International Friendship Day

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an awesome show tonight. It's gonna
be awesome. It's gonna be awesome.

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And let me welcome my fabulous co
host. We got Lady Tray all the

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way from Virginia, hallelujah. And
then we've got this comment from around the

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way when she's in a town a
you know, so when she's here,

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she's a robber corner. Alright,
Amen, let's pray and it's with a

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heavy heart I pray tonight. So
let's go to the throne. Father.

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We just thank you, we praise
you, we give you glory, for

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you alone are worthy to be praised. We thank you, Father God for

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this day, the thirty first of
July, the last Monday, the last

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day in the month of July twenty
twenty three. Over the weeks, a

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lot of people have passed away,
known and unknown. But I'm just hearing

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of someone very near and dear to
this family that has passed on. And

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I know she's with you and she's
celebrating you. So we just help us,

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help me to get through. Tonight
I got to talk about her,

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and I pray that everybody will understand
why. Now again, as always,

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we get behind the cross. This
is your show. You have your way

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and heal and set your captives free. In Jesus name, we pray,

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Amen and Amen. I don't even
know where to start. Um. I

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met we know her as missus missus
Tansy, and I met her when the

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twins started kindergarten at an elementary school
here in Orlando, and she was very

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nice and I, of course I
got roped into doing being a part of

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their PTA PTA and Miss Tanzy was
one of the teachers, and um one

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of their teachers, and we got
along immediately. I went in as I'll

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normally do. Let me introduce these
folks to you, I had them in

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separate rooms. Um, I learned
that from kindergarten. I mean from preschool,

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from daycare because my son, as
you know, I h they're gonna

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they're twins, would be twenty one
in a few weeks. And my son,

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one of my son's little friends invited
him to his birthday party. So

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I'm like, okay, b we
gotta go get you something special for you

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know, for you. So it's
those birthday party and my daughter said,

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well, I'm gonna get something too, and I said, no, you

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weren't invited. And she's like,
well, he's my friend too, And

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I said, you may know him
because you see him, because y'all they

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care together. But unfortunately, sweetie, you know this is for me.

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No, she had a fit.
I had to take it out of ice

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cream and tell her Dandy to take
us somewhere because she was just she knew

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she was going and I don't.
It was awakening for me, and awakening

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for me to know I need to
keep them in separate classes so they can

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at least separate classrooms, so at
least they can make their own friends.

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And then they began and in kindergarten, missus Tanzi was a teacher that I

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meant. And then after going to
that one elementary school, I transferred them

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to another, and she later came
over as a teacher and we just I

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just love the fact that she was
there and she was just she she was

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always got a smile on her face
and and would be being again part of

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the PTA. She joined the PTA, she would stick around for meetings and

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and no, she never grumbled.
She never complains because she didn't like the

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complaint. But there were times that
she needed to express herself and I'd be

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I happened to be somewhere nearby and
I could hear her voice, and when

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she would talk, she would have
tears in her eyes all the time,

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and I'm like, oh man.
And then I remember one Christmas season break,

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she had a Christmas party for the
teachers and some of the teachers,

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and she invited me. So I
went, and the teacher sat there and

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they were talking about the new principle
and that he wasn't, you know,

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giving them any any kind of awards
or honorable mentions, and they're busting their

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butts, you know, and all
the teachers, including the guidance counselor.

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I think with the exception of miss
tanz and Missus Woodruff, the parent resource

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teacher. Everybody else had a second
job. Everybody had a second including the

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guidance counselor. And I'd never seen
that before. Your school teachers, why

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do you need you know, because
you're there three four o'clock, five o'clock

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uptime and y'all wow, you know
so um. But Missus Tanzi was one

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that did not have one. And
so they're sitting there there talking about this

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principle and I said, well,
why didnt y'all say something to me?

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We could pray that out, you
know, real quick. They're like,

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no, we didn't want to,
you know. So Mistasia was in her

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kitchen and I'm looking at I'm in
a little dinner and I'm looking at said,

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why didn't you tell me? You
should have told me. Y'all going

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through this heck behind the scenes,
and it was unnecessary. So we just

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prayed. I think they said,
well, we don't know. I said,

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no problem, we'll take care of
that. I left that praying.

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And needs to say the school was
built originally in nineteen fifty four. You

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walk in there, if you had
more than three cell phones on it would

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trip the fire alarm. I mean, the fire truck would come automatically here

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unless here to come here to go, y'all. Mother just said out there,

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tell them to keep going because they
go charge y'all because it coming by,

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you know, so it would trip
the horror. So finally we got

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it moved up, and through prayer, they built a new school right on

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the campus, on the same grounds. And then they later lowered uh you

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know, bulldozs the others part the
old school, and and needed to say

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neither the former principle nor that current
principle. He ordered the furniture for his

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office, but he never had a
chance to sit in it. Um.

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Yeah, and uh but miss Tanzy, I want to dedicate my co host

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don't know about this. They're just
not hearing about it as you all are.

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And I want to dedicate this show
to her because it's odd that we're

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talking about International Friendship Day and and
and friendship and things like that. And

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there are times that you, okay, you've got different levels of associations.

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You have people who are your associates, you have people who are your classmates,

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you have people are your co workers, they're your colleagues, you know,

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in the business. You know,
then you've got friends out there,

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and you know, you got you
know, sisters, and you know,

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this is my play sister or this
is you know, we've been together since

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we were two years old, so
we're like family, you know and stuff.

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So there are different degrees of friendship
and belief systems and and looking out

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for each other and things like that. And Miss I could honestly say that

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Miss Tanzi was one. Even though
she was a teacher, she would can

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be considered like a colleague. But
we stayed in touch all this time through

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Facebook and through texting and anytime I
post other twins whatever, but I would

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all tell the twins, I say
happy birthday and tell doll a lie and

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you know. So it's just,
you know, the friendship that developed up

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over time. And I am going
to miss her because I can. I

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can bank on the fact that she
would acknowledge some event in our life and

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if she needed prayer, she would
say, hey, please pray for me,

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and she there was the last day
she would ask, but she'd put

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it out there. And that's why
this got me because the last you know,

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inboxing, I mean, the last
Facebook post was hey, my tests

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the results are good, and I'm
heading home. And so when my daughter's

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telling me, you know, she's
she passed away a few days ago,

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and I'm like, what you know? And of course, and that's another

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thing too, when you have I
believe knowing the two of you all termmy

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and trade, if something happened to
you all some kind of way, I'm

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gonna hear about it. I think
you've mentioned to your daughter's Tommy and Trede.

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You mentioned to you a sister or
two who I am. And I'm

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almost sure that I would get noticed
some kind of way that y'all something has

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happened. There are some people you
won't get that notice from because you don't

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have the connection and I don't.
Thank god, the gen Z group have

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Instagram and there that it was my
daughter's like, mind's all over, Facebook

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is all over. I said,
what And I'm looking in the car.

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I got the car running still and
I'm looking and looking and I'm like,

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I don't see anything, you know, and um, and and there's some

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people I want to ask. I
have a colleague out there now. He's

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way older than I am, and
I'm like, if something happened to him,

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you know, how would I know, how would I know? You

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know? And and and in my
phone and I've shared this with you all.

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I have everybody in a certain capture
under a certain description for you and

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Tommy, Tommy came up from being
a student to a co host in my

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phone. So and behind their name
is Ice, which is in case of

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emergency, which is what happened when
I went into the hospital five years ago.

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Only one biological aren't from one biological
side, one biological cousin, only

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one cousin from the gray side,
you know, because I knew that they

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would get the word to people who
cared. Not everybody, but people who

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care. So when you have these
friendships and these associations, and you know,

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you gotta keep everybody in mind because
you never know. We don't know.

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We don't know the day. We
don't know the day of the hour.

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We're not supposed enough. Sometimes we
can watch people deteriorate and we can

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get prognosis and diagnosises, but in
the end, we really don't know the

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day of the hour. We don't
know when that person has had the conversation

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with God that they can't take it
anymore. We don't know what they're thinking.

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And I don't care. I don't
I'll challenge anybody with dementia, and

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I'll challenge anybody who's gone through Alzheimer's
with their loved ones. They clear at

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times, they remember things at times, they can hear you talking about them

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in the next room at times at
times, So be sure your conversation is

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clear and it's pure, and it's
honest, because you will be held accountable

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for that. I'm a misser,
you know, as Trey and I have

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been through recently. I'm losing our
father and we were caregivers. I can't

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say from that's the point of view
that how you feel. But when you

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lose a friend that you didn't know
about, but you thought that they were

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doing better, that later you could
make that phone call, or they would

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make a phone call to you and
say, hey, thank you for my

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prayers, you know, so on
and so forth until not being and I

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could say I walked in your shoes
in a sense, because I had a

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girlfriend who has been over ten years
now. She passed away, and like

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you said, that friend, she
was more of a sister. We knew

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where each other were. You know, her mom would call me in and

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say, what is Lorian? Oh? She out of town. She had

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to go to so on so and
so. Her mom would say if she

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didn't know, she know who knew, and she would call me because we

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was. We was how they say, connected to the hill. We knew

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about each other. It was nowhere
that I lived that she did not visit,

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and no way I was, and
vice versa. Both at the time,

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I only had the one child and
she had one child. Both of

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us was godparents to each one of
our children. So when you lose and

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it the difference in her situation and
my girlfriend is. I saw her after

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Christmas and I looked at her her
eyes and I said, you're tired,

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aren't you, And she said yes, I am. Knowing her personality who

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she was, she would quickly say, mmmm, I ain't taking this in

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the new year, Lord come get
me because this this, this ain't it.

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So in my heart I told her, I said, I'll see your

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new years. I'll be back.
But in my heart I could not face

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what my heart was feeling. But
my mind knew I should have said my

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goodbyes then, but I couldn't because
I didn't want to let go. And

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that's some of our biggest problems human
humanly that it is very hard to let

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go, and that makes it even
the more. I ain't gonna say,

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it's just your love so strong that
you just don't want to let it go.

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Go ahead, Trey, Yeah,
I us it hits differently. Two,

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you know, Um, just thinking
about what you were just saying,

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Tommy and Elsia. My mom passed
last year, well this year. It

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was twenty one years ago, and
she passed away. And oh two on

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the nineteenth of April. And on
the twenty first of May, I got

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a call from my dad saying that
one of my good friends is like a

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brother to us, passed away.
We grew up right next door to each

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other. He was exactly a year
our birthdays were the same day. Um.

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He was one boy of a family
of five. You know, he

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had four sisters. But he and
I are very close, you know,

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like brothers sister I had. Yeah, I grew up with three sisters in

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the house. So I was glad
to have like a male friend. And

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and you know, growing up,
he would give me the ins and outs

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as far as like relationships, and
we'd bounced, you know, ideas back

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and forth. A very good friend. And um, and in fact our

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neighborhood was really close, so my
sister and I were close to him,

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and there was another young man.
They were like brothers, and my parents

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trusted them to take us out because
their parents say, look, you're taking

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them out, you know, make
sure you have a man by a certain

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time. But that was the way
the neighbors were, and so we couldn't

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classify mistates because they weren't. We
were just going out with our brothers to

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have a good time. And they
would always see guys looking at us,

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say uh. They would pull us
along, like I said, what are

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you doing? But that that called
it just like did something to me,

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you know, the call about my
mom really really hurt. But the thing

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about this young man he played at
my mom's she in Rome. We didn't

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have a choir. We just wanted
him to and he was a great organist

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and he learned by ear at first
and then he started taking it, you

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know, learning to read music.
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in our choir was close to our
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so you know, we wanted them
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he played all of my mom's favorite
songs, and then it was odd because

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the minister asked him was singing that
wasn't his thing. He could and everybody

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was saying, who was that young
man? He was the pall bearer for

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one of the pall bears for my
mom. And thirty days later he's gone,

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just like that, working on his
bus. I think he suffered an

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aneurysm. Like I said, he
was a year older than I was,

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and it just did something to me
even to this day, is just thinking

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about it. Because we grew up
together. I mean I doing those guy

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since I was six seven years old. You know, we went to school

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together. He would come over and
say what Mom, could you know going

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refrigerator going up? You know he
had to right, you know he has

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not too many people were able to
do that. So and it just hits

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differently. And one of my sisters, my sister just lost one U persons.

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She went to school with m a
tragic car accident. Say may graduate.

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You know in this life is funny. And they were close growing up

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and she said, I you know, I got her number from her cousin

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and I meant to call us.
Said Camp, don't beat yourself up,

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you know, like because we don't
know we really don't know, and I

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tried to practice a while back.
I always try to practice, if you're

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all my mind, I'm gonna give
you a call. I've gotten away from

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it a little bit, but I
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We don't know from minute or second
what's gonna happen to us or anyone

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that's surrounding us. And I just
it would behool people just to treat folks

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with kindness. You know, you
don't know what other folks are going through

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and growing up, my sister and
I we used to Yeah, my mom

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said, you never want to say
something, then that would be the last

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thing you say. And so even
to this day, I don't even if

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it's something out on my mind,
said not worth to say it, you

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know, because I don't want that
to be the last thing I remember saying

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to that person or doing to that
person. It's not because out of each

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other. I don't know about anybody
else's conscious or mine. It will eat

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me alive. And I said,
I even like now, still second guess

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did I do enough for my dad? And I know I did, But

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still could I have something else?
I could have just a borne off,

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done something a little differently and so, but I know when I get my

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sisters together, I did all I
was supposed to do and was able to

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do. And he wasn't. Like
I said, he lived graciously to be

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ninety one. We got him to
that point. He was able to see

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his granddaughter get married, which is
where her wishes was because he was her

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last living grandparents and so that made
us feel good about that he was her

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last living one. And so,
but like I said, just I value

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friendships. You know, I don't
have too many people I say friends.

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You know, I have associates.
And there's some people I shared this with

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and some people I shared that with. But I know my go tos and

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and it's good too. And I
started out sisters, especially my youngest sister

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because we were closer in age.
But you know, my sisters and our

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friends cousins, those are your first
friends as well, you know, so

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your play meets. But I just
value people in my life. I do,

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and I don't take it for granted. I and I thank God or

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the people, and I pray for
the people in my life every day.

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Uh. If it's not every day, I'm pretty sure it's close to it.

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But I really try to thank him
for them being in my life and

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watch over them because you never know
life, life happens. You just don't

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know when it's gonna be. Thank
you ladies. Um, yeah, yeah,

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it's everything you can. I say
something, but I do want to

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say this, Alicia. I tell
you, girl, I don't know what

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it is about you for real,
for real life. I said it's a

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while back, but it's something about
you, and you're that person that you

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can really call friends. And for
you to bring this show together and bring

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Tommy and me together, we never
met in person, never, This is

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how we've done it. But for
you to have that insight and the wisdom

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and the guidance and the nurturing and
the encouragement, motivation and the spiritual side

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to help us grow, you just
don't know what that does. And I

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appreciate you as a friend, and
thank you for introducing Tommy and even the

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people that are in the background that
we don't even see, thank you for

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them. Because I tell you,
it takes us everyone to make this setting

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it straight with its great work.
And if nobody has given any of you

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all kudos, I will thank you. Same here, same here. It

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can't get no better. It can't. It can't get any better. So

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I say, also, I did
on what she says, and thank you.

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Also, I'm gonna tell you something
really funny. God, if you

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let if you just sit back,
and I'm sorry to the audience that I

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keep taking my glass is putting the
law off and stuff. But God,

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you just blow my mind. I
had this idea. I say, Okay,

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I know what I'm gonna do for
our birth months. We'll bring on

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people that will just say, you
know, what we've met in their lives

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and stuff. Right then I said, no, that don't sound right because

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I'm gonna be the first one up
everybody else birthdays behind me, you know.

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And I was like, oh,
man, I can't. I know,

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I'm not gonna do that because people
go, oh, who can't think

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you know? God? And then
y'all just then this happens today and then

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this is a conversation and you know, you know it's God. It was

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not my idea, Like I said. When the owner of the show called

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me out of the blue, I
was like, this is what you want

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me to do? He said,
yeah, I go back. You gotta

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set some things straight so people will
know that who I am and who mine

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are and and it just so happened, unfortunately you all and your losses,

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because Tommy was here in my dead
she was here for me and doing something

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and we were just talking and she
was just saying no, I you know,

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and and and Tommy about Miami,
saying she said, no, I

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already told God. Now you don't
do nothing until I get there. And

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I'm like, um, no,
you can't say that to God. Yeah.

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I was like, well, you
know what I mean, said no,

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no, no, you can't do
that. And unfortunately, you know,

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she was getting a call from her
uncle that her dad had passed,

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and I'm sitting there like, okay, what do I do? What do

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I do? What do I do? And because she was ready to go,

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I said, well, hang on, hang on, just call your

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daughter and then you know, and
then you know, Trey calls. I

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believe you called or either I called
you that day. We were just talking.

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I can't remember. Oh you called
me, Tray, I can't remember.

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I think I called you and said, hey, you were on my

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mind. She said, well,
I'm not surprised my father has passed.

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And I'm like and said, y'all
don't see to the scene. I'll be

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sitting, They're like, what do
I doing this? What are what do

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I say? Okay? What can
I do? You need? What?

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Okay? Okay me, You're okay? You know um. So I'm honored.

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And God told me exactly who to
invite to be on the show.

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And and we get together before the
month the next month, and we come

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up, God, what you want
us to talk about? And he leads

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the way and so here today we're
talking about International Friendship Day, which was

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decided upon last month for this day. Not knowing that someone who's really true

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to my heart. Because if you
take care of my kids, if you

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promise me you're gonna teach them,
they're gonna learn something under you, you

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have my total total appreciation. Anything
you need, I'll adopt your classroom.

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What you need here. Even before
all this happened to me, I was

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like that, and you know,
to have Here's a person who don't you.

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She's remarried and moved back to her
hometown. We don't We didn't have

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to keep in touch, but we
did. We found each other on Facebook.

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Hey how were you highs? And
her and I know I'm not gonna

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do justice to her her marriage,
but in her love story, but by

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this woman being reunited with her first
love from high school, after they've had

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their families and their marriages and their
spouses have passed. She went home.

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This is what she told me.
And if if her folks are on here,

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please put in the chat. I'm
wrong. But she went home either

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spring break, summer break, Christmas
break, going to the grocery store,

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minding her business, and there he
was, her high school sweetheart and say,

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hey, how you I don't know
what. I can only imagine the

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conversation. All I know is when
home girl, I think she went back

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when one of the other holidays next
they got no sister girl came back with

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a diamond ring and was selling,
putting her house up for sale. She

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said, I'm heading back home.
I'm sure things happened in between that,

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but I that was the just of
what I got. So true love does

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exist. She exemplified that she was
a loyal person. She is a loyal

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person. She always had your back, and she didn't like the tattle.

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She didn't like to complaint. I'm
gonna say people in administration really treated her

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with a disservice. And whenever I
would hear about it, I go I

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go I go to back four.
I know you're not. You're not gonna

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do this, not to her,
not to her, not on my watch.

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And I'm just a PTA president.
But I had a couple of principles.

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A little scared of it. But
anyway, um no, because I

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don't I know what a tide of
one dollars go for. Okay, and

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you can come and tell people we're
taking the furniture. Okay, then,

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but then we're gonna sue you because
it's in the law. If tighter one

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dollars purchase that equipment and furniture.
It goes back to a Title one program.

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There you go. So you you
okay, mister principal, and you

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didn't you ordered your furniture for the
new school, but you came in as

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a guest to see where the furniture're
with because your hips never sat in the

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chair. So there we go.
Hollelo, Okay, I'm sorry, let

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me come back and let me come
back to this show. See I get

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upset about it. I'm very That's
one thing, loyalty. I'm very loyal.

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Sometimes I may even push them,
push you away because I'm like,

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no, you you know you you
you're not gonna keep telling me. I'm

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calling you, and you got your
grandchild holding your phone and playing games on

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it, and the child don't know
or for some reason not to give you

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the phone. You're paying the phone
bill, but you don't know. I've

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called, and you don't know what. It may be a message from God,

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it may be in the murder,
and you don't know. But at

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any time, I'm telling you know, the Lord put you on my heart,

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and I'll tell some people that because
it's true. The Lord but your

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my heart. So I have to
call you, and then you know you

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all the grand child? No,
see, then we got a problem because

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I'm coming for your grand child.
Get get them something, Okay, don't

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give your grandchild your phone. Okay, okay, that's a different show.

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I'm sorry, Sorry, I'm coming
back anyway. Yeah, because I get

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oh my grand baby had it.
And do you pay the bill or do

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the mama pay the bill? Who'll
pay the bill? That's what I want

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to know, because no child of
mine had my phone. My children have

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never played with my phone. They
had their own gadgets. And when I

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saw that they were trying to,
oh, let me go get you a

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play phone. Here, you go
even my dog trying to lick the phone.

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No, no, no, don't
get her phone because she no,

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no, wait wait wait, look
here a little girl. That's my that's

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mommy's toys. She looked. Look
at Go get your toy, but don't

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get her phone because you'll think it's
a toy. So to see, you

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gotta use common sense. I'm sorry. Okay, I'm back. I'm back.

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But anyway, um whoa, um
yeah, yeah, come on that.

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You know you gotta celebrate your friends. Um. I saw a quote

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and I put it on my Instagram
page. Blood makes us related, loyalty

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makes us family. Amen to that. Yeah, blood, you ain't make

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you my first cousin. But I
don't even hear from you. You din

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the street? Oh you oh you
put on Oh here's one. He's a

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good one. I'm sorry, guy, I got sick. But here's a

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good one. You on day facebook
page, you're on the instagram page.

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They got twenty two pictures of them
coming and having a family getting together in

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your backyard. They don't they don't
call you at all. That's a good

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for them. That is the kreml
little crown. I kid you not well,

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you know we went in I'm looking
at you on Facebook and you pointing

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to the sea world on side and
everything else that's down the street from me.

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You can't. I ain't coming that
I'm not coming. Okay, you

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ain't got to worry about be interrupted
nothing. Okay, you're gonna tell me

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after you left. So what else
want to do with that? Mamas want

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to do? How can I fix
my face on that? I would tell

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certain people when I'm coming home the
Palm Beach County, only certain people,

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not everybody, because I ain't come
about to look for you. I'm not

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We're not there. And that's another
thing too. I don't go to the

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funerals. If I didn't celebrate you
while you were living. That's just me

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because I don't know where you went
after you close your eyes. It took

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00:32:39.079 --> 00:32:42.079
that last brother. I don't know
what you are. You a meeting to

410
00:32:42.119 --> 00:32:44.559
me all the time, so I
can only imagine where you with it.

411
00:32:44.839 --> 00:32:47.240
You've been a detowards up baby,
you got it right, I don't know.

412
00:32:50.920 --> 00:32:55.599
So I've had that you post everything
on your social media page. You

413
00:32:55.680 --> 00:33:01.000
know I follow you, and I
can see this, and then you're gonna

414
00:33:01.160 --> 00:33:06.119
but you'll call me for prayer you'll
call me when you need a loan.

415
00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:14.319
That's right, be to pray for
them. Long you go, oh,

416
00:33:14.400 --> 00:33:21.359
I need prayer? Who is this
what I didn't say? You want to

417
00:33:21.400 --> 00:33:22.960
call? I? D wait a
minute, because if I saw y'all wouldn't

418
00:33:23.000 --> 00:33:28.279
answer the phone, take it to
the voice bess to take it there could

419
00:33:28.319 --> 00:33:30.839
google it, goop some of you. So if you don't learn nothing to

420
00:33:30.960 --> 00:33:36.200
night first learned that you know missus
ted Laura Tansy, But she's Laura Tansy

421
00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:40.319
was as it will always be a
great teacher. She held her word,

422
00:33:40.440 --> 00:33:45.480
she held her classroom, she held
her respect. She went up north and

423
00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:49.240
you know, remarried and the love
of her life, her first love.

424
00:33:49.799 --> 00:33:52.720
She went back to teaching up there, and she kept in touch with all

425
00:33:52.759 --> 00:34:00.319
of us down here. Um she
was. She's a true friend because she

426
00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:07.079
would celebrate my kids. I've got
relatives who don't celebrate my kids and your

427
00:34:07.119 --> 00:34:12.440
birthday in the same month. It's
okay because, like I said, blood

428
00:34:12.440 --> 00:34:19.119
makes us related. But loyalty,
that's a whole different story. You're my

429
00:34:19.239 --> 00:34:23.559
tribe, and you ladies, I
tribe. You're my new my tribe.

430
00:34:23.599 --> 00:34:28.760
And I trust y'all. I trust
that I can call y'all. And another

431
00:34:28.800 --> 00:34:31.239
thing too, And I know we've
talked about this too. When you become

432
00:34:31.320 --> 00:34:35.639
when you're a leader, When you're
a leader, a lot of people have

433
00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:39.159
expectations of you. Okay, Well, these two women here, and I'm

434
00:34:39.199 --> 00:34:43.760
gonna say, even Rebel, who
you will never see, but she is

435
00:34:43.800 --> 00:34:52.199
there listening to everything we're saying.
These two ladies here, I trust them,

436
00:34:52.239 --> 00:34:55.599
and I don't trust everybody. I'm
not going to try to trust anybody,

437
00:34:55.760 --> 00:35:00.880
but I trust that when I do
reach out to call them and i'm

438
00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:05.599
my head, they could tell the
tone of my voice something is not quite

439
00:35:05.800 --> 00:35:08.360
right. And if I'm too hesitant, they're gonna get on in there.

440
00:35:08.400 --> 00:35:12.480
They've got words of encouragement. It's
gonna be Okay. Well, I don't

441
00:35:12.480 --> 00:35:15.400
know what you're calling me for,
but I just want you to know that's

442
00:35:15.639 --> 00:35:23.559
true friendship. Trey and I hadn't
seen each other for years. I didn't

443
00:35:23.559 --> 00:35:28.119
even know she had moved back.
I didn't know she was from Virginia.

444
00:35:28.159 --> 00:35:31.360
I thought she was from Westfall Beach. That's how I matter. We never

445
00:35:31.440 --> 00:35:37.320
talked about it, you know,
we were too busy engaging the community and

446
00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:40.000
advocate you. You know, try
to get this money right, you know,

447
00:35:40.079 --> 00:35:44.719
make sure you spend it, make
sure you get services, and I

448
00:35:44.760 --> 00:35:47.960
don't want the day of the hour
I reached out, she reached I think

449
00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:52.280
I reached out looking for I don't
know how it happened. Probably somebody was

450
00:35:52.280 --> 00:35:54.000
talking about the best of violence,
and I said, there's only one person

451
00:35:54.039 --> 00:36:00.000
in the world that I could refer
you too. That no DV with her

452
00:36:00.079 --> 00:36:07.679
eyes closed as only one person.
And I went looking and then she messaged

453
00:36:07.679 --> 00:36:09.440
me school, Yeah, I'm back
home in Virginia, Virginia. I didn't

454
00:36:09.440 --> 00:36:13.920
know you were from Virginia. Then
Tommy telling me, well, you know

455
00:36:14.039 --> 00:36:16.400
my daughters in Virginia, and you
know I'm from Viginia. Where did you

456
00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:22.360
come from Virginia? What is what's
going on here? You know? So

457
00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:28.320
that's friendship. These two women will
not tell me what I want to hear.

458
00:36:30.440 --> 00:36:35.280
They'll tell me what I need to
hear. And that's a difference.

459
00:36:36.679 --> 00:36:38.880
As I said, I met Tommy. She was one of my students at

460
00:36:38.880 --> 00:36:45.880
Bellehadden. Don't know the day or
the hour we exchanged phone numbers, don't

461
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:50.400
know how. But when my husband
passed, I let his body go to

462
00:36:50.440 --> 00:36:52.119
his family for a minute I had
him cremated, you send them to me.

463
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:54.440
They hadn't even got the ashes back. But I had to do a

464
00:36:54.519 --> 00:37:00.880
memorial but my kids and for his
co workers here and Lando, and I

465
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:05.199
God told me, called Tommy,
said, called Tommy, I don't do

466
00:37:05.320 --> 00:37:09.320
I have a number, And I
had a number I found and I said,

467
00:37:09.320 --> 00:37:13.079
I need this. Miss Gray,
Hey, Gray, are you doing

468
00:37:14.159 --> 00:37:16.079
like I'm good? You remember me? Yeah? I remember, Okay,

469
00:37:16.400 --> 00:37:20.480
I said, well, I need
a faith. She what you need,

470
00:37:21.559 --> 00:37:29.280
what you need? And she was
the facilitator, the hostess of the host

471
00:37:29.360 --> 00:37:35.400
of my husband's memorial. Never met
him, never met him, but you

472
00:37:35.400 --> 00:37:40.719
wouldn't known. You wouldn't have known
that it was flawless. And the co

473
00:37:40.880 --> 00:37:45.400
workers had to say to me,
I've never been to a funeral with nobody,

474
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:49.960
but I was really at one today. This was a home going today.

475
00:37:52.320 --> 00:37:59.679
So that's friendship. That that's that's
camaraderie, that's love. And I

476
00:38:00.039 --> 00:38:04.400
old that they get a prayer through
their ceiling. I know it goes right

477
00:38:04.440 --> 00:38:09.679
to the feet of Jesus, and
this day and age and era, you

478
00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:15.280
need to know that whoever you ask
for prayer from that they are true praying

479
00:38:15.400 --> 00:38:21.519
people. Not because they go,
y'all go to the same church, not

480
00:38:21.639 --> 00:38:24.440
because you're there on Tuesday nights of
Bible study, not because they're part of

481
00:38:24.480 --> 00:38:28.800
your little group, because you know
you will. No, I need them,

482
00:38:28.880 --> 00:38:30.599
I need people around me. Do
you see what's going on in the

483
00:38:30.599 --> 00:38:38.440
world. Do you see what's going
on in the world. So when you

484
00:38:38.599 --> 00:38:45.960
ask for prayer, you didn't make
sure you're asking the right people, because

485
00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:50.800
they may not have a prayer life, a lifestyle of praying, fasting,

486
00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:57.800
studying the Word, worshiping God,
praising God, meditating on his word day

487
00:38:57.800 --> 00:39:00.639
and night. It's it's a whole. It's there's a love, this,

488
00:39:00.920 --> 00:39:04.760
there's they are about six or seven
steps of this thing. That's why my

489
00:39:04.800 --> 00:39:07.280
t shirts at this end time,
this end time faith, and this end

490
00:39:07.280 --> 00:39:12.440
time journey ain't. It's not for
the week. A faith journey is not

491
00:39:12.599 --> 00:39:15.519
for the week. And people look
at my shirt and I know they probably

492
00:39:15.559 --> 00:39:20.239
say what And I hope they go
back to their place of rest and say,

493
00:39:20.519 --> 00:39:22.800
oh my God, she's said,
a faith journey ain't for the week.

494
00:39:22.840 --> 00:39:27.679
It's not time to get tired now, it's not time to be wearyward

495
00:39:27.800 --> 00:39:30.440
now, it's not time to step
back and said and said, oho,

496
00:39:30.519 --> 00:39:35.960
I gotta take a break. You
can't. People are dying every minute of

497
00:39:36.000 --> 00:39:43.639
the day. We just had three
Chania Twain of the musician for Aerosmith,

498
00:39:43.880 --> 00:39:50.320
and Pee Wee Herman, and it's
always gonna be three. It's always gonna

499
00:39:50.360 --> 00:39:54.840
be three. And these people,
some of them suffered in silence. They

500
00:39:54.840 --> 00:39:59.360
didn't tell people that they had cancer. The other Chenaia, we knew that

501
00:39:59.440 --> 00:40:00.719
she was the rest. We knew
that she had tried. I think that

502
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:04.960
hurt herself a few times. I
mean even didn't know. But this time

503
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:12.519
she said no, I'm out and
didn't even think about her other kids and

504
00:40:12.519 --> 00:40:15.760
and and I'll still never be able
to wrap my head around when you get

505
00:40:15.800 --> 00:40:20.119
to that point. But I've been
depressed before. I've been depressed before,

506
00:40:21.239 --> 00:40:25.000
and God sent other people who I
couldn't call on the pastor, I couldn't

507
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:29.079
call on sister so and so I
couldn't call on the mother of the church.

508
00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:30.760
No, he said someone else to
come five and said, I need

509
00:40:30.800 --> 00:40:34.679
to fire you. Where do you
live. I don't know what you're going

510
00:40:34.719 --> 00:40:37.559
through, but I need to find
you back home. And I gave her

511
00:40:37.599 --> 00:40:49.079
my address and she came in speaking
toms not even knowing the situation, and

512
00:40:49.159 --> 00:40:52.639
I'm I'm just like, oh my
god, oh my god. You know,

513
00:40:52.239 --> 00:40:55.440
and the depression, you know,
out of the marriage. So I've

514
00:40:55.440 --> 00:41:00.440
been depressed, but I don't stay
in my ballot too long. I learned

515
00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:05.280
that as a count a therapist.
I learned that as just a human being

516
00:41:05.360 --> 00:41:09.480
watching people around me be depressed and
they drink their way into the rabbit hole.

517
00:41:10.199 --> 00:41:15.639
They use drugs into the rabbit hole, they go fighting and killing,

518
00:41:15.920 --> 00:41:19.480
try to kill somebody else and they
get killed. I've watched that. I've

519
00:41:19.519 --> 00:41:24.480
got I got testimony on that,
so I know anything. And this is

520
00:41:24.719 --> 00:41:30.039
this is why the care circles were
invented through this program, and I'm about

521
00:41:30.079 --> 00:41:36.320
them. MPT Coalition Conference is about
to be held on my birthday starting Wednesday

522
00:41:36.760 --> 00:41:40.920
here in Orlando and see world,
and you know, I'll be bringing God

523
00:41:40.960 --> 00:41:45.519
told me, get get the flyer
right and go take it and put it

524
00:41:45.519 --> 00:41:49.320
on a table there, because that's
what the care circles. Because I again,

525
00:41:49.400 --> 00:41:52.960
I can't I find it hard to
believe when people say I have nobody

526
00:41:53.039 --> 00:41:59.760
to talk to. I have a
problem with that. I'm gonna always have

527
00:41:59.800 --> 00:42:02.519
a problem with that. Yeah,
Trey, you want to say something.

528
00:42:02.719 --> 00:42:07.280
Yeah, I was just just thinking
about that. You know, I'll tell

529
00:42:07.280 --> 00:42:09.199
you and I feel you that.
You know, depression, and you can

530
00:42:09.239 --> 00:42:14.800
be in a depressed state, you
know, grief and loss or or you

531
00:42:14.840 --> 00:42:20.320
know, people go through through different
things, but being able to have someone

532
00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:25.159
to talk to is a key.
You know, Um, you can't tell

533
00:42:25.239 --> 00:42:31.559
everybody everything, and everybody won't understand
everything, but you you know, there

534
00:42:31.559 --> 00:42:37.000
are people who listen and sometimes you
just need to bounce that off. Not

535
00:42:37.199 --> 00:42:42.880
necessary to get feedback, just just
somebody just to listen and kind of say,

536
00:42:42.920 --> 00:42:45.360
I you know, I hear you. I hear what you're saying.

537
00:42:45.119 --> 00:42:49.440
And it doesn't even say I agree
with what you're saying, but I hear

538
00:42:49.440 --> 00:42:53.920
what you're saying, and I value
the way you feel because you know all

539
00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:57.320
of it. You know, in
that mental health field, it's something,

540
00:42:58.119 --> 00:43:02.119
it's something, and you can be
a smidgeon away, you know, you

541
00:43:02.199 --> 00:43:07.119
never know what takes a person over
that edge to say this is it.

542
00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:10.880
I'm done, I'm out of it. And and and then afterwards people said,

543
00:43:10.880 --> 00:43:15.199
well, why I wish they could
have come. I wish, you

544
00:43:15.239 --> 00:43:16.760
know, here she would have come
and talk to me. But what would

545
00:43:16.800 --> 00:43:21.079
you have say, you know,
and I think moving forward, we know,

546
00:43:21.760 --> 00:43:23.960
what would you say to somebody if
they were coming just to talk with

547
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:29.159
you about that? You know,
this is not the time where you input

548
00:43:29.239 --> 00:43:35.079
your your your stuff. You just
just listen and just kind of you know,

549
00:43:35.320 --> 00:43:38.639
understand because talking with folks that that
are you know, that were on

550
00:43:38.760 --> 00:43:44.440
my caseload, you be surprised,
you know, their loneliness and don't have

551
00:43:44.639 --> 00:43:47.719
family, you know, thinking people
are out to get them, and you

552
00:43:47.719 --> 00:43:52.639
know all this other stuff to paranoia, the anxiety, all of that could

553
00:43:52.679 --> 00:43:58.679
come into place. So um,
but yeah, just being able to have

554
00:43:58.840 --> 00:44:07.440
those supports is very very important.
You know, I agree with everything both

555
00:44:07.480 --> 00:44:15.039
of you said, and it's so
important, like you say, not to

556
00:44:15.400 --> 00:44:20.119
be the answer to what they need, but just being able to allow them

557
00:44:20.159 --> 00:44:29.440
to speak out aloud so they can
hear themselves speak. And it is nothing

558
00:44:29.800 --> 00:44:36.800
like hearing the voice, your voice
saying what you have to say, speaking

559
00:44:36.840 --> 00:44:42.320
out what you feel. Is they
say, releasing that burden and taking it

560
00:44:42.360 --> 00:44:46.599
off of your shoulders and somebody just
saying, but you know what, somebody

561
00:44:46.719 --> 00:44:52.280
still love you, God love you. You had to call me because you

562
00:44:52.320 --> 00:44:57.519
know I still love you regardless.
And a lot of times. That's what

563
00:44:57.840 --> 00:45:02.800
people need to hear. Not well, don't think like that you shouldn't do

564
00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:10.519
this though that ain't June. No. Hear what they have to say and

565
00:45:10.679 --> 00:45:16.239
just say, you know what,
but you're still special you my friend,

566
00:45:17.039 --> 00:45:22.119
I still talk with you, I
love you. And it's not that you're

567
00:45:22.119 --> 00:45:29.840
gonna give advice like miss Gray say, just encourage, let them know they're

568
00:45:29.880 --> 00:45:36.480
still special, let them know that
somebody do care about them. And that's

569
00:45:36.559 --> 00:45:45.079
all it takes, not asking a
whole lot, just that simpleness and letting

570
00:45:45.079 --> 00:45:50.679
them vent, because when you vent, it helps you hear what you're going

571
00:45:50.760 --> 00:45:58.360
through and it relieves that pressure because
at one point you probably just that pipe

572
00:45:58.400 --> 00:46:02.679
getting tighter and tighter to when it
explodes. That's when somebody to do something

573
00:46:02.719 --> 00:46:07.239
that they shouldn't have done or had
no time to think about it because it

574
00:46:07.360 --> 00:46:15.719
explodes. But just letting them vent
and release as as as uh uh not

575
00:46:15.840 --> 00:46:22.639
Felicia was shot, but Devid Allen
said and in the show relax, relate,

576
00:46:22.199 --> 00:46:29.800
release, that's what that's what you're
letting them do. You allowing them

577
00:46:29.800 --> 00:46:37.639
to be relaxed. They're communicating,
so they're releasing and so they can let

578
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:43.719
their shoulders down and just relax,
relax, relate, and release. That's

579
00:46:43.719 --> 00:46:49.519
it, Amen. And God's shoulders
are much bigger, much bigger than ours.

580
00:46:49.719 --> 00:46:52.559
And Plus he knows the day in
the hour. He knows the day

581
00:46:52.559 --> 00:46:55.400
in the hour. He knows when
we're gonna do this. He knows when

582
00:46:55.400 --> 00:46:58.960
we're gonna do that. He knows
it already. So why won't you just

583
00:46:59.039 --> 00:47:04.239
give your life to him? Let
him do this? I love it.

584
00:47:04.320 --> 00:47:07.000
He decides what I'm to wear even
tonight. What am I to wear?

585
00:47:07.079 --> 00:47:10.280
What earrings I put on? He
decides all that. He'll show me or

586
00:47:10.320 --> 00:47:13.840
he'll say, you know, whenever
you want, but make sure it's gold

587
00:47:13.880 --> 00:47:16.960
today or make sure it's silver today. And I take it from there,

588
00:47:19.159 --> 00:47:21.079
and I'm like, what do you
want me to do? What you know?

589
00:47:21.239 --> 00:47:23.719
Just you got to try Jesus,
you gotta try it, because I

590
00:47:23.760 --> 00:47:28.119
don't it's coming. I don't know
what the fallout is. I don't know

591
00:47:28.159 --> 00:47:30.119
what it is, but you got
to and let people know. I remember

592
00:47:30.159 --> 00:47:32.360
what miss Tanzy I said, you
know, I really I texted him one

593
00:47:32.400 --> 00:47:36.000
time. I said, recently,
I said, I really appreciate you and

594
00:47:36.039 --> 00:47:37.960
what you did for the kids out
of the Blue, I just said,

595
00:47:37.119 --> 00:47:40.800
if I've ever told you, thank
you, thank you so much. You

596
00:47:40.920 --> 00:47:45.639
held your word and you kept your
word, and thank you and thank you

597
00:47:45.679 --> 00:47:50.440
all for listening. This is our
time. We thank you. Thank you

598
00:47:50.440 --> 00:47:52.639
for everything, thank you for your
prayers, thank you for just tuning in,

599
00:47:52.800 --> 00:47:57.840
thank you for liking thumbs up the
show and everything else. We will

600
00:47:57.880 --> 00:48:01.840
be back next week and gets what
I will be a year younger coming back

601
00:48:01.880 --> 00:48:06.519
at y'all, a year younger.
Don't get into it, y'all. Be

602
00:48:06.559 --> 00:48:13.639
blessed. Hanty early birthday, say
hydrate? Will anybody following out no more?

603
00:48:13.840 --> 00:48:17.639
Please say hydra and take an umbrella
with you everywhere because it's it's raining.

604
00:48:17.960 --> 00:49:13.159
Yes, be blessed by y'all.
Bye, m m m m