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FOURCY Radio. Well, good evening, Good evening, and welcome to another

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fabulous time of opportunity, discussion and
fellowship. Good evening, and welcome to

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another episode of Setting it Straight with
Miss Gray. And you may seem like

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I am alone, but I'm really
not alone. But before we go any

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further, let's give God praise.
Let's pray Father God. We just thank

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you, We praise you, we
give you glory. We ask that you

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have your way in our lives.
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thank you for the production crew.
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this opportunity to reach your people at
this level with discussions that plague our society,

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and pray Lord that we can give
them ease. We pray that we

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can give them direction. We pray
that we can give them a soulless and

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peace and serenity despite what's going on
around them. Now. It's always Lord,

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we ask that you know you take
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behind the cross. We love you so

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much. Do what you do best, and one of those things is to

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set the captives free. In Jesus'
name, we pray Amen and Amen.

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Well, Hello, Hello, Hello, And I know it looks like,

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hey, wow, she's by herself. Well I am not. I've got

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a fabulous guest tonight, and I
know you're going to enjoy her just as

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much as I have to get to
know her. We're celebrating Women's History months,

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so we're bringing guests on that am
making a difference in small ways and

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I like that because I personally like
to go neighborhood by neighborhood. I know

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we're all about community, and we're
all about the city, and we're all

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about the region, and we're about
the state. But guess what who makes

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up those different components, the neighbors, the neighborhood street by street. So

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without further ado, please help me
welcome miss Amanda see of the community plug.

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Where is she? Yeah, I
gotta get that clapping thing down.

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I never have it at the right
time, But anyway, we're gonna work

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on that. Well. Good evening, ma'am. And how are you.

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I'm doing well. How you doing. I'm doing really good. And thank

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you again for joining me tonight,
joining us tonight. I'm just so thankful.

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And I'm gonna give you time to
to talk about what you do and

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the things that's on your heart as
well. Before I do that, I've

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got a little commercial here. I
just want folks to know to be looking

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out for in your different cities and
states sam SUB which is the Substance Abuse

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of Mental Health Services Administration who gives
out the monies to your local mental health

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facilities and your substance abusive facilities.
They're looking to draw down about eight point

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one billion dollars for the whole United
States over the next year into year twenty

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twenty five. That's important for you
to know because agency needs to know that

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are there are moneies out here?
Mental health dollars out here for different agencies,

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and those agencies need to be also
it needs to trickle down to our

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you know, our nonprofit organizations,
our neighborhood organizations as well. So please

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be looking out for that and make
sure that your agency, your community resource,

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your community mental health, your community
substance abuse facilities in your area are

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sipients of that money, because that
means that they will be able to provide

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services. Hey, count you see
one of our avid viewers, what was

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the information to gain? Yeah,
Samson, which is the Substance Abuse and

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Mental Health subs Services Administration distributes mental
health dollars mental health and for mental health

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and substance abuse, and right now
just got the email they're looking to draw

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down about eight point one to distribute. Let me say that eight point one

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billion dollars to support mental health and
substance abuse services across the US. So

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wherever state you're in, I would
just like to encourage you to kind of,

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you know, keep on a lookout
on the news on the newspaper,

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you welcome, just to just to
know that their dollars being you know,

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distributed to your local mental health facility
and substance abuse facilities okay, And I'm

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not sure if that means detox facilities
should they should qualify. And there's no

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reason why your governors or your house
or representative exmptives or your senators should say,

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well, we don't have any place
to put people, we don't have

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enough services to go around because money
is being distributed. Samson is the mother,

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the grand the grand Pooba of all
funding for across the United States.

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So please be unaware of that.
But anyway, so I wondered if God

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wanted me to share that with you
guys. You know, I'm going to

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give you some updated information on that. And but anyway, another commercial.

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This past weekend, I attended my
book signing and it was fun. God

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sent the people in that need to
hear from Him. I was able to

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sell many books and that God was
good with that. I autographed all of

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them. And just the more important
thing to me was I was able to

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pray for people. People needed prayer
right there in the bookstore. And they

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were kind of, you know,
hesitant, a little bit, you know,

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and not sure. But we God
smoothed that all out so that they

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can walk out not the same way. Hey missy, another avid listener,

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Hey, how did the sign and
go. It went really well. It

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really it went really well because you
know, you could go therefore, you

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could go at the situations for thinking
of you're there for one reason, but

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God has a whole different reason why
you're there, you know. And it

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really was for the people. Wasn't
so much for me to sell books.

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It was for to minister and to
fellowship with the people that did come.

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And Pastor Miguel who's one of our
co hosts, he and his wife came,

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took a two hour trip to come
over to support me, which surprised

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me. So I was, I
was thankful for that, and so it's

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good. It's good. But let
me talk about my fabulous guest. My

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daughter introduced this idea of pop up
shops. Now, I watched most of

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the Housewives, Beverly Hills, Housewives, Atlanta, Miami, Potomac, Marrit

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Medicine, you know all those shows, and I would hear like in Atlanta

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they would have pop up shops.
And I hear sometimes in California they would

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have these pop up shops, and
of course you think it's what it is

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is, you know, you stop
and you land and you just put Papa

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tick up and start selling you good
Thank you Mickey another avid listener, thank

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you. Yeah. So, I
mean you don't pop up a tent,

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but you know, you pop your
table, you put your wares out.

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And my daughter was saying, well, I'm gonna go to this pop up

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shop. And I said, oh
okay, So I said, you want

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me to go with you, just
to be an extra hand. And at

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that time, Miss night And was
selling desserts, cheesecake and a jar and

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things like that. That was her
beginnings. And she started doing that out

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and she was on her social media
and saw that this young lady, it's

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a man to see what was having
a pop up shop. So I didn't

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know what she looked like. I
didn't know anything about it, and I

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there was no expectation. I was
really there to support my daughter, just

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to be an extra hand. And
we unfolded tables, we put our tablecloth

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up. Alicia had her her decore
for her table. I mean some people

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really go out to make sure it
looks good and everything. And I had

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a good time and I was like, wow, okay, and then I

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believe on the first round that's where
I met you that day and she was

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going around and she was the hostess
with the most. She was out there

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making sure everybody's you can fit in
this space, Okay, let's do this,

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Okay, let's get started. And
anytime they were pulling her in all

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directions, I don't know how you
do it, and you're gonna explain that

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to me tonight. But she was
there, she was answering everybody. You

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know, it was just it was
cordial. Everybody went around with their business

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cards to each other's tables, We
introduced ourselves and things like that. Then

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I believe it was you who said, well, oh you, I don't

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know how we got to talking about
it. I have a book, and

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you're like, well you need to, you know, come in next time

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bring your books. And I'm like
hmm. And then of course my daughter

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reminds me, so I said,
okay, what the heck? So I

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began to travel around with her and
stuff like that. So that's how I

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got my pop up beginnings. And
it's just been amazing. And so I'm

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gonna stop talking here, miss Amanda. What do you talk about the community

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plug? How did that get started? But also talk about the pop up

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shops too, How did that get
started? So with the with the community

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plug that came out of nowhere,
because that's not even how I started.

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Pop up shops just came randomly,
like one day I was just like and

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I made a post and I actually
was on my memories yesterday. It was

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just like, I want to do
a pop up shop. I started doing.

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Sorry, I started doing events for
women who you know, somewhat in

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life lost their voices. So I
created a space where they were able to

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you know, talk and be heard
and you know, not really feel like

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they lost their voices. And it
was just like a support group specifically for

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women who were like sexually abused and
stuff like that, because that was you

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know, that was my story at
the time. That's how we started.

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We started with just simple support groups. It was free, you know,

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I provided snacks, I provided drinks, and I just provided that space for

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a few hours. I went through
you know, different venues. I did

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a paint night, I think the
first the first time after the support groups.

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That was my first event. That
was my first like ticketed event,

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and that shocked me because I was
just so used to maybe you know,

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sometimes four people would come, maybe
you know, maybe ten at most.

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So I wasn't really thinking that I
was going to have like a big group

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of people. So then, like
my first time doing an event, it

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was like at first I saw maybe
like twenty tickets. I was like,

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okay, So it was supposed to
be in a small office. Then a

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few days later I'm like, okay, people keep calling me for sike be

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cause I'm like, well, dang, I gotta move it. So I

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had to move it to a bigger
venue. And then it was like one

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hundred and twenty five women. I
was like, I don't know what I'm

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supposed to be doing, but but
God let me know something. So I

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just went from there. I hadn't
event. It had, you know,

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a couple of hiccups. It had
a lot of things that I you know,

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I didn't really know because it was
really my first time you know,

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charging people to come and you know, engage in something that I put together.

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I did have help of a few
women. I will always be grateful

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for them because they opened that door
for me to open the door for others.

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I did that first, and then
I did another one, and then

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the second part had over three hundred
women and it was actually in the place

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I do the pop up shops now, So I that night I cried.

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I was Oh my gosh, I
was in tears. Everybody just see me

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crying, and I was just so
vulnerable. And I don't at the time,

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I wasn't really good with public speaking
because I'm shy. Believe it or

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not, I'm shy. No,
I don't believe that is so bad.

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It was too much people to talk
in front of it. And I was

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like, oh my gosh. And
then I didn't like as far as speech

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goes, I wasn't all the way
there with it. I did a lot

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of ums and I'll be like,
you know what I'm saying and stuff like

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that. So you know, I
had a lady who taught me how to

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speak like publicly. So that's why
now I could do it. You know,

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maybe my eyes closed after I announced
that, maybe I'm about to throw

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up because I'm so nervous. I
did that, and then I kept going,

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and then just that one day I
made that post I said I was

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going to do hop up shop and
then I think a year later, I

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finally did it. I did it, and it started off small, and

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then it just kept going and kept
going and kept going. Here I am

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I want to say, what about
five years later, still doing it.

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Off taking a break right now,
you know, just for me, but

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I'm still doing it. I still
have people that will tell me, look,

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if you're not doing it, I'm
not doing it. I'm not going

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to be a part until you come
back. My biggest thing was I did

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create that safe space for women.
But then I started to realize, okay,

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maybe I shouldn't just do stuff for
women. Let me include the guys.

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So I started having guide vendors,
you know, women vendor, kid

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vendors, and I continued on with
the pop up shop. My biggest thing

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is I may not be as established
as the people that are vending for me,

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but I've always believed in opening doors
for people, regardless of whatever it

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is. I love to see it
because it's never about the money. For

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me, it's just about seeing,
you know, people like me, you

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know, go from I'm so scared
to do this to oh, I'm gonna

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do this with you next month and
the month after and the month after this

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and the month after that, and
they just been doing it. Some people

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went out and did their owns.
I'm like, you know, you got

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it. Like I'm not selfish.
I'm not the type of person that's going

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to keep information to myself. If
you need my help, I help you.

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I have no problem, because that's
why I started this. I just

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remember staying home one day and I
had a friend that was doing community work

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and I wasn't driving at the time
because I did have brain surgery, so

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I was having seizures for a while, so I contributed how I could.

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So I'd be like, you could
come get my card and you could come

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buy snacks for the outreaches that you're
doing and stuff like that, and that

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really motivated me, and I sat
down and I researched everything that everybody in

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the city does. That's why I
came up with the community plug because I

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know basically what everybody in the community
does. So somebody's like, you know

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who does hair? Yep, I
know, you know who makes streets?

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Yes, I know, you know
who could write you help me write a

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book? I know. Let me
go ahead and send you their page.

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To this day, there's people that
will write me be like, hey,

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you know what was the girl that
have the oil at your pop up shop?

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It was on your birthday? I
really love the oil. Can I

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get her contact info? Sends the
Instagram sends the Facebook, and I continue

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to plug people in even while I'm
not doing you know, any events,

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I'm still plugging people in with each
other. And I you know, continuously

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do the Monday the Marketing Monday post
where I said, even if I'm not

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doing an event, I'm still making
sure people are getting plugged in with each

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other because that's just my thing.
It makes me happy to see people that

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I brought together, you know,
still connecting to this day. When I

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go on their Instagram, I'm like, okay, they've following each other.

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Now. I be so happy because
that was always my plan to get the

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people together. And you know,
we we build our own little market,

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you know, because if we don't
have like each other, like who else

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are we going to have? To
be quite honest with you? And that's

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been my space. That's why I
you know, I do giveaways, you

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know, I do discounts, you
know, here and there. I'm very

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understanding when it comes down to my
events because I know how it feels to

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not have all of the resources to
do what you have to do. I

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know how it feels to startup and
nobody you know, believed in you.

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I always be that person that believes
in others and I push them to their

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full potential, even when sometimes I
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that's my calling. And that's why
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I first started at as let me
vents this, but I realize I reached

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the audience bigger than just women.
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the community plug, which is everybody, whether it's cats, dogs, women,

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men, you know, your grandma, your uncle, is a community

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thing. So that's where that came
from. Well, I don't know how

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many people come back to say thank
you, but for my daughter, and

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I'm not speaking for her, but
I from what I could see, it

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was it was her. That was
that your your secret, your sacred place,

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and that that safe place that you
created for her allowed her to step

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out, take her desserts out of
the house and and and put a price

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tag on it and start learning business. And ironically she's majoring in business,

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so it brought that right, It
brought a full circle for her. For

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her, and then she was watching
and then I would know when it was

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the next because oh, miss Amanda's
having another pop up shop this day.

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I said, oh, okay,
well what did you do the same thing.

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No, I'm gonna do something different. I'm thinking that I'm gonna and

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how she was leveraging and learning how
to okay, you know what, they

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didn't this this product didn't sell so
much, but I think this one will.

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And I said, well, do
a little survey with your you know,

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with your folks on on your social
media. You've got a live audience.

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You know, they'll tell you the
truth. And I mean, so

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wild stuff. You know, let's
come out, you know, fruit loops

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and and Chrispy Kreme stuff and little
you know, just guys. And then

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she's put and she's gone from the
desserts and a jar to at the cupcakes

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and stuff. But what also intrigued
me was at the last one, just

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to I looked around and to see
how many folks came out with desserts.

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They were actually able to come.
They were actually customers at one point,

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and they actually liked debate, so
they came out with their own uh bait,

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you know, desserts and things like
that. And just to watch that.

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And then she grew into uh being
able to be one of the chefs,

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one of the cooks vendors. She
went from being you know, doing

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dessert, dessert, dessert, and
then she did the full fledgh you know,

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uh full food bender plate, you
know, opportunity so and I know

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for me, I mean, yes, I could be I am an extrovert

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and all that this stuff, but
we still get butterflies, you know.

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And I'm just now coming out and
doing little things. And the pop up

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shot wasn't like it wasn't something so
big that you get lost. It was

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small enough. It was intimate enough, if you would, in the environment

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that made me feel comfortable. I
could sit behind my table still, you

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know, talk with people who came
over to the table and things like that,

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you know, to ask about the
things that my products and stuff.

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So I don't know how many people
actually, you know, come back and

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thank you behind the scenes, because
I know it's an emotional thing for somebody

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to just support you. You don't
know sometimes who these people are, but

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they reach out, they say I
want to pay the feed. They're like

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okay, they asked for directions,
and you know they're there. So you

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do make a difference. And it
wasn't until the day the Lord was showing

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me. He kept emphasizing your neighborhood, you're doing door and I'm like,

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okay, he said, And she's
door to door. She's about getting that

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individual, one individual as a Is
this like a farmer's market? Yes,

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country seat on a smaller, more
intimate scale, but yes, it's like

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a farmer's markets, not pre set. You come in and you set up,

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and you break down and we go
home, you know, and then

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we scheduled to come back. But
yes, it's very similar to a farmer's

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market. Yeah, and anybody could
do it. And if you've got wares,

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if you've got things that you need
to sell or whatever, you don't

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go for it because you'd be surprised, you know, the old saying another

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one man's junk is another man's treasure. You just never know somebody would want,

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you know, they may want what
you you're selling, so you know,

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but I thank you for that.
But now talk more about the support

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group. Are we gonna see that
circle back now? Are you gonna go

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back to that to where you're gonna
have the women and or young girls meet?

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Since you since you brought it up
like it was, it was on

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my heart for some time to do
something, but I kind of didn't know

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exactly what, but it wasn't until
we spoke. In a minute, you

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open your mouth and started, you
know, telling me about the situation.

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I was like, I know what
I have to do because right now,

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the generation, like right now is
just going through it and you know,

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people might label them as, you
know, bad kids, but I don't

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really think that's the case. You
know, I just might be a little

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bit of misunderstood my generation. We're
so focused right now and trying to be

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the best parents that we could be. Sometimes we miss things. Sometimes we

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miss you know, maybe our kid
wants, you know, a little bit

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more attention, or maybe they're going
through a time and they don't feel like

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we have the time, you know
to listen to them about what's going on

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at school with friends, you know, with guys with girls. So I

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just remember, you know, me
not having that space because I'm you know,

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I'm from the island. So if
you know, you know, it's

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a not as affectionate home. It's
a they work so hard, they work

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twelve hours, sixteen hours, so
it's not really time to really talk.

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Whenever they are home, it's sleep, you know, because they want to

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make sure they keep a moof over
your head. But at the same time,

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that's not enough. You know,
that's really not enough. Me as

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a kid, I did need someone
to really talk to listen to me,

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understand me because I was doing a
lot of things and I was labeled as

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bad, but I was just misunderstood
because I was going through a whole thing

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and nobody knew. So right now, my focus is to really be that

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adult to these younger girls even younger
boys that I needed at their age,

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because like I said, I didn't
have it. My mom was a great

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mom, is a great mom,
but my mom was also a young mom,

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so it was just really her figuring
it out, just like me.

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I'm a young mom. I'm still
figuring it out. But I think I

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know more of what I needed,
so I know what I can provide.

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So I do want to come together
with you, of course to say space,

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you know, for these young girls
free you know, snacks. I

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know they love snacks. I know
they love their little hot chips and their

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juices and whatnot, So definitely want
to provide those vibes, but just let

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them talk and if they want to
talk without the parents being there that it

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is totally fine because I understand,
you know, I want to kind of

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create a space where they're able to
put together a plan on how to come

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to their moms or their dads about
what's going on, because there's things that's

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going on where they don't feel comfortable
sharing with their parents. Even my own

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child, Like something happened with her
at school, she didn't tell me.

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I had to find out. I
got a phone call about it. But

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I just wanted to know why you
didn't tell me. It's not like I

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don't, you know, discipline you
to a point to where you should be

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scared. I try to have an
open door policy with my daughter, so

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I kind of just want to get
a little bit more of understanding. So

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this could help me as well.
While I'm helping others, it can also

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help me, you know, build
a stronger relationship with my daughter. I

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love her, she loves me.
I know that she knows I do whatever

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I can for her, but I
also want to make sure I make that

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time to sit down and talk with
her. So this is something that I

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would want her to be a part
of too, And we could just get

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that together for those kids, like
we could keep it as raw as possible,

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you know, for you know,
age appropriate of course, but we're

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gonna have to We're gonna have to
open up that that that's the part of

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the safe safety in the space.
They cannot be afraid to come and they

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cannot be afraid to devent, right
because they're not gonna know what to do.

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They're just gonna lay it out there. So I'm not gonna be surprised.

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I'm not gonna be surprised. I've
got a lot of older people came

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by the tab and this one woman
is celebrating. She goes, I celebrate

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my mother's death. It's been six
seven years now, but I choose this

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day. I wear blue because she
loved blue. I went to breakfast,

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I had a nice meal, and
I'm thinking about my mother. And my

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other sisters don't do that as much, but they just say, go do

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you. And this woman has got
to be had to be. I know,

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she was late sixties, early seventies, and she's still grieving her mother,

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right, She's still grieving her mother. And all I did was sit

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and sit in that space, let
her talk it through. And she said,

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tell me about your books. And
she was like, I don't think

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I pray rite. I don't think
I pray rite, you know. And

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I said, well, this is
how you pray, you know, and

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that's how that is. So here
I've got sixty and seventy year olds still

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suffering from not having a voice when
they needed one. So I want you

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to realize how important that is from
a therapeutic perspective. And you've got to

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and I'll do whatever the Lord allows
me to do to assist you behind the

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scenes on this because they're not my
population. Young kids are not my population

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that my elderly are. So if
I don't have it slowed up on that

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end, I'm going to see these
people in therapy. You know what I'm

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saying. That's ma'am. So no
slow And I used to say that when

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I was in class for all my
you know, fellow social workers whose children

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and teens youth were their specialty.
I was like, well, I need

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you to slow this up because the
moment they turn eighteen, the moment they

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turned to what it was they come
to see me and I got enough.

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Over here, I still got to
deal with my sixty seventy eighty year olds

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who still have issues and they can't
that plague them, that haunts them,

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right, that has made them stuck
for years, And like you said,

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what is it misunderstood your quick to
label me? You quick? And I

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you know what? Then I have
kids that grow up saying, oh,

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yeah, well I'm schizophrenic or I'm
this, and I'm like, no,

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what's your name? I just asked
you what your name was? Well,

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you know, I have I'm by
I'm not here to impressed me. You

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cannot you cannot impress me. Can
I have your name? Please? Can

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we start there? I had a
call this morning for anger management class.

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It took me five minutes to ask
her, Okay, are you talking about

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what kind of class? Well?
What kind of class? You know?

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What kind of class you need you
to? What court ordered I'm And then

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she said okay, well and then
she hung up, and I'm like,

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hello, you know, so we
got those types of people, you know,

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still living, you know, with
like I said, whatever, the

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memories and the experiences, and they
cannot let it go. And there was

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nobody, no adult around that could
they could talk to. It's still the

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same old thing. It's still the
same thing. I don't care what generation

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you were born in. It's still
it's the same theme. It's the same

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theme I've got, Like I said, sixty and seventy and eighty year olds

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will tell you the same thing.
I didn't have anybody to talk to.

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Nobody protected me, nobody believed me. I was a bad kid, So

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I was labeled a bad kid.
And they're you know, they've not been

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able to live a lead or live
a productive life because they're living with these

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things that are haunting them that they
don't know how to let go. Right.

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Yeah, So I want you to
know that's what you're going to be

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doing is very important. Monthly may
not do it. You may have to

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do it weekly. You may have
to get them together weekly. Because one

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thing that used to bother me as
a therapist is when I dealt with children

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and young people and we'd have a
great session. You know, it's like,

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00:28:56.160 --> 00:28:57.680
yeah, they're hyped, they're ready, but they have to go back

411
00:28:57.720 --> 00:29:03.440
to the environment. And I don't
counsel the environment. I counsel them,

412
00:29:03.839 --> 00:29:07.079
right, and so sure, now
if they come back a week two weeks

413
00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:11.680
later, we start almost starting all
over again. Because it was a harsh

414
00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:17.319
time. It was events happening,
situations happening, and that used to frustrate

415
00:29:17.400 --> 00:29:19.519
the heck out of me. So
I said, no, bring the who's

416
00:29:19.559 --> 00:29:22.240
living in the house bring them to
the session next time, you said the

417
00:29:22.279 --> 00:29:27.119
lobby, let me talk to them
mm hm. Because it's like you're you're

418
00:29:27.160 --> 00:29:30.960
working on a healing process, but
the very thing that you're trying to heal

419
00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:34.279
from is a thing that you have
to go home to every day. So

420
00:29:34.319 --> 00:29:38.200
it's like you get that piece while
you're away, but once you get back

421
00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:41.960
home, it's just like okay,
So now I feel like, you know,

422
00:29:42.000 --> 00:29:47.279
we have to kind of come up
with different strategies to kind of help

423
00:29:47.319 --> 00:29:51.240
bring that healing into the home,
you know, and not make them feel

424
00:29:51.240 --> 00:29:52.680
like, Okay, every time I
come to my session or every time I

425
00:29:52.720 --> 00:29:56.640
come to this event, it's my
getaway, but when I get back home,

426
00:29:56.680 --> 00:30:02.039
it's like I'm still not I'm not
happy. I you know, it

427
00:30:02.440 --> 00:30:07.359
all starts in the home, really
and truly if things aren't fixed at home,

428
00:30:07.400 --> 00:30:08.799
though, you know, you can
go to twenty sessions a week and

429
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:12.240
it still won't do much. So
we got to come up with a way

430
00:30:12.279 --> 00:30:15.160
for them to kind of fix what's
going on at home. And you know,

431
00:30:15.400 --> 00:30:18.839
the other generations are that it's the
generation that doesn't believe in therapy,

432
00:30:19.599 --> 00:30:26.559
doesn't believe anything is wrong with them, doesn't believe that any of the things

433
00:30:26.559 --> 00:30:33.160
that they did, you know,
cause any issues. And yeah, that's

434
00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:37.000
my biggest reason why I feel like
we should do something, you know,

435
00:30:37.680 --> 00:30:41.319
for the kids, like I love
the adults. Don't get me wrong,

436
00:30:41.319 --> 00:30:45.000
I'm an adult. I'm a kid
sometimes, but I'm for the kids at

437
00:30:45.039 --> 00:30:48.720
all times, you know, and
I will always be for the kids.

438
00:30:49.079 --> 00:30:52.119
So that was weighing on me,
and I think that's kind of why I

439
00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:56.480
haven't gotten back into doing what I've
been doing, because it was something else

440
00:30:56.519 --> 00:31:00.839
I should have been doing. Not
that I don't join my events. I

441
00:31:00.880 --> 00:31:03.519
love them. I have a great
time every time. I'm always nervous,

442
00:31:04.200 --> 00:31:10.279
always excited, always nervous, But
I think I was supposed to be moving

443
00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:14.599
in a different direction for right now, you know, get that off my

444
00:31:14.799 --> 00:31:18.839
chest and help them get things off
their chests, because who knows, you

445
00:31:18.880 --> 00:31:22.599
know, in ten years, they
might be the same adults that are trying

446
00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:26.000
to be a part of my event, but they probably won't even be able

447
00:31:26.039 --> 00:31:29.160
to push yourself because somebody at home
tell them they're not good enough or they're

448
00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:32.079
bad. So they're like, oh, well, bad people can't come and

449
00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:37.640
make no money because they're bad.
A lot of people. Even now as

450
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:40.920
adults, a lot of people were
afraid to step out of their comfort zones

451
00:31:41.480 --> 00:31:45.440
just because of what they think they
are. I let everybody know they're great.

452
00:31:45.880 --> 00:31:48.880
You know how to motivate anybody around
me. Whatever you want to do,

453
00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:52.480
I'm here to support it. I'm
here for it. I don't care

454
00:31:52.680 --> 00:31:57.599
if you want to go sell you
know, ice, your ice to Wahwah,

455
00:31:57.839 --> 00:32:04.440
even though Wawah got the best.
I'm gonna help. I believe in

456
00:32:04.480 --> 00:32:07.000
you just that much. You know, you might not know they might like

457
00:32:07.039 --> 00:32:12.599
your eyes so much that they replace
their ice with your ice. That's the

458
00:32:12.640 --> 00:32:15.079
type of energy I get to anyone
around me, which is why a lot

459
00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:19.400
of my vendors were first time vendors
and they stuck with me for so long

460
00:32:19.480 --> 00:32:22.599
because I believe in them. That's
all it takes for someone to believe.

461
00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:27.559
So putting something together like that will
show the kids, the girls, the

462
00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:32.200
little boys, somebody believes in them. So they're not they're not they're not

463
00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:37.079
finished, they're not done. They're
not a lost cause. Because once they

464
00:32:37.079 --> 00:32:39.319
feel like they're lost cause they don't
try, you know, they're not great,

465
00:32:40.200 --> 00:32:45.000
and that projects that that that rolls
over into everywhere. This is very

466
00:32:45.039 --> 00:32:50.480
positive or missy you have she said, you have a good heart even But

467
00:32:50.559 --> 00:32:52.759
another thing too, while we're doing
this, we got to make sure they

468
00:32:52.799 --> 00:32:58.000
return back to a safe place because
they're gonna leave you in power, They're

469
00:32:58.039 --> 00:33:01.240
gonna leave you motivated, They're gonna
leave you. They're gonna leave those group

470
00:33:01.319 --> 00:33:06.640
moments, that fellowship, that that
you know to look around and see other

471
00:33:06.680 --> 00:33:10.680
people are going through some things too. They're gonna leave really hype hyped up.

472
00:33:10.759 --> 00:33:14.960
They're gonna be ready to go and
conquer the world. Then they they

473
00:33:15.200 --> 00:33:21.400
and we got to make sure we
were teaching them how to. I don't

474
00:33:21.400 --> 00:33:23.400
want to say walk on eggshells when
they get home, because we don't know

475
00:33:23.400 --> 00:33:29.119
what they're going back to. We
don't know conversation, uh be physical,

476
00:33:29.240 --> 00:33:31.920
mental, emotional, verbal, we
don't know. But we need to along

477
00:33:31.960 --> 00:33:35.680
the way also teach them, Okay, when you go back, now,

478
00:33:36.440 --> 00:33:38.039
you know you want to do this, you just want to be the good

479
00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:44.559
person. Find your space. Maybe
get a routine. For fifteen minutes,

480
00:33:44.599 --> 00:33:47.880
you're gonna just do some stretching,
and then for another fifteen minutes you're gonna

481
00:33:49.039 --> 00:33:52.599
work on your homework or read a
book. But you just do it and

482
00:33:52.640 --> 00:33:55.559
go to a quiet place. Because
if you have chores to do, get

483
00:33:55.559 --> 00:33:59.799
the chores out of the way.
Don't anybody have to remind you you have

484
00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:02.079
to do churs, you know.
So we got to teach them some structure

485
00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:07.000
and routine, so not to push
this envelope at the house because we don't

486
00:34:07.079 --> 00:34:10.800
know what they're going back to,
right you know. I mean if we

487
00:34:10.880 --> 00:34:15.679
teach them martial arts, and you
know, that's a whole different thing,

488
00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:19.360
but that's different. But we got
to be careful, you know, we

489
00:34:19.400 --> 00:34:22.360
want to make sure we continue the
safety and they're able to come back and

490
00:34:22.400 --> 00:34:25.639
they're like, okay, yeah it
was kind of rough, but I did

491
00:34:25.679 --> 00:34:30.079
my reading. I did this.
So we'll have some nice little, you

492
00:34:30.119 --> 00:34:34.960
know, affirmational things to them to
get to know, speak these things into

493
00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:37.440
your life and stuff like that.
Some self talk. I think that would

494
00:34:37.480 --> 00:34:40.639
help as well. A little homework, a little kep homework too, like

495
00:34:42.320 --> 00:34:45.800
where you know, they they work
on something for the week and when we

496
00:34:45.880 --> 00:34:50.360
come back and meet, you know, like you reward them for actually doing

497
00:34:50.360 --> 00:34:53.000
it. It might be small,
you know, to them, but it's

498
00:34:53.039 --> 00:34:57.679
big to us. That means they
kind of retain the information that we did

499
00:34:57.719 --> 00:35:00.440
give they received it. So that's
my biggest thing, Like I have,

500
00:35:00.599 --> 00:35:02.599
I have this whole thing in my
head, you know, I put it

501
00:35:02.599 --> 00:35:07.599
in my notes, like I really
just want this to work because not everybody

502
00:35:07.599 --> 00:35:13.400
can afford therapy. Not everybody has
the parents who believe in therapy to where

503
00:35:13.400 --> 00:35:16.880
they'll even go and go through the
hoops to try to get them some therapy.

504
00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:21.480
So this is where we could start, you know. Yeah, and

505
00:35:21.559 --> 00:35:23.280
we won't label with therapy. And
then for my viewers out there, and

506
00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:28.400
we're not gonna label with therapy,
I'm gonna try not to use the word

507
00:35:28.440 --> 00:35:31.559
for me sessions and stuff like that. This is a gathering time. Yeah,

508
00:35:31.639 --> 00:35:35.920
this is a community gathering. This
is a village gathering. It would

509
00:35:35.960 --> 00:35:39.599
go a village gathering, you know, of communication. We chill for the

510
00:35:39.679 --> 00:35:44.320
kids, chill for the kids,
for the kids and their parents. If

511
00:35:44.360 --> 00:35:47.280
you are seeing some difference and you
want to, you know, maybe deal

512
00:35:47.360 --> 00:35:52.480
Because like I told my the folks, everybody's been buying the Why a My

513
00:35:52.639 --> 00:35:55.480
So Angry book? All adults by
this book, and I'm like, oh

514
00:35:55.519 --> 00:36:00.320
lord, we're walking around for forty
years angry. I got a problem with

515
00:36:00.360 --> 00:36:05.480
that. But it's real day bottom
they're like, yeah, I need this,

516
00:36:05.719 --> 00:36:09.079
and I'm like, oh wow.
So parents may say they'll see this

517
00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:14.159
positive change and be like, you
know, what are you going Saturday?

518
00:36:14.159 --> 00:36:16.159
What y'are You're gonna have something for
us, You're gonna have something for the

519
00:36:16.199 --> 00:36:20.119
adults, you know, So we
may have to be ready for that.

520
00:36:20.159 --> 00:36:22.360
Don't be surprised. I don't care
if it's a group of three, that

521
00:36:22.559 --> 00:36:27.519
three can make a difference. That
three can make a difference, and it's

522
00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:30.360
about making different We got to we
got we get, something's got to give.

523
00:36:30.400 --> 00:36:35.679
And I did talk. I'm several
pastors sometimes you need this instead of

524
00:36:35.719 --> 00:36:37.480
the other therapy. This sounds better. Thank you, Coutr. You see,

525
00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:42.519
I totally agree. I totally agree. I'm not going in with those

526
00:36:43.440 --> 00:36:46.440
to talk about my background nothing.
No, I'm just here to support miss

527
00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:51.159
Amanda. And I'm sitting in the
back, you know, and that's it,

528
00:36:51.199 --> 00:36:53.320
and we'll make sure we passed out
the snacks in the water and you

529
00:36:53.320 --> 00:36:57.360
know, keep it organized and stuff. That's I'm not going there as a

530
00:36:57.400 --> 00:37:00.559
social worker or I'm going there as
a community member, as a village member,

531
00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:05.880
because I want them to heal and
whatever that's gonna take. So you're

532
00:37:05.960 --> 00:37:09.280
right. The talk therapy, and
I think I shared with y'all last year

533
00:37:09.320 --> 00:37:13.559
when I was in school. You
know, we've got expressive arts therapy.

534
00:37:13.800 --> 00:37:19.039
That's the drumming, that's the art, that's the drawing, the painting,

535
00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:22.480
the water coloring coloring book. I
just had a client and I told him,

536
00:37:22.519 --> 00:37:25.639
for him and his sons, go
to the Dollar Tree or dollar store

537
00:37:25.960 --> 00:37:30.599
and get the coloring books that have
scripture in them, the biblical coloring books.

538
00:37:30.920 --> 00:37:36.599
And that's your Bible study. That
way, you have your Bible study

539
00:37:36.639 --> 00:37:38.599
with your boys, and you sit
there and y'all color, and you talk

540
00:37:38.599 --> 00:37:43.159
about your picture and you talk about
the colors and stuff and how you know

541
00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:46.320
and how and the Lord lead that
session and that moment that time that you

542
00:37:46.360 --> 00:37:50.599
all see how it says session.
It's a roote, it's a habit.

543
00:37:50.679 --> 00:37:53.679
I'll break it. I'll break it
soon, I promise you. But you

544
00:37:53.719 --> 00:37:58.599
know this is this is you never
know what's needed. But this it worked

545
00:37:58.639 --> 00:38:02.280
before for her. So that we
go there's nothing to fix. It's not

546
00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:07.440
broken. Let's go back, Let's
recreate it, that's all. Let's just

547
00:38:07.480 --> 00:38:13.239
find a good spot to do it. I definitely agree I because I put

548
00:38:13.239 --> 00:38:16.320
my daughter in dance because I just
don't want them to have to sit home

549
00:38:16.360 --> 00:38:20.880
all the time and just do nothing. That's kind of boring, of course,

550
00:38:20.960 --> 00:38:22.960
but it kind of drives you nuts. Me as a mom that I

551
00:38:23.079 --> 00:38:29.360
work from home, I would say
being isolated in the house is kind of

552
00:38:29.400 --> 00:38:31.679
crazy because it's just like I'd be
like, do I like, what am

553
00:38:31.719 --> 00:38:34.920
I doing? You know? Really? So I try to get out and

554
00:38:34.920 --> 00:38:37.599
do a little bit more now.
But I know this will be something for

555
00:38:37.639 --> 00:38:39.880
them to look forward to doing because
probably, you know, a lot of

556
00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:44.880
people can't really you know, afford
to go out and do something. So

557
00:38:44.960 --> 00:38:49.880
this is going to be one hundred
percent free the parents. The scheduling doesn't

558
00:38:49.920 --> 00:38:52.519
work, you know, for certain
things that they want to do. So

559
00:38:52.800 --> 00:38:54.719
again, this will be on a
you know, a good day, a

560
00:38:54.760 --> 00:38:58.880
weekend day. You want to drop
them off and then come pick them back

561
00:38:58.960 --> 00:39:00.800
up, or you want to go
shopping real quick or something while they're with

562
00:39:00.880 --> 00:39:06.199
us. That's fine, but I
feel like it'll work just just to know,

563
00:39:06.400 --> 00:39:08.559
Okay, I'm gonna go to you
know, whatever name I'm gonna come

564
00:39:08.639 --> 00:39:13.079
up with, I'm gonna go to
such and such, you know, on

565
00:39:13.119 --> 00:39:15.719
this day, I'm excited. I'm
wanna make them excited. I know what,

566
00:39:15.800 --> 00:39:17.559
you know, the kids like,
I know they like, you know,

567
00:39:17.760 --> 00:39:22.119
certain songs, making their little cute
little videos to them and stuff.

568
00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:27.039
I know they love the snacks,
but we gotta, like, you know,

569
00:39:27.079 --> 00:39:30.039
we we're gonna push that in there
so they could be comfortable, you

570
00:39:30.079 --> 00:39:32.159
know, do the icebreakers and stuff
so we can get into the real stuff

571
00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:37.800
and try to figure some things out. I'm really good at talking to people,

572
00:39:37.840 --> 00:39:42.920
so I know it could work with
kids. I make people very comfortable,

573
00:39:43.440 --> 00:39:47.039
and I feel like I'm relatable.
Uh that's I think that's my biggest

574
00:39:47.039 --> 00:39:51.440
thing. That I can relate to
a lot of different things because I went

575
00:39:51.519 --> 00:39:53.760
through a lot of different things.
So I make it, you know,

576
00:39:53.960 --> 00:39:58.800
very relatable, and I think that's
what makes everybody all comfort with me and

577
00:39:58.840 --> 00:40:04.119
stuff. I don't try to be
anything other than who I am. Like

578
00:40:04.719 --> 00:40:08.760
I used to keep up with this
image because people, certain people in you

579
00:40:08.800 --> 00:40:14.159
know, you know, little communities
that probably really didn't didn't even matter they

580
00:40:14.199 --> 00:40:17.920
were. They were like they would
frown upon people that were themselves. Oh

581
00:40:17.960 --> 00:40:22.079
I was to this, or I
was too bad, or I shouldn't say

582
00:40:22.079 --> 00:40:25.599
this, or I shouldn't post about
that or listen. I am an open

583
00:40:25.639 --> 00:40:32.199
book simply because the more you fake
the funk, the harder it is when

584
00:40:32.239 --> 00:40:37.559
you're exposed. So you could be
sitting here acting like you're just so angelic,

585
00:40:37.639 --> 00:40:40.480
and then there's people that know things
about you and they just put it

586
00:40:40.519 --> 00:40:45.159
out there, and then now you're
looking crazy because the truth was exposed.

587
00:40:45.239 --> 00:40:49.039
Right now, I live in my
truth so that when if someone ever tries

588
00:40:49.079 --> 00:40:53.960
to truth, like okay, they
know that everybody knows that. Like even

589
00:40:54.000 --> 00:40:58.400
with my journey right now, my
weight loss journey, I share everything about

590
00:40:58.400 --> 00:41:00.760
it because guess what, people have
been come into me and asking me about

591
00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:04.679
the doctor, and I don't help. So many people get a free surgery

592
00:41:05.400 --> 00:41:08.119
just by being open. Oh yeah, my surgery was free with my assurance.

593
00:41:09.039 --> 00:41:12.639
I was just open with my process. And that's just how I am

594
00:41:12.719 --> 00:41:15.760
as a person. I'm open because
nobody can ever use anything against me because

595
00:41:15.800 --> 00:41:20.039
I just am in. That's the
best way. That's what I mean to

596
00:41:20.079 --> 00:41:22.519
cut you off, but that's the
best way. Vulnerability, And I know

597
00:41:22.559 --> 00:41:28.679
people don't like that, but it's
when you're you are comfortable in your own

598
00:41:28.840 --> 00:41:32.280
skin. The Bible says to judge
yourself, so you won't be judged.

599
00:41:32.719 --> 00:41:37.000
I paraphrase by saying, check yourself, so you won't be checked these people

600
00:41:37.000 --> 00:41:43.480
that's coming off these streets and coming
in from the hardships, and and oh

601
00:41:43.559 --> 00:41:46.320
I don't think I can make it
another step further. They can see right

602
00:41:46.400 --> 00:41:51.880
through you. So try to be
angelical. Those days are nowhere near.

603
00:41:52.440 --> 00:41:54.840
You will not be able to be
effective, You will not be able to

604
00:41:57.039 --> 00:42:00.679
make a difference. They won't believe
you, and they will call you out

605
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:04.039
on your stuff and bring you out
of yourself too. I mean, you

606
00:42:04.039 --> 00:42:05.960
know, it's like people say,
well, you think you this, you

607
00:42:06.119 --> 00:42:08.320
think you that. No, I
don't think that. You think that you

608
00:42:08.360 --> 00:42:12.000
know, and then all of a
sudden you got this massive blow up and

609
00:42:12.039 --> 00:42:14.840
things like that. No, we
don't have time for this. We don't

610
00:42:14.880 --> 00:42:17.480
have time for the fire. Fire
is happening now. We still we got

611
00:42:17.519 --> 00:42:22.039
Texas on fire, we got Canada
on fire, we got places on fire.

612
00:42:22.960 --> 00:42:25.639
So we don't need that extra energy. We don't need that extra environment

613
00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:29.960
we need. You need to be
real with yourself. You need to be

614
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you need and being real. You
got to be honest with yourself. You've

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got to be honest. A sister
and a sister called me yesterday. She

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said, I just wanted to hear
you boys, she said, but she

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said, Pastor Gray, I just
want to say thank you because I know

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you said you didn't want to deal
with me anymore. I know you.

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And she said I had to take
it. And then she said, maybe

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go back and say, God,
what's wrong with me? What is it?

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Tell me what it is? I
know you began to tell me.

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She said, you began to tell
and I told about a formula that I

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used to tell my students, I
tell my clients. And she said,

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well, you told me before,
and I have to go back because apparently

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I didn't get it all right.
I didn't have to say anything. I

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didn't have to say anything, you
know. So that's what we want to

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create, that safe space and guys, you know my audience out here,

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will I'll let you know as we're
going for further with that and keep us

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in prayer on that and just need
y'all a circle of folks to praying for

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us. Whatever it's going to be
called. Let you know what it's going

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to be called. And you could
be adding that to your prayer point list

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for us if you wouldn't mind,
because I know you pray for the show,

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and we appreciate that you pray for
everybody here. We got only a

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couple of more minutes here because we're
off at seven point fifty. But a

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Manda, do you have anything on
your heart that you would like to share?

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We've got folks from Texas and Louisiana
and all over the place, and

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you know, what would you say? And I know we've got some of

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your followers list listening in as well, but what what do you think we

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need to hear right now? I
put it on the spot, y'all.

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It wasn't rehearsed. Oh gosh,
your time, take your time. We

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got it, well, not take
it time, but ye's six minutes.

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I say what I really want to
say. I mean, what's on my

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heart now? It is just like
you said, y'all gotta pray for us

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with this because this is this is
not easy like it's it's not the types

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of energies that you have to deal
with when trying to help other people.

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Heal is a lot, and I
always I have a quote that I go

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by healers need healing too. So
once we're here, you know, praying

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for everybody trying to, you know, heal the world. At the end

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of the day, we're drained.
This might or might not be draining.

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I've been praying about it for a
while. I've been thinking about it almost

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every day because it's it's really like
it hits home for me because I really

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I really needed this. So I'm
still healing myself. So in this process

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of trying to heal, I'm not
sorry not trying in this process of healing

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others. I would love to continue
to heal myself because I know I still

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have, you know, a lot
of flaws and I'm never going to be

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perfect, and I don't want to
be perfect because perfect people are so boring.

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It makes no dispense or I'm not
a boring person, But really,

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I really want this to be successful. I love the idea, and I

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love you for calling me you know
and even feeling you know, comfortable enough.

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It says a lot about how you
feel about me. You know that

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you caught me and you spoke on
a situation and you felt that I was

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worthy enough to put something like this
together when we talked about it. I

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will forever appreciate you for that,
Like since I met you. You have

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been nothing but a blessing to me, to my family in ways that you

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will never ever ever know. And
we're just going to continue to you know,

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with each other and put these things. I know, by the end

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of the year, we're gonna have
those adults and they just better not have

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us putting them in time out because
they want to want to they want to

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act like the kids because they want
to act. We all need some help,

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we all need some healing. So
I do want to continue with this

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healing circle for the kids, for
the adults, for whoever needs it,

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for real, because we need it. I got a little surprised for you.

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I had not been looking at writing
grants, you know, for my

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organization, right, you know,
I help other people or whatever, and

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I'm a grant reviewer. Well a
colleague of mine has been pushing good friend

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too, pushing a grant notice on
me, and I was like, okay,

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and so I just opened it up
and look at it. Today is

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the deadline, right, And I'm
like, okay, all right, Well,

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let me see what I can do. And it's for kids, it's

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for children and youth, and I'll
tell you they're out. It's huge.

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For the year, for this year. So you know, everything is into

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everything. There's a season. God
is not making no mistake. It's not

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no happenstance. I had nothing.
He told me to call you with that

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situation to get your input on it. Nothing that. There's nothing that God

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will not do. There's nothing He
don't have all the resources gathered, all

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everything else. You become the program
specialist. Don't you start. Don't you

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00:47:35.559 --> 00:47:39.079
sorry? Don't you sorry? You're
supposed to do that. You know me?

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00:47:39.239 --> 00:47:45.880
You know I'm telling you it's God. So I got approved for the

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first round. Now I proved to
go ahead and submit a grant a request

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Dixon Dixon. Hey, all right, amen, welcome, welcome. So

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you see how God works because I
wasn't we would pull it together. I

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get resourced, you know, I'll
get donations, we pull it together.

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That's not gonna be. But look
at God and all it's solely for children

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and youth. And that's crazy because
but that's what we were looking to,

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you know, to touch. So
ma'am, I can't you know me,

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You know me, I'm trying so
hard to get our words together. You

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know, I'm grateful always, and
I have to try to speak and not

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00:48:30.719 --> 00:48:34.079
cry. I gotta work on that. That's something you gotta pray about because

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00:48:34.119 --> 00:48:36.239
I got to stop being a crybaby. But you know, when you're so

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passionate about stuff, it always hits
you differently when you're really passionate about it.

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And that's how you're able to tell
who's passionate about what by how it

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affects them emotionally, and they got
emotional Amen. Amen, Well that's gonna

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be our time. I'm gonna ask
everybody that has did take a look at

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this, please repost this this particular
show tonight because it's very important. We

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don't know who we're gonna touch and
who we're gonna make a difference in their

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lives. This is what we're about, definitely. You know. We'll be

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back next week, same time,
same station. Good Night everybody, y'all,

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take care of there we go.
Good night, it's amand to see

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the community plug and more. Amen, be blessed y'all. Night night,

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Thank you guys,