Freedom February

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Radio. Hello, Hello, well, good evening, good evening, and

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welcome to another exciting yet surprising show. We're pivoting, We're changing, We're

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change. Is welcome and embrace good
evening to our to the mighty audience,

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to my fabulous co host and soon
to be new co hosts. We're gonna

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announce some things. Trade tray.
How is it up there, man,

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I'm doing well. How are you? All is well? All is well?

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All is well. So we are
thankful, but let's pray first and

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then we're gonna get this show started. Father God, we just thank you,

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we praise you, we give you
glory, for you alone are worthy

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to be praised. We thank you
for newness. We thank you for allowing

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us to pivot. We thank you
for being the model, the role model

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for change and how change is important
to us all for our livelihood and our

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mindset. Now this is your show. We're your daughters. We're gonna get

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behind the cross. You reach those
that you need to reach. You teach

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those that you need to teach.
You minister to those who you need to

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minister to. You prophesy to those
who you need to prophesie to. Lord,

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We just thank you and we give
you forever all the praise, glory

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and honor in Jesus name. We
pray Amen. Amen. Well, you

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all probably can see that I am
not alone, and as I promised last

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show that there's changes coming up,
and change is here. We're changing out

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our co hosts because we meet.
God wants new voices and he wants us

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to actually represent the audience that we
represent that we're reaching out to, and

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we have a varied audience. So
I would like to welcome, without further

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ado, my daughter, Miss Nighting. Welcome her, please, Yay.

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She's been on before as a guest
and everything, but she has now decided

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that she's accepted to step up to
the plate and be alongside us. Us

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spoke up here, and I believe
what God wants us to do is to

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we need to hear from everybody.
We need to be able to tap into

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all the audiences out there and so
that nobody could be nervous or scared or

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anything. But also we need to
know what's on your mind. Now he

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gives us the titles and the events
that we need to talk about, and

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today tonight we're talking about free February
is freedom Month, and a lot of

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things have happened in the month of
February and are happening in the month of

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February. But he also said,
now it's time for you to reach out.

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We do have one more co hosts
that will be joining us in about

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two weeks. He is currently out
of the country, but once he comes

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back, he's gonna step up and
step in and he'll be joining us at

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least twice a month, and so
we can get a whole perspective and also

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draw into or speak to not draw
in, but actually speak to the audiences

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and the other folks that are out
there that are sitting back and just kind

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of say, well, this is
maybe not for me, they're not speaking

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my language. Well we're going to
be speaking your language. Amen and amen.

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So what I want to do the
Lord wanted me to. And I

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know, I think I've discussed this
before, but we want to talk about

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this. There's seven generations of people. Okay, seven generations of people.

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I'm sorry about this. The Greatest
Generation was born in ninth from nineteen oh

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one to nineteen twenty four. The
Silent Generation was born from nineteen twenty five

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to nineteen forty five. The Baby
Boomers were born from between nineteen forty six

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and nineteen sixty four. Generation X
was born from nineteen sixty five to nineteen

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eighty. The Millennials were born fromnineteen
eighty one to nineteen ninety six, and

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the Gen Z's were born from nineteen
ninety seven to twenty twelve. They're in

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the age range from eleven age eleven
to twenty six. So we need to

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rebringing them out and engaging them and
hearing their voice because they have a different

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take on things. And I thought
it was really nice that the Lord,

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you know, laid it up on
my heart, said, you know,

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go ahead and invite you know,
Bellisia in on the conversation and being a

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part of this roundtable because she and
I have conversations about these topics on our

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own, and it's an interesting her
view on things and their view on things.

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They don't see things like we do. Even though I did my best

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to, you know, raise mind
alongside the parallel to how I was raised.

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But they're different. They have different
thoughts and different needs. So I'm

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just happy and honored that she decided
to accept the invitation and all that good

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stuff. And this is not planned, it's not scripted. She's gonna speak

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her mind, trust me when I
say that, Okay, and we'll probably

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have a more audience joining us as
well. So, but we want to

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talk about freedom, and as we
know, this is Black History Month,

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this is that are also celebrated in
this month's Rosa Parks Day. Of course,

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you know Groundhall Day. We're twenty
nine days in this month, so

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that feels it always feels eerie to
me. I don't know why. It

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just feels eerie. So I'm not
sure what to expect or anything, or

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you know, but usually I just
kind of sit back and kind of look,

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I don't play nothing on the twenty
ninth, and that's gonna be on

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Thursday, this month, this year, but this is a time for to

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celebrate your freedom. And when I
was thinking about it, when the Lord

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gave us the topic, I was
thinking about being free from you, from

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your anks, being free from things
that bound you last year, last month,

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last week, being free and if
you could be free, what would

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that freedom feel like? What would
it look in order for you not to

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be held to anything that's that's not
gonna enhance your growth, that's not gonna

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motivate you to think differently. I
know everybody loves to say think outside the

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box. Walking for the box for
thirty years, there is no box.

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Okay, Now I did find out
accidentally. Maybe it's nothing is accidental with

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God that the box is our education, the boxes that which we know.

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And it could be traditions, it
could be culture. But people don't want,

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like you, thinking outside of that. I know there are cultures that

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that you. They don't care what
the American way is. They're gonna do

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things their way, They're gonna raise
their kids their way, and so sometimes

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that could stunt creativity. That can
stunt uh, you know, newness and

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something new and think about things in
a new and different way. So I'm

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not gonna talk through this whole thing. I want everybody to kind of jump

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in and when they can. But
Trey, what are you thinking about?

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You know what? What have you
had a chance to think about since we

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had our meeting and we came up
with this title tonight? What anything else

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went through your mind as far as
freedom and free February? But freedom from

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what? And how? I think
if you're you're looking at the different freedoms,

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I think stressors, things that can
that are stressors, grief, laws,

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separations, you know the triggers from
that. You know change So and

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change is not easy, you know, you look at it. You know

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we're constantly shifting and changing and you
know, life lights and so sometimes you

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use your word pivot from your norm
to be able to adjust to whatever's going

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on. And so I was listening
to something from t DJ and I'm not

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I needed a little word. It's
more them. So as I was getting

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dressed, but he was talking about
he said change, he said, with

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things have to change. So a
grape that turns into wine, you always

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think that once it's turner, you're
going to get that that that great back

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in the same form and it's not
going to happen, but he said,

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but the change allows for things to
happen, he said, as a great

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he said, you could draw,
draw, you know, fruit flies and

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stuff, whereas the wine does not. So that's a positive thing that happens

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as a as a part of something
that's transformed from the original form. And

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so with it. And I don't
do a justice, So I don't want

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to do it injustice. But what
I got out of it is sometimes you

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have to go through change and and
and release things from the origin or things

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that the way it was in order
to get better than than what you have.

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And so and that's it kind of
set in my mind today as you

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know, I was working and just
thinking about, you know, things that

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I would want to change. And
so it made me think of things that

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stunted my growth, whether it would
be you know, environments, people,

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relationships, your thoughts, and just
trying to do something a little bit differently.

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And so and I'm on this journey, just journey now, trying to

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get closer a little Lord, reading
more scripture, trying to understand, trying

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to grasp things, tuning more into
faith based, uh motivational things to kind

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of get me going and I and
I and I was looking at it because

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I've done stuff my way before,
you know, and I wasn't at this

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place. And I said, well, if if I want change, I

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have to do something that I wasn't
doing previously, in the in the in

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the capacity. Let's put it that
way. It's not that I didn't believe

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in God. I do, and
I do it and I always will.

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But it's just putting more trust in
Him and recognizing that he has me and

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he's gonna guide me. And I
just have to listen more and talk less.

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And so sometimes I don't engulf myself
and television a lot, very few

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times that I watched television. And
then sometimes I do want to make sure

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I'm up with the news. But
even like riding in my car and listening

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to the radio, I don't do
that as much. And I allow that

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time when I'm transitioning from one place
to another and kind of see what God

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is speaking to me. You know, I make my original cause I do

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call certain people in the morning.
The problemists people don't know, hey,

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welcome exactly, and it's difficult,
you know, it is difficult, and

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so and I will say too,
you know, brief and loss. I

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just lost my aunt. She was
older, she was my mom's eldest sister,

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the last one, and we were
family was together and we were talking

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about, you know, what things
are gonna look like now. So my

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cousins now they don't have either parent
either, and so what will holidays look

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like? What will you know,
what kind of traditions do do we start

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on our own? You know,
it's it wasn't a big family on my

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grandmother's side anyway, and now it's
even smaller than it was, and so

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what does that look like? And
so when I think, just even thinking

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about that, it couldn't be you
know, it's not gonna be so bad.

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We just have to embrace it and
identify what you know, right of

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passages and celebrations and how we're gonna
do things, and you know, also

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remain close, you know, because
they're no longer careacivers anymore either. So

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it's it's changed for everything, but
just embrace the change. And I think

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that's what I'm going to work on
more, is embracing the change and trying

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to when I feel that little anxiety
and I'll say uh uh uh huh,

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and I'll resort to something to kind
of bring me back grounded. So that's

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that's my thing. Amen to that, and that's a thank you, misty.

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Also, you know, because change, I don't know why I feel

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that people fear change because they they
it could be a power thing. There's

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some people who have to have control, whether it's over their life or somebody

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else's life. They have to have
control. That's that's one thing they fear

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not being able to. Uh.
Well, when you've had something the norm,

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when it's a traditional thing, this
is what we do, this is

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how we do it. My biological
mother said one time, well, I'm

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a Baptist and I'm a diea Baptist. And I'm like, what does that

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mean? Okay, I guess I
have to wait till you dow to see

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how we die as a Baptist.
What does that mean? You know,

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just to sometimes we say things and
I understand. And it was a need

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for her to embrace culture. I
mean, you know, but everybody began

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to change, things changed, and
she could not handle that and that was

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a hard thing. And now she
gave up rights and didn't realize that.

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Think she was making decisions and things
like that. And there are other people

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who do things too, or what
have done things? Especially my extended family.

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I have three families whose lives livelihoods
I hold on and I represent.

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But I look at the different folks
and the different generations and what governed them

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or what motivated their decisions. And
a lot of times they were stuck.

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They were really stuck and they couldn't
move. No, we don't do that,

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we don't do that like that.
Another problem with change is people listening

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to what other's opinions are said their
own, following their own feelings, and

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learning about what changes can mean for
them exactly. Mister, you're hitting it

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right on the head. Were so
prone to, you know, depending on

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how you were raised. You know, you got to take it consideration,

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what others are thinking. And no, you don't do that. You can't

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go in there and play with that
person. You can't go do that,

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or you don't do that. You're
talking too loud, you know, and

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all of a sudden, this judgment
thing comes. So then you don't want

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to say anything, you don't want
to move, and you know, I

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back, you know, and I
just thank God for the folks that God

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sent in my life to make me
into this person that I am today.

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But if I just stayed, you
know, possibly in one family side,

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I wouldn't you wouldn't even see me. I wouldn't know, I wouldn't be

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on the podcast, it wouldn't be
in me. But because of the environment

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and things and the opportunity to see
how the other side lived. Being in

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private school, I went to,
you know, have play dates with my

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classmates, and they were predominantly white, and so that side lives differently than

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what you know, what we live. And I'm like, wow, okay,

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and you know, I don't see
why people feared you know, you

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know, being involved or having friendships
like that. Go ahead try and then,

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Lee, I want you to jump
in there. Yeah, I just

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just wanted to kind of piggyback just
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me, it's just just thinking about
it. When I was caregiving for my

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dad and there was a routine and
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allocated, so I had do this, I had to do that, and

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it just got uncomfortable when I didn't
have that. And so how do you

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feel the void? You know,
how do you feel all this gap that

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you had before that was feeling it? And so and being transparent, more

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thinking time alone thinking time which sometimes
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I was glad that I had people

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that I can talk to and reach
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the change for me. How to
feel the void that was you know,

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you had all this time and nothing
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what do you? What do you? What are your thoughts as far

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as uh, you know, change
and embracing change or you know, how

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do you all? How do you
do that? Because you juggle a lot

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of things right now. You're not
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group, so you know what,
well, how do you embrace that?

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Or do you embrace change? For
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I believe it's hard for us to
adopt the changes because I know I

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have that problem. So when my
friends have that problem, I know talking

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to my best friends, we had
a discussion about basically just being open this

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year, open for anything, stepping
out of our comfort zone, doing stuff

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that we usually do not do.
Because I'll be honest, I'm a college

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student. I stop studying after a
while and I'm like, I gotta get

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back to it. But what is
that now for me? How am I

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going to study? Because I'm so
used to doing the things that I do,

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so it's like breaking into that and
everything like that. I don't know,

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it's just hard. It's a journey
though, because I'm being more open

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to it now, open to not
having my usual schedule being the way it

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is, and learning how to balance
as well. I feel like that's key.

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Like you have to do something to
regulate your mind so that it doesn't

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go all over the place. Because
I'm a strictler person. I like things

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organized, and of course when something
knocks me off of my organization, I

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do not like that. It says
it on the spiral. So it's like

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it's very key to have a balanced
lifestyle, balance schedule with anything that you

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need. Well, that's important and
you've got to make these decisions for yourself.

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Something that Misty said, you know
about you know, being so concerned

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about what others think. You've got
to step back now and if you haven't

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been able to do it, if
you haven't done it, you need to

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be able to look at what is
what is it that I need now even

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in relationships and marriages and stuff.
Every ten years, the marriage shouldn't look

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the same. It shouldn't. It's
not the same. You've grown, you've

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changed, you know, And especially
if you have children that are aging and

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that they're getting ready to graduate from
high school and now they're going to college.

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They're not in the house anymore.
They're not little people anymore, you

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know. So, I mean,
you've got changes there. It's inevitable.

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But the more you try to,
I guess, ignore it or not paying

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any attention to, like, well, am I going to do that right

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now? Oh? Okay, Well
it's gonna come back around, you know,

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and haunt you. And I think
that that goes back with any part

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of your life. I think,
I just I don't know. I just

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once you start to embrace change and
whatever that is for you, whatever that

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is for you. Because when I
went I was in college, I studied

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a certain way. I had my
highlighters, you know, and stuff like

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that. When when I went to
graduate school, it was a different animal.

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It was a different The semesters were
different, everything was different, the

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requirements were different. And then I
went, you know, years later,

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I'm back in getting another master's degree, and that was different from because twenty

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years, I mean thirty years,
you know, fifteen twenty years had passed

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and the Lord said go back to
school, and so I went back and

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I'm like, oh, this is
not what I got. I was struggling

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trying to figure out how to study, how to balance, and then once

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you get the balance down, then
you're like, okay, now I could

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do this and set yourself a schedule. I was just talking to somebody the

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other day. I said, even
schedule prayer time, schedule walking time.

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We're gonna I'm gonna walk at that
for you know this time, you know,

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twice a week. Put it on
the schedule, put it on your

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calendar. Whatever it is. Hey, cut you see they change my work.

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I was at work and I'm having
a problem ofjsting. Okay, I

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thought it was a hint of lack
of motivation, but there may be a

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bit of depression heating in there.
But listening to this show is lifting me.

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Oh God, bless you see see
how God, see how we have

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to depend on God because we don't
know what. Folks need each other even

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in each other. We're here to
just help as best as we can.

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Thank you, Country See and yes, I understand, you know. Okay,

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change. I guess I don't know
if the boss warned y'all the change

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was coming. It's always nice to
know the change is coming. You may

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not know what that entailed, but
okay, change is coming. So now

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you need to step back. If
I could suggest Country See and trade you

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know and leave, you know,
jump it, jump in here, you

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know, back for a minute and
say, Okay, I like this job.

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I'm staying here until what are my
motivations? One of my goals for

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this job, And I'm gonna stay
here now for as long as I need

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to for the next three years.
I'm only gonna do this three more years.

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So we got I have to change
in pivot too, so I could

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keep the heavyweights off of me.
Then I'll change and pivot. If I

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have to do this, then I
have to do that, you know.

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But I'm gonna still put my flavor
on it. I'm still gonna you know,

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be me. I'm not changing my
personality. However, I'm gonna pivot.

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If you say I got my hours
are different. Okay, see if

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this is gonna be and maybe your
boss may be open to you know,

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and somewhere down the road it doesn't
work that way. He or she is

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thinking, Okay, this is a
great plan, but maybe it's not working.

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Maybe other people are feeling that.
Not just pushing back as a difference,

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pushing back just because oh I'm not
doing that, that's different versus Okay,

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this is changing. I don't like
this because I was used to doing

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some things, you know, So
but step back, ask God, Okay,

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God, you have to calm me
down because I need to see you

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in this. I know this is
for me because my goal is to fitish

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strong. My goal is to stay
here for three to four years. My

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goal is this. So if I
have to change and pivot along the way,

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then I'll change and pivot. But
just make sure that if it starts

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to really be uncomfortable, then you
go straight to God and to God.

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I can't do this. I can't
do this. Surrender unto him. Give

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it to him and watch what he
would do. Watch what he would do.

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I'll say the saying, because you
know, I pray it to be

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open, like I think that's how
I deal with situations. Now. I'm

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just preparing for whatever. But I
ask that of God to like, you

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know, mentally strengthen me, strengthen
my heart, strengthened my mind to be

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able to prepare for things like that. And now I'm just open for whatever.

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I don't know what to expect,
but something will happen, something will

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change. I don't get too comfortable
with things because I know that it's going

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to change. And that's like,
you know, an issue that we get

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too comfortable thinking, Okay, this
is not gonna change, but you never

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know. So I think just bracing
yourself and letting God be your pillow,

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because I'll be talking to him whenever, however wherever, Like if I'm having

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an issue, it's like God,
you got to handle it. You gotta

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handle it. And I want to
teach you a spiritual warfare prayer of mind

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that God taught me directly, and
that was after you pray about a thing,

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the last thing, the last word, the last sentence you should recite

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is God. If you don't do
it, it won't get done. And

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the Lord later showed me two things. First, my flesh calms down.

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My brain said, well she gave
it to God. Nothing we can even

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intervene here. And then God also
quiets heaven. He said, you know,

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quiet, heaven. He said,
my daughter is calling me because God,

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if you don't do it, won't
get done. And that's one thing

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I love about relationship with God because
he knows his shoulders are bigger. He

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already knows what's getting ready to happen
every minute of the day. I that's

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why I lean it depends on him. But we'll be praying for your country.

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See, you know any way,
just to make sure you know,

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just just know that you've got you
know, we're with you and we understand

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what you're saying and that all change
is not comfortable. Go ahead, Trey,

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Yeah, I was just kind of
piggyback, and so it might be

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easier because I'm I'm sometimes I'm a
visual person and I need things to kind

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of remind me. So country,
see, maybe write down two columns,

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the pros and the cons of the
hours. You know, some of the

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things are not so comfortable. But
also being mindful and being open minded of

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what the pros could be could be
setting you up for a promotion, you

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know, if you're able to work
this particular could be setting you up to

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be in a leadership role. You
know, as a manager. I don't

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know what you do, but try
to find something that thank you, m

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M, thank you country, see
thank just just kind of just kind of

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colment and just as a reminders and
just letting. And then also too,

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if this is not your thing,
just set it go. I will be

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like like Lisha said, I will
tolerate this for this amount of time,

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but also grab whatever you can get
on that different shift that you're that you're

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getting that you're on now and so
and it's just stay prayerful and and you

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know, God, God got you. I'm telling you, I'm gonna testimony

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to some change. It's a lot
of change. Life has been lifeing.

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But I also wanted to ask miss
Lighting for about your peers. Are they

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receptive to listening to older generations or
getting feedback for people who maybe have been

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there, done that. Our recept
it because I know trying to navigate life

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at our I know my age,
it is difficult. But for looking at

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the younger generation with so much more
to navigate. Half of the stuff of

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y'all dealing with I didn't have to
deal with that growing up. It's a

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different world. Things are changing.
We didn't do drills to for for if

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an active shooter. We didn't have
to do that though, And that's an

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I didn't come up in that type
of generation where I had to worry about

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that. But y'all also coming up
in a technology age where pretty much two

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years old, y'all got a compute
in your hand, you know how to

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navigate it by three. So how
receptive and who do you all look up

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to to get advice from? What
are your role models? Who where you

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get information from? What motivates you? That's a good question. I could

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say that's difficult because a lot of
us do not have any role models being

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around this age. I have several
individuals in my life, friends, not

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friends, who's dealt with you know, parents that aren't parents. So it's

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like, you know, who can
we look up to? I know,

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like in the past, like my
mom was working a lot and every thing

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like that, I still had her
to lean on it. But I also

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look to my teachers, like my
mom is my overall role model. That's

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who I look up to. That's
who I listen to whenever they go careful

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listening to nobody else. But you
know, people that truly care for y'all

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know some teachers who actually care.
Like in high school, I had like

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two teachers that baby me and like, I just love them so much.

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I grew so much love for them, and it's you know, it's a

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limited amount that you meet as far
as adults that really care about your plans,

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what you want to do in like
that actually will sit there and have

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a conversation with you about life and
things to help you. But there's not

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a lot of my peers don't have
that, especially coming from their parents.

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And they know that since my parents
at this way, every adult is this

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way at times, so they're like, I can't speak to nobody, and

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a lot of people around my age
is very shut off about it. They're

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not able to express to people because
they haven't had anybody to open up their

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arms and actually listen to them,
especially coming from family, because family that's

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the grouper all even for real them, that's who you know that they get

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all that energy from. And they
feel as if, Okay, I can't

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go to nobody. Okay, nobody's
ever going to listen to me, nobody

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cares for me because nobody has stepped
up to the plate for that. So

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I don't really feel like I mean, social media has a lot of play

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into this as well as how the
adults act and everything like that. The

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older generation is because you know,
they always category categorize us and everything like

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that. So that's just like a
kind of downfallige because it's just like,

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Okay, y'all just think we're all
the same, we all at this way

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and stuff because you see other people
act in this way, and I feel

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like that plays a role in how
we act towards the older generation as far

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as listening to them. Honestly,
I could pinpoint who has wisdom, who

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is very a very wise person,
and that's a person I'm able to talk

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to and like have a real conversation
with besides my mom if I'm not within

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her presence. So yeah, honestly, it's just it's very hard, like

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as I can see, because I
wasn't raised that way. I've had the

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support I go to my mom about
anything, and a lot of my friends

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can't do that with their parents.
Like some of them have reached out to

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my mom, talked to my mom
about their issues and everything like that,

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and I just feel like it's just
it's sad because it's like who can they

410
00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:32.640
run to, you know, but
God, And I mean they barely do

411
00:29:32.720 --> 00:29:34.319
that because they feel as if you
know, he's not gonna listen, he's

412
00:29:34.359 --> 00:29:38.400
not actually here, you know,
we can't physically see him, you know,

413
00:29:38.519 --> 00:29:45.599
stuff like that. And it's a
lot well, I mean, I

414
00:29:45.640 --> 00:29:53.400
think, wow, So I'm hearing
a couple things. It's night and and

415
00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:57.759
I hear that you're support. One
of the things that just me from the

416
00:29:57.839 --> 00:30:08.640
outside looking in that do they trust
their peers? Like I know you said

417
00:30:08.640 --> 00:30:14.039
they will come to you, But
maybe there's an opportunity for y'all to create

418
00:30:14.119 --> 00:30:18.359
like a peer support something not necessarily
that you all have to come into a

419
00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:21.440
group. This is this is just
something that just came to me, Not

420
00:30:21.559 --> 00:30:23.319
that you all have to come to
something in a group. But if say

421
00:30:23.759 --> 00:30:29.119
majority of your peers trust your judgment, trust the insight that you have,

422
00:30:29.920 --> 00:30:33.440
maybe it could be like a I
don't know what, kind of like a

423
00:30:33.559 --> 00:30:38.480
drop box, a lock box.
They can put their concerns, something that

424
00:30:38.519 --> 00:30:45.559
they want to dress and then pull
it out and then maybe you can get

425
00:30:45.599 --> 00:30:49.039
back with whoever or address it in
a if you know the person that if

426
00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:53.759
they want to be known, if
not, maybe create an environment where you're

427
00:30:53.839 --> 00:31:00.759
just generally answering a question where nobody
particularly knows who it is or it's nobody

428
00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:03.799
identified, and maybe creating a group, hey, this is a question that

429
00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:08.000
came and then maybe discuss it with
either your mom or a mother folks,

430
00:31:08.319 --> 00:31:11.880
and then getting some insight, but
just also to creating a safe space where

431
00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:18.559
they feel like that nobody's going to
judge them, and then getting the questions

432
00:31:18.640 --> 00:31:23.680
answered without anyone knowing what the who
the person is, you know, or

433
00:31:23.759 --> 00:31:29.079
just trying to give some general insight
and or some resources that they can link

434
00:31:29.160 --> 00:31:33.759
up to. And you know,
I think you are blessed because you know

435
00:31:34.119 --> 00:31:37.599
your mom is she I'm telling you, I look up to her too.

436
00:31:37.680 --> 00:31:42.720
She's the first time I met her, it was just something about her spirit

437
00:31:42.880 --> 00:31:47.759
and the message that she delivered to
the group that we were having, and

438
00:31:47.839 --> 00:31:52.640
I just never forgot it. And
so I know you have that because it's

439
00:31:52.839 --> 00:31:56.200
ingrained in you. You know,
it's ingrained. I've seen the maturity right

440
00:31:56.240 --> 00:32:00.799
now, and so this might be
an opportunity to create something that's not there

441
00:32:00.839 --> 00:32:06.359
for the peers. Yeah, no, and that's a very good thought.

442
00:32:07.000 --> 00:32:10.759
Unfortunately, though, from what because
she's been a part she's been asked to

443
00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:15.000
be part of a prayer group,
a Bible group, of things like that.

444
00:32:15.559 --> 00:32:19.720
But then they start they fade away, you know, because they got

445
00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:22.880
to do life. Their parents,
some of these families are expecting these people,

446
00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:27.480
whether they're in school or not,
whether they went on the college,

447
00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:30.680
go work two jobs, three jobs, you've got to help me. And

448
00:32:30.720 --> 00:32:32.880
now that you know, now they've
becoming the head of the household financially,

449
00:32:34.240 --> 00:32:37.079
so they have no life. So
then they're vaping there there there. They

450
00:32:37.119 --> 00:32:42.079
turn to other things to keep them
calm and keep their anxiety down. But

451
00:32:42.119 --> 00:32:45.480
it's not God, it's it's you
know, whatever else, whether it's drinking

452
00:32:45.599 --> 00:32:50.519
or anything else. Other vices out
there which they don't realize is wreaking havoc

453
00:32:50.599 --> 00:32:54.000
on their health and everything else they
try. They start out the gate good,

454
00:32:54.559 --> 00:32:58.880
they have great intentions, but all
of a sudden, Mom and dad

455
00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:00.839
or mom said, well you you
got to help me. I don't know

456
00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:02.480
what you're doing. What you do, you know, and they got to

457
00:33:02.519 --> 00:33:07.200
go work do in three jobs,
you know, and they're not happy because

458
00:33:07.240 --> 00:33:10.119
everything got to go in to pay
the bills and stuff, so they don't.

459
00:33:10.200 --> 00:33:15.000
They don't and they have yet to
be able to learn how to balance,

460
00:33:15.920 --> 00:33:21.200
how to embrace change because they're being
told what to do, so they

461
00:33:21.480 --> 00:33:24.240
as long as you in my house, you're gonna you know. And it's

462
00:33:24.279 --> 00:33:28.680
worse now than when we grew up. You know. It's not like you

463
00:33:28.720 --> 00:33:31.039
can easily move out because of the
economy, Like you can't. You have

464
00:33:31.119 --> 00:33:37.599
to literally save probably like six months
of rent ahead of time before even moving

465
00:33:37.640 --> 00:33:40.119
out. So that's like not an
option because you're trying to balance work and

466
00:33:40.160 --> 00:33:44.799
balance helping your family out and everything
like that. And honestly think it's a

467
00:33:44.799 --> 00:33:47.359
good idea of doing the group.
But then again with that, a lot

468
00:33:47.400 --> 00:33:51.839
of people aren't open, like,
yes, they can sit up here and

469
00:33:51.880 --> 00:33:53.200
express okay, I go through this
and this and this and this, but

470
00:33:53.240 --> 00:34:00.079
they're not able to see change from
their standpoint. They're not to see beyond

471
00:34:00.960 --> 00:34:05.920
what can happen that's good for them. All they see is, well,

472
00:34:05.960 --> 00:34:07.079
my life is this way, and
it's gonna be this way. So this

473
00:34:07.119 --> 00:34:12.039
is what I'm used to and it's
going to remain that way, you know.

474
00:34:12.239 --> 00:34:15.599
And it's that honestly, And I
don't understand some of these parents and

475
00:34:15.639 --> 00:34:20.719
the things that they say to they're
they're adult children, the things that they

476
00:34:20.840 --> 00:34:23.559
say, and I mean, I've
witness city and I'm just standing there.

477
00:34:23.960 --> 00:34:28.480
I can't say anything because it's not
my I can't jump in, you know.

478
00:34:28.800 --> 00:34:30.599
I want to go and save everybody, but it's not meant to be,

479
00:34:31.360 --> 00:34:36.760
and so you know, but maybe
hopefully preferly we can, you know,

480
00:34:37.119 --> 00:34:38.800
some of some of her colleagues,
some of are peers, rather will

481
00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:44.320
maybe tune in here and hear some
things and and maybe take be able to

482
00:34:44.360 --> 00:34:46.880
take walk away with something saying,
oh, I can't change, there's a

483
00:34:46.920 --> 00:34:50.800
possibility if I can, If I
could just move this way, if I

484
00:34:50.800 --> 00:34:54.360
could shift my mind this way,
just for this minute, just for this

485
00:34:55.119 --> 00:34:59.360
maybe things can happen. I was
thinking about rolls of parks, rolls of

486
00:34:59.480 --> 00:35:04.079
parks, and not get up that
she didn't get She wasn't trying to say

487
00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:07.199
she didn't wake up that morning,
saying okay, I'm gonna make a difference

488
00:35:07.239 --> 00:35:09.639
here. I'm gonna get doctor King's
attention, and I'm gonna I'm gonna put

489
00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:16.079
my name. Frozen was dead,
tired, her feet hurt, and when

490
00:35:16.119 --> 00:35:22.440
she sat down, she sat down
and no, I'm not getting up.

491
00:35:22.519 --> 00:35:24.280
I can't even And I don't know
if you've ever been so tired that you

492
00:35:24.400 --> 00:35:30.000
cannot physically get yourself up without trying
to, you know, move to the

493
00:35:30.119 --> 00:35:31.920
edge of the chair and lean up
on the arm of the chair and get

494
00:35:32.039 --> 00:35:39.079
up. She was tired. She
wasn't trying to make history. You know,

495
00:35:40.159 --> 00:35:44.000
a lot of people who made history
work say it. I'm gonna set

496
00:35:44.039 --> 00:35:46.719
out with get to make a name
for myself. Now they had an issue

497
00:35:47.519 --> 00:35:52.800
and it was time for change,
and she I don't think she realized that.

498
00:35:52.920 --> 00:35:54.239
You know, she figured, I'm
going to jail. I know I'm

499
00:35:54.239 --> 00:35:57.679
gonna go to jail, and now
I got to, you know, get

500
00:35:57.719 --> 00:36:00.239
somebody to get me out of jail. Eventually. I hope they don't hurt

501
00:36:00.320 --> 00:36:01.920
me. So I can imagine the
thoughts are going through a head. But

502
00:36:02.159 --> 00:36:08.920
it was enough. She was so
tired. She was so tired, Harriet

503
00:36:08.960 --> 00:36:14.599
Tubman. Historically, they're saying that
she was awakening four day in the morning.

504
00:36:15.400 --> 00:36:17.000
God and the boys told her to
leave, go this way, go

505
00:36:17.119 --> 00:36:21.360
that way, and she finally made
it up north to safety. The same

506
00:36:21.440 --> 00:36:24.239
boy said you've got to go back
and bring some more. So all she

507
00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:29.599
had in her mind was her husband
and her family, because she didn't think

508
00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:32.199
nobody else would go for it,
and people turned the down. Husband went

509
00:36:32.239 --> 00:36:36.360
off with another woman, but a
family of five or four were waiting,

510
00:36:36.360 --> 00:36:37.559
and they said, we're packed,
we're ready to go. Whatever you tell

511
00:36:37.639 --> 00:36:42.000
us to do. We're ready.
Because it was time for change. They

512
00:36:42.039 --> 00:36:45.679
could not take it anymore. And
if there's a if I'm a die,

513
00:36:45.840 --> 00:36:51.119
I'll die while trying. I'll die
while trying. But it can't be no

514
00:36:51.199 --> 00:36:54.559
worse than staying here and being in
bondage. So that's that. There's that

515
00:36:54.639 --> 00:36:59.280
bondage thing. I mean, you've
got to be able to know when to

516
00:36:59.480 --> 00:37:02.400
leap. You got to say,
you know, enough is enough. I

517
00:37:02.440 --> 00:37:08.039
don't deserve this and I'm moving on, or I've got myself into this.

518
00:37:08.840 --> 00:37:14.400
God, if you could show me
your way out, I will go that,

519
00:37:15.280 --> 00:37:19.119
you know, But you've got to
you gotta keep moving now. We're

520
00:37:19.159 --> 00:37:22.320
in an era right now, in
twenty twenty four prophetic. The words that

521
00:37:22.400 --> 00:37:25.800
are coming, the warnings that God
has been warning for. It's here.

522
00:37:27.639 --> 00:37:30.039
It's here by state, it's here
by city, it's here by neighborhood.

523
00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:36.000
I mean, it's on every it's
all around us now. And you've got

524
00:37:36.000 --> 00:37:38.519
to do everything you can to keep
your mind sane. You need to make

525
00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:44.880
find your happiness, find what's gonna
help keep you find your balance? This

526
00:37:44.920 --> 00:37:47.480
is you gotta do it now.
You can't put this office well, you

527
00:37:47.519 --> 00:37:52.280
know, since it's January first,
my New Year's resolutions ain't got nothing to

528
00:37:52.280 --> 00:37:57.800
do with this anymore, partly my
vernacular. You've got to make your mind

529
00:37:57.920 --> 00:38:00.440
up. I'm tired. I want
change, and I love change. I

530
00:38:00.559 --> 00:38:04.760
love it. I love my new
normal every day. I love it,

531
00:38:05.679 --> 00:38:07.800
you know, and and and you've
got you got to if you want to,

532
00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:15.320
you know, if you want to
express and experience freedom. You know.

533
00:38:17.519 --> 00:38:21.679
Yes, there's a question from a
caller. I put it in,

534
00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:24.440
but I didn't know if y'all saw
it. No, I didn't. We

535
00:38:24.440 --> 00:38:29.639
didn't see it didn't come up.
The question is when you were growing up,

536
00:38:29.679 --> 00:38:32.960
did your friends turn to your mom? And was there any jealousy when

537
00:38:34.039 --> 00:38:39.960
others turned to your mom from me? No, I mean I'm an open

538
00:38:40.000 --> 00:38:46.239
person. My mam will love it
there for I believe I will never be

539
00:38:46.320 --> 00:38:52.840
jealous. I told you, you
know, I know they won't steal me.

540
00:38:52.920 --> 00:38:55.760
Hermom she's with me. Well,
she don't like my spiritual daughters and

541
00:38:55.880 --> 00:39:01.559
sons. Sometimes she said, well, I'm not the well, but you're

542
00:39:01.559 --> 00:39:06.880
not like I know I have one. I got that, Okay, I

543
00:39:06.960 --> 00:39:10.800
say, oh they have to know. Okay, then thank you Rebel for

544
00:39:10.840 --> 00:39:15.559
that question. But yeah, I
mean she's she's pretty hell pretty steady.

545
00:39:15.639 --> 00:39:19.920
She jumps in my face when she
needs my attention, and well, yeah

546
00:39:20.000 --> 00:39:22.960
she knows that, you know,
she you know, but she don't want

547
00:39:22.000 --> 00:39:24.599
my attention. I'm in a business, so you know, I need to

548
00:39:24.639 --> 00:39:29.960
know because I don't want that.
You know. I I raised all the

549
00:39:30.039 --> 00:39:31.960
even the boys. You know,
I need to know. I don't want

550
00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:37.599
that day to come when a police
officer is knocking on my door to tell

551
00:39:37.639 --> 00:39:40.079
me that there's been an accident.
I need to where you're going, How

552
00:39:40.119 --> 00:39:43.079
long you go? Okay, how
long you're gonna be? How far are

553
00:39:43.119 --> 00:39:45.199
you from the house? You know, I still have it. They're still

554
00:39:45.239 --> 00:39:49.639
here. Thanks to twenty twenty,
they're here. So I you know,

555
00:39:49.800 --> 00:39:52.320
the rules have not changed. But
thank you calling for that, and thank

556
00:39:52.360 --> 00:39:55.480
you Rebel anytime that comes. Yeah, we didn't see it, so please

557
00:39:55.559 --> 00:39:59.800
forward anything. But anything else you
want to add to that, I'll just

558
00:39:59.800 --> 00:40:04.679
say you got well. My advice
overall, no matter what your age is,

559
00:40:04.679 --> 00:40:07.800
is to have the like you need
to be able to see the end

560
00:40:07.840 --> 00:40:15.320
of the road, like for yourself. So like ask God, go to

561
00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:20.519
a past or somebody to be able
to remove that blindness of you feel like

562
00:40:20.920 --> 00:40:23.800
you're just stuck in that place,
stuck in where you are. You have

563
00:40:23.840 --> 00:40:30.119
to be able to see the change
or like embrace that, embrace that I

564
00:40:30.159 --> 00:40:34.400
could, you know, change as
an individual, I could. My lifestyle

565
00:40:34.440 --> 00:40:37.159
could change, my job could change. Whatever the case may be, whatever

566
00:40:37.199 --> 00:40:39.360
situation you're going through, you just
have to be able to see the end

567
00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:43.239
of the road. You don't see
the end of the road. You're stuck

568
00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:46.880
there, You stuck wherever you are. Mentally, you just need to I

569
00:40:46.920 --> 00:40:51.519
believe, you have to be able
to open up your mind, build yourself

570
00:40:51.559 --> 00:40:54.599
up, allow God lean on him
to give you that strength. I mean,

571
00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:59.840
we're always not always strong or you
know, we all have our down

572
00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:04.599
There's nothing wrong with that, it's
completely normal. But be able to go

573
00:41:04.719 --> 00:41:07.920
to him, Like God, I
feel like I'm just gonna be here forever.

574
00:41:07.960 --> 00:41:10.400
I need you to open up my
eyes to see. I need to

575
00:41:10.440 --> 00:41:14.280
believe that I can get out of
the situation. I need to believe that

576
00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:20.000
I could be farther than I am
now. Yeah, their parents don't teach

577
00:41:20.079 --> 00:41:23.639
their kids to dream anymore. Tree
and everybody else they're not teaching. This

578
00:41:23.719 --> 00:41:30.239
generation is not being taught to dream
and to hope, and that there is

579
00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:34.239
and when you're talking about you have
to be able to see that. You

580
00:41:34.360 --> 00:41:37.840
got to know that there is an
end of a road. That's another thing

581
00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:40.079
too. You need to know that
there's an end and it's going to be

582
00:41:40.079 --> 00:41:46.480
a brighter day. Go ahead,
Trey. I'm resorting back to something that

583
00:41:46.519 --> 00:41:52.159
I learned through solution focused training and
Breef therapy models. So it was the

584
00:41:52.239 --> 00:41:58.119
miracle question. And so the I
think, if I remember it correctly,

585
00:41:58.239 --> 00:42:02.639
say, if you were to go
to a night and dream and wake up

586
00:42:02.679 --> 00:42:07.960
the next morning that realized that you
were in a dream and your life was

587
00:42:07.159 --> 00:42:13.880
looking successful, what would that look
like? What would be different? And

588
00:42:13.960 --> 00:42:17.599
so we always want to think about
you know, when you tell people goals

589
00:42:17.639 --> 00:42:21.760
and stuff, it's it's harder that, well, I don't know what my

590
00:42:21.840 --> 00:42:23.880
goals. You can you can set
short term goals. You can set so

591
00:42:24.079 --> 00:42:28.039
with the next couple of weeks,
this is what I want to have done.

592
00:42:28.400 --> 00:42:31.280
And I think too with it worked
well with the older generation, but

593
00:42:31.360 --> 00:42:35.519
younger generation because you don't want to
dispand it out so long, looks like

594
00:42:35.559 --> 00:42:38.119
it's impossible. So what would be
your short term goal? Something at the

595
00:42:38.199 --> 00:42:42.760
end of the week I would want
to accomplish and work on that and then

596
00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:45.199
you could see the end of the
rope. And I'm also saying too,

597
00:42:45.360 --> 00:42:52.239
one of the good good things about
my childhood was being exposed to different things

598
00:42:52.599 --> 00:42:57.159
we have to experience right now.
Technology is right there. You can experience

599
00:42:57.159 --> 00:43:00.960
a trip right just google YouTube,
you know those types of thing TikTok.

600
00:43:01.360 --> 00:43:06.360
You have those things at your leisure. And so some of the peers that

601
00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:09.079
you might have miss night and if
you look at it, explore, have

602
00:43:09.159 --> 00:43:14.920
them explore some places that might look
well, what kind of neighborhood would you

603
00:43:14.960 --> 00:43:16.599
want to be? What kind of
people do you want around you? What

604
00:43:16.679 --> 00:43:20.400
kind of people do you have?
Now? How are they supportive? How

605
00:43:20.400 --> 00:43:22.199
are they not supportive? How are
they lifting you up? How are they

606
00:43:22.239 --> 00:43:27.440
bringing you down? Because sometimes when
you separate the eggs from the yolks,

607
00:43:28.519 --> 00:43:31.679
you can see things a little differently, But you have to separate it because

608
00:43:31.719 --> 00:43:37.360
everything becomes normal as long as you're
sitting there looking at it. And so

609
00:43:37.760 --> 00:43:43.159
what does exploring another location look like? When I was working with younger children

610
00:43:43.199 --> 00:43:46.079
in the day program. What I
would do is ride them the different neighbors

611
00:43:46.119 --> 00:43:50.360
especially because I knew they were at
risk you. I would ride them the

612
00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:53.199
different neighborhoods and say, look at
this, Wow, why you can have

613
00:43:53.320 --> 00:43:57.239
this too? Well, I don't
know, Yes you can. And it

614
00:43:57.440 --> 00:44:00.159
starts there. I mean I had
second grade, third grade, fourth grade

615
00:44:00.760 --> 00:44:06.880
riding around to different neighborhoods that they
weren't used to have being in and show

616
00:44:06.920 --> 00:44:10.960
them this is you because people who
live in these probably were in the same

617
00:44:12.000 --> 00:44:15.400
position that you were. But you're
gonna have to separate from some folks.

618
00:44:15.400 --> 00:44:20.079
You're gonna you know, you're gonna
put some people off because you're moving away.

619
00:44:20.360 --> 00:44:22.360
But let you have to recognize too, if they're for you, if

620
00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:27.239
they're your friends, they're gonna tell
you this is not your lifestyle. This

621
00:44:27.400 --> 00:44:30.719
is not where you need to be. This is where you need to go

622
00:44:30.000 --> 00:44:34.719
in fact, create life. Let
us go together, let me help you.

623
00:44:34.800 --> 00:44:38.599
Let's go together and make this move
and make some things different because it's

624
00:44:38.639 --> 00:44:43.440
hard to see it. And I'm
gonna have to pray about those, especially

625
00:44:43.440 --> 00:44:45.400
with the parental stuff, because I
know that's a little different. But if

626
00:44:45.440 --> 00:44:50.960
they're old enough, get in a
bank account, putting some money aside,

627
00:44:51.280 --> 00:44:53.480
getting a po box so you don't
have to worry about your male come into

628
00:44:53.519 --> 00:44:59.360
the house. Those are little things
that you're taking ownership to adulthood. Putting

629
00:44:59.360 --> 00:45:02.519
a little money inside, having a
little extra taxes taken out of your so

630
00:45:02.559 --> 00:45:07.039
you can get it at the end
of the year so you don't have it

631
00:45:07.119 --> 00:45:09.920
right now, and so that way
that frees up your money to the end,

632
00:45:10.519 --> 00:45:15.000
you know, so you don't have
to present. So it's it's ways

633
00:45:15.039 --> 00:45:17.599
of doing things. You just have
to, like say, think outside the

634
00:45:17.639 --> 00:45:22.679
box and see what you're able to
do, especially now working on credit scores.

635
00:45:22.719 --> 00:45:27.880
I wish I had known that years
ago or worked towards that years ago,

636
00:45:28.400 --> 00:45:31.559
But it's always the future, so, you know, just just little

637
00:45:31.599 --> 00:45:36.679
things that they can do to try
to get themselves and lining themselves of people

638
00:45:37.039 --> 00:45:38.840
of what they want to see.
If you want to do something, have

639
00:45:38.960 --> 00:45:43.360
what somebody has, look and see
what they're doing as long as it's the

640
00:45:43.480 --> 00:45:45.880
legal way, see what they're doing
to do that, and get the advice

641
00:45:45.880 --> 00:45:50.599
from that person. Yeah, I
thank you, Trey. I you know,

642
00:45:50.719 --> 00:45:52.760
yeah, I agree one thousand percent. And I was just sitting here

643
00:45:52.800 --> 00:45:57.840
thinking as you're talking. You know, just you know, just want to

644
00:45:57.880 --> 00:46:01.320
be different. If if you all
could, if they could just see I

645
00:46:01.320 --> 00:46:06.239
can be different. I don't have
to be like this. My life don't

646
00:46:06.280 --> 00:46:09.599
have to end up like this,
you know. But you've got to be

647
00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:14.280
able to want to see that.
But sometimes they're so in you know,

648
00:46:14.519 --> 00:46:16.239
in the mud. But yeah,
we're here to motivate you. This is

649
00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:21.559
what this show is about. It
start to set things straight. You've been

650
00:46:21.599 --> 00:46:23.800
told this for so long, but
guess what, that's really not the case.

651
00:46:24.079 --> 00:46:28.119
And even getting credit, and we'll
talk about that in another show,

652
00:46:28.400 --> 00:46:30.320
but even getting credit, I mean, you got to go and get a

653
00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:34.320
credit card, you got to pay
it off at a certain time, and

654
00:46:34.360 --> 00:46:37.639
all this to be consistent. Then
they'll start, you know, getting the

655
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:39.639
attention of the credit bureaus you know, and things like that. I mean

656
00:46:39.679 --> 00:46:42.679
it's like, wow, so I
got to go get a credit card.

657
00:46:42.760 --> 00:46:45.119
Then you're gonna force me, You're
gonna tempt me to uh, okay,

658
00:46:45.119 --> 00:46:47.920
I buy gas with it. Okay, I'll just buy gas with that card.

659
00:46:47.960 --> 00:46:51.320
I'll pay it off every month.
But you got to stay on top

660
00:46:51.360 --> 00:46:54.360
of that, you know, Whereas
why not you know, save up cash.

661
00:46:54.519 --> 00:46:58.719
Why not go and buy something.
Even when you go to the car

662
00:46:58.840 --> 00:47:02.159
dealership and you purchase it's the car
out right, the dealer, the salesman

663
00:47:02.239 --> 00:47:07.559
don't get a commission. It's like
I'm taking this big vehic because they rather

664
00:47:07.599 --> 00:47:12.079
you get in debt and everything else
so they can make a commission. And

665
00:47:12.159 --> 00:47:14.400
they don't make a commission. And
I ain't noticed that. I went in

666
00:47:14.440 --> 00:47:16.639
to purchase a car, and the
God blessed I was able to pay for

667
00:47:16.679 --> 00:47:21.039
it, and you know, right
out, and I was teasing with my

668
00:47:21.440 --> 00:47:23.440
sales guy because he's worked with me
for years. He said no, he

669
00:47:23.440 --> 00:47:25.880
said, it was great. We
don't get a commission when you pay it

670
00:47:25.920 --> 00:47:31.440
pay it cash. I said,
really really, So we'll talk about that

671
00:47:31.480 --> 00:47:36.800
another time, but right now we're
just hoping to really and encourage you all,

672
00:47:36.920 --> 00:47:38.559
no matter what your age. This
is not about an age thing anymore.

673
00:47:38.920 --> 00:47:44.400
It's not about a religion anymore.
It's not about your ethnic group anymore.

674
00:47:44.800 --> 00:47:47.679
If you want to change things,
then it's up to you to change

675
00:47:47.719 --> 00:47:51.920
things. As long as it's legal. It's not hurting you, you don't

676
00:47:51.960 --> 00:47:57.119
hurt somebody else. It's there,
it's there, it's there. For the

677
00:47:57.320 --> 00:48:00.400
world is here. This is the
opportunity to be create. We've got more

678
00:48:00.440 --> 00:48:06.039
nonprofit businesses, We've got more for
profit businesses. We got more millionaires out

679
00:48:06.039 --> 00:48:08.599
here. Why they don't, you
know, contribute to philanthropy and try to

680
00:48:08.679 --> 00:48:13.000
help people, I don't know.
But we've got more millionaires on the scene

681
00:48:13.039 --> 00:48:15.159
right now. We've got a few
more billionaires on the scene. And it

682
00:48:15.280 --> 00:48:19.039
just takes. It takes discipline,
it takes. Okay, I am going

683
00:48:19.079 --> 00:48:23.920
to do better, wanting to do
better, and just looking at the you

684
00:48:23.920 --> 00:48:28.840
know, the groups and all the
cultures out there that you I know,

685
00:48:29.079 --> 00:48:34.400
per culture, there's been somebody whose
shoulders you're standing on who paved the way

686
00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:38.480
with their life, who paved the
way with some ideas. But they paved

687
00:48:38.480 --> 00:48:42.679
the way, and we're supposed to
keep walking forward. We got to keep

688
00:48:42.760 --> 00:48:46.079
continuing to move no matter what it's
looking like. You've got to continue to

689
00:48:46.119 --> 00:48:51.079
move. That's all I'm asking.
And move in a straight line. Move

690
00:48:51.119 --> 00:48:52.599
in a straight line. And like
Trey said, I think that was the

691
00:48:52.639 --> 00:48:59.000
best idea, and everything stated here
tonight was awesome, but yeah, make

692
00:48:59.039 --> 00:49:02.119
a short term go put a date
on it. Okay, by Friday,

693
00:49:02.159 --> 00:49:06.159
I'm gonna do this, this should
be, and then check it off,

694
00:49:06.320 --> 00:49:12.199
write it down somewhere, then check
it off. You know, it's already

695
00:49:12.239 --> 00:49:15.119
our time, and a minute ago
it was seven thirty three. Now it's

696
00:49:15.280 --> 00:49:17.440
we got one more minute, so
any any last thing words, and then

697
00:49:17.480 --> 00:49:21.639
we're gonna sail off and wait till
next week. It's gonna be fun.

698
00:49:22.079 --> 00:49:25.840
Anything I have to say, I
just encourage people to stay focused in half

699
00:49:25.840 --> 00:49:30.360
faith. Amen. Amen, Well
we're gonna trade you say, okay,

700
00:49:30.840 --> 00:49:36.440
and man, Well that's it.
Guys, that's our time. Thank you

701
00:49:36.480 --> 00:49:38.760
all for joining us. We will
be back next week, same time,

702
00:49:39.280 --> 00:49:42.760
same station. Y'all. Take care, night night