this for a few

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minutes, and then I'll get back. But I'm telling you, treating people

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with kindness it does a lot for
me. You know, I feel better.

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I don't frowning and droufughing that I
can't do that. It takes a

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lot out of me. It's a
lot of energy to do that. And

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so if you treat you really feel
good. And so I know I do.

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I know I do. And like
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clients, we serve, the staff, we you know, hires up.

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They look at it. Community.
Wow, you're really nice. Hello,

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nice day? And in my emails
and text I always say that I hope

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you're having a good thing. And
you be surprised how much that makes a

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difference. Amen. Amen, and
something else you said there too. You

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know you purpose who you need to
be, purpose yourself who you need to

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be. I'm determined. I'm gonna
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Okay, walk in that. That's
who you are, that's your truth,

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that's your narrative. Walk in that, and don't let anybody deter you

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from it. Don't let you because
the temptations are out there and the distraction

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right now, we are being more
distracted than ever before because everything is hitting

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on every hand, on every hand. So it's okay to continue to do

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and to be as long as you're
not hurting yourself, as long as you're

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not unaware and you're putting your self
sacrifice in so much, don't do that.

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Don't do that. Take care of
yourself. When I was talking to

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my spirit one of my spiritual sons
today, where he brought up the eagle,

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and as a matter of fact,
I have to find the video of

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the YouTube video I saw years ago
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ball eagle, and there's a scripture
that says where God says, I renew

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your youth like the eagle. So
most people don't realize what the egle.

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Why would God refer to the eagle. He refers to the lion, the

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lamb, you know, sheep,
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was I saw this video years ago
where somebody I don't know how they got

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the cameras inside the cave. But
when an eagle is flying and its feathers

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are getting heavy, it takes it. It's a trigger for himself or herself

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to go. And they fly up
to the highest mountain that's got a little

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cave like structure in it, and
they go in there and and they depluck

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the heavy flower of feathers from themselves. Then their claws are called teflons,

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so they scrape the teflon against the
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off. Then they beat their beat
on the same rock until there's nothing but

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flesh underneath there. And they stay
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sometimes they're in there, I think
at longest six months. But when that

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eagle emerges from that cave, it
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So God said, I'll remove our
restore and renew your youth. Like the

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eagles. Sometimes we don't know when
to just sit down, take a rest,

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take a nap in the midday.
You think you got to keep going.

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You gotta keep going, You gotta
keep going, and you gotta bea

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there for everybody. No, sometimes
you got to know. And this is

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I'm circling back around to what Trey
was saying. But you know the words

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that come out your mouth. Take
a minute, because if you've got all

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kinds of life stressors building up,
you're gonna blow. You're gonna blow.

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It's human nature. And unfortunately,
the worst person that you would never want

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to snap at, you snap,
you snap. And so for me,

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I know when my flesh is rising
up. You know, y'all know my

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Batrell. I'm ninety percent spiritual and
ten percent human. It's that ten percent

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that I got to keep it bade
because I can hurt somebody's feelings. I

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know that because it rills up in
me. But when I feel my flesh

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just it's right. Then when my
flesh is too close, I go quiet.

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I go silent because I don't want
to hurt. I don't want to

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misspeak. I don't want to,
you know, take out whatever I am

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because you know, with you praying
for people, I'm counseling people. I'm

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dealing with neighbors. I'm dealing with
people or dealing with stuff. It's all

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around me and some in their times
it gets heavy. It gets heavy.

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That's true. I think when you
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the things that you know, Alicia, when you're working with people, helping

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to identify when to recognize stressors and
triggers, you know, because you you

410
00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:31.880
said you recognize. I know sometimes
I get warm on the inside or or

411
00:32:32.039 --> 00:32:37.759
just I don't know's I know when
I'm about to get angry and uh,

412
00:32:37.799 --> 00:32:40.279
and it's not often you know how
you really have to kind of push,

413
00:32:40.880 --> 00:32:45.440
I mean really put you You got
to put your hands on and pusher.

414
00:32:47.000 --> 00:32:50.680
Yeah, because I tell you what
people because they say, well, you're

415
00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:54.039
calm so but I don't. I
don't have my my challenges. I don't

416
00:32:54.079 --> 00:33:00.559
have a medium. So i'm extremely
this way or extremely that way. And

417
00:33:00.599 --> 00:33:05.559
when i'm I don't. I don't
think I have a medium because I try

418
00:33:05.599 --> 00:33:09.200
not to and I try not to
go there. And when I when I

419
00:33:09.240 --> 00:33:13.599
say that, it's like, okay, I'm asking you, you know,

420
00:33:13.720 --> 00:33:17.319
nice to come now. I'll come
back to that. But I really try

421
00:33:17.359 --> 00:33:22.480
to keep it on the patients level. It's not. I know it sounds

422
00:33:22.559 --> 00:33:25.359
bad, but I don't know where
that happy medium is. So I really

423
00:33:25.400 --> 00:33:30.000
try to stay with the patients part. It takes a lot to get me

424
00:33:30.559 --> 00:33:35.079
up there. It does, I'm
for real, You almost have to kind

425
00:33:35.079 --> 00:33:39.559
of put It takes a lot.
But when I get there, you know,

426
00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:45.880
it's just it, and it's hard
to dial it back comes your flesh

427
00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:51.920
once it rips. It's hard.
And especially if you've been storing stuff and

428
00:33:51.960 --> 00:33:55.519
you've been taking stuff emotionally, and
and you're listening to stuff and you're not

429
00:33:55.559 --> 00:34:00.960
getting as many likes or whatever,
you know that stuff is building. You

430
00:34:00.000 --> 00:34:05.319
know, the middles of your paycheck
hasn't changed or anything else. You know,

431
00:34:05.599 --> 00:34:08.639
all kinds of things, all kinds
of things. So you need to

432
00:34:08.719 --> 00:34:13.599
know when to pull back, when
to go do self care, which we

433
00:34:13.639 --> 00:34:16.159
talk about on this show all the
time. When do you pull back,

434
00:34:16.199 --> 00:34:21.639
When do you go take care of
yourself? When do you go take care

435
00:34:21.639 --> 00:34:25.119
of yourself? It's okay to take
a nap in the midday. You don't

436
00:34:25.159 --> 00:34:28.599
have to go get in your bed
and put your pajamas on. You can

437
00:34:28.639 --> 00:34:32.119
sit in your favorite chair, face
the sun, or just have some soothing

438
00:34:32.239 --> 00:34:37.480
music on in the background and take
a nap. It's not going to hurt

439
00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:45.079
you. It can make you feel
better. You know what you're thinking.

440
00:34:46.719 --> 00:34:53.280
I don't know. No, I
totally agree, because, well, I

441
00:34:53.320 --> 00:34:57.360
do have a medium, well I
now do. I used to be like

442
00:34:57.480 --> 00:35:02.280
you, mister, I didn't have
one. But I tend to pull myself

443
00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:07.519
back a lot of times because like, as I'm strengthening my relationship with God,

444
00:35:07.519 --> 00:35:10.880
I'm like, I can't be that
type of individual. So well,

445
00:35:12.199 --> 00:35:15.880
that's why I mean, I try
not to be that type of individual.

446
00:35:15.920 --> 00:35:19.480
So I talk to myself, I
pull myself back. I do what I

447
00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:22.280
have to do. I'll be like, let's relax, let's you know,

448
00:35:22.400 --> 00:35:24.840
just walk away from the situation,
whatever the case may be. Because I

449
00:35:24.920 --> 00:35:29.000
used to get triggered easily, but
that was only because of things I've gone

450
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:34.599
through that made me just shoot up
quickly and be able to snap quickly.

451
00:35:35.440 --> 00:35:37.400
But yeah, I totally agree what
you guys were saying. No, just

452
00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:44.199
being able to identify when you're about
to get there and just have an ability

453
00:35:44.199 --> 00:35:45.920
to be able to pull yourself back
as well, with like right then and

454
00:35:45.960 --> 00:35:51.679
there knowing that, Okay, let's
be wrong. If I immediately just snap

455
00:35:51.719 --> 00:35:54.519
on this person. Let me not
be like them and be negative. Let

456
00:35:54.519 --> 00:35:59.880
me be positive or even just walk
away from the situation. There's nothing wrong

457
00:35:59.880 --> 00:36:05.239
with that. I feel like that's
always a winner. And God always will

458
00:36:05.239 --> 00:36:07.360
put you in check too, if
you let him, he'll put you in

459
00:36:07.480 --> 00:36:12.199
I love God correcting me because I
can only get better. But yeah,

460
00:36:12.239 --> 00:36:21.039
there are times he'll say really,
yeah, yeah from me, he'd be

461
00:36:21.079 --> 00:36:22.760
like what and I can tell my
angels or you know, he sits my

462
00:36:22.840 --> 00:36:25.920
angels down, you know, and
they sitting there, like do what we

463
00:36:25.960 --> 00:36:29.400
do? He said, I got
her, you just sit over there.

464
00:36:29.599 --> 00:36:36.760
So I realized I'm flying angel less. You know. My facial expressions get

465
00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:39.320
me in trouble because people are looking
at what was going on. But I

466
00:36:39.320 --> 00:36:43.559
said, and I'm thinking, I'm
like really going in with like okay.

467
00:36:43.760 --> 00:36:46.840
I'm thinking to myself, I'm composing
my look what's going over there? I

468
00:36:46.880 --> 00:36:51.239
see your face? I said,
really I'm okay. No, gnaw,

469
00:36:51.320 --> 00:36:55.239
your face doesn't say that you're okay. But I really am inside thinking that

470
00:36:55.280 --> 00:37:00.760
I'm portraying this okay face. And
so but I take, you know,

471
00:37:00.840 --> 00:37:07.960
I take I think I'm like you
miss Cage just trying to find ways not

472
00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:10.760
to be you know, I would
walk off or I would, you know,

473
00:37:10.880 --> 00:37:15.719
mumble to myself before I would take
it to that if I, if

474
00:37:15.719 --> 00:37:28.239
I, if you unleash the hounds. Yeah, I mean really, I'm

475
00:37:28.360 --> 00:37:32.039
telling you, it's like, really, if you if I get, if

476
00:37:32.079 --> 00:37:36.199
I get and this, I can't
even say it's a whole lot that I've

477
00:37:36.239 --> 00:37:39.119
been there, because I really think
that I work on that, you know,

478
00:37:39.159 --> 00:37:42.760
because I don't even want to.
I don't want to keep it at

479
00:37:42.760 --> 00:37:45.960
the extreme low end because I don't
even know where it would trickle and where

480
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:49.920
it would me, you know that
fine line and so. And at the

481
00:37:50.039 --> 00:37:54.280
end of the day, if I'm
not saying and I'm not and I'm internalizing,

482
00:37:54.400 --> 00:38:00.239
I'd rather me internalize it and chew
it up than to say something them

483
00:38:00.280 --> 00:38:04.159
to be offensive to somebody else,
you know what I mean. I'd rather

484
00:38:04.199 --> 00:38:08.480
take the hit and hold on to
it and figure it out and let it

485
00:38:08.519 --> 00:38:13.599
go on. Other means, you
know whatever, Listen to my music,

486
00:38:13.800 --> 00:38:17.679
dance or whatever. Before I would
approach. And that works for me,

487
00:38:17.719 --> 00:38:22.039
and I might not work for everyone, but it's I always try to be

488
00:38:22.400 --> 00:38:24.320
even tempered, you know. I
don't like I don't like the feeling of

489
00:38:25.239 --> 00:38:30.599
the other stuff, you know,
and then maybe I'm teaching somebody else self

490
00:38:30.599 --> 00:38:34.519
control. I don't know. Mm
hmm. Well, it's just it's it's

491
00:38:34.519 --> 00:38:37.599
a sad day. And then when
you get your personal feelings involved, if

492
00:38:37.639 --> 00:38:42.960
you've not figured out a way to
to to I know, you legal,

493
00:38:43.119 --> 00:38:45.920
she'll go work out. She'll go
to the gym and work out. Or

494
00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:46.599
sometimes she said, you know,
I need to go for a run.

495
00:38:46.639 --> 00:38:50.599
I gotta go for a run,
and she just out. Sometimes she'll take

496
00:38:50.679 --> 00:38:52.800
you know, our dog with her
and they just go for this run and

497
00:38:52.840 --> 00:38:55.519
she comes back. You know.
So you got to know what calms you

498
00:38:55.639 --> 00:39:00.440
down, what calms you down,
what gets you to that place of ranity.

499
00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:04.360
I just had to uh share that
with one of my spiritual daughters,

500
00:39:04.400 --> 00:39:07.360
that you need and I just text
her because she's, you know, she's

501
00:39:07.400 --> 00:39:09.800
really hyped up, and I'm like, Okay, you need to figure out

502
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:15.599
what can calm your mind down.
And then you need to recite the Serenity

503
00:39:15.639 --> 00:39:19.599
Prayer, all of it, all
of it, you know, because there's

504
00:39:19.599 --> 00:39:23.039
a second Stanza to that thing.
But yeah, you need to know when

505
00:39:23.079 --> 00:39:27.880
do I fight, it's this my
fight when do I not fight I Lately,

506
00:39:27.880 --> 00:39:31.280
I've been doing something and my daughter
called me on it, and uh,

507
00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:37.880
I'll just I'll just insert myself in
conversation. So we'll be in the

508
00:39:37.880 --> 00:39:44.400
grocery store and my daughter like,
people be saying and she knows, she

509
00:39:44.639 --> 00:39:46.840
knows, I don't say anything.
We have our masks on, and she

510
00:39:46.880 --> 00:39:52.519
said, mam, don't, don't, don't, and she'll she'll get in

511
00:39:52.519 --> 00:39:57.400
my face and get it. And
I'm like, oh, don't you say

512
00:39:57.400 --> 00:40:00.000
a word. Don't you say don't
even look at them? Why you look

513
00:40:00.119 --> 00:40:05.480
to the people? She plussed me
because you know, I'm like, why

514
00:40:05.480 --> 00:40:08.119
are y'all bringing this to the public. I don't care to hear your argument.

515
00:40:08.320 --> 00:40:13.320
I don't care to hear your conversation. Ain't nobody thinking about you but

516
00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:17.039
you. You're on my lane and
you're talking loud. You what you know?

517
00:40:17.639 --> 00:40:22.840
Or somebody's trying to get your attention, and it's like no, no,

518
00:40:23.000 --> 00:40:28.199
So you know you all, you're
you're the what's that saying? You're

519
00:40:28.239 --> 00:40:31.079
the not the king of your castle, but you're the You're the something of

520
00:40:31.119 --> 00:40:35.480
your something, You're the something of
your space. You're you're the captain of

521
00:40:35.480 --> 00:40:38.400
this ship. You're the you know, master of my fate, captain of

522
00:40:38.559 --> 00:40:43.920
my soul, my soul. I
think that's what it is. There,

523
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:49.440
you go, you're the captain.
You're the captain. You make the decisions,

524
00:40:49.559 --> 00:40:52.039
you make choices. I mean,
and you should be changing. I

525
00:40:52.119 --> 00:40:55.559
want to say this. You should
be embracing change. You don't look like

526
00:40:55.599 --> 00:41:00.320
you did five years ago. So
your body it's gonna do its thing.

527
00:41:00.440 --> 00:41:06.360
Your mind, you know, your
memory, everything changes, So embrace change.

528
00:41:06.840 --> 00:41:09.880
See what works for you and what
don't work for you. Don't keep

529
00:41:09.920 --> 00:41:15.360
making promises that you know you cannot
keep for yourself. How many of us

530
00:41:15.599 --> 00:41:20.440
have clothes on the line that still
got price tags on it because you just

531
00:41:20.519 --> 00:41:24.760
knew I'm gonna either increase my weight
or I'm gonna drop this weight. So

532
00:41:24.800 --> 00:41:30.280
you've got stuff hanging and you have
no place else to put it. Reminds

533
00:41:30.280 --> 00:41:32.360
me of what Steve Harvey said his
mother used to say to him. He

534
00:41:32.360 --> 00:41:35.519
said, Mama, I'm gonna get
me a new car. I'm saving up

535
00:41:35.559 --> 00:41:37.679
my money, and she said,
but where you're gonna go. That's nice,

536
00:41:37.679 --> 00:41:40.480
son, but where you're gonna put
it? So he didn't think nothing

537
00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:45.000
of it. So weeks later he
comes back in mamm almost clothes. I'm

538
00:41:45.000 --> 00:41:46.519
about to get that car. She
said, yeah, that's nice, but

539
00:41:46.559 --> 00:41:50.639
where are you gonna put it?
So the third time he came to her

540
00:41:50.639 --> 00:41:52.000
and said the same thing, He
said, why do you keep saying that?

541
00:41:52.039 --> 00:41:54.639
She said, well, because you
got a car on blocks in the

542
00:41:54.719 --> 00:42:00.039
driveway, the leaked oil and everything. Where you're gonna put the new car?

543
00:42:00.599 --> 00:42:06.320
He got it, He got it, So let's get it and let's

544
00:42:06.320 --> 00:42:08.760
be good to ourselves. Let's continue
to love. And another thing too,

545
00:42:08.840 --> 00:42:13.760
loving yourself. We had a family
meeting last week and that's what I do

546
00:42:13.840 --> 00:42:15.159
with my kids. We have a
family meeting. And what we do in

547
00:42:15.159 --> 00:42:21.639
the family meeting is nothing is nothing
is barred whatever, share your feelings,

548
00:42:21.639 --> 00:42:23.159
share what you need. We don't
talk about it. After we close out

549
00:42:23.159 --> 00:42:28.119
with prayer, we don't bring it
up again. So you get to say

550
00:42:28.119 --> 00:42:30.000
what you need to say, and
I get to say what I need to

551
00:42:30.039 --> 00:42:32.960
say. You know, and things. But for some reason, the Lord

552
00:42:34.000 --> 00:42:37.480
laid it on my heart to say
to my kids, make sure you love

553
00:42:37.519 --> 00:42:44.880
yourself. A lot of times we
don't think about that because we keep moving,

554
00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:52.960
you know, keep moving. Just
want to piggyback on that too so

555
00:42:53.599 --> 00:43:02.519
and finding ways to make yourself feel
better, because I remember using the scaling

556
00:43:02.639 --> 00:43:08.039
question so loution focus and I've asked
clients, you know, few more clients,

557
00:43:08.400 --> 00:43:10.880
you know, on a scale of
one to ten, one you're not

558
00:43:12.000 --> 00:43:15.000
feeling good at all, Ten you're
feeling great, give me a number.

559
00:43:15.639 --> 00:43:19.679
And so they would, you know, pick a number, I'd say,

560
00:43:19.800 --> 00:43:23.239
like six, And so I said, well, great, what would make

561
00:43:23.280 --> 00:43:27.599
you feel like a seven? And
she said putting on lift to it.

562
00:43:27.719 --> 00:43:30.599
I said, okay, there you
go. And so it's a step,

563
00:43:30.000 --> 00:43:34.880
you know, because sometimes even though
if you're not going anywhere, does everything

564
00:43:34.920 --> 00:43:37.000
get resolved in the family, meaning
to be able to close it out and

565
00:43:37.039 --> 00:43:40.119
not mention it again. Yes,
we've gotten down to that. I don't

566
00:43:40.119 --> 00:43:43.000
mean to cut you off trade,
but yes, no, no, no,

567
00:43:43.519 --> 00:43:46.039
go ahead. Yeah, we make
sure. Yeah, everybody goes around

568
00:43:46.599 --> 00:43:51.239
say what they have to say.
Most of them don't say anything. And

569
00:43:51.239 --> 00:43:53.760
then I said, okay, my
turn, you know, but yeah,

570
00:43:53.800 --> 00:43:55.679
it gets resolved. We don't bring
it up, and we don't bring it

571
00:43:55.760 --> 00:43:59.760
up at the next family because we
don't have them consistently anymore. We used

572
00:43:59.800 --> 00:44:02.440
to have them like once a month
something like that. Okay, all right,

573
00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:09.480
you saw that. Look, I
believe it was. We got down

574
00:44:09.559 --> 00:44:14.039
to once a month and now we
do it every now and then. We

575
00:44:14.199 --> 00:44:16.039
just had the first one for this
year, you know, because the Lord

576
00:44:16.119 --> 00:44:19.400
Lady on my heart says time to
have a family meeting check in, and

577
00:44:19.480 --> 00:44:22.760
it's my it's my way of checking
in with them. I got grown folk

578
00:44:22.840 --> 00:44:27.199
in my house now, you know
so. And everybody's different. And I've

579
00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:29.719
said to each and one of my
children, I got to get to know

580
00:44:29.840 --> 00:44:34.159
you now at your age, because
you're not my little babies anymore. You

581
00:44:34.199 --> 00:44:36.880
know, you got feelings, you
know, you got things on your mind,

582
00:44:36.960 --> 00:44:38.880
and you're going through stuff out there. But go ahead try thank you

583
00:44:38.920 --> 00:44:43.119
country seating. No, no,
no. I think that was great and

584
00:44:43.159 --> 00:44:46.199
that was a great question, and
you know the way you responded to that.

585
00:44:46.599 --> 00:44:50.159
But you know, it could be
simple things that make you feel good.

586
00:44:50.280 --> 00:44:53.679
You know, whether you buy yourself
a female or something by yourself,

587
00:44:53.679 --> 00:45:00.559
a lipstick or eye shadow or something
like that of Pairent Errands, you know

588
00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:05.440
that makes you feel better. El
it's perfume, because you need that.

589
00:45:05.719 --> 00:45:08.599
I'm not saying go overboard over your
means, but if it's that one thing

590
00:45:08.920 --> 00:45:13.199
that you want to just this is
just for me, and I'm going to

591
00:45:13.639 --> 00:45:19.679
enjoy me and do this for me. And so yeah, I think that

592
00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:23.159
makes you feel better, and it
could This is just maybe it sounds cheesy,

593
00:45:23.159 --> 00:45:25.519
but it is to me. No, So I say, you know

594
00:45:25.559 --> 00:45:30.480
what I want, Let me get
this because I you know, I work,

595
00:45:30.559 --> 00:45:32.719
and then you know I deserve it. And it could be just as

596
00:45:32.760 --> 00:45:37.159
small as, like I said,
a lipstick or something or glip closs or

597
00:45:37.159 --> 00:45:42.760
whatever. M I know that would
be a good show learning family again,

598
00:45:42.880 --> 00:45:46.320
Oh beat ways to get to know
each other so things could work out together

599
00:45:46.480 --> 00:45:50.840
better. Okay, done, missy. We'll put it on the harper because

600
00:45:50.840 --> 00:45:53.719
we're getting ready to get together and
decide you know, hear what God wants

601
00:45:53.760 --> 00:45:57.159
us to do for next month.
I'll put it. I'll make sure we

602
00:45:57.159 --> 00:45:59.639
put that down there. We'll make
it. Know everybody keep it, making

603
00:45:59.639 --> 00:46:04.079
them into noted that the family together. Yes, and that's a whole big

604
00:46:04.079 --> 00:46:08.280
one that we've probably it's been shows
on that because everybody's going through changes and

605
00:46:08.360 --> 00:46:12.760
there's loss. Best ways okay,
best ways to do it. Okay,

606
00:46:12.920 --> 00:46:15.400
not a problem. We can take
care of that. I know that when

607
00:46:15.400 --> 00:46:20.039
I got out of the hospital.
Prior to going as the hospital, prior

608
00:46:20.079 --> 00:46:24.480
to what this past five years,
I was not one to wear cross jewelry.

609
00:46:27.199 --> 00:46:30.320
I made a point of that because
I got it perturbed me a little

610
00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:32.639
bit, or disturbed me a little
bit that people would wear crosses and stuff.

611
00:46:32.679 --> 00:46:37.639
And but you didn't have a relationship. You were showing contrary. Your

612
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:40.360
behaviors were different, your language,
your conversations were different. So I didn't.

613
00:46:40.599 --> 00:46:45.920
So since I've been home and everything, and after recovering stuff, I

614
00:46:45.960 --> 00:46:47.719
just started saying, you know,
because I couldn't, I'm not able to

615
00:46:47.760 --> 00:46:51.760
wear watches. I know most of
y'all don't see anybody, you know.

616
00:46:51.960 --> 00:46:55.920
And I said, and I don't
know why. I was just Amazon became

617
00:46:57.000 --> 00:47:00.400
my friend. Amazon became my friend. Kids. They're like, here's some

618
00:47:00.480 --> 00:47:08.559
more boxes every day. Hard to
type on the phone with names. Yeah,

619
00:47:08.960 --> 00:47:13.119
he hear it. He comes another
box. But it became my freak

620
00:47:13.159 --> 00:47:15.400
because I could shop. I could. I didn't have to leave the house

621
00:47:15.639 --> 00:47:20.199
because I didn't realize that I was
experiencing some sorts of depression. I didn't

622
00:47:20.199 --> 00:47:22.840
want to leave my house because I
didn't want people to be looking at me

623
00:47:22.199 --> 00:47:25.199
anymore. You know, I don't
want them and wondering what happened to her,

624
00:47:25.719 --> 00:47:30.920
and so just perusing on, you
know, I said, cross jewelry,

625
00:47:30.480 --> 00:47:34.840
and I found on let me see
do this right? Yeah? Amazon?

626
00:47:37.280 --> 00:47:42.719
Ok? Yeah? And I've got
them in every color, every color

627
00:47:42.800 --> 00:47:45.599
because I'm colored. I wear colors, you know, and it's something about

628
00:47:45.599 --> 00:47:52.559
that. And then the Lord had
me to make my necklace, which is

629
00:47:52.960 --> 00:47:59.519
a mustard seeds. Okay, she's
pushing me. I'm trying to let them

630
00:47:59.559 --> 00:48:02.320
see I made mustard seed necklaces.
Well I didn't make them. I had

631
00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:07.159
my stylus. She makes them,
so I ordered a bunch from her and

632
00:48:07.280 --> 00:48:12.519
I've been I wear this because it
reminds me to stay in faith. It

633
00:48:12.599 --> 00:48:17.360
reminds me I'm covered by the blood
of the Lamb. It reminds me that

634
00:48:17.480 --> 00:48:22.039
faith is that of a mustard seed. And you saw the seeds in my

635
00:48:22.119 --> 00:48:28.239
necklace in this vial, right,
a mustard seed and so much mustard greens

636
00:48:28.280 --> 00:48:31.719
and mustard leaves grow out of a
seed, you know, in the faith

637
00:48:31.800 --> 00:48:36.280
of the mustard seed. And to
tell that mountain in your life, to

638
00:48:36.360 --> 00:48:39.760
tell that mountain to be moved,
and it shall be moved. That's what

639
00:48:39.800 --> 00:48:44.840
you need, Just that faith,
just that ounce of faith and we only

640
00:48:44.880 --> 00:48:47.559
have one minute. Just a few
minutes ago it was seven thirty five forever

641
00:48:47.920 --> 00:48:52.599
and now it's seven forty nine.
But you know what, it's so good,

642
00:48:52.599 --> 00:48:55.559
Tray you want to take us out. I just think this was a

643
00:48:55.599 --> 00:49:00.320
great show, and I'm just looking
forward and then to what we have in

644
00:49:00.360 --> 00:49:06.679
the future. And thank you for
the suggestions, audience and the comments and

645
00:49:06.800 --> 00:49:10.199
keep us going so we are.
I'm just looking forward to moving forward.

646
00:49:10.400 --> 00:49:14.440
Yeah. Amen, And it's important
to us that you all continue to do

647
00:49:14.480 --> 00:49:16.920
that. But that's our time,
So we're gonna have to see y'all next

648
00:49:17.000 --> 00:49:22.320
week, same time, same station. You all be safe and take care

649
00:49:22.760 --> 00:49:40.679
that night. Night